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I can't stop dreaming about my ex!

Q.   I cant stop having dreams about my ex boyfriend and myself, I wake up in a cold sweat because They go back to about a couple weeks ago when we were still together and they are all about us being together. I wanna cry when I wake up because It makes ...

A.   10 May 2008: You said it yourself, you are missing him. The only way you can be with him is in your subconscious or your dreams...It's tough because it makes getting over it harder, but you can't control your dreams! Try watching some tv just before you go to s... (read in full...)

Is this flirting? We have been friends for a very long time...

Q.   i am 15 years old. theres this guy that i have known since i was seven and we are good friends... Is he flirting with me or is he just being friendly. *he tickles me and pokes me *he always teases me and have special little nicknames fo...

A.   10 May 2008: HE FANCIES YOU!!! :o)... (read in full...)

I need kissing advice...

Q.   well you see im 14 and i have a crush on this guy firstly i dont no how to get him to notice me he is always (in a jkie wai) takin the mick out of me and secondly i think im frigid because i dont no how to french kiss a boy and im scared i will be ...

A.   10 May 2008: If he's always taking the mick out of you - he's noticed you! And chances are he likes you, guys at that age generally don't know how to flirt/show a girl nicely that they fancy them! As for the kissing...I remember really panicking about it... (read in full...)

She's hot and cold, what does she want from me?

Q.   I play in a brass band and a wind orchestra and enjoy it immensely and so wish to carry it on to a future career. The girl in question is a friend of mine ( not close) who plays in the wind orchestra. We have both said that we like oneanother....

A.   10 May 2008: She sounds as confused as you are. Bringing her sister was probably a way out if she found she didn't like you in that way on the date...But as for the rest, it just seems like a head f*ck. You should either ask her straight out where you stan... (read in full...)

We need help on spicing up our sex life!

Q.   I need ideas on spicing up my sex life. My bf and I only use a couple of positions and sometimes I dress up in sexy clothes, but that's about it, and it's boring!...

A.   10 May 2008: Get some flavoured lube, have fun playing with each other...Get a couple of naughty DVD's, try bondage tape (like handcuffs but pvc 'tape')...Have a browse of Ann Summers together...... (read in full...)

I've heard she likes me but not from a reliable source, do I pursue her?

Q.   I have a very good friend who I would like to pursue a relationship with, but am unsure how to proceed, and if to proceed at all - I do not want to lose her friendship by making a clumsy attempt at romance, but I have had feelings for her for a long ...

A.   10 May 2008: Yup!! She's interested!... (read in full...)

Were the cold sores down to him and could he give me herpes??

Q.   hi, I had a relationship last year for 8 months, but i kept getting cold sores every couple of weeks around my mouth especially after lots of passionate kissing so i put it down to this and abit of beard burn! I have always been prone to getting ...

A.   27 April 2008: I do know that cold sores/herpes are linked are are hugely contagious...I would go to the doctor personally, it's better to find out for sure than wonder...Do a Google search and gather a little bit of research on herpes...... (read in full...)

I'm constantly just too tired for sex!

Q.   I'm having a real big problem here. My boyfriend is CONSTANTLY horny. And I am CONSTANTLY tired. When we have sex, I do love it. He always makes sure I orgasm, and he always cums at least twice. It's just, I don't have the energy for sex every nig...

A.   26 April 2008: Girls and guys generally most of the time have a difference in sex drives...Mostly girls are lower than guys. It's hard when you're tired, or stressed, and ESPECIALYY when you worry you're not good enough, which I think has more to do with you... (read in full...)

I am being stalked by a crazy ex -help!

Q.   hi, ihave a problem. i was dating a girl for awhile and it was good i didnt really see any future with her so I ended it as best i could (we were only together for about 3 months not sleeping together) anyway one of the biggest problems was her ...

A.   24 April 2008: If it's as serious as you say with the police involved, then you need to take a restraining order out on her.... (read in full...)

I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?

Q.   i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...

A.   23 April 2008: Cheating can be emotional too...I had an ex who was a great boyfriend but still held a big flame for his ex girlfriend, and because of that I felt I lacked in trust and felt insecure - yet he could never understand why because he'd never physically ... (read in full...)

Madly in love with my ex teacher, who I have become very friendly with after finishing school. Should I tell her?

Q.   I'm in a big big dilemma....(sorry if it's long) Basically, Since leaving school some years back, I've become very friendly with one of my ex-teachers. We remained friends after I left school, and even as a student, we got on very well. My problem...

A.   23 April 2008: I would take a chance, yes you stand to lose a friendship if she doesn't feel the same way, but would you rather spend forever being eaten up by not knowing? Go fot it!! :-D... (read in full...)

Are other women built differently in order to feel prepared more easily during anal sex?

Q.   For Guys and Gals My boyfriend and I have sex daily. Dress up, role play,oral, sex in different locations, it goes on and on...The problem is he brings up anal sex a lot which we have done, but he says he loses patience with me because it takes...

A.   23 April 2008: That's awful for your boyfriend to say those things to you - not only is he making you feel inferior, inadequate and insecure about something you obviously find, in whatever ways, difficult, he's basically emotionally blackmailing you. You shou... (read in full...)

I hate to have to pretend to my parents about my sexual orientation. When is a right time to come out?

Q.   Hi, I've trying to tell my mom and dad that I'm a lesbian for a while now. I just don't know when the BEST time is, and only someone that has allready come out/has a child that has come out to them can understand when. I'm so sick of havin...

A.   23 April 2008: If you feel it's too difficult to tell your parents face to face, maybe you should write it all down in a letter. Then you can get all your feelings down and your points across that you want to make, and they can sit and take the time to digest what... (read in full...)

How do I get him to realise I will not cede to his insistences until I am ready?

Q.   My boy mate is really flirty with me on text, emails, msn n when were in public together. he likes hugging me, messes with my hair, touches my bum etc...n the other day we were texting n we were talking about sex - he asked me if I wud give him head ...

A.   23 April 2008: You need to be really firm and if needs be get angry with him. Make him feel ashamed of the way he's pressuring you. If you dent his ego, he'll back off.... (read in full...)

I have an alpecia patch that seems to be getting bigger!

Q.   Hi all, I currently have an alopecia patch, part of it has stubble but the patch seems to be getting bigger. I have been to the doctors but he said there is nothing that can be done and no treatment - it is just a matter of waiting and seei...

A.   23 April 2008: Maybe counselling would be a good idea - like you said getting stressed or upset about it can make it worse sometimes. Maybe counselling could just help you try to understand and perhaps vent some issues that might be welling up inside of you, ... (read in full...)

I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?

Q.   i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...

A.   23 April 2008: Hun...It doesn't sound like you have alot of trust in him...Which rightly you wouldn't because he cheated on his wife to be with you. You're young...Wouldn't you rather hold out for a relationship where you don't have an ex wife to compete ... (read in full...)

I want to tell my ex I'm pregnant but I'm scared....he calls me bad names and has a new girlfriend!

Q.   My bf and me are no longer together and i am pregnant what should i do i dont want to tell him but i need help i am 4 months and i didnt even know he has a new gf and she dislikes me. he phones me up some times telling me how much he loves me and ...

A.   23 April 2008: You're going to have to tell him...But what do you want him to say? Do you want him to leave his new girlfriend to be with you? Or do you just want emotional or financial support? Think about what you want from him before you tell him beca... (read in full...)

I have a crush on my mom's cousin! I think he likes me.

Q.   I dont know what to do.I have a crush on my mum's cousin.He isnt much older than me.Should i tell him how i feel or not ?. He has smiled alot at me, asked if i have a boyfriend afew times, danced with me at a party and bought me a drink, and he ha...

A.   23 April 2008: Speak to your mom, see how she feels about the situation. If she's ok with it, approach the subject with him...... (read in full...)

One Night Stand: Is there a general consensus on when to cum?

Q.   Just a quick question, during unprotected sex, either in a relationship or a one night stand....what is the general consensus on where to cum? cheers for any answers...

A.   23 April 2008: Where as in on the body? Or when...? Either way always be polite and let her cum first ;o) As for where...Wherever she might feel comfortable with. I wouldn't have unprotected sex especially on a one night stand - not meaning to lecture ... (read in full...)

Am I pregnant or is my cycle changing?

Q.   hey guys here's the scenario: well i dont know if im pregnant..im scared to take a test cause each time has been a disappointment.. lets see i dont feel morning sickness but yet my boobs are tender all the time..im about 3wks late im hung...

A.   23 April 2008: What did you mean by each time you take a test it has been a disapointment? My advice would be to do a test, or visit your doctor. You could do a bit of research on the internet into your symptoms, but the only way to know for sure is to see your... (read in full...)

My husband does not know what he wants....is this something I should stick around for?

Q.   I am a 34 year old and i have been Married to my husband for 7 years together for 8 years. Today my husband came to me and said that he does not know what he wants. If he wants to be with me. He thinks that he just wants to be on his own he is not ...

A.   23 April 2008: Yikes, 7 year itch! He might feel stuck in a rut, his life might consist of the things that have kept him happy for the past 7/8 years, but now he feels a little stifled. You could suggest doing things together to try to spice up his life - a ... (read in full...)

I have no idea what loving someone really means. Where do I even start if I never get asked out?

Q.   I'm 19 and have trouble getting guys to want to go out w me. i don't know why. no guy ever asked me out. when i let myself fall head over heels over someone, and i take the initiative to make the first move, i am always, and i do mean ALWAYS, ...

A.   23 April 2008: "is there some secret trick i don't know about? to make people want you?" Yup - confidence! That is probably the most attractive trait to the opposite sex. And it sounds like you are seriously lacking in it - but why wouldn't you be, after a ... (read in full...)

Our relationship ended 6 months ago, he's given me some hope, can it work again?

Q.   me and my ex have been over for about 6 months. we dated for 7 months. he is honestly the one i love. we are still good friends.i still like him and i think he still has feelings for me..he told me about a month ago that there will always be ...

A.   23 April 2008: You need to get some clarification on what he meant, does he mean you will always be important in his life, or does he mean he can't live without you as a girlfriend in his life? Approach the subject of you getting back together with him, see how ... (read in full...)

We can no longer be together since it's ILLEGAL!

Q.   I love this guy but we can't be together because he is 18 and i am 15 going on 16.. we hvae been together 3 years and now we cant be together any longer because it is illegal. he said that maybe we should just wait till im 18 but im scared he will ...

A.   23 April 2008: Just out of curiosity...It's been illegal for the past 3 years so what's made you decide now to put a stop to it all? If he loves you, he will wait. It's only 2 years...He might want to date other girls casually, which you have to be prepared... (read in full...)

My mate is withdrawing from me. Where does he stand with me?

Q.   hiya, neeeeed some advice? ok, bin wid my boyf for 4-5 yrs, when i met him, i became friends with his childhood friend, me n my boyf hav ups and downs, but hes jus lovley! ok, back to his mate, his mate, over the years, has bcum my best mate...

A.   21 April 2008: It sounds like he has feelings for you...... (read in full...)

How can he turn from the person I love into the cruelest, coldest man I've ever met over a fight?

Q.   how can a man tell you he wants to be with no one but you, through good times and bad times, the only person he wants to be is with you, and have all his friends react genuinely because this is the firs time they see him truly in love. and then have ...

A.   21 April 2008: It sounds like he has no respect or appreciation for you...You don't treat someone like that who you are supposed to be in love with. It doesn't sound like he knows what love is, or knows how to treat a woman. You're too good for him, wait for some... (read in full...)

My husband became a cocaine addict - how do I get him back and fix my broken home?

Q.   I was with my husband since high school, we had our first child at 18, second at 21 married at 23 and our 3rd child at 24. We never really argued and had a good relationship, we loved each other very much albeit the pressures of life and work didnt ...

A.   21 April 2008: To fix it, both parties need to be willing to work at fixing it. Until your husband says that he wants to come back to you, there's not alot you can do unfortunately...It sounds like he has sepreated himself from you and family life, which is ... (read in full...)

He says he hasn't cheated on me or met with anyone. what do you think?

Q.   What should I do. I have been married for 14 Years. We dated two years before we got married.Well last year my husband started acting weird. It all started when we switched cell phone companies. He started playing games on his phone. Then he decides ...

A.   18 April 2008: I think usually your instinct is always right...... (read in full...)

I really tried to forget her, and continue my life so what is going on now?

Q.   we broke up 2 months before.we met again after a month and we said that we would have contact in order to understand if the things that made us break it,had been overcome.i couldn't though act to her like i didn't want her madly.so i told her to ...

A.   18 April 2008: If she really wanted to be with you, she would be. I think she misses you and obviously when you are with someone a long time, and speak to that person every day, it's hard to just cut contact. I would cut her out of your life a while, you're not ... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he say the three magic words I want to hear?

Q.   Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. We are so loving towards each other......looking into each others eyes......kissing my eye lids........etc...... But, he hasn't said the 3 words.....I love you. I keep wanting to say it s...

A.   18 April 2008: Go about it in a roundabout way. Tell him how into him you are, tell him you have never felt this way about anyone before. Test the water on his reactions, that should give you a big indication of his feelings towards you. If you don't feel you ... (read in full...)

How can I get hubby to pay a little attention to me and not spend as much time on the computer?

Q.   When my husband gets home from work he goes right to his computer and I would like him to spend a little time with me but he says I am being selfish. Am I being Selfish?...

A.   18 April 2008: No, every one wants to be fussed and given attention, especially if you haven't seen someone all day! It sounds like you are feeling a little starved on the affection and attention start. You could do the gentle approach and tell him how you... (read in full...)

Should I give up on the Ozzy dream and give my husband another chance - try harder to make a go of it in the UK?

Q.   I'm really desperate for advice - sorry this is a long story. A couple of years ago I separated from my husband (of 12 years marriage - total 18 year relationship). Our relationship had deteriorated to such an extent that we had not had sex ...

A.   15 April 2008: I would be interested to know what you have decided to do :o)... (read in full...)

Should I give up on the Ozzy dream and give my husband another chance - try harder to make a go of it in the UK?

Q.   I'm really desperate for advice - sorry this is a long story. A couple of years ago I separated from my husband (of 12 years marriage - total 18 year relationship). Our relationship had deteriorated to such an extent that we had not had sex ...

A.   6 April 2008: Just do it! The more time you take to think about it, the less likely you are to do the one things that is going to make you HAPPY - being with your boyfriend! Your ex-husband, his family and your family are all negative impacts on your life, th... (read in full...)

I'm scared of showing my naked body to my soon to be husband, what do I do?

Q.   I'm getting married in a few months and im a virgin and so is the man im going to marry but i heard so may people say that the best thing to wear on your weading night is nothing at all. but im so shy and super scared. i dont know how to just spring ...

A.   6 April 2008: Ok, so you need to plan in advance... Start by suggesting a bubble bath, which you have already run, and have a few tea lights lit by the bathtub. Candle light is much softer and more forgiving/flattering. Light some candles in the bedroom a... (read in full...)

I'm concerned at what my fiancee may get up to at his bachelor party?

Q.   My boyfriend and I are getting married, and last night the bachelor/bachelorette party topic came up... I don't want a male stripper, because I don't find them exciting, actually, they gross me out a little bit. On the other hand I'm sure he woul...

A.   6 April 2008: I can understand where you are coming from, but just be glad he was upfront about it. And the dance will be in a room filled with his friends, it's not like he's going into a back room to have sex with her. Just relax, let him have his last litt... (read in full...)

Does any one have any alternative suggestions for shaving/waxing for me please?

Q.   Hi this may sound really daft but i have tried using waxing strips and i cannot get them to work, but shaving sum times makes my legs get rashy. I find shaving my private regions hard because i wear glasses and wen without them on i can hardly ...

A.   6 April 2008: You could always try hair removing cream? I find sometimes shaving makes my legs rashy, but only when I don't use a fresh razor and I don't moisturise after. ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for female parts to swell when aroused?

Q.   whenever i hve sex or when my boyfriend stimulates me, the lips of my vagina an clitorus kind of...swell Up soo to speak.. like really big tho is this normal or is there something wtong with me?...

A.   6 April 2008: Totally normal :o)... (read in full...)

I wanted my ex to destroy the raunchy letters I used to write to him when we were together-But he hasn't!

Q.   I broke up with my long term boyfriend back in August. He broke up with me over the phone after admitting to having lead me along for 6 months because he "couldnt find the right moment to break up." Was well pissed off - even more so when I said ...

A.   6 April 2008: Wow, he sounds like a class A t*sser!! Doesn't seem like much you can do about the letters, even in the probably unlikely event they should become public, you could pass it off as him being a bitter and asty ex and deny all knowledge of writing them... (read in full...)

I feel like admitting affection is giving up power in the relationship.

Q.   I feel the need to hide my affection. I don't want to reveal too much of my innermost emotions.. which is understandable, but i think i take it to another level. I'm hesitant about letting a guy know i like him, even when i know he likes me. So...

A.   6 April 2008: Perhaps you could benefit from counselling, your GP can usually provide this service at your surgery. ... (read in full...)

He says I'm too clingy but I don't think I am!!!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 months and its getting really serious now. We are booking up to go away for a wee holiday and he's always talking about when we get married and have kids and stuff like that but he was in my house last ...

A.   30 March 2008: If he's telling you he wants to get married etc, then telling you that you are too clingy, he is obviously giving you the wrong signals! If he wants you to tone it down, he needs to tone it down too. ... (read in full...)

This sounds so weird, I'm scared I'm cracking up!!!

Q.   This sounds so weird, I'm scared I'm cracking up!!! I'm obsessed with lookin at pics of my ex's ex on her web page!! I'm no longer with my ex, I don't even like him no more, but I keep going to his ex (whom he was with for 4 years) page and staring ...

A.   30 March 2008: You obviously compared yourself to her throughout the relationship, it must have been hard to live up to the pedestal it sounds like he put her on. Habits are hard to break, I bet it doesn't make you feel great when you look at her photos eith... (read in full...)

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