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writes:I want to ask a girl out, but I'm afraid of something. She's popular, not too popular but not a noname. This might seem stupid but, i'm afraid she'll reject me because i'm not Canadian. Shes Canadian, and was born here etc. I was born in Ukraine and came here when I was 5. I don't think I have an accent, and some people even thought I was born here before I told them. I have a Ukrainian name and last name. So I'm afraid she'll say no just because I'm not Canadian or American. Reply to this Question
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reader, hello1  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 People aren't really giving you honest answers, in England I rarely see people with european with strong accents. But you say you haven't got an accent? and your name dosen't sound Ukraine so I see no reason for her to be close minded.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): there will be no problem with that are you kidding me? girls love european guys! Go for it!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (16 December 2007):
 I sincerely doubt this would be a problem to someone, however if it was a problem to her, she wouldn't be worth your time!
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Like the girls have said, I don't think that will be a problem.
That said, don't assume she will like you, or she feels as you do. What the girls have said is "that's not an issue"; they never said "you'll make it". Be very careful about the difference.
Is there a particular reason why you think she wouldn't accept you since you're Ukrainian? If there isn't any, you're fine. If there is, please share.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (16 December 2007):
 I've lived in a lot of different places and the one thing that seems to make people fit in is whether or not they speak the language where they live. If you speak English and sound like a Canadian, then you are a Canadian! I have lived in Holland, England, The U.S. and I still am a Canadian citizen. She may even think that your European background is very interesting and attractive! I doubt very much that it's an issue, like pla!njane said. My Canadian children, who have also lived all over, have lots of friends from all over the world, and have dated people from all over the world, so I don't see it as an issue for you as a young man in Canada. You are living in one of the most diverse AND accepting societies in the world (leaving the french-separatists out of it, no capitalization deserved). You should just take a chance and ask her out, or ask a group of her friends to join a group of your friends somewhere! Good Luck!
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reader, bqagirl2692  +, writes (16 December 2007):
 Although i dont know much about her, i dont think it'll be a problem that your not Canadian. Your afraid of her judging you but you are doing what your afraid of her doing. Dont assume anything when its too soon to tell. Have some courage and talk to her. Develope a friendship if you havent already and when the time is right, let her know how you feel. It shouldnt matter what race you are or where you come from. When a person likes another, they like and accept them for who they are. So if she doesnt accept you, she's just not worth the trouble then. Give her a chance. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2007): I wouldn't think that's an issue, honestly.
Give her a chance, see how she acts and what she says. You may be pleasantly surprised, as well as, you'll never know until you talk to her about it or ask her out.
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