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writes:my husband of 7 years has asked me if we could try anal sex.we did try once b4 but it felt to painful and we give up.we are in a happy marriage,both in our 20's and both in good health.are there any risks? can you get infections/std's by doing it?also what is it that turns men on about having anal sex? isnt the real thing beta?id appreciate any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): I too had this dilema, and after much discussion, i decided to give it a try. I can honestly say, as wierd as it may sound that i have had some of the best sex, having anal sex that i have ever had. There is, as i understand, some risk of infection but, as with any form of sexual contact. just try to include so kind of sensual cleansing into the precedings if he wants to enter you vaginally afterwards.Relax and enjoy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): As far as I know the risk of std's is about the same so what ever protection you normally have should be used. As for what the turn on is I'm not sure, maybe it has something to do with it being "taboo" or out of the ordinary. Take care.
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reader, penta  +, writes (11 June 2007):
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It's a good site for sex-toys, too; I have ordered from them and have good experiences.
Answering your Q's:
Yes, there are risks. If he has an STD you can get it there, too. And you can get some pretty nasty vaginal infections if he enters you anally first then enters you in the regular place.
And finally, if it hurts then he's not doing it right. Lots and lots of lube, and start slowly (like a finger) and work up.
There's something "forbidden" about it, I think, that really turns a guy on. I think that's the attraction. But not being a guy, I can't give you an answer to this part of your questions, lol.
Read up on it and then if you're comfortable, give it a try. If you really don't want to, though, stick to your guns -- your body your rules. Enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): As long as you have both been totally faithful to each other then there will not be any risk of stds, as far as infections are concerned don't know of any, you need to be very relaxed for the first couple of times so maybe try having a glass of wine or something before hand also use lubricant which makes it alot more comfortable after the first couple of times it does not hurt anymore as long as you are relaxed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): Hello!
Well there isn't any risks as far as i know, just make sure though that if he does give you anal then afterwards don't go straight in to your vagina as that could lead to an infection- sorry to sound so crude!Make sure that afterwards he washes his wotsit and hands and you wash to before you do anything else together. It turns men on because it is a place that they know not many people go as regular as the 'normal hole' so to speak so that is a huge thrill for them. If it was painful before, try firstly using lubricant and start by just him putting the tip of his penis in and see how you go. Hope that helps!
Good luck!
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reader, Jubbaloo +, writes (11 June 2007):
 Working backwards, guys like it for lots of different reasons, firstly it is something new and different - thats always good. If he has seen any form of porn in the last year or two, it is fashionable, alot of people are doing it. Theres also a possibility (and it is only a possiblility) that at somepoint he has either had gay urges or has played with his anus during masturbation (it is VERY normal) he might want to pleasure you.
As far as STI's are concerned it carries as many risks as vaginal sex, if you are both clean and have unprotected normal sex then you will be fine.
The Anus is very robest more so than the vagina, and unless you use something sharp you cannot harm it, that doent mean it doesnt hurt, i am bisexual - i know. Get him to try a few things, during foreplay get him to masturbate you (vaginally) for a while, when you are wet get him to insert a finger very slowly into your anus (you could also try lubricant, you can get special anal ones from many places) keep talking to him.
From my experience, after the initial awkwardness of it all, and a bit of pain at the beginnig, It's Great.
Hope this helps
PM me if you need anymore help
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): yes there is only because the tussue up there is very soft you have to be careful but if you just play it safe with a condom and lots of lube you'll be fine. and the reason it turns men on is because its harder to get then regular sex you know what i mean?
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