I've been holding out on sex for 6 months, is it a possibility he might start looking elsewhere?
Q. My boyfriend of 6 months is very affectionate with me i.e holding my hand, kissing, etc, but at the same time I am confused. I know that relationships settle down after a while, but we haven't yet had sex. This is in part because my ex-boyfriend ...
A. 15 December 2007: It seems like the biggest thing you are lackikng is communication. You want your boyfriend to do certain things (and I don't think it's fair you go down on him, but he doesn't return the favour), and he seems to want you to do certain things. ... (read in full...)
I've heard about guys going limp, what does it mean?
Q. hey to all... well im just a bit curious to what limp means. i was looking through the site and i often came accross questions about how guys start to go limp when their girlfriends go down on them. so can someone please tell me. thanx ...
A. 15 December 2007: It means to lose their hard on, go soft :o)... (read in full...)
I feel like I have no luck, I feel down and unhappy
Q. i am not sure if i have depression, i feel really down all the time like there is nothing worth while in my life,i feel useless in evrything and a string of bad luck lately has added to that.my mum has been taken into hospital and may now need a ...
A. 15 December 2007: It might not be depression as such, you might just be feeling low because of all the bad luck you have had recently. You need to concentrate on the positive sides of things. At least your Mom is still around, your boyfriend probably wasn;t worth it... (read in full...)
I paid for us to go away but now we have split up he won't pay his share. How can I get him to pay?
Q. I recently bought tickets for my bf and I to go on a trip out of the country. He had no intention, it turns out, of paying me back, and now that we've broken up, I have a feeling I'll never see that money again, but IF there is a chance of getting ...
A. 13 December 2007: The worst thing about this is that although it's a hard lesson learned for you, and an expensive one, this tw@t has probably now made you wary of trusting others in similar situations.
Make sure your next boyfriend is the kind that wants to take... (read in full...)
My new man is so much better and I have everything I could need or want...but I still can't get my ex out of my head.
Q. hi, please can u help me? I met a man last year and i finished my 3 year relationship with my ex for him. Anyway my new man treats me better than i could ever wish for and he is everything i will ever need in a man and i love him so much. Howeve...
A. 12 December 2007: It's human nature to want what you can't have and also girls seem to love a challenge in a "bad guy".
Sometimes people just can't be happy with what they've got. It sounds like your boyfriend is too good to you, it's soo easy for you. Hence th... (read in full...)
Should I leave the sweetest guy in the world for my sons father??
Q. I'm 22 i've been with my boyfriend for 9 months(we've been friends for 5 yrs. I love him and he loves me and my son but i'm not in love with him, and i just ran into my sons father after 10 months. I still love him but when i wanted a relatio...
A. 12 December 2007: Just so I have this straight, we have:
a) son's father, wasn't ready to be a father to your son or support to you before when you both probably needed him most.
b) really sweet guy who you had a great friendship with but you don't love him, and... (read in full...)
She's talking like we are back but she acts different. What is going on??
Q. Hey, Well my girl had broke up with me a few weeks ago, but I wrote her a heartfelt letter and drove 60 miles and put a tiny christmas tree on her car. She called back real happy the next day and the following day we went out to dinner and she said...
A. 12 December 2007: You need to discuss your feelings and insecurities with her. If she is worth having as a girlfriend, she will recognise her faults, and she'll want to work to fix it and make you happy.
I wouldn't leave it until after this boss's do. If you're b... (read in full...)
I think my dad is cheating on my mum...what should I do??
Q. I think my Dad is cheating on my Mum and i don't know what to do. I am sure he loves my mum and our family but i saw some searches on the internet for escorts all around the world and for things like 'worldwide sex,' he is away on business a lot an...
A. 12 December 2007: You should discuss what you've seen with your Dad, otherwise your relationship with him will become very strained. Don't shout and scream, you don't know his side yet, only what you've seen on the computer. Maybe you should write him a letter or ... (read in full...)
Why have I fallen in love with someone that scares me so much??
Q. I can't stop feeling so stupid that I gave my ex a second chance. We met two years ago and I had just gotten out of a relationship and so had he. Many times I told him we should just be friends, but he kept insisting and I finally gave in. We wer...
A. 12 December 2007: It doesn't sound like you love him. It sounds like he has convinced you that you love him, he has convinced you to get engaged, he has pushed you into the relationship.
Why would you want ot be with someone like that? Mentally and emotiona... (read in full...)
I am falling in love but don't want to ruin my best friendship.
Q. I have somewhat of a problem; I think I'm falling for my gf but I don't know how to tell her. She's one year older than me which means that after next semester she's off to college and probably out of town. We've been close friends all of highschool ...
A. 12 December 2007: Something that struck me is a point to consider, that you might just not want her to go. You sound like you have a great friendship and it's natural for you to not want that to end.
You said you're not interested in sex, and you're not in love with... (read in full...)
I hurt someone I love so much...what should I do??
Q. My ex-girlfriend and i were broken up this summer. this was our 3rd break up in 1.5 yrs. We decided to get back together before the summer ended. When we officially got back together, i went to Europe just after and had kissed 2 girls in that ...
A. 12 December 2007: I think you need to think about why you are together/keep getting back together. I always say, if you break up, it is for a reason.
Sometimes people can learn from their mistakes and move on, and become stringer. Most of the time people don't lear... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I want to be friends with this girl anymore but I'm scared of what she will do.
Q. Hi all, A few months ago i had a one night stand with this guy, and the next weekend when me and all my girly mates were supposed to go out one of them cancelled on us saying she was going to this party. Later on i found out from another friend t...
A. 12 December 2007: The biggest thing that struck me is this girl is quite obviously very jealous of you. She wants whatever you have, she wants to probve she is as good as you.
By you confronting her about the boy, which she had every intention of you finding ... (read in full...)
I paid for us to go away but now we have split up he won't pay his share. How can I get him to pay?
Q. I recently bought tickets for my bf and I to go on a trip out of the country. He had no intention, it turns out, of paying me back, and now that we've broken up, I have a feeling I'll never see that money again, but IF there is a chance of getting ...
A. 12 December 2007: The hardest thing to do is to get someone to do something they don't want to do!
I was going to say try appealing to his conscience, but as he doesn't believe in guilt, this might not be the best course.
You could try small claims court, al... (read in full...)
Is my penis too small??
Q. I am a thirteen year old boy and was wondering if my penis is to small. It's only 5inches when fully erect and 3inches when small. Is it to small?...
A. 12 December 2007: You are still progressing through puberty...Your whole body will carry on growing :o) Have a look at this website...By their survey you are right on track size wise! http://www.coolnurse.com/penis_size.htm... (read in full...)
Best gift to give your ex gf on their birthday? I want to win her back.
Q. what is the best gift to buy my ex girlfriend, her bday is in a month and we broke up last week. Im not speaking to her but i want her back. And i would like to give her a gift that would make her smile and happy...
A. 6 December 2007: Doesn't sound like she is too iknterested then, if you have put all this effort i and she still can't even be bothered to thank you.
Some girls like a guy who ignores them. Gives them a challenge. Try that.
But personally doesn't sound li... (read in full...)
Best gift to give your ex gf on their birthday? I want to win her back.
Q. what is the best gift to buy my ex girlfriend, her bday is in a month and we broke up last week. Im not speaking to her but i want her back. And i would like to give her a gift that would make her smile and happy...
A. 3 December 2007: From a girls point of view, any gift that has shown thought an consideration has gone into it means the world to me. If you wanted to go for simple, buy a plain photo frame and decorate it, maybe with lyrics of 'your song', or felt hearts. Pu... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to be hurt again, I want so badly to trust him 100%.
Q. This has been bothering me for quite some time and I need some help with what to do. Back at the end of July I found out my boyfriend was talking to his ex over his cell phone, and basically hiding this from me. He ended talking to her on his own ...
A. 3 December 2007: Oh my God, I have had EXACTLY the same problems with my boyfriend and his ex girlfriend!! I know EXACTLY how you feel...Message me if you need someone to talk to or some advice xx... (read in full...)
How can you tell if an ex still likes you...?
Q. If you haven't seen your ex in a while (due to his moving, which prompted the split) and he comes back for Christmas to see his family and old friends... 1) How can you tell if he still likes you, and 2) How would you try and win him back? xx...
A. 3 December 2007: You can generally tell from that vibe, or women's intuition. But personally I find the best way is to be upfront. Spend some times one on one. See how he reacts to a little flirting. And tell him straight up, "I still like you, is there a chance ... (read in full...)
I NEED to know...
Q. My ex-boyfriend moved away to university recently and since he's been there he's met this girl who's seemingly very keen on him - but he's always vague as to what he thinks about her, and "doesn't know what he wants." Last night they both got ve...
A. 3 December 2007: I could understand you feeling the need to know if he was still your boyfriend, but he's your ex, and what he does now isn't a whole lot to do with you. I only say that because you are quite clearly torturing yourself over it. But it sounds like h... (read in full...)
How can I get over my strong feelings for me ex.
Q. I've broken up with my ex for about 6 months. We broke up because we both came from different worlds. When we broke up we were both still in love with each other. I thought i was over him but i guess im not. i dont know what to do as i have the...
A. 3 December 2007: By meaning different worlds, do you mean something like one of you is in a religion where you must have an arranged marriage, or something similar? If you were still in love when you broke up, it's going to be a tough one to get over him. The... (read in full...)
What's the difference between a f*** buddy and a casual relationship?
Q. whats the difference between a casual relationship and fuck buddies? Is there one?...
A. 21 November 2007: I wouldn't say there was much difference, a F***n buddy might be a little more just sex though, whereas I guess a casual relationship includes all the elements of a relationship just not the commitment.... (read in full...)
Should I give my ex this chance to clarify or continue ignoring him? I'm happily married and do not want to upset my husband or my parents.
Q. hi guys iam married n happy, the problem is my ex.he tried to contact me many times but couldnt, then started callin up my friends i told them to tell him that i have nth to do wth him, now iam home wth my parents and he started callin me here.i d...
A. 21 November 2007: Your husband is going to understand that you have a past, and that will include ex's.
However I understand wanting to keep it seperate, keeps it from getting messy.
You need to get in touch with this ex. Tell him that you have no feelings for ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm never going to get over this girl if I keep being such good friends with her, as she insisted. What can I do?
Q. I'm in college and I fell in love with a girl on my floor. She's the most amazing person I've ever met. She has a boyfriend though and says that me and her will never happen but she wants us to be friends. I tried telling her that I couldn't be ...
A. 21 November 2007: It sounds like this girl is being unneccessarily cruel by insisting you be friends with her - she knows you love her and she knows it causes you anguish not being with her but she doesn't care - she probably enjoys the feeling of being wanted and ... (read in full...)
Would we look good together?
Q. I like a senior, but I'm not sure if he likes me. We danced together at Homecoming, a month ago, and he sometimes stares at me(his friends too).He even laughs at my jokes and 3 of my friends said we would look good together. What do you think?...
A. 21 November 2007: It sounds like he might have some reservations about the age difference, he might get teased by his friends. It's tough at that age because what your friends think really matters, which in the ling run is silly!
Why don't you spend a little t... (read in full...)
I get loads of attention from other girls but I really want my ex back...
Q. Hi All, Well what an absolute nightmare. I’ve just ended a 15 month relationship. Everything was great at first but for the last 6 months or so we’ve been having petty rows pretty regularly. We never make up following a row, although I always t...
A. 21 November 2007: It sounds like you enjoyed "looking after" your ex.
Personally it sounds like you need to move on, this girl os more of a drain on you than someone who brings you joy and makes you smile for no reason.
Your life with her was one of walking o... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty for cheating on him.
Q. Please help me. I married my boyfriend of 7 years 4 months ago and I love him to death. Four and a half years before we got married I went out with a friend and got really, really drunk. I woke up the next day to find I had gone home with a g...
A. 21 November 2007: You need to consider the fact that nothing may have actually happened. Perhaps you should ask this guy what did happen? You might be beating yourself up over nothing.
If you do decide to tell your husband, you'll feel alot better personal... (read in full...)
Anyone with any ideas to get us out of this rut??
Q. I only get to see my boyfriend a few times a week. We have been going out 2 years and all we seem to do is watch tv and go to the pub. Most nights we only see each other a few hours and i need some ideas as i feel we are stuck in a rut. Anyone got ...
A. 21 November 2007: It sounds like you need to spice things up a little, it's all to easy to fall into the 'takeaway' phase of a relationship. Meaning when you were first together you were probably in the 'dining out' phase, or you would cook for him, you guys made an ... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to me or is he just doing his job??
Q. I am a member at my local gym and there is this really nice, kind, attractive instructor there. He has been helping me with my proggramme for about a year now.We laugh together and get on well. I know he has got a girlfriend.He hasn't told me but s...
A. 21 November 2007: Female intuition is often right, if you get the feeling he likes you, he probably does.
But he has 3 factors he has to think about:
1) He already has a girlfriend (whether they are happy or not is irrelevant, he is unavailable and he knows it... (read in full...)
I hinted that I like him (although I already have a bf), and he rejected me. How can I forget him?
Q. i fell in love with a guy called W..he is handsome..cute as well as caring..but i already have a boyfriend..i met W at my working place..to me it is a wonderful crush..we when out eating..shopping..walking as close as a pair of couple..but when i ...
A. 5 November 2007: It sounds to me like you are craving a little fun, perhaps you have been with your current boyfriend for a while and things have become a little stale.
You probably want W even more since he rejected you - it is human nature to want what you can'... (read in full...)
How to delay your period? Starting a new pack straight after the old pack, is this true?
Q. Hi, im on the pill (21 day pack) and am going on holiday soon. I heard you can stop your period for that month by starting a new pack straight after the old pack, is this true? and after that 2nd pack do you then leave it off for a week and get your ...
A. 5 November 2007: You can just skip your 7 day break and start the next pack the day sfter you finish the first pack.
They say you can do this for up to 3 periods then you need to let your body have a period.
If you want to stop your periods, you should think... (read in full...)
How can I make these stretch marks disappear?
Q. I am 16 and i am a virgin but for the past year i have had stretch marks on my inner and outer thigh how can i make these go and why are they there....
A. 5 November 2007: Stretchmarks are quite common throughout puberty as you go through growth spurts which cause the skin to stretch and leave stretch marks.
Bio Oil is goos, but I have found cocoa butter to be excellent, massage it in daily, as often as you like... (read in full...)
I'm a flirter, but I think my boyfriend overreacts, what's acceptable?
Q. Well, I know I'm just young- but this is really affecting my life in a huge way. Whenever I talk to men (well, boys- I'd suppose my case would be) I find that I can't stop flirting. I mean, personally, I'm bubbly and friendly; but apparently this ...
A. 5 November 2007: If you honestly, genuinely don't mean to flirt, or don't realise, then yes, your boyfriend is being selfish, insecure and ridiculous. After all, is it not HIM you go home to?
Don't ever change for a man. Especially someone who sounds as lovely a... (read in full...)
How can I tell her to butt out - but nicely?
Q. My best friend and I have been friends for 7 years. She has always been the promiscuous type; all the boys have to love her. One thing that has been bothering me lately is her tendency to put men over me. I understand that when you're dating someone ...
A. 5 November 2007: I just also have to add after reading your follow up, you just seem so confident and carefree, traits your friend is probably very deeply jealous of, consdiering how low her self esteem seems to be! She feels threatened and overshadowed by you, ... (read in full...)
How can I tell her to butt out - but nicely?
Q. My best friend and I have been friends for 7 years. She has always been the promiscuous type; all the boys have to love her. One thing that has been bothering me lately is her tendency to put men over me. I understand that when you're dating someone ...
A. 4 November 2007: Wow, your friend really can't stand for you to have any attention at all can she! She sounds like a ball of insecurities. Needing constant attention and compliments from men...That's pretty sad.
But anyway. It's a tough one because it sounds l... (read in full...)
Should I just go for it and hope I can come to like him?
Q. em well theres this guy that really likes me.. i think he is really nice he treats me really nice but im not sure if i like him in that way and he isnt attractive, but he is really nice! should i just go for it and hope i start to like him???...
A. 4 November 2007: Personality is just as imposrtant as looks...Give it a shot, just be careful of hurting your friend.... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to gain his trust?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months and some boy at my school called me and i had told my boyfriend how i have been friens with him, he says like he feels like i am hiding stuff from him but says he knows im not cheating on him and ...
A. 4 November 2007: Someone as deeply insecure as your boyfriend isn't really worth the hassle because in all honesty, you will NEVER be able to gain his trust 100%.
So you had a friend you didn't mention? So what? Is that such a big deal? No. Does that act... (read in full...)
Why don't guys make a move on me?
Q. Hello. Im 15, and turning 16 soon. And my deepest darkest confession is, I've never been kissed. What i can understand is, why no guy makes their move? I mean, I'm smart, pretty, funny.. Jeesh, what do you want? A barbie doll? ...
A. 4 November 2007: Forget all the other girls, who's doing what, who's had X amount of boyfriend's, we're all individual. I was a late bloomer in this stuff too, so I do know how you feel!
Basically, you need to concentrate on getting this guy to notice you, tak... (read in full...)
How can I please him?
Q. I've started seeing this guy and he's amazing i like him so so so much!! But we got onto the topic of sex the other night, just jokingly and he was saying about how he hates it when girls just "lay there and take it" and he's really experie...
A. 4 November 2007: Haha, men are sneaky little sods. I bet he's not half as experienced as you've been led to believe.
In fact I would bet on the fact that he is feeling a little insecure and has told you he doesn't like girls not doing any of the work in bed beca... (read in full...)
Who is being selfish here?
Q. my girlfriend is bi-polar and we get along fine most of the time.she wants to move out of state claiming she will be happier there for the fact that she misses her brothers.her family i shall say.she is chosing her family and happiness over me.we ...
A. 4 November 2007: OK, so you both want to be with your family. Is there no middle compromise? Could you not move somewhere in the middle of the 2 places?
Or perhaps she is unhappy in general and thinks moving closer to her family would solve the problem? What yo... (read in full...)
I don't know if I can be with him at 17 or not.
Q. I like this guy who is 32 but i am only 16 and we have checked the law and it says that we can be togeather when i am 17 but i dont know if its right? Is it right?...
A. 4 November 2007: It all depends on how you are feeling...It seems that you are a little hesitant and are questioning yourself morally if it is right or not.
Go with how your heart is feeling, listen to your head too though.
Be prepared for people to potent... (read in full...)
He's on porn sites 5-6 times a week yet we make love on 2 or three... what's going on?
Q. My husband is on porn sights 5-6 days per week, but we only make love 2-3 times per week. Is this something I should be worried about?...
A. 4 November 2007: No way! Maybe it sounds like he has a higher sex drive than you? Why not consider bringing porn into your sex life? My boyfriend and I regularly watch porn together, not in a sleazy way, simply to get the mood going! Adds a bit of spice.
Surpr... (read in full...)
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