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*amiT310
writes:I was wondering (my bf cant answer this) why do men still wa*k when they have a very healthy sex life? my bf still mastuerbates up to 3 times a week and we have an incredible sex life. i dont know whether to be insulted or flattered! please help!Thank you!!!
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reader, fantasydecoy  +, writes (7 July 2008):
hey it is very common. the reason is he would like to have variety. when he mastubrates he could fantasise anybody , from a politician, actor to next door lady to anybody on the road. that is the reason he fantasises.
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reader, SamiT310 +, writes (8 July 2007):
SamiT310 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey! thanks people! i was just curious because he couldnt tell me hed always just say "i duno i just do". Thaaankksss! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, eddie  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 The biggest thing to consider here is why do you really care? It's not about you. It's his time, penis and hand. If you're satisfied, what's the harm. Don't take it pesonally.
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reader, love-him +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Hi babe its normal chick.. you dont have to 'be' anythin.. honestly just let it happen.. its what most men ( my bf isnt quite like that ) do.. mail me if u wanna talk x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): yep watching the sunday night sex show sue johansen said it's health men do masterbate every day well most of them anyways
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Hi sweetness!
Oh, masturbation. Sometimes it's nice to just have "alone time". Seriously! It's a quick fix, it cures boredom (sad, but true), and a great stress reliever.
If his mastubation was excessive (i.e. over ten times a week, I would say), then you might have to talk. Maybe he's not getting satisfied? Something's wrong? He's disconnecting?
However, three times a week is a normal number. You could try joining in as well! That's one of my favorite ways to get to know my man. I ask him if I can watch - it helps me figure out how to better please him by watching him please himself. Annnndddd - here's where it works out for you - VICE VERSA. Let him watch you!
Anyhow, getting off the subject. Sorry. I don't think there's any reason for you to get worried or insulted by this. Masturbation is a good thing for you to do with yourself sometimes!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): I think its just a way for men to relieve themselves when they're a bit 'worked-up' sexually. I don't think you should be insulted nor flattered, it's just one of these things that happen
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): My ex used to do this all the time when we were together. It's quite normal. Don't take it personally-- he may be choosing this option to relieve sexual tension over the option of cheating!
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reader, penta +, writes (8 July 2007):
 Men like to masturbate. It's fun. The equipment is right there in reach, and it's a great stress relief. Why should they give that up?
If you walk in and he's masturbating, you're always allowed to ask him if he wants some company.
Don't take it personally. It doesn't say anything at all about the sex life you share.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 July 2007):
 I think only your boyfriend can really tell.
I am not against him or in his favor; we must not be judgmental. We're here to offer insight. Are you really sure that his definition of "a very health sex life" is the same as yours?
There was one post in relation to this, and a lady said masturbation could simply be considered a way to relieve the pressure without cheating. Yes, this can be true. If this is the case, you should not feel insulted. It could simply be that he wants more than you are willing to provide, and this is his "option".
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 July 2007): Personally, there are a few reasons:
1) She can't catch up, and/or don't want to continuously do it with her. Holding back occasionally is a good thing. Hence a lot of people complaining about "Why we used to do it 10 times a day every day, but now, we do it once a month?!?"
2) It's faster and easier.
3) Sometimes, it's just to relieve ourselves without getting all worked up about it.
In short, I don't think you should be insulted or flattered. It's just one of those things.
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