I hate rejection - I have a fear of being rejected solely on my looks.
Q. There is a girl in my History class that I recently became attracted to. We haven't had any prolonged contact besides this year of school. She is sending me some mixed messages that I don't understand. She'll tell me about her personal life and all ...
A. 17 December 2008: Get to know her a little better first, and give her a chance to get to know you too. If you're worried about being rejected on looks alone...Well, looks only make up part of a package, I always look for a good personality to go with physical ... (read in full...)
Will he forget me?
Q. Will he forget me? I am involved with a man who lives in another city who has his own life but we ring and meet up from time to time! - The problem is although I am madly in love with him, think of him ALL of the time and keep photos of him n...
A. 17 December 2008: Do you think he feels the same about you?
Would you consider relocating so perhaps you could be together?
Follow your heart and do what makes you happy x... (read in full...)
Since I had the baby he doesn't want sex
Q. I am starting to get worried about the emotional/ sexual relationship between my boyfriend and i. We just had a baby boy and i was sure that our sex life would change, that something would happen! but there is still no sex what so ever... i am ...
A. 17 December 2008: My best frien'd husband went through something like this. he found it very hard to bond with his son, and found it very different to how he expected having a small baby! he didn;t want sex because he was afraid of hurting my friend, and wasn't ... (read in full...)
Doctor worries...
Q. I don't know what to do. I've had so many stomach aches and period problems that my mom has offered several times to take me to get checked out. My problem is that: a)I have an issue with exposing certain parts of my body to ANYBODY and I do...
A. 17 December 2008: If you haven't already, do a little research online. You might have a food allergy, lactose intolerance, IBS...to name but a few tummy problems. As for the period problems, again you could do some research online, you might just be one of the ... (read in full...)
Silent treatment after six months of constant contact
Q. Six months ago I met a man on-line. We e-mailed each other several times a day, talked on the phone constantly and developed a great friendship. Being on different coasts I suppose made it safe for him. He's 43 and has never been married and ...
A. 17 December 2008: This guy does definately have issues...! He doesn't sound like even he knows what he wants, he has too many barriers built up, and being involved with someone like him is going to be a total head f*ck!
I;m sure it will be hard considering the time... (read in full...)
My emotions are all over the place after losing my dad last month...
Q. Last month my dad past away with MS and my emotions are all over the place, if someone starts to get me in a mood I just lose it and my boyfriend said he is there for me but he's not, he thinks evry thing is okay when it's not. I tell him I'm not ...
A. 17 December 2008: My first suggestion would to go to your GP and tell him you're having a hard time and would like counselling. It's a great thing to have people close to you be there for you, but it's a different kettle of fish talking to someone impartial, who ... (read in full...)
She's 15, I proposed, she told me to wait..now what?
Q. I'm a 16 years old boy. I like a girlfriend, whos age is 15. I like her more then my life. But i'm not understanding, she like me or not. Once i also proposed her. But she reject my proposal and told me that her decision is not everything. She also ...
A. 13 December 2008: You're only 15 and 16...You have plenty of time to be thinking about marriage, why not just enjoy your relationship?... (read in full...)
Do I stay with partner of 6 years or go with old friend for FWB relationship?
Q. I have been with my partner for 6 years and have 2 children with him, but dont love him and dont have any sexual relationship, i know i should leave him but its hard? Ive recently met a friend i havent seen for 5 years, he wants to have sex but ...
A. 13 December 2008: You might just be using this friend to help you break up with your current partner, if this is the case, and your friend knows the score, go for it, bring yourself a little happiness. But do remember that one guy doesn't cancel out the other, the ... (read in full...)
We are losing our feelings for each other but don't want to break up
Q. Hey there all. I've only recently stumbled upon this site and I find the community very approachable. So, here's my problem.. It's rather lengthy so please bare with me. Here's a background of our relationship. We are dating. It has been 7 month...
A. 13 December 2008: This is natural - you settle into a relationship, settle into truly being yourself around each other. This is where you have to work at keeping the spark alive, stop hanging out at her house so much, make the effort to go out on dates, pick her up ... (read in full...)
I am being emotionally blackmailed and harassed by my ex
Q. I am being emotionally blackmailed, and harrassed by my recently ex boyfriend. We work together. I broke up with him a few weeks ago because i was interested in this other guy. My boyfriend and i were only going out 4 months, and it was more a fl...
A. 19 October 2008: "I was at his house once, and i was obviously passed out, and he's taken off my trousers and photographed me naked and sleeping, posing with my bum and boobs. I had NO IDEA he done this, whenever he must have...."
lol...ok...... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a bad pot head, am I stupid to stick it out?
Q. My boyfriend is a bad pot head and sometimes he is the sweetest ever and other times he flips out on me for no reason. I have told him its over a few times but he always ends up coming round my house. Often in tears. So I feel bad and give him a ...
A. 19 October 2008: This sounds exactly like my ex. He was heavy into cocaine, which he gave up shortly before we'd gotten together. But he replaced coke with smoking weed, he would smoke between 1 and 3 joints a night that I knew of, he always said he would give it ... (read in full...)
Why don't I have a girlfriend?
Q. I am 22 and i have a problem that im trying to do something about. I really want a gf but i have never had one before when ever i go out places or go on holiday i see couples together and i get really jelous and think why is this never me?. I go out ...
A. 12 October 2008: You really need to just find the common ground you share with a girl, and go from there. Like if you both like a certain type of films etc.
It's all about sussing out what you have in common.
If some girls aren't interetsed, just move on straight... (read in full...)
Been on a few dats, but I don't know how to break it off now
Q. I've been on a few dates with this really nice sweet guy but I've decided now that I just don't feel anything for him! He still keeps texting me but I don't know how to break it off- whether to be honest and explain that I just don't feel a spark or ...
A. 12 October 2008: Tell him you think he's great and maybe you could be friends, but just be honest and tell him you're not feeling it. If you play it cool with him, that'll hurt him more when he realises why you're acting off with him.... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and my parents say I have to have an arranged marriage
Q. hi. im 13 years old but ive been told by my mum that im going to have an arranged marriage when i want to marry. my parents arent really religious or anything but they both had an arranged marriage. i dont mind having one its just i really want to...
A. 12 October 2008: Just go on a few dates, be honest with your parents, tell them you want to experience a bit of fun before they lock you under ball and chain.... (read in full...)
I'm depressed because I'm not in a relationship
Q. Ok i know this is going to sound stupid but over the last half a year or so i have started to get depressed because i am not in a relationship. All of my friends have been in relationships and I have never had one and feel stupid and immature when ...
A. 12 October 2008: Self confidence is a really attractive thing to guys, no guy wants a girl who's going to moan about how fat they are, or how ugly they are (not saying this is you, just for example). Work on your own confidence, get happy in yourself, by yourself. ... (read in full...)
I met a guy on Myspace but I don't feel that spark
Q. Theres this boy, we met on myspace, then we met up. We met about 4 times but i didnt feel a spark , he told me he liked me on a text...but hes never treated me like a boyfriend, hes not kind of boy to be all touchy feely or anything, maybe if he ac...
A. 12 October 2008: I don't really understand your problem...You're not dating, you're meeting as friends, no kissing, but you're worried you'll hurt him? It doesn't sound like either of you are interested in a relationship with each other, so I wouldn't worry about ... (read in full...)
My best friend cheats on his girlfriend all the time, but she is a really nice girl
Q. my best mate regular cheats on his girlfriend everytime we go out,he sleeps with these women and get us to lie for him. his partner is a really nice girl and he treats her like shit at home and everywhere else.but the thing is shes really obsessed ...
A. 12 October 2008: Stay out of his relationship, and tell him you want to stay out of it. Tell him you'll always have his back but you don't like being in the middle of it all.... (read in full...)
I met a girl on holiday who seemed interested but now she's not returning my calls
Q. Hello, this message will probably end up pretty long so if you do end up reading it. I thank-you alot. Here goes.. So I went to Spain in July with a few mates, we went by coach which took like a day. There was a big family infront of us on the coa...
A. 12 October 2008: She's either not really interested or her parents are getting in the middle...... (read in full...)
The married man I'm seeing wants to work at his marriage but also have me
Q. I have been with married man for approx. 1 year, we fell in love with each other within 2 months. In the past couple of months he has had tough times in his marriage once she found out about me. he has decided to work on his marriage, but he still ...
A. 12 October 2008: Selfish!
He can either have you or her, not both!
Tell him you and him are cooling it until he can make up his mind.... (read in full...)
Why does she keep picking my spots??
Q. I've been seeing this hot chick for a while and we love each other to bits. However, she keeps scratching my spots off and it really hurts. I keep asking her to stop but she won't. What's wrong with her?...
A. 12 October 2008: Just tell her not to, she's not a mind reader.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend her boyfriend slept with a prostitute?
Q. I have a small problem, I just found out my best friends boyfriend slept with a hooker. What should I do. If I tell my best friend, She will think I am trying to split them up (as I was not happy with getting together in the first place). If I don't ...
A. 12 October 2008: If you're positive that he actually did, then tell her. If she doesn't believe you and is willing to put him first, she's not worth having as a friend.... (read in full...)
My dad's girlfriend moved in, violates my privacy and tries to turn my dad against me, help!
Q. Hi my dads girlfriend moved in with my dad and I a couple of months ago and I am finding her unbearable. She is trying to take over my life and control me in any way possible. I am 17 and have been very independant for years. However she is ...
A. 12 October 2008: Welcome to the club, my Dad's now married to a woman who has done everything in her power to split us up. My Dad used to be my best friend and now we hardly speak. I figure if he's willing to let her drive a stake through the middle of us, there's ... (read in full...)
We are not right for each other for marriage and we know it! How can I break away from him as I am so addicted to sex with him??
Q. i am a 28 year old woman,divorced a year and a half ago,i have been a very horny girl from the begining.I've had good sex partners before i got married and i've had a few sex partners after i got divorced too.My ex-husband however did not satisfy ...
A. 12 October 2008: Just go with the flow, enjoy the sex until the novelty wears off, then concentrate on finding someone more stable when you are ready.... (read in full...)
I like someone else but I have a boyfriend, is this a sign I'm unhappy in my present relationship?
Q. please help ive been going out with my boyfriend for 5 years and he is 6 years older than me so he wants the whole settling down thing im still only young and want to enjoy myself. I really fancy this guy at work i flirt with him all the ti...
A. 12 October 2008: You said it yourself, he wants to settle down and you don't.
It sounds like you are craving a bit of fun and seeing as you have been together quite a while, this is normal as once you settle into a routine with someone, you tend to lose this init... (read in full...)
Does he have feelings for me, or am I just fooling myself?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 8 months. He's going to work 2 hours away in another town for 3 months. I expressed my disappointment to him that I won't see him very much. He said that it was only 2 hours away and that he would come home on weekends. ...
A. 12 October 2008: It's only for 3 months...Think of it as an advantage. You'll have time to miss each other in the week, and have the weekends all to yourselves! Don't worry so much...Questioning how he feels etc and being paranoid will only drive him away...J... (read in full...)
My ex and I want to try reconciliation, but he is not sure, should I move on or what?
Q. I would like to reconcile with my ex husband. I filed for the divorce and now after 15 months, I want him back. I know he starting seeing another woman about 3 months ago...he says they are very good friends, but they are not yet intimate. I am...
A. 12 October 2008: In my experience, a guy who doesn't jump at the chance to be with you, will end up disapointing you. He doesn't want to hurt his new woman? Doesn't know if he wants to be with you definately? Move on...There's someone out there who will treat... (read in full...)
So, is this relationship already doomed to fail? Has my ex changed?
Q. Has my ex changed? I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex a year ago, and just talked to him for the first time yesterday. He said he has been seeing a girl, but that it wasn't serious (yet he had sex with her) and that he stil missed me and ...
A. 12 October 2008: You sound exactly like me - you need to talk things through and get them straight in your head before you can move on.
I'm going to be honest, I don't think it would work if you got back with your ex. You have too many things you want to discuss ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife that she needs to lose weight? I love her but am having problems with her neglecting these aspects.
Q. How do I tell my wife she needs to lose weight? We have been married for 8 yrs, 2nd for both of us. When we met she was much thinner ans said she worked out and stayed in shape,but over the years she has slowly gained weight and seems to have lost...
A. 12 October 2008: I don't think you're shallow. You make the effort for her, she should make the effort for you. I never understand why girls let themselves go...Yes you should be with someone because you love them, thney have a great personality, etc etc, but ... (read in full...)
I want to know what's up with him and why won't he talk to me???
Q. The other day I was hanging out with a really good guy friend of mine. We were having tons of fun, but suddenly he leaned over and kissed me. It was a lip-kiss, and it was really quick. But now he won't talk to me! Whenever I see him, he'll turn ...
A. 12 October 2008: He obviously likes you and is now scared that you will turn around and tell him you don't fancy him. You're going to have to make the first move here...If you fancy him, tell him, if you want to be just friends, tell him, but be prepared in that... (read in full...)
Been asked for a booty call but the "fun" only lasted for two minutes. What's up with that?
Q. Why do some guys ask for a booty call and when they get all in to it they last 2 minutes into the act and then blame it on their selfishness..What's up with that?It upsets me when they say "what wasnt I good? Did you enjoy it? Obviously the answer ...
A. 12 October 2008: I've had 2 one night stands and after being left feeling totally unsatisfied, I thought, never again. I think the majority of men who are into that kind of thing are selfish...They don't want to take the time to satisfy the girl, they just want to ... (read in full...)
Does this this guy like me? He seems uncomfortable when I am around since the note I sent last year?
Q. ok this kinda a long story and I hope someone replies! theres this guy I've liked for a year now. last year when I first started liking him we talked some and were kind of friends. my best friend thought he liked me to and said I should ask him out. ...
A. 12 October 2008: He sounds like too much of a head f***! Forget him and find a guy who will actually say he likes you rather than just acting like some kind of weird stalker.... (read in full...)
Which guy gets the girl in this scenario?
Q. Hi. Ladies, who would you rather sleep with: 1) Guy who is superconfident and very successful who has a great sense of humour, but is not particularly good looking and although he fancies you he does not have feelings for you as such. or 2...
A. 12 October 2008: This seems a bit of a silly question...If you had 2 guys who were essentially both confident and successful, one isn't good looking and doesn't fancy you, the other one is good looking but a little shy but actually has feelings for you...You ask ... (read in full...)
I have come to hate my wife because I gave up many things for her, including jobs and my single life. What's left to do?
Q. I'm married and havin a one year old kid. Din wnt to get married bt ma gal forced me sayn if u love me u'v got to marry. And she wanted a kid out of love. Finally i found that im givin her every thing and i get nothing. I get blamed for every litt...
A. 12 October 2008: "Din wnt to get married bt ma gal forced me sayn if u love me u'v got to marry." That says it all really...You can't marry someone simply because they want you to...You can't give this woman what she wants (love) because you don't love her. You... (read in full...)
I have what seems like white skin all around the vaginal opening, is it because I've used soap and shaving gel to clean my inside? Sex is uncomfortable and I'm panicking!
Q. This is going to be long so ill apologize in advance! Im really embaressed about this, and im sorry but im going to have to tell you everything to get the answer as im going on holiday tomoro and im panicking! Ive been with my boyfriend for...
A. 12 October 2008: It's really sensitive down below and too much washing with harsh soaps and definately shaving gel can upset it...If you're going to be washing frequently down below, I would recommend buying a sensitive soap specifically designed for down below. ... (read in full...)
He wants to come on me like they do in porn!!
Q. My bf is my first sex partner and I'm not very experienced. He wants to start cumming on me like they do in the pornos. We always use condoms, so I'm I'm scared I will be grossed out if he takes it off and finishes like that. I've never done that. ...
A. 22 August 2008: Maybe give him a hand job, without the condom on, to see how you feel about it, then progress slowly, let him come on your stomach maybe...If you don't feel comfortable, don't do it though.... (read in full...)
I feel as if I have come to a stand still with my life
Q. I feel as though I have come to a halt in my life where I can't move forward heres the story... My dad's disabled - he has problems with his back. He is also epileptic and suffers from severe arthritis and he has been this way all my live so i'm l...
A. 22 August 2008: It's hard not to take on your parents problems too...You have to learn not to worry so much, however hard that might be!
Perhaps counselling might be a good idea, just to simply give you someone to vent to, or take up a physical activity, swimming... (read in full...)
He says he likes me but has a girlfriend, should I give up on him?
Q. There is this boy and i really like him and my friends told him i like him when we went to Colorado for a mission trip, but then he said that he likes me but he as a gf and he loves her more and i was kinda ok so i about to give up on him and i ...
A. 22 August 2008: He's off limits if he's got a girlfriend. You can either wait for him to become single, or forget about him.
Just put yourself in the GF's shoes, you wouldn't want someone chasing your man? And if he cheated/left her for you, what's to say he w... (read in full...)
How do I become friends with my ex?
Q. When me and me ex split up just over a year ago, we agreed to stay friends. He started being mean to me and I couldn't stand him any longer so I blocked and deleted his MSN addy, deleted his phone number and threw away his address because I wanted ...
A. 22 August 2008: Go along with your boyfriend the next time he visits, initiate the friendship...Just be prepared for him to reject your friendship in case he's feeling angry over being blocked etc...... (read in full...)
I think my penis is too small
Q. hi, this is my problem but i think my pennis is to small because its only 15cm's - 16cm's, so what is the average sized pennis...
A. 22 August 2008: You're still growing hun...I'm sure you'll be fine...... (read in full...)
Once he got sex, he changed, and I feel used
Q. I became great friends with a man, but he has completely changed when we became sexual. He used to nice, caring and fun to be with. Now it seems he just wants sex and thats it. It also seems like he is using me. How can i get over this? I ...
A. 22 August 2008: Hun, if you feel used, then you probably were!
Sounds like the classic symptom of girl gets seduced into thinking guy is noce, once he gets what he wants, he suddenly changes! Forget him, move on and find someone worth your time, he's not wort... (read in full...)
I'm 12, horny and shy
Q. Well im 12 years old and I am very shy around boys! I really dont go far with them but sometimes I get horny and I really want to have sex! What should I do?...
A. 22 August 2008: Wait a while for sex hun! As for the shyness, you'll overcome it :)... (read in full...)
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