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writes:hello my name is charlemagne and my question is how soon after a breakup do you start another relationship because i recently broke up with someone who was cheating on me and now i am engaged to someone else who was way better person than my ex and now i feel that i am taking out all my anger and frustation out on him and i don't know why because he has done nothing to me could you please give me some advice.
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reader, penta +, writes (8 July 2007):
 You need to talk to a counselor, and quickly. The last thing you want to do is drive away someone who treats you well because he's paying for what the jerk did.
If you're engaged, I recommend pre-marital counseling very highly. My husband did and we learned so much about each other -- totally worth it! We went to monthly sessions for the entire time we were engaged (18 months).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Because you are carrying this baggage from the past into your new relationship....if you find yourself doing that, then I highly recommend you seek some therapy for you alone, as you have some issues that you need to process and get through so that you can get to the other side and be who you are truly meant to be. Start with your family doctor, tell them you want a referral to a good therapist, I personally think PhD level Cognitive Behavioral therapists or PhD Behavioral psychologists are the best therapists to seek help from. This will be the nicest thing you will ever do for yourself....so I hope you heed my advice.
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