I'm 16 with a baby and pregnant again, the father has left me, please help!
Q. Hey there, this is a pretty big question and i know you will think im stupid when you hear the first bit but if you can help me at all i would appreciate it. OKay im 16 and have been with my boyfriend since we were 13, However we only beca...
A. 2 January 2008: Oh my God...My heart really goes out to you. What a horrible situation to be in. I'm sure you've had a million lectures but I can't believe you were stupid enough to get in this situation, why didn't you take the morning after pill, or use ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you will ever find love?
Q. ok so i know this is a unusual question but im curious.. How do you know if you will ever find love? I mean im a 15 year old girl worried about normal things.. looks, boys and losing my virginity but one thing that seriously freaks me out is ...
A. 2 January 2008: All throughout your teens you'll have plenty of really intense, lust filled relationships. Each one you will think is love, but really, love comes when you're a bit older, love is being with someone you could live with, settle down with, have ... (read in full...)
I'm a young mother who's been out of the dating scene a while, any tips?
Q. I'm 20 years old and I had a baby seven months ago, and his father left 6 months ago after a four year relationship. I feel that I need to move on with my life and have recently met someone who I would like to get to know better and possibly...
A. 2 January 2008: First of all, rule number one - DON'T play games, don't play it cool, or do the hot cold type stuff. It's always guaranteed to backfire.
Obviously don't text him every second of every day, but as often as he's texting you or texting back is fine.... (read in full...)
After 2 1/2 years, my boyfriend wants to move to Australia...without me
Q. I met my boyfriend 2 1/2 years ago and we spend so much time together (maybe too much sometimes) I always knew he wanted to move to Australia eventually as his bro lives out there and he wants to get his mum out there on permenant residancy so he ...
A. 2 January 2008: If I was you, I would break it off now. If he's not committed to you after almost 3 years, he'll never be. He sounds selfish and arrogant, and you're better off without him. ... (read in full...)
How can I bring up the issue of birth control with my Mom without her getting the wrong idea?
Q. I want to go on birth control, but I don't know how to ask my mom. I'm afraid she's going to think that I'm going off and having sex with all the boys I hang out with. Really, I just want to be safe, just in case! Any ideas on how I can bring this ...
A. 2 January 2008: Just say exactly that!
She should respect you for being mature enough to protect yourself, just in case. It doesn't mean you HAVE to have sex because you are on the pill. It's better safe than sorry :o)... (read in full...)
My dad used to hurt me and I can't let anyone get close to me, please help
Q. gee...well i've never actually used one of these before. um...hiya, im 17 and i went out with this guy for 2 years who i've recently broken up with. and he was great, y'know? and i'm pretty sure i loved him but the thing is i got terrified of how ...
A. 2 January 2008: I don't think they have to know...You can speak to your doctor in confidence, or even call Childline in total confidence...See what options you have regarding counselling.
If it's seriously messed up your head, chances are it won't just go away.... (read in full...)
I'm not gay, I have a girlfriend, but I'm turned on by gay men, why is that?
Q. I am a 14 year old boy and I am "turned on by gay things". I dont want to be gay I have had a girl we have been going out for over a month and she wants to have sex so do I but im scared i want be preparied for....
A. 1 January 2008: It's just your raging hormones. If you don't want to pursue a gay relationship, you're not gay. It's quite common when you're a teenager.
My boyfriend and I watch porn together, but I only like the lesbian porn. I'm totally straight though.
Do... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and in love with a 30 year old and don't know what to do
Q. I'm in love with a guy who is 30 im 14 I really love him he isnt married but he has a girlfriend with a 5 yr old son I loveee his son to death his girl I wish she would drop dead hes my cuzins friend I'm always at my cousins house seeing him he ...
A. 1 January 2008: What a stupid selfish little girl you are. You'd wish death upon an innocent woman so you could make a move on her boyfriend?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't marry me, but I want marriage, should I walk away?
Q. I have been married and divorced and have a child from my previous marriage.I have a boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. We have been living together for the last 1 1/2 years in his house - I do have my own house. He has also previously been married. He says ...
A. 1 January 2008: It's really tough when you want different things. Marriage isn't the be all end all, and if you want to be with someone, you shouldn't have to get married, after all it's just a day out and a piece of paper.
But I totally understand where you'... (read in full...)
My Mom snoops when I'm on the internet, I find her lack of trust very irritating, how do I get her to stop?
Q. hi i am 14 and in year 10 and my mom keeps on being nosy about what i do on the internet.i am not doing anything bad or wrong all i do is go on msn and myspace maybe play on games. she clearly thinks i am up to somthing which is wrong she always a...
A. 1 January 2008: If you're totally innocent, you've got nothing to hide, so let her see what's on the screen. She's obviously worried, what with hearing stories of girls lured by fake people on msn and Myspace and all the horror stories that go with that...So put ... (read in full...)
I have sexual thoughts about underage girls and I disgust myself, how do I stop these feelings?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm in denial at the moment writting this, but I need help.. So here it goes. I have sexual thoughts about underage girls.. I'm 21 now, and it's been going on for probably the last 8 years. I didn't want to admit it at first...
A. 1 January 2008: First of all, well done for admitting you have a problem. Sometimes people bury their heads in the sand and hope it goes away while the problem grows and escalates.
There must be support groups, counselling, something like that specific... (read in full...)
I'm shy and need tips on flirting with a friend
Q. Theres this boy I like and I've known him since I was 7 and now I'm 13 and so is he. When we where younger we use to be pretty much best friends but when we went up to secondry school, I started to fancy him. But now its like we barely know eachothe...
A. 31 December 2007: Friends make the best partners...My current boyfriend and I actually dated when we were your age...We were best friends all throughout school, lost touch when we left school, got in touch 18 months ago, and have been together ever since!
The o... (read in full...)
We are 'friends with benefits'...Is that all he sees me as?
Q. hey all! Ok this might sound confusing or something but id really like your veiws... K....... I met this guy on the internet around 5 years ago he's 31 and im 20,and he's what you can call a friend with benefits. We've been sleeping togethe...
A. 31 December 2007: The thing with having a F*** buddy is that it always seems to lead to someone wanting more.
Generally if you have had an arangement with someone, you should assume that's all they want, as if they wanted a relationship with you, they would ha... (read in full...)
I'm shy and need tips on flirting with a friend
Q. Theres this boy I like and I've known him since I was 7 and now I'm 13 and so is he. When we where younger we use to be pretty much best friends but when we went up to secondry school, I started to fancy him. But now its like we barely know eachothe...
A. 31 December 2007: Yeah that's a big sign! Go for it :o)... (read in full...)
We've been together 6 years but he's told me he loves his ex as much as me, and he wouldn't be able to resist her if the chance came up. Do I stay or leave him??
Q. My partner and I have been together for 6 years and I have a Daughter from a previous relationship who calls my partner Dad(No contact with my ex).When we first got together he explained that he and his ex were still friendly and i accepted ...
A. 31 December 2007: Oh my God!!
YOU should be his number one, you should be the only one he thinks about. How can he have a future with you if he's thinking about her too?
You need to leave him. What a jerk.... (read in full...)
I've been fooling around with this guy, but he doesn't want me to tell anyone, should I carry on seeing him?
Q. I'm 16 and I've been sorta seeing this guy [we'll call him A] for a month now. He hasn't asked me out yet and we've fooled around but haven't had sex. I'm really starting to like A more and more but is scared that he might just be using me. A is a ...
A. 31 December 2007: When you're seeing a guy, you want him to want to show you off. You want him to be proud to be seen with you, and you want him to show you off to all his mates.
Of course this guy shows the sweet side of his personality to you, he wants to keep ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's gone away and won't get in touch...
Q. My boyfriend is away at the moment but promised to keep in touch I have text a few times I haven't heard from him all weekend This isn't like him I tried to call him earlier and no answer My battery went so i tried to call off a friends phone he ...
A. 31 December 2007: Where has he gone?
Is he working away? On a family holiday? On a lads holiday?
Is he in a foreign country where he might have forgotten a converter for his phone charger, and only keeps his phone on for a little while a day?
It does look a littl... (read in full...)
I found hair in our bed that is NOT mine, my boyfriend won't explain, help!
Q. I've been having some problems with my boyfriend lately. we've been together for quite a while now. He's been trying to make up what he did to me, and we've been seeing each other and trying to get our relationship back to normal. Just yesterday we ...
A. 31 December 2007: Female intuition and gut instinct rarely turns out to be wrong.
You're right, it does sound very fishy.
Unfortunately, without a confession from him or some concrete evidence, there's not much you can do.
But he's rocked your trust in him, and tru... (read in full...)
She dumped me and is with someone else but says she still loves me, do I try to move on or try to get her back?
Q. ok, I am not together with my girl anymore. she has gotten into something with another guy and everything. she broke it off with me. I still love her and i want her back. I could let this go, but she's not letting me. she still wants to talk with me ...
A. 31 December 2007: So she's either behaving this way for one of 2 reasons.
1. She still has feelings for you, just needed a break from the relationship, perhaps felt it was a little stale and wanted a taste of something else, and when she's ready she'll come bac... (read in full...)
I'm shy and need tips on flirting with a friend
Q. Theres this boy I like and I've known him since I was 7 and now I'm 13 and so is he. When we where younger we use to be pretty much best friends but when we went up to secondry school, I started to fancy him. But now its like we barely know eachothe...
A. 31 December 2007: The best way to flirt if you're shy is with the eyes. Get his attention and hold his gaze for a little longer than you normally would.
That'll get him thinking.
But you're going to have to get over this fear of talking to him if you want to get s... (read in full...)
My dad used to hurt me and I can't let anyone get close to me, please help
Q. gee...well i've never actually used one of these before. um...hiya, im 17 and i went out with this guy for 2 years who i've recently broken up with. and he was great, y'know? and i'm pretty sure i loved him but the thing is i got terrified of how ...
A. 31 December 2007: I think counselling would help you get your mind back on the right track. Speak to your doctor, see who he can refer you to, what your options are. Maybe even somewhere like Childline.
Your parents/family are supposed to be the closest people t... (read in full...)
I'm 11 and my period has been very heavy, should I be worried?
Q. I'm 11 and I got my period October 10. It skipped in the beginning of November and my mum said it's normal. Then, I got it right on Thanksgiving! For December, I got right on Christmas! Weird! I think their's something wrong though, because last ...
A. 26 December 2007: Every girl's different...There's no average. Sometimes that's the way your menstrual cycle goes...If you're really worried, give your doctor a call. I'm sure you're fine though. Sometimes's they're irregular if there's been a change with your ... (read in full...)
I love him but he loves his ex, do I wait for him to get over her?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 8 months now. Having been out of the dating scene for 9 years and being a mother this time around, seems to complicate things a bit. My real question at this time hinges on the fact that he ...
A. 26 December 2007: Honestly, I wouldn't stay with him. YOU want to be number one, not her! You want to be the princess he spoils.... (read in full...)
I need a more toned tummy!
Q. hiya im 16 and weigh between 9-9 n half stone. I used to weigh about 8 n half a year ago. Now my back has always seemed to arche in further than others and so my stomach sticks out but for about 6 months ive really been noticing it n its really ...
A. 26 December 2007: You can buy an exercise contraption that you put your feet in, and you pull up towards your body repeatedly, it only costs about £10. Sit and do situps while watching tv.
You might be eating foods that bloat you, I think carbohydrates do that (bre... (read in full...)
I think I may be pregnant, could the Pill do harm??
Q. I might be pregnant, which isn't a bad thing. But the baby could have been convieved several weeks ago, and I just now realized that I could possible be pregnant... So here comes the issue. I have been taking birthcontrol for several years......
A. 26 December 2007: I don't think so, just speak to your doctor when you go and see his/her opinion.... (read in full...)
I feel so depressed and I have feelings for my teacher, and I can't tell my Mum
Q. hi i have depression and used to hurt myself bit i dont anymore. im on medication for my depression but it still doesnt seem to be getting much better, i think it has made my anxiety worse aswell. my mum knows about it but i cant bring myself to ...
A. 22 December 2007: I think if you USED to hurt yourself, he won't have to tell your parents, I think if you were to tell him something totally drastic like you had been raped or soemthing, he would probably have a moral and legal obligation to tell the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is annoyed I did something that he had done in the past. What can I do?
Q. hey. i've been it a relationship with my partner for nearly a year now. at the beginning we were really happy. then about six months ago i found out that he'd been texing someone behind my back. he said some hurtful things about me to this other ...
A. 20 December 2007: He has absolutely no grounds to say "I don't know if I can forgive you". What a hypocrite!! So he texts this girl nasty things about you, you find out, get upset, he apologises and deletes her. Then yet AGAIN he's texting her further down th... (read in full...)
We've been together 9 years and he hasn't said he loves me, how can I be sure he does love me?
Q. i am 27 years old....and i have a live in partner now...i really love him and i do anything to make hes happy..but in 9 years we been together...he cannot say to me that he loves me....how can i sure that he loves me even with out saying that he ...
A. 19 December 2007: Some people aren't good at expressing their feelings.
Do you feel loved? I know it's not enough to feel it sometimes, you want to hear it, but if you FEEL loved then that's a good start.
There must be something there to have been with each o... (read in full...)
My boyfriends brother is obsessed with this girl to the point it is causing depression, how do I help him?
Q. Ok, I have a question (obviously) it’s about my boyfriends brother; he is infatuated with their ex-flatmate. He is starting to self harm and get really depressed about it; ok she moved out but she still see’s him on a regular basis, yes she flirts ...
A. 19 December 2007: There might be an underlying issue - he might be depressed and self harming for another issue, but is using this girl as the reason.
He really needs to go to his doctor, counselling would be a great start, talking and venting can be such reli... (read in full...)
I met him online and think we are very well matched, but he has an unusual situation with an ex...
Q. I met a guy who is 32, and i am 48 through a respectable online profile a week or so ago, we spoke regularly and for sometimes hours on end finding we hit it off extremely well, i knew he had children from a previous marriage 2 boys and he said he ...
A. 19 December 2007: Personally, I would run a mile. You're not already attatched. Ex's equal trouble, guaranteed. It sounds too messy for you to get involved. He might sound like a perfect match, but there are probably a dozen more like him, without the baggage.... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin with low self esteem, all my friends are in relationships but me, how do I find a boyfriend?
Q. im 23 soon to be 24, ive never had a boyfriend,i was kind of seeing this guy and then it finished as i would not sleep with him untill i was sure. im still a virgin, all i can see in myself is im fat and ugly even tho my friends say im not fat or ...
A. 19 December 2007: I have to say, GOOD that you're not with this guy - what a jerk! He dumped you because you wouldn't have sex. Wouldn't you feel gutted if you'd saved your virginity all this time only to throw it away on a twat like him!!
I say fair play to ... (read in full...)
I'm worried that I won't find anyone to lose my virginity with
Q. I know I'm only 15, but I am really starting to worry that I will never lose my virginty. It's not that I don't want to, it's because I don't think that anyone would ever want to have sex with me! People at my school think I'm really wierd and don't ...
A. 19 December 2007: Peer pressure is a weird thing. And the more you obsess about a small problem, the bigger it gets. I know it's hard but you have to relax about the whole thing.
You should concentrate more on finding yourself a nice girlfriend. I was hasty at... (read in full...)
I've not had unprotected sex but I seem to be showing signs of pregnancy...Help!!
Q. ok so im really scared i have never had unprotected sex but i keep getting random waves of nausea and my stomach is really hard and it hurts im afraid i might be pregnant?? i need help and advice!!...
A. 19 December 2007: I don't want to scare you further, but have you had sex at all, and have you considered the condom splitting? Or if you had sex and you're only on the pill, that's only something like 98% effective on it's own.
You need to get yourself to the d... (read in full...)
How do we fool around without getting caught by our parents?
Q. OK my girlfriend wants to full around and use wip cream and stuff how can we without our parents knowing and when can we find time with our parents always around. ...
A. 19 December 2007: Guys, you can lecture them, but they're going to do it anyway. I'm not condoning underage sex at all, but I can hardly speak because I was 15 when I lost my virginity (and I DO regret not waiting, but hey, that's peer pressure for you). This was 9 ... (read in full...)
My new girlfriend has had more sexual partners than me and I worry I'm not good enough
Q. Hi,i have just started going out with someone a year older than me, who has had a few more sexual partners than me and i get real worried that i am not good enough. i haven't made her cum yet, but she tells me that she doesn't often and it is hard ...
A. 19 December 2007: Ask her to show you what she likes. I always show guys exactly what I like, guarantees you will both enjoy the experience, no awkwardness. Stimulate her clit during sex, and make sure she's had plenty of foreplay. Use a bit of lube...You'll be ok ... (read in full...)
My friends were shocked I had anal sex, why did they react like this?
Q. i confided in my best friends because i needed someone to talk about that i had just had anal sex but the reaction they gave me was one i hadn't intended on facing why do my friends think it's so wrong to have anal sex especially before having a...
A. 19 December 2007: LOL @ Phil.
Quite graphic.
Anal sex is a total turnoff for me, but some find it sexy, whatever floats your boat!
sexyhunnibbe001 : If you spend your life worrying about what your friends think, you'll end up living to please them. I know we all ... (read in full...)
I really like her but she is younger and taken
Q. Dear users I am really looking for some mature advice from anyone who can help me. My name is Nick and I have just turned 21, things at work are ok, and I have been talking and getting to know a person who I really do admire at work. The pr...
A. 19 December 2007: All I would worry is that she might not be totally emotionally detatched from him if/when you get together, and whether you could trust her not to do the same to you if you were to get together, and at some point go through a bad patch. Follow your ... (read in full...)
My girl says she wants to shower with me and get some whipped cream...
Q. My girlfriend said she wants to take a shower with me and lay on my bed naked and get some whip cream and she says that i can do whatever i want to her and she will do whatever i want her to do to me but she says she dont want sex. I kind really ...
A. 19 December 2007: I'm saying anything legal that you both feel comfortable doing is ok :o)
I was 15 when I lost my virginity...I have to admit I REALLY regret not waiting, I wish I could have waited for someone special, but at the time I had a best friend who was ... (read in full...)
I feel so depressed and I have feelings for my teacher, and I can't tell my Mum
Q. hi i have depression and used to hurt myself bit i dont anymore. im on medication for my depression but it still doesnt seem to be getting much better, i think it has made my anxiety worse aswell. my mum knows about it but i cant bring myself to ...
A. 19 December 2007: Ask him before the lesson if you can talk to him in confidence after the lesson, so you can be sure he will have time.
Start off by telling him you have had something on your chest for some time now and have had a hard time telling anyone about it. ... (read in full...)
I'm mixed up with 2 brothers - what should we do?
Q. I was seeing Brother 1 in High school. We broke it of because he went away. After he left I started being friends with Brother 2, we had sex a couple times and I got pregnant and had the baby. Me and Brother 2 was never in a relationship, we was ...
A. 18 December 2007: I don't see anything wrong with your situation, you can't help who you fall for, and maybe having a f*ck buddy relationship with his brother wasn't the wisest move, but hey, these things happen. He was probably the next best thing for you, as you ... (read in full...)
Found it hard to get an erection when it came to sex!
Q. i used to mastrabrate a lot. and now for the first time i tried to make love with my girl fren i have no errection at all. i do not know what problem i had. We used to talk lot about sex with frens but now its a big problem with me and i am going ...
A. 18 December 2007: I had a boyfriend for 6 months and we didn't have sex once. He would get an erection but when it came to putting the condom on, it would go flaccid. He said it had never happened to him before. I always made sure he knew it wasn't a big deal, we ... (read in full...)
My girl says she wants to shower with me and get some whipped cream...
Q. My girlfriend said she wants to take a shower with me and lay on my bed naked and get some whip cream and she says that i can do whatever i want to her and she will do whatever i want her to do to me but she says she dont want sex. I kind really ...
A. 18 December 2007: Just keep in mind you are underage :o)
It's ok to play, and explore each other. Try having a nice bubble bath together, light some candles, scrub eachothers' backs with a loofah, etc.
If you don't feel ready for sex, perhaps tell her you wou... (read in full...)
My friends were shocked I had anal sex, why did they react like this?
Q. i confided in my best friends because i needed someone to talk about that i had just had anal sex but the reaction they gave me was one i hadn't intended on facing why do my friends think it's so wrong to have anal sex especially before having a...
A. 18 December 2007: I think anal sex is something people have, generally, extreme reactions to. They either seem to be really for, or really against it. Personally, I would never do it. That hole is purely an exit, and thinking what comes out of there is offputting ... (read in full...)
I really like her but she is younger and taken
Q. Dear users I am really looking for some mature advice from anyone who can help me. My name is Nick and I have just turned 21, things at work are ok, and I have been talking and getting to know a person who I really do admire at work. The pr...
A. 18 December 2007: She's sending you a clear sign that she likes you and is sending the feelers out on how you feel back...She's letting you know she's not happy in her relationship and sounds to me like if you said you liked her she would leave her boyfriend.
The o... (read in full...)
I feel so depressed and I have feelings for my teacher, and I can't tell my Mum
Q. hi i have depression and used to hurt myself bit i dont anymore. im on medication for my depression but it still doesnt seem to be getting much better, i think it has made my anxiety worse aswell. my mum knows about it but i cant bring myself to ...
A. 16 December 2007: You need to talk to your Mom or someone close. You need help, you need counselling. Thought of hurting yourself are not healthy and seems to me a big cry for help.
Counselling is a great opportunity to vent the pent up feelings you find hard to e... (read in full...)
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