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Why won't my fiance sleep with me?

Q.   hi i dont know what to do with my fiancee and our sex life i ask for sex in a nice way and not just oh i want sex and i still get turned away, it getts me realy frustrated and most time so angry because i dont want to argue with her but more so that ...

A.   20 August 2009: She doesn't know what she likes. Alot of women have low sex drives, but it's not fair that she's not even giving you the chance. Is she really worth all this? One sided relationship...Sounds like you're working at it and she's not. Sounds like ... (read in full...)

Does anyone have any experience dating an Italian man?

Q.   I am a 26 year old and dating a 29 year old Italian man. Does anyone have experience with Italians? Are the stereotypes of the men actually a reality in most cases? The relationship is not yet to a point of where I can't emotionally get ...

A.   20 August 2009: RED FLAG RED FLAG RED FLAG!! Get out, this man is controlling obsessive and insecure, not good relationship material!!... (read in full...)

My life is going downhill

Q.   hello, my problem is that im doubting my reason to live, latley my sex life has just gone downhill. my husband is ignoreing my signs that i want to say that im attractive. i have no idea what to do and on top of that my children are out of control ...

A.   20 August 2009: You should speak to your GP and ask for counselling help, it sounds like you're dealing with self esteem issues, TV shows like Super Nanny are great for tips on controlling your children, most have released books alongside the programmes, make your ... (read in full...)

What do guys want girls to do sexually?

Q.   Hi, I lost my virginity in Feb this year, to my boyfriend of 3 years. So i'm really clueless about sex : / Could any guys give me pointers about how to make my bf happy in bed? Btw don't tell me rim job because he won't go for that... I would but he ...

A.   20 August 2009: The best thing to do is ask him what he likes, and show him what you like. Confidence is the most attractive thing in bed :)... (read in full...)

We use condoms but she's missed her period

Q.   My Girlfriend and I are both 15 and have been having sex for the past few months, we have always used a condom. The last time was approximately 2 weeks ago. Her period was due about a week ago and has still not come, i am concerned she may be ...

A.   26 July 2009: Get her to do a pregnancy test, put both your minds at rest...... (read in full...)

We broke up, I told him I needed space, but now I want him back, how do I know how he feels?

Q.   Hi, I broke up with my bf a few months ago. We stayed friends in the interim. I just sent him a "would you consider getting back together" letter. I told him to take his time to think about it. I think I was so subtle in the letter that I never ...

A.   26 July 2009: I feel sorry for your ex...What mixed signals and a total head f***!! Why are you toying with him like this?... (read in full...)

We've gotten close as friends, how do I know if he wants more too?

Q.   okay soo theres this guy and we met through a friend once.. so later then he adds me on facebook.. soo we've chatting since the day he added me.. abt a week and a half ago for abt 4 hours each nite we talk abt everything ... life parents love and ...

A.   26 July 2009: You're just going to have to ask him really x... (read in full...)

We've broken up, he's sent me a cryptic email, what do I make of it?

Q.   i need to know how to respond to an email from my boyfriend of two years. we broke up last week. for the past few months we have been riding the breakup/cant live without you roller coster. this past week, i flipped out and completely went ...

A.   26 July 2009: He probably just wants to talk face to face rather than over email...Call him if you want to talk, otherwise just leave it x... (read in full...)

Is there a chance he will change his mind get back with me?

Q.   I broke up with my ex in May. By mid of June, he starts to contact me again. At first it was about some important things then later he started asking me personal questions like if I have a new boyfriend and other stuff about my family and frien...

A.   26 July 2009: My initial thoughts after reading this is that no, you won;t get back together...I think you harassed him into giving you an answer on whether he wanted to get back together when I think he came to you because he is having a stressful time in life ... (read in full...)

Should I stay with him for the sake of our son?

Q.   I've been w/ my "fiance" for 5 years, with our son 3 yrs, he wants to marry me but he has cheated several times,even while and after pregnant he'd continued I've left him, kicked him out but because of our son we kept trying to work it out, I ...

A.   26 July 2009: Never let yourself be blackmailed into staying with someone...And you can't stay with him just for the sake of your son, who will not benefit in any way from growing up in an unhappy household. Can you imagine 40 years living with this guy? Never ... (read in full...)

I like him but I'm scared

Q.   Okay, I'm new to the whole asking for help thing. I usually help others and don't ask for help. But, There is this boy (I'll call him Bob), I know he likes me because he has told me and last year he had asked me to be his girlfriend. ...

A.   26 July 2009: Just got for it...x... (read in full...)

I cry when I have sex with my husband

Q.   I love my husband. He's a good man who looks after me and treats me like a princess. The problem is really odd. We rarely have sex and whenever we do I find myself crying. It's the weirdest thing and I'm scared he'll notice. It doesn't hurt, he ...

A.   26 July 2009: That's a good thing...It's something to do with orgasm bringing on emotion, it's happened to me a few times.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend says I am controlling and selfish

Q.   i have a problem with my boyfriend ,, been dating for 3 years, the problem is that he says that i'm a controlling selfish girlfriend, because i asked op talkin to a friend whom we once broke of because , and also that friend of his keeps treating me ...

A.   26 July 2009: You shouldn't stop your boyfriend seeing anyone...He should stick up for you if this person is badmouthing you though.... (read in full...)

Do men get put off a girl who is too open?

Q.   guys - do you get turned off when a girl is too open? ...

A.   26 July 2009: People generally do like "the chase", and it's never a good thing to totally lay yourself bare to someone too soon.... (read in full...)

He's so verbally abusive

Q.   I'm so confused, me and my boyfriend have a relationship of 5 years. When he gets angry he says really hurtful things like " you bitch, your deaf, you dumb slut" he tells me he has a short fuse and can't controll himself. Last night I had enough a...

A.   26 July 2009: You wanna get out of this relationship...!x... (read in full...)

Does my friend feel the same way?

Q.   Well i have a friend who i have fallen in love with we've been talking for a month. well just the other day i told her i liked her not loved just liked...I told her how i felt for her well she said i don't get out much. I responded ouch im opening ...

A.   26 July 2009: It doesn't actually sound like she is too interested, seems like she's giving mixed messages. I would leave it, if she brings it up and says she's interested, go for it. If not, assume she's not interested x... (read in full...)

My boyfriend replies to other people's texts, so why not mine?

Q.   I just dont get this! Why is it like this? My mates a lad, hes 19...hes a really nice guy. But its weird, he says im a great friend to him and stuff but theres one little thing thats getting me down that i cant ask him about. Hes had a habbit like ...

A.   26 July 2009: It sounds like you're looking into it too much...You're the one he most likely see's the most, speaks to the most, why does he need to reply to each and every of your Facebook messages etc?... (read in full...)

My ex wants to be my "friend with benefits"

Q.   me and my boyfriend broke up , now he wants to be friends with benifits ,, we broke up because i'm not ok with him talkin to a certain girl ,whom we once broke up because of her , it's not that i'm jealouse but we have sex and in the middle of it ...

A.   26 July 2009: Don't go there...F*ck buddies are never a good idea, someone always gets hurt xx... (read in full...)

Does lack of sex kill a relationship?

Q.   My friend just told me that her husband had filed for divorce which I am really shocked by as they seemed to get on so well together. When she talked to me about the things that were happening that she didn't like in the relationship, it sounded ...

A.   26 July 2009: Sex is a really important part of any relationship, along with trust and friendship xx... (read in full...)

We've been together over 4 years, but he says he's falling for someone else...

Q.   I have being dating my boyfriend 4 1 and half years,now he is falling in love with another girl but he claim he loves me and cannot leave me,since i discovered he is cheating on me:can i quit the relationship or still be patient with him...

A.   26 July 2009: Get out!!! Why should you patiently wait by his side while he sleeps around and decides if he prefers this other girl to you? Think of your self respect and dignity...You can do better than that xx... (read in full...)

I had an affair with a married man and now I'm worried his wife will confront me at work!

Q.   Hello, Iv got a problem, I slept with a married man now things are kinda getting freaky, I slept with him a couple times, i work very closely with him, i called it off after he told me that he "loved me" His wife became suspicious (during ...

A.   19 July 2009: It takes two to tango. Yeah ok you shouldn't be messing with a married man, but people make mistakes. If the wife was going to do anything, she would have confronted you at work, it's not hard to be big and intimidating over the phone/from a distan... (read in full...)

I'm feeling jealous and insecure, he's cheated before

Q.   My partner does a course involving a lot of women and very few male collegues (nursing) he goes twice a week, and they have all started going out to dinner together (well a group of 5 or 6 of them). I have started feeling a bit of green eyed ...

A.   22 June 2009: You need to say that to him - not 'mention' it, find a time when you can both talk and let him know exactly how you feel. It's not fair he can fork out to go to dinner with female colleagues but not you two...... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's 7 year old daughter still sleeps in his bed

Q.   I am 30 years old, living with my 38 year old boyfriend and his 7 year old daughter. She still sleeps in his bed sometimes, and for this reason I have to sleep in my own bed, in my own room, while living with my boyfriend. I feel like he is not ...

A.   22 June 2009: Be honest with him, make a time to sit down and let him know exactly how you feel, honesty is the best policy :)... (read in full...)

Can you name some good places to meet nice, decent, cute down to earth girls??

Q.   Hi, Can you give me some good places to meet nice decent girls? Nightclubs, Bars and Pubs Do not count!! the last couple GF's I've had I met in bars and they turned out to be big headaches and I was told I've been looking in the "wrong places" so I ...

A.   22 June 2009: Never meet people in bars, it rarely works out...Friends of friends are usually a good one, the internet (not as sleazy as it once was!), various clubs (what kind of hobbies are you into/would like to get into)?... (read in full...)

I've devastated my fiance by leaving him, it's hurting me too

Q.   Ok I am in some need of help here, and any advice is greatly appreciated.. I posted on here recently about how I had cancelled my wedding to my fiance who I have been with for 3 years and that I was considering leaving him because I feel we just wan...

A.   22 June 2009: In the long run you've been very fair to him - as it wouldn't be fair at all if you had doubts about marriage or a future with him. Keep your chin up, I know how you're feeling, I've been there (not engaged, just the one to break off a long term... (read in full...)

Is my ex toying with my emotions?

Q.   I broke up with my partner of 5years in January 2009. We have a 3yr old daughter together. Our relationship was good to begin with but within the first year it had begun to show major cracks. He was constantly out at the pub or arranging to meet up ...

A.   22 June 2009: It's great you can stay friends, but try to keep within that boundary, or everyone, including your daughter, is going to be confused.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend first had sex at 8, is this normal?

Q.   My boyfriend and i were having a conversation on our sexual past, what age we lost our virginity at etc. He told me that he started putting his penis in girls as young as 7 or 8 and actually took a girl into his room at 8 and tried full blown sex ...

A.   22 June 2009: Seems a bit early, but I guess everyone develops at their own age...I had my first kiss at 14 and lost my virginity at 16, so maybe I was a late starter lol.... (read in full...)

We split up and I've become promiscuous, why?

Q.   Hi Me and my ex split up after 5 years. The reason for the split was because he cheated and was physically abusive, at the time of the spilt i was 21 he was 27. It was not an amicable split due to finance and our property, but we finally sold tha...

A.   22 June 2009: You're craving affection and attention that you've lost from the ex, it's pretty normal so I wouldn't worry.... (read in full...)

I feel like my friend's not interested

Q.   I've got a good friend whose been away for ten days without being in touch with me until she returned, even though I sent her a text wishing that she was having a good time there. I wasn't too impressed with this and felt even worse when my Mum and ...

A.   22 June 2009: Ignore your mom and boyfriend and do what you feel is best. Maybe she just needs some space, let her come to you.... (read in full...)

My internet lover has been a liar from the beginning

Q.   Hiya I have a question for you I met a guy online (as so many of us do) When i finally met him the first thing was the picture was not of him. He had put another face on of a handsome guy as he himself is not at all attractive. Looks are no...

A.   22 June 2009: You should never have even gotten with him in the first place - if he started the relationship by not even showing you a true picture of himself, how can there be any trust?... (read in full...)

Why do I always have to do everything?

Q.   my bf and i have been together for almost 3 years now and we get along well and have a lot in common, but i am so frustrated because i have to do practically all the work when it comes to going out and socializing. if i dont suggest we go out or do ...

A.   22 June 2009: My boyfriend is the same - whenever he does ask if we want to go out, healways expects me to suggest where and when etc! We had a big talk about it and I told him I was getting bored in our relationship, if he had it his way we'd sit in all the time... (read in full...)

Was I used as a one night stand?

Q.   me and a guy friend of mine was playing around yesterday night and i went down on him... but i haven't heard anything from him since then. was i a one night stand? i feel awful about it he was my 1st and i haven't known him along time or anything ...

A.   3 June 2009: It unfortunately sounds like you were a one night stand...Don't dwell on it though, no matter how s*** you're feeling right now, these things make you stronger, wiser to these a**holes who make people feel used and embarassed. You deserve better, ... (read in full...)

She wants a break..am I wrong by constantly wanting to contact her?

Q.   I've been in a relationship for the past four years with a woman I am madly in love with. We have had some rough times before, like all relations, but we managed to get past them. I graduated from College last May. Since then I have been trying...

A.   3 June 2009: You're going through a massive rut in your life...It seems like it never rains but it pours. With your girlfriend, I know it's a tricky one. You want to give her space, but not so much that she starts to get over you. You want to keep her thin... (read in full...)

She dumps me but still praises me about the great sex we had!

Q.   My ex GF and I keep in touch via e-mail or messenger. me and her start talking normal, then she always ends up changing the subject to sex, and she always says I was definitely great at it. I dont know what to think. She Dumped me and I still have ...

A.   3 June 2009: She's trying to keep you interested by playing sill games, she wants you to want her even though she doesn't want you. Sounds like a pathetic silly little girl.... (read in full...)

Caught him with porn now I'm constantly checking his web history

Q.   Hi, Ever since I caught my boyfriend watching porn while I was at home, I haven't been able to stop randomly looking at his web history. I've seen him look up pictures of real girls that we both know alongside porn. Is it normal for guys to mast...

A.   3 June 2009: I didn't really think this was much of a problem, until I got to the bit: And also, I found a google search on his computer that was "wanting girls prettier than my girlfriend" and "wanting to date a model." My jaw actually dropped. I woul... (read in full...)

Now that I'm pregnant he wants to have sex all the time and is getting aggressive about it

Q.   alright so im 17 years old and my boyfriend is 28 years old. we have been together for a year and a half. the thing is he used to work at my school as a security guard. he left my school about 6 months ago to move onto another job. we met through ...

A.   3 June 2009: Honey - it sounds to me like he raped you. You're pregnant, he's being aggressive, violent, you need to put your baby first. I really don't mean to be harsh, but why is a guy who's almost 30 dating a 17 year old? Guys that age should be look... (read in full...)

I think she's having more fun with online games guys that she is with me!

Q.   Hello my girl friend and I play halo online and a lot of guys hit on her. she is a friendly person so she talks to them. A few of them have been talking more and more to her and she stays up very late playing with them and when I finally get to i ...

A.   3 June 2009: Sometimes people need a bit of attention when they're in a relationship...You get used to the same person, the spark dims a bit, then all of a sudden you have other people flirting with you, boosting your confidence, making you feel good about ... (read in full...)

How can I let someone go that means so much to me?

Q.   Ok, well last year i got my first part time job. Still being at school i only work the weekends. Over the past year i have became confident and socialise well with other staff members. I have bacame close to this guy from work and i started to see ...

A.   3 June 2009: Have you told him how you feel? You might be able to work out a long distance thing, if you're both keen...The thing you do need to remember is the age gap, it might cause him quite some embarassment, considering you are 6 years younger than him, ... (read in full...)

He's great but when it comes to sex he isn't the best!

Q.   Hi all. :) I'm new to this site so bear with me... I'm a 21 year old female. I'm currently dating a 34 male. He's a really great lover and turns me on all the time. It's like I can't get enough of him. But... when it comes to having sex and t...

A.   3 June 2009: In my experience with men and oral sex, they either do it or they don't. Guys I've encountered either absolutely LOVE going down on a girl, or absolutely hate it and refuse to do it. My current boyfriend would quite possibly go down on me morning ... (read in full...)

Getting pregnant while on your period

Q.   i still have sex when im on my period can i get pregnant? im on birth control and i still take the pill reguraly i dont use a condom all the time this there a higher chance of me getting pregnant when im on my period?...

A.   3 June 2009: Christ, what's the point in lecturing her. Underage sex happens, there's nothing you can do about it apart from offer advice & make sure these kids know the facts so at least if they're going to have sex, they're smart about it. Honey - you can ... (read in full...)

I slept with my best friend! Now what do I do?

Q.   my bestfriend is a guy and we have always had a flirty kind of relationship. well one night we got totally shithoused and we ended up having sex, nothing was strange about the whole thing we didnt bring it up at all, all of our friends kept asking ...

A.   3 June 2009: I tend to stay away from relationships like this, not wanting to rain on your parade at all, but I've had serious relationships with 2 guys I had been friends with for quite a long time (6 years and 12 years). Both started out as a friendly flirty ... (read in full...)

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