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writes:I have known this married man for 4 years. we have been physical the whole four years. But he had an affair with another person in the office. and his wife found out about 2 months ago. she filed for divorce and he moved out. we were spending alot of time together. now his wife asked him to come back. so now he wants to know how i feel about this and him. but i can' t tell him, because i hurt and dot want to lose him how do i deal with this
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): your married lover had an affair with someone else.
what more do you want. You will be foolish to even contemplate a continued relationship with him. HE CHEATED ON YOU, HIS ILLICIT LOVER.
Shows you, if he is doing with you he will do it to you. You just found out the hard way. Not a pretty situation is it?
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (5 April 2009):
 I don't want to hurt you, but what you're doing just isn't right.
Delbert McClinton sings a song called, "Your Were Never Mine." The lyrics go, "I never really lost you... you were never mine." You don't want to lose this guy, but he was never yours. This affair is giving you a false sense of security, and no one should live a lie. You need to leave this guy now, or you're going to look back one day and regret this.
Furthermore, I don't think this man is trustworthy. He runs around on his wife with you and another woman. How can you believe anything he says?
If you're sharing him with another woman, then that's not love. If you're sharing him with another woman, then that's not a true relationship.
Relationships are only fulfilling, and the right thing to do, when you have someone who is all your own.
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reader, FroggieGman +, writes (4 April 2009):
I have read and reread this question for a time now, trying to compose an answer that will make you feel better and make sense to you.
First of all you have been having an affir with a married man for 4 years now, and recently he got caught with yet another woman. Hmmmm, he must quite a guy, he has at least 3 women giving in to him and you profess you love him.
He is a PLAYER, he is playing you, his other girlfriend, and his wife. Why she wants him back is beyond me.
Do you suppose there are others out there neither you or his wife don't even know about??? My guess is yes!
You are wasting your time, your life, your love and you sex on a dead end. He will probably go back to his wife, continue on with you, if you let him, and he will continue to play the other women you don't even know about.
My suggestion is to just cut your losses, you will hurt for a time, but you will find someone that will love and respect you and only you. This "Stud" loves only himself and respects nobody , including himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): its pretty simple you need to tell him how you feel and then if he does get back with his wife he loves her more.
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