My friends were shocked I had anal sex, why did they react like this?
Q. i confided in my best friends because i needed someone to talk about that i had just had anal sex but the reaction they gave me was one i hadn't intended on facing why do my friends think it's so wrong to have anal sex especially before having a...
A. 19 December 2007: LOL @ Phil.
Quite graphic.
Anal sex is a total turnoff for me, but some find it sexy, whatever floats your boat!
sexyhunnibbe001 : If you spend your life worrying about what your friends think, you'll end up living to please them. I know we all ... (read in full...)
I really like her but she is younger and taken
Q. Dear users I am really looking for some mature advice from anyone who can help me. My name is Nick and I have just turned 21, things at work are ok, and I have been talking and getting to know a person who I really do admire at work. The pr...
A. 19 December 2007: All I would worry is that she might not be totally emotionally detatched from him if/when you get together, and whether you could trust her not to do the same to you if you were to get together, and at some point go through a bad patch. Follow your ... (read in full...)
My girl says she wants to shower with me and get some whipped cream...
Q. My girlfriend said she wants to take a shower with me and lay on my bed naked and get some whip cream and she says that i can do whatever i want to her and she will do whatever i want her to do to me but she says she dont want sex. I kind really ...
A. 19 December 2007: I'm saying anything legal that you both feel comfortable doing is ok :o)
I was 15 when I lost my virginity...I have to admit I REALLY regret not waiting, I wish I could have waited for someone special, but at the time I had a best friend who was ... (read in full...)
Found it hard to get an erection when it came to sex!
Q. i used to mastrabrate a lot. and now for the first time i tried to make love with my girl fren i have no errection at all. i do not know what problem i had. We used to talk lot about sex with frens but now its a big problem with me and i am going ...
A. 18 December 2007: I had a boyfriend for 6 months and we didn't have sex once. He would get an erection but when it came to putting the condom on, it would go flaccid. He said it had never happened to him before. I always made sure he knew it wasn't a big deal, we ... (read in full...)
I feel vulnerable discovering that my bf has been in bars chatting up women behind my back. He says he hasn't cheated though. I don't know what to think.
Q. My boyfriend emigrated 4 months ago and I am trying to get things organised to be with him which is proving really difficult both financially and legally. We recently met up for a weeks holiday half-way to save on flight costs and time and afte...
A. 18 December 2007: It doesn't always have to be physical to cheat, you can cheat emotionally/mentally.
It's not fair for your boyfriend to have been thinking of other women, although at least he was honest with you about it.
Although you must feel quite insec... (read in full...)
My friend is a user and I don't know what to do about her
Q. What am I going to do about my mean friend? I have a friend who I have known for almost 30 years. I manage with her meanness because everything else about her is so good. My partner is not the sort who can easily forgive this sort of stuff ...
A. 18 December 2007: I don't want to seem callous, but I don't understand how she is mean, apart from the drinks and food thing. Obviously she should offer to pay her share.
But just asking your partner to help her out for one day at her house, and she did give you... (read in full...)
In love with my roomate
Q. I have lived with this girl for 3 and a half years now, ever since I came to university. We have been close friends over that entire period. The problem is that I have fallen in love with her and have no idea how she feels. Neither of us have ever ...
A. 18 December 2007: I don't want to bring you down, but the fact that you told her how you feel 4 weeks ago, and she hasn't brought it back up since, doesn't strike me as a good sign.
Fair enough it might have come as a shock to her, she probably didn't expect it. She... (read in full...)
I'm confused as what women really want from a man?
Q. Hi there, i think i am a bit confused on what you women do really want in a MAN, i mean do you prioritize being physically mascular or having a good personality? i am not physically mascular but people told me i have a good personality, i havn't had ...
A. 18 December 2007: Personally, I look for a nice body, but a great personality is a MUST. And he must be able to make me laugh, and we must have stuff to talk about (awkward silences are a no no). Money isn't all that important but it's nice to have the odd bunch of ... (read in full...)
I get turned on by the reaction to women who watch male strippers!
Q. I find that I am becoming increasingly turned on by watching women's reactions to male strippers. Is this normal?...
A. 18 December 2007: I'm sure there's nothing wrong with that! The women are of age, and are appreciating/admiring naked men...Probably some link to reactions during sex.
Do you work in a strip bar or something by the way? Just curious where you see these women?... (read in full...)
My fiancee has used porn in the past and lied to me about it!
Q. Pornography is effecting my relationsip..Help! My fiancee has used pornography in the past and lied to me about it. He has done it whilst i have been asleep, or gone out for a while. We have always had a very healthy sex life until this cropp...
A. 18 December 2007: So start looking at porn (or make out like you have, or leave hints that you have) and give him a taste of his own medicine!
He sounds like he either has a problem, or no respect for you, as you have told him this upsets you.
If he has sai... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man!
Q. I am a 17 year old and I'm in love with one of my 30 year old managers...We've been seeing each other for a while...we've even had sex. But there is one problem he is married and has 2 kids of his own. I really want our relationship and love to ...
A. 18 December 2007: Ok, the wife and children aside, it sounds like he is fobbing you off with the excuse that you can be together when you're 18.
If he loved you, why couldn't he be with you NOW?
He's 30, probably felt he was past his prime. Now he has a young, n... (read in full...)
Could my girlfriend be cheating? How can I know for sure?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 15 year old male the started dating a 16 year old girl that says she loves me more than anyone but I don't know if that is true and I love her more than anyone. I recently looked on her myspace with her permisson an...
A. 18 December 2007: Unfortunately all you can do is believe her at the moment, if you still want to be with her.
As for the people who have said she is cheating, you should go to them and clarify exactly WHY they have said this to you. Have they SEEN her doing so... (read in full...)
My girl says she wants to shower with me and get some whipped cream...
Q. My girlfriend said she wants to take a shower with me and lay on my bed naked and get some whip cream and she says that i can do whatever i want to her and she will do whatever i want her to do to me but she says she dont want sex. I kind really ...
A. 18 December 2007: Just keep in mind you are underage :o)
It's ok to play, and explore each other. Try having a nice bubble bath together, light some candles, scrub eachothers' backs with a loofah, etc.
If you don't feel ready for sex, perhaps tell her you wou... (read in full...)
She likes me, but says she isnt ready to date yet. How can I get her ready?!
Q. So, I just met this girl who shows that she likes me, and even admitted to it... we have not been out on a date yet, because she says she is not ready.... however, she somehow keeps showing up at the library and the gym were i work out. she said ...
A. 18 December 2007: Unfortunately if you try to force her into something she's not ready for, the chances are the relationship will crash and burn.
Just think if it this way, if she's so totally worth it, waiting a month or 2 won't mske much of a differen... (read in full...)
Does my crush like me? How do I know?
Q. how do i tell if my crush likes me? I'm naturely blonde so i act dumb sometimes. when i first moved here i didn't notice him at first until this boy that picks on every day.he stars at me and finds thing to anoy me.every day he would say oh thi...
A. 18 December 2007: You need to ask your friends to butt out completely, if you want anything with Casey to happen, you need to sort it out yourself. Although your friends probably mean well, and some of them probably are enjoying all the drama and gossip, if you let ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed after anal sex?
Q. when you have anal sex for the first time or any time is it natural to bleed and how long should you bleed for? plz help xxx...
A. 18 December 2007: Taken from http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/2130.html
Serious injuries from anal sex are relatively rare; however, if you have internal pain or see blood, you need to see your health care provider. Here are some of the potential complica... (read in full...)
Does he still like me or is he upset?
Q. hiya! another boy trouble question i'm afraid! well im very worried. this guy and i have been going out for about 2 or 3 months and i c him most days at school etc. ive been out with him 2 or 3 times. and everytime hes asked me out ive sed yes ...
A. 18 December 2007: He's probably worried you're being off with him.
If you've cuddled and stuff, I wouldn't worry.
If you really get the feeling something's wrong, you need to bring it up with him. If he's got an issue and is ready to talk, make sure he knows yo... (read in full...)
My friends were shocked I had anal sex, why did they react like this?
Q. i confided in my best friends because i needed someone to talk about that i had just had anal sex but the reaction they gave me was one i hadn't intended on facing why do my friends think it's so wrong to have anal sex especially before having a...
A. 18 December 2007: I think anal sex is something people have, generally, extreme reactions to. They either seem to be really for, or really against it. Personally, I would never do it. That hole is purely an exit, and thinking what comes out of there is offputting ... (read in full...)
How do I tell if I am bisexual?
Q. ummm Hi. so, im kinda confused about my sexuality. I think I might be bisexual. And if that's the case, i like a girl i know. It seems like she's always flirting with me. She told me she is not bisexual, though. But Im thinking she's confuse...
A. 18 December 2007: I wouldn't fret over labels and what to define yourself as.
Whatever you feel, just feel it.
Bring up the topic of same sex sexual curiosity with this friend. Tell her you've been bi curious for a while, see what she says.
She might be sh... (read in full...)
I'm sick of being bullied and picked on!
Q. dear cupid i am currently experiencing difficulties in college, due to the fact i can not fight or stand up for my self. this happened back to when i was a kid when i was threatened by a black man and was defenceless to do anything followe...
A. 18 December 2007: You should look into self defence classes, kick boxing, karate, anything that will boost your confidence. Try yell.com for local groups, or pop by your local gym or community center.... (read in full...)
I'm leaving school soon but have a big crush on my teacher, should I try to stay in touch?
Q. Hey!! Well im in my last year at school... woohoo! well that is what the typical teenager would be saying if they were leaving school in a couple of months, except not all pupils know this hot guy, yep you guessed it a teacher... he is hot i aint...
A. 18 December 2007: Just tell him you would like to keep in touch and give him your email address. If he wants to keep in touch, he'll get in touch.
That way you'll know he genuinely wants to keep in touch.... (read in full...)
How do I get her to admit she likes me?
Q. there is a girl in my class and i like her and its pretty obvious that she likes me. i need to know how to make her admit she likes me, she's a tough one to crack. what do you think? ...
A. 18 December 2007: Ask her...The only definate way you will know!... (read in full...)
He's displaying all the classic signs of an affair and has even had sexy texts but denies it...Do I believe him?
Q. I'm a 28-year-old woman, my husband's 32, and we have two children, a four-year-old son and a two-year-old toddler. A few weeks ago my husband began receiving suggestive text messages from someone claiming they were having an affair with him....
A. 18 December 2007: Christ what a predicament!!
Firstly I would tell your Mom. She deserves to know.
Secondly, I would pack up your husbands belongings so he can leave immediately upon his return.
You might be thinking about the children's Christmas, bu... (read in full...)
I really like her but she is younger and taken
Q. Dear users I am really looking for some mature advice from anyone who can help me. My name is Nick and I have just turned 21, things at work are ok, and I have been talking and getting to know a person who I really do admire at work. The pr...
A. 18 December 2007: She's sending you a clear sign that she likes you and is sending the feelers out on how you feel back...She's letting you know she's not happy in her relationship and sounds to me like if you said you liked her she would leave her boyfriend.
The o... (read in full...)
Never had a boyfriend and my aunt gives me a hard time about it
Q. Hi i'm a girl who has never had a boyfriend and i don't know why ? I mean i have talked to guys before but i only had one guy friend and he is gay . anyway my dilemma is my height . I am 4'9 and my aunt who i hate so much keeps asking my parents why ...
A. 18 December 2007: It sounds like your aunt is the problem. She's knocked your confidence very badly, and confidence is very attractive (no matter what sex you are). You need to boost your confidence, I'd bet anything your lack of boyfriends has nothing to do with ... (read in full...)
I want her back but she cheated, could I learn to trust again?
Q. I love a girl forever, we have been best of friends for a long, and we dated once briefly. I know she loves me but we never got physical, after we broke up we stayed good friends but she slept with my best friend, at the time!! We were cool for a ...
A. 18 December 2007: If she's the type of girl whou would sleep with your best friend, she's not the type of girl to be trusted.... (read in full...)
I love my God brother, is this wrong?
Q. i loved my god brother. i know we cannot have any relationship but i don't know to stop my feeling toward him. is it a mistake for loving our own god brother? i kept thinking of him day and night. i even sometimes thought him as my bf. what shou...
A. 16 December 2007: Could you clarify what a God brother is?
Is it like having a God mother or God father?
If you're not related to this boy, it's not wrong.... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be angry at my ex who I had a dysfunctional relationship with?
Q. i went out with a guy for three months was crazy about him, the first time we broke up it was because he decided he didnt want to be in a relationship and because he knew i was ending it with him as i told him we needed to talk he ended it with me ...
A. 16 December 2007: I just want to get this straight. You were together a total of THREE months? In that time he dumped you because you were going to dump him? He may or may not be suicidal, or just attention seeking. He wants you back, pursues you, you give in and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't want to spend the night with me anymore!
Q. Hey all, i've been with my boyfriend for over 2years. He has always been allowed to stay in my bedroom with me on the weekends(and has many times). However lately he doesnt want to stay with me at all. He says it's because i only have a single bed ...
A. 16 December 2007: I can identify with your boyfriend...I have to have plenty of room in bed to get a good nights sleep or else I;m pretty grumpy!! The initial novelty wears off of being able to sleep in the same bed sooner for others I guess, I sincerely doubt this ... (read in full...)
How can I sing with a sore throat? Any remedies?
Q. Hi everybody. Slight change from the norm; I have a health related question. As some of you know, I'm in a rock band for my Music course in college. I have to give a performance this Thursday in front of all my fellow students and friends. It is a...
A. 16 December 2007: Honey is awesome for sore throats. It's a natural antiseptic as well. Whenever I feel I have a cold or sore throat coming on I have a hot water with lemon juice and honey in it. Works a treat.
Otherwise you could dose up on strepsils, or ther... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with him any more. What should I do?
Q. my husband has not had a job in one year. he always have an attitude and he seems jealous that i have a job and i've been on my job for ten years. i really am tired of his attitude and him not working. i dont want to be with him anymore. what should ...
A. 16 December 2007: Leave him/kick him out! Sounds like you're at that stage where you're not going to be hesitant about it. You sound independant and strong enough. Enough is enough and you want him gone, end of!... (read in full...)
What should I do about my emotional rollercoaster relationship with my daughetr's daddy?
Q. I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride with my daughter's dad. We've have been off and on in our relationship. When he gets mad at me, he doesn't talk to me for a few days. I would have to be the one calling him back. Then he decides he ...
A. 16 December 2007: Well, I wish you the best of luck whatever you choose to do. It's a shame some people can't live up to their responsibilities, I feel for your daughter, but if he's going to be a jerk then I;m sure she's better off without the heartache I;m sure ... (read in full...)
My friend seems a little psycho. How do I handle it?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl. I just made friends with this girl this year and shes 14. People think shes weird but I don't. I have to watch my back because sometimes she can really lie badly. Lately this guy has been flirting with me and I think it makes ...
A. 16 December 2007: Oh my god. Your friends think she's weird, but you don't. But you have to watch your back with her, she lies compulsively, she slams doors, she screams...She sounds nuts. And seriously someone you should stay away from. Why do you want a friend ... (read in full...)
I thought I was straight but I fell for my female collegue, but I want a husband and children also. Do I stay with my lesbian lover, or get back with my ex boyfriend?
Q. im at yhe peak of my career when things started to stumble, i was introduced to a new office mate, she is intelligent, sexy and pretty, we get along very well, we became close friends, most of the time we share our pants, shoes, foods, lipstick and ...
A. 16 December 2007: If you want to stay with your girlfriend but also want a family, maybe you could look into adoption, or IVF?
If you want to be with your ex boyfriend, maybe you have issues you haven't addressed. If you only want to be with your ex so you can have... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend gay? He looks at gay porn on the internet but insists he is straight.
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. Our relationship has had its ups and downs, as most relationships do, however, I think my boyfriend might be gay. 6 months into our relationship, I found a lot of gay pornography ...
A. 16 December 2007: It sounds like he is bi curious...I'm sure it's pretty distressing for him and it sounds like he might have some compulsive disorder regarding sex/porn. I can only imagine how hurt and betrayed you must feel, it's not fair for you to keep having to ... (read in full...)
I think he is gay, but I also think my collegue is flirting with me
Q. Well...I landed a new job just a month ago and I am already having problems [go figure]. I am not really sure where I stand at this point, but I definitely like men [this was made clear on my last job]. Before I start...let me just say that I have a ...
A. 16 December 2007: Just get your head down and concentrate on your career. You wouldn't want to throw it away on an office fling. Just remind yourself that whenyou see him, go out of your way to stay out of his way until you think you are over your crush.... (read in full...)
How do I show her that real relationships are based on friendship?
Q. Her and her BF just broke up. How do I do this right? So this girl that I've liked for a very long time broke up with her bf after 3 moths. It was a bad relationship. She knows I have feelings for her but we still remain really close friend...
A. 16 December 2007: She might just not feel that way.
From experience (as in, I was in the same situation as the girl you're talking about), I was in a relationship of 4 years unti I was 20. Throughout that relationship I was friends with a guy, he was pretty much... (read in full...)
Should I stay or go. what should I do about this relationship?
Q. I'M STUCK! This is my first "real" relationship. I fell in love with my boyfriend 3years ago. It was a really fast hot and heavy type of relationship. And niether of us could stand being apart. Early in the relationship I became pregnant and we ...
A. 16 December 2007: It sounds like you are just stalling the inevitable.
Regardless of having a child together (obviously together is better for the child) but if YOU'RE not happy together, then that is the main issue.
If you have worked up the courage several ... (read in full...)
Things are getting bad with my old boyfriend and my ex keeps asking me to get back with him. I'm very confused now and don't know what to do, what do you think about all this?
Q. im absolutely torn between 2 guys...i was going out with a guy for 4 years and broke up recentely.now im going out with a guy ive known for years...my ex keeps asking me o get back with him and im not sure if i want to get back, bt things are gettin ...
A. 16 December 2007: You broke up with your ex for a reason, but now he's ruining your current relationship.
You have to ask your ex to leave you alone for a while, you need time to think with a clear head. If he respects you and is willing to do anything to get you ... (read in full...)
I'm out of the country and wrote an e-mail to my friend's boyfriend who I like, but he didn't reply. When I get back home I will have to be around him, what shall I do?
Q. i have been out of the country for 4 months and a guy who i really really miss and i think i may like him as more then a just a friend also happens to be one my friends boyfriend, anyways i erote him an e-mail about over a month ago and he hasnt ...
A. 16 December 2007: It really depends what was in the email. Did you just send a friendly "Hi how are you" or did you declare your undying love?
Either way, a friends boyfriend is off limits really. You need to respect the boundaries of your friendship.
He might no... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on him and can't get him out of my head, but I know it's not going to go anywhere...
Q. theres this boy that i see now and again that i cant get out my head. theres just something about him that makes me feel all happy inside. well i use to see him then we started talking on msn again and we started seeing each other again. but he ...
A. 16 December 2007: You have said that he doesn't want a relationship with you, it seems he's willing to give you a good friendship though. Unless you ask him point blank is he interested, you will have to be content with a friendship from him.... (read in full...)
I feel on the verge of losing my job, I feel like my boss is trying to find an excuse to fire me...
Q. I feel my boss is sending me signals of wanting to get rid of me. After 8 years, I've put the program together with the help of my old boss that I miss dearly. He has put words in my staff's mouth, my friends from different departments in t...
A. 16 December 2007: He obviously feels threatened by you. It sounds like you are doing a great job, and it's alot for him to live up to.
Keep your head down at work and just carry on doing a great job. You're not at work to make pals, you're there for a job. Just... (read in full...)
He calls me Baby and Honey. What should I do?
Q. I'm 14 years old (girl)and I need someone's advice. This guy always flirts with me. This year we kind of started talking and he's been showing alot of things. One time he said hi when we were at our lockers and he called me baby and whats up? and he ...
A. 16 December 2007: If you like him, he is giving you a very clear green light that he likes you - Go for it!
If you don't like him, don't reciprocate the flirting, he'll soon get the picture!... (read in full...)
I love him but I think I would be better off without him, should I listen to my heart or my head?
Q. have been dating a guy for 6 months i fell in love with him.he says he loves me but we hardly spend any time together or even talk.i feel like i am being used by him but don't know what i should do i love him.so should i listen to my heart or my mi...
A. 16 December 2007: If your head is telling you to let him go, it's probably right. Your gut instinct is generally spot on.
It doesn't sound like you are getting much out of the relationship anyway, you want someone who's going to treat you like a princess :o)... (read in full...)
What should I do about my emotional rollercoaster relationship with my daughetr's daddy?
Q. I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride with my daughter's dad. We've have been off and on in our relationship. When he gets mad at me, he doesn't talk to me for a few days. I would have to be the one calling him back. Then he decides he ...
A. 16 December 2007: I didn't mean to imply at all you had put yourself before your daughter, or not considered her feelings :o)
This man sounds so selfish, especially after reading your follow up. Sounds like both of you are better off not even having him in your life... (read in full...)
What should I do about my emotional rollercoaster relationship with my daughetr's daddy?
Q. I have been on an emotional roller coaster ride with my daughter's dad. We've have been off and on in our relationship. When he gets mad at me, he doesn't talk to me for a few days. I would have to be the one calling him back. Then he decides he ...
A. 15 December 2007: Putting aside how you feel for a moment, think about your daughter. Yes, I'm sure she misses her dad when he's not there. But is it fair for her to have an on again off again dad? Is it fair on her for him to come in and out of her life as h... (read in full...)
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