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writes:Heyz! i am a 13 year old girl.. dating a.. 18 year old guy. i know there is a big age difference. My problem is that our age difference is hurting him. everyone has been calling him a pedophile, telling him he will go to jail.He fakes a smile every now and then. but i can see that is hurting him inside. I dont know if i should brake it of.. advise please Reply to this Question
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reader, tishatasha  +, writes (3 January 2008):
 to be honest its not illeagal unless you are having sex as you have to be 16 so, if your happy with each other ignore what all thoose stupid immature people say and get on with living life how you want =)Hope this helpsFrom Tishatasha xXx 3
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): Some of these answer i find are based on descrimination and pre judging a situation they no nothing about. I am 18, and have a 14 yr old g/f. I can honestly say i have a very real emotional connection with her. I am not a pervert, in fact, I work as a nurse with elderly people. Remember that females mature before male mentally, so when your 14 or 25, you may have the same maturity level as a 18 yr old male. Unfortunately, some people will disapprove because of prejudice. Its up to the both of you to realize if you love each other enough to withstand the criticisms.
P.S At first, my friends were a bit apprehensive, but they got used to it. In fact, most of them all get on now!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): there is 5 years between me and my partner and we had hardely any of the same problems as you are getting yourself although we did get people shouting and sniggering from across the street, we started dating when i was 16 and he was 21 though, i believe that is the reason that not that many people people bothered with out relationship because in england you are old enough to concent to sex at 16, im 25 know and our relationship is still going strong im so thankfull i never gave up on our relationship when others said i should listen to your heart and not to other people
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reader, starfairy +, writes (15 December 2007):
 Whether you are in a relastionship or just having a friendship with this guy, it strikes me as a little odd, from his side of things.I sincerely doubt an 18 year old man towards the end stages of puberty will have much in common with a 13 year old girl just beginning puberty...Sexually, emotionally, mentally...With a big age gap people will obviously assume he is a paedophile. But you also have to wonder why he can't get a girlfriend or friend his own age?I would be a little wary personally, if my little sister (who is your age) was hanging out with an 18 year old guy.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (15 December 2007):
 Wait so he's a freind? is he calling you his b/f? If he's not touching you in an sexual way then I don't see anything wrong with the freinship, but I still find it strange he's mates with an 13yr old. I'm 18 and wouldn't be freinds with someone that age
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe is not a sexual predator like some of you seem to think. we dint meet a couple of months ago we met when i was 9. hes always been a good friend of mine. helping me with my problems. whipping my tears away when i cry. i dont wnt him to meet my parents because of what they will think. but he did come home to meet my parents when i wasent around. he is not sexualy interested in me. he is very religious and is saving himself for marriege. he even told me that. he is a really nice guy its just that hes 5 years older then me and everyone is looking down on uss.. i really dont know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2007): Stranger things have happened.But there is still a lot you need to learn. So break it off.Start dating other people closer in age to you, and if when you turn 18 (or whatever the legal age is in your part of the world... its 16 here...) and you still feel the same way about each other, then have at it.Until then, he is a pervert if he is actively persuing you.Flynn 24
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (15 December 2007):
 The problem is not the age difference. It is simply because of your age.
People immediately think that you and he are carrying on a sexual relationship and of course think the worse about him.
My brother was in the same situation with his girlfriend. However, they worked it out. He loved her enough that he was willing to wait to get serious. He just stayed in a casual relationship with her until she was old enough to make a decision on marriage. They still wanted to marry at that time so decided to make arrangements. It was tough for them.
They were both still virgins at the time they married and have now been married for about 27 years.
Is he willing to make that kind of a committment to you?
If so, he just may be the guy for you. If not maybe you better look for someone closer to your own age. Doc
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 December 2007): Don't worry about it, if you really like him then just agnore them, they don't matter, just don't let him push you into anything.
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reader, hello1 +, writes (14 December 2007):
Break it off now. The reason he's getting called all those names because it's very strange a man his age is intrested in an 13yr old girl. Keep away from him. I promise you, in a couple of years you will look back and realise how sick he was.
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