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I slept with my best friend! Now what do I do?

Q.   my bestfriend is a guy and we have always had a flirty kind of relationship. well one night we got totally shithoused and we ended up having sex, nothing was strange about the whole thing we didnt bring it up at all, all of our friends kept asking ...

A.   3 June 2009: I tend to stay away from relationships like this, not wanting to rain on your parade at all, but I've had serious relationships with 2 guys I had been friends with for quite a long time (6 years and 12 years). Both started out as a friendly flirty ... (read in full...)

Confused on what to do with my life!

Q.   I'm just really confused right now...I just turned 18 and me and my bf broke up after a year. I just feel so dumb for giving him my virginity, i thought we were gonna get married so it didnt matter anyway. Now hes just being so mean to me. and i ...

A.   3 June 2009: Heartbreak is seriously tough...But you gotta suck it up, go to school, show him life goes on without him! Things will be really crappy for a while, but you have to keep busy. Going out is the last thing you want to do, but the more time you spend ... (read in full...)

I'm still in love with my ex 3 months on

Q.   Im stil in love with my ex even after 3months of break-up. Iv tried contactin her but she hates me. Iv become this stalkish figure. Im really depressed. What makes matters worse is the fact that we study the same major at university. Shes havin a ...

A.   30 April 2009: Things take time to heal, you need to readjust your life from the comfortable routine you became accustomed to. Fill your days with spending time with friends and family, kep yourself busy. She will resent you if you keep on this "stalker" ... (read in full...)

I set him free thinking he would come back, but he hasn't

Q.   This is a long one. I met a guy who was still married but separated, long distance to boot, but we fell very much in love. We were together for two years, but I believed he would need to have some alone time since I was the first person he dated ...

A.   30 April 2009: If things are meant to be, they will be. You might need to accept you were a rebound thing, he seems to have spent his time moving on where you have spent your time waiting for him to come back to you. I would concentrate on moving on also, don't ... (read in full...)

I finally dumped my cheating abusive boyfriend...Now I want him back

Q.   I finally got the courage and strength to bring up the subject of breaking up/going on a break with my boyfriend of two years. After countless times of cheating, and abuse, I let him go... Thing is I thought I'd feel better, but instead I find m...

A.   30 April 2009: You finally got the strength to leave him, if you go back to him it will only be showing him that it'a fine to treat you like a doormat and he will soon go back to his old ways. Keep yourself busy, go out with friends, spend time with family, build ... (read in full...)

Why does he have a picture of his ex on the wall?

Q.   I have been having a long distance relationship for about three months with a guy I have known for 10 years or so. I went to visit at his house last weekend and noticed that there was a picture of him and his ex up on the wall. They were together ...

A.   30 April 2009: I wouldn't say he is still holding out hopes for them getting back together, they've been split up long enough (if they'd been split up for less than a year then alarm bells would be going off for me). Men can be a bit callous and not really think ... (read in full...)

Why does my Dad have these pictures and texts? What do I do?

Q.   Hello, this is something i cannot talk to my friends about or my mum, havent told anybody. My parents divorced 13 years ago, as my dad met another women, they are now happily married and have had 2 children(seven and ten), i really love my s...

A.   15 March 2009: It's a bit weird when you start getting older and you see your parents as real people, not just "mum and dad", with real lives and emotions. I wouldn't get too into it, your Dad has his own personal life, although he should have checked the phone ... (read in full...)

I used a dildo & now I'm bleeding heavily...

Q.   Ok this is going to sound stupid but i used a 6 inch dildo today and ever since i used that i have been bleeding alot and i mean alot, i have always been loosing like blood clots things as well and its really worrying me do any of you no whats wrong ...

A.   15 March 2009: I would take a trip to the hospital...Now :o/... (read in full...)

He dumped me by email...Should I try to build bridges?

Q.   Hello -me and my boyfriend broke up recently, we only dated for a couple of months but it was really good met over summer but we were both going to uni so stopped it there. got back together over christmas and were content in making it work, ...

A.   15 March 2009: What a coward...I woulnd't bother. You deserve better than someone who dumps you by email. Send him a card, keep it short and simple, to show you don't hold any grudges, but just keep in mind you're worth so much more x... (read in full...)

I feel wrongfully accused of being a "tease"

Q.   I've been dating this guy for a couple of weeks now but we have known each other for about 2 months. We we first got together, he pressed himself against me and I said that I don't do that without a commitment and asked if he wanted to try dating ...

A.   15 March 2009: WHAT A PRICK!!!!!!! You are NOT a tease. He is a complete waste of space and will only pressure you into doing something you don't want to do...If you don't want to end up feeling used & cheap, steer clear.... (read in full...)

My vagina always smells like fish!

Q.   My vagina always smells like fish, especially after athletic activities. Is there something that will help get rid of it without going to a doctor for help and if im under 18? ...

A.   15 March 2009: Search on Google for "vaginal discharge", there's alot of info on what is normal, what isn't, and symptoms leading to rough diagnosis'...... (read in full...)

He abuses me "slightly..but breaking up is really hard to do

Q.   I am not happy in my relationship with my bf. He abuses me slightly, like its not that bad, but it does upset me. But the thing is, there is times when I am really happy in the relationship too, and I dont want to let go of those. Within the las...

A.   15 March 2009: I had a boyfriend who physically abused me and would damage my car in a temper (for one example!). It was the worst 9 months of my life yet I kept going back. I'm strong and secure & in no way a clingy or needy girl, yet I couldn't help myself. ... (read in full...)

He made me feel like a dirty little slut

Q.   Hello Friends! I have a scenario that I would like your opinion on. I was having a nice conversation with my boyfriend last night, and the topic turned to Hollywood actors. I was telling him who my favorites were. And then I said, Johnny Depp is ...

A.   15 March 2009: Oh my God lol! I told my boyfriend I thought Steven Tyler from Aerosmith is hot and I'd do him & he just told me I was weird and he now questions my taste in men & doesn't know if he should be insulted lol :)... (read in full...)

Is it automatically understood that I am his girlfriend since we date and kiss?

Q.   hi i recently met this guy and we started dating we went to a movie 3 days ago we kissed and made out and we are still dating but i don't know if he sees me as a girlfriend or just a friend or just a date or maybe even a friend with benefits or d...

A.   15 March 2009: Generally you are dating until one of you approaches the topic of becoming official...Give it a few more dates then bring it up...... (read in full...)

Is this what he really wants?

Q.   This all started in December 08. Me and my husband had an argument and I got really mad cause he lied to me about it but then he told me the truth and said he lied to keep from arguing, and I did hit him 3 times. I dont know why but I did, I ...

A.   15 March 2009: Talk to him. Meet him in a neutral place, and just straight out ask him, and tell him exactly how you feel. You'll know exactly where you stand then...... (read in full...)

What are the signs of a true female orgasm?

Q.   I want to know what the signs of a "true female orgasm" are. I know that there are some people who say that you can't tell but I don't believe that. So someone please help me by making this clear to me....

A.   15 March 2009: If you're inside her, most of the time you can feel her twitching inside, or gripping your penis with her muscles.... (read in full...)

Threesome--what is my girlfriend REALLY thinking?

Q.   okies...im male, im 16 n i have a strange question... ive been going out with my girlfried for a year now! and things are great! i love her so much and unlike other teenage relationships this one has lasted really long... she is very cute! ...

A.   15 March 2009: Ok, my impression (bear in mind I may be wrong) is that your GF is going along with your ex's flirting because she doesn't want to be the jealous insecure GF, so she's pretending to be ok with it. NO GIRL IN HER RIGHT MIND WOULD WANTE HER ... (read in full...)

How can we convince her parents that she is ready to get married?

Q.   Hi, I'm 19 and my girlfriend is 18. We have been dating since we were 16 and know that we will be together for the rest of our lives. We want to get married this summer but I don't think her parents will approve of it. We are moving into our ...

A.   15 March 2009: What's the rush? Yeah, ok, you wanna spend forever together, but the thing is, you ARE young. Yes, I'm sure everyone tells you that. But you are, and you aren't aware just how much you will change through your 20's. I coulnd't comment on 30's as ... (read in full...)

How can I make it up to him?

Q.   I'm not sure how to word this so I'll just tell the story and hope for the best. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now, and, up untill yesterday, everything was perfect. We only really see eachother once a week on a saturday...

A.   15 March 2009: YOU DON'T NEED TO MAKE IT UP TO HIM!!!!!! So you were a bit stroppy, you're female, that's what we do from time to time. And being with someone, you learn to live with the good moods and the bad moods, although to be honest if you only see each... (read in full...)

My online guy wants me to fly out to his state and met him

Q.   I have been talking to this guy online for almost a year now. We talk daily and seems like a great guy. He wants me to fly out to his state and meet him. I really want to but im a little nervous. I'm 21 and he is a bit older he is 30 and is divor...

A.   15 March 2009: Hmmm...Get him to do the gentlemanly thing, HE fly to YOU. He can book into a local hotel and you can go out on a few dates in public places. Not stereotyping him but you don't want to be the next girl abducted by internet lover story in the ... (read in full...)

Should I keep my dependable boyfriend who wants to get married or should I follow my spontaneous instinct and heart and go for Marcus?

Q.   In order to understand this question you must first read my previous question. I have a boyfriend and him and I are trying to make a long distance thing work. He believes it is but I don't. Well I have known this guy named Marcus for a while and si...

A.   15 March 2009: I stopped reading when I got to this line: "I have a boyfriend and him and I are trying to make a long distance thing work. He believes it is but I don't." So you need to break up with him, end of. ... (read in full...)

My problem is when I cum I squirt!!!

Q.   I am 20 years old and started dating a new guy about a month ago. We haven't had sex yet but I know it is going to happen soon. My problem is when I cum I squirt, the first time it happened I had never even heard of it and had to look it up onli...

A.   15 March 2009: I think alot of guys relate this to porn and mostly love it lol :) x... (read in full...)

Baby names...

Q.   My bf and I were talking about baby names we want something unique and different but still cute. What do you think of the following names? BOYS: Flynn Owen (Owen is my bfs dad) Sloan Owen Makai (Ma-Ki) Owen Girls: Makenna Joy Arizona Jo...

A.   15 March 2009: I couldn't agree with ArmyMedic more :) What about poor Apple Martin...lol...... (read in full...)

Crossing the line?

Q.   Hi I have started talking to guy on a social networking site, we have sent direct messages to each other and he has sent me music. The problem is he has a partner and a baby. Have we crossed the line? the whole thing feels rather secretive....

A.   15 March 2009: It's hard to tell with these scenarios when you've crossed the line...It depends how you think his partner would react if she knew, what his reasons are for chatting to you (is he lonely, feeling neglected due to the baby, etc), what kind of things ... (read in full...)

Why does he never say hi but stares at me?

Q.   hey i'm 15 years old and i'm soo confused..a few months ago he goes to my school i dont really talk to him..so one night he messaged me saying i should start saying hi to him.we talked for a couple of weeks mostly flirted and then he gave me his ...

A.   15 March 2009: Forget him, far too much like hard work!! Sometimes the chase is more fun than the catch for some people...... (read in full...)

I love to have sex all day and all night

Q.   Hi, I'm 19 years old and i have a problem. I love to have sex...all day and night. I tend to scare many girls off...... at first they tend to like it and then get annoyed by it and they just end up leaving me. what different can i do to keep the...

A.   15 March 2009: Trying to make a girl have sex with you 24/7 isn't exactly going to make her feel wanted or special, more just like a stand in blow up doll :) This is actually a recognised addiction and you can get help with this if you feel it is a big enough prob... (read in full...)

Pregnant with Twins...can you help us decide on some names?

Q.   My husband and i were having a debate about baby names, yes i'm pregnant with twins... and i said i'd put it to a poll. please could anyone who wants to decide from the six names below which one they prefer. i'm expecting a baby boy and a baby ...

A.   15 March 2009: LOL those names are quite a mouthful...Everyone I know who has children has always had the names picked out...Then out pops the baby and looks like a totally different name that comes out of the blue and sticks :)... (read in full...)

Name on birth certificate! Help!

Q.   Hiya.. im really confused over what to do! I had my first baby in the middle of november, me and the father were not together when i gave birth and hadnt been for about 2 weeks.. he wasnt there when she was born, and saw he for the first t...

A.   21 December 2008: Hun, I know this is probably not the answer youw ant to hear, but is he really worth it? Even if you had broken up, shouldn't he have put any differences aside and been there to see his child, and been there for you, who went through the pain and ... (read in full...)

How long do you need to be in a relationship to consider sex?

Q.   Ladies please answer. How long do you need to be in a relationship to consider sex? What things need to be considered? What things does the relationship need to have to consider sex? Ladies do you like to take things in stages (ie kissing, mak...

A.   17 December 2008: Personally speaking...I'm not the sex on the first date kinda gal. It gives it all up to easily, nothing to build anticipation for...I like to let things build up, kissing, over the clothes stuff, then sex when it feels right :)... (read in full...)

I don't want to break her heart but I want out!

Q.   i am 20 i have been with her for almost two years now and i am beginning to like other girls but she says she is IN love with me. i dont want to break her heart but i dont want to keep going on like everything id okay. any ideas anyone?...

A.   17 December 2008: You've got to be honest with her. The longer it goes on, the more you will resent her and become unhappy and trapped. Better to break it off now than a year down the line...Good luck x... (read in full...)

I'm a party girl and he's cramping my style!

Q.   I need help people, ive been with my present boyfriend for over a year now, i left my ex of 4 and a half years to be with my present boyfriend, but problem is he isnt the guy i fell in love with, his attitude has totally changed and he says he was ...

A.   17 December 2008: Break up. He pretended to be a different person, so you would like him? Lame! The truth was going to come out sooner or later...So he basically got you into a relationship under false pretences. Cut your losses and go have some fun :) x... (read in full...)

What excuse can I give my mom

Q.   Im a 15 year old muslim girl. I wear a head scarf all the time, and only take it off on special occasions. Non-uniform day is coming up soon, and i dont want to wear my scarf. Previous times i have worn it, but for once i dont want to. Also this ...

A.   17 December 2008: It winds me up when people pick at others about religion. This is why I don't go to church. I was raised Christian. I believe in God. But I had the worst experiences going to church. I don't believe that in order to be classed as a Chri... (read in full...)

Do nice guys finish last?

Q.   hi, A girl I met at uni a year ago now are really good friends. Last month I asked her out but she said that she just wants to be friends and that is all that she wants from me. So just now she is seeing someone. Her flatmates don't und...

A.   17 December 2008: I couldn't agree with the previous answer more...... (read in full...)

How do I get my boyfriend to "play" during sex?

Q.   Hi. Havent recently started sleeping with my boyfriend and need some advice. When we started going out, I openly admitted I'd had a bit of a sexually experienced past. I went through a stage of sleeping with a lot of people - some good ...

A.   17 December 2008: Just be totally upfront with him :) He'll appreciate it and I'm sure be glad to give some new things a try to make you happy. He might be feeling a little nervous, knowing you have alot more experience than him, his ego might be feeling a little ... (read in full...)

I lost my virginity about 2 weeks ago and now my period is late!!!

Q.   I lost my virginity about 2 weeks ago. We used protection and everything went well. The condom didn't split because we checked afterwards. However, my period is a few days late and I'm starting to worry I could be pregnant. I didn't think you could ...

A.   17 December 2008: Stress can really cause havoc on your periods, you might have been worrying about this at the back of your mind? Do a pregnancy test just to put your mind at ease. You can buy them for £4 at Tesco :) x... (read in full...)

She is treating their dog like their kid, calling him about meeting for visitation etc saying he doesn't spend enough time with it. ITS A DOG!!!

Q.   My BF's divorce will be final in a month - no kids. His is complaining that his ex is not accepting their divorce. She asked about Xmas eve and xmas being with him and his family and she got upset when he said he made other plans. She said it was ...

A.   17 December 2008: I've been there, the new girlfriend with an ex lingering about. It's very frustrating, especially when you know the other woman is just not letting go of the relationship. Try not to fall into the trap of the nagging/jealous girlfriend, it's easy... (read in full...)

Will he hook up with his ex tonight?

Q.   so there's this guy that i have been seeing, he has an ex girlfriend though and they just broke up 3 months ago, i know that seems like a while but they also went out for like 3 or 4 years maybe more maybe less i'm not really sure, long story short ...

A.   17 December 2008: Be VERY wary. It doesn't sound to me llike they are over each other - whenever I have broken up with someone, all contact is cut, and you get over them and move on. After a year I think you can safely have moved on and explore being friends. H... (read in full...)

He comes bringing up his ex!

Q.   Even though my boyfriend says he loves me and lives with me I still find myself wondering why he keeps comparing me to his ex. He says things like "she was fat, i'm happy you're not" "oh its so nice you don't watch so much t.v, she always did", ...

A.   17 December 2008: At least he's making comparisons in your favour...I had an ex who pretty much had the attitude, why wasn't I like his ex!!?? Tell him it's hurting your feelings, that you feel like she is on his mind when it should only be you. He's obviously chuf... (read in full...)

Even on meds I'm always stressed!

Q.   why can't i just be happy? i always have to worry about something. i hate it. i'm like a big stress ball. and it wont go away.. i take anxiety medicine from my doctors. but it clearly doesn't work.. my doctors don't know that and my mom doesn't. i ...

A.   17 December 2008: Have you been to a counsellor? I don't get why many doctors just fill people up with medication and drugs...Just talking to someone who you can vent to, and can help you make sense of how you're feeling can do the world of good. As your GP to ... (read in full...)

What are the reasons that people have sex because to reproduce

Q.   Besides the reproductive reasons what are some other good reasons to have sex? People are not always having sex just to have a baby. Women I am interested in your reasons. ...

A.   17 December 2008: People have sex because they enjoy it, amoungst other reasons...Some people do it for a living, some people do it to get attention and affection...... (read in full...)

I hate rejection - I have a fear of being rejected solely on my looks.

Q.   There is a girl in my History class that I recently became attracted to. We haven't had any prolonged contact besides this year of school. She is sending me some mixed messages that I don't understand. She'll tell me about her personal life and all ...

A.   17 December 2008: Get to know her a little better first, and give her a chance to get to know you too. If you're worried about being rejected on looks alone...Well, looks only make up part of a package, I always look for a good personality to go with physical ... (read in full...)

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