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My Bf' is 15 and is having erection problems! Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 15. We have had sex once before. (Please dont post anything saying im to young,im being very responsible and i love him and know what im doing) The bad thing is that tonight, we were going to do it again but he couldnt ...
A. 11 January 2009: No, this seems to be a psychological problem. How long has it been happening? It could very well be he's thinking of somthing, he could be nervous about somthing else in the relationship. But I'd start by seeing a doctor. There should be some tests ... (read in full...)
He has a gf and I'm heartbroken! Any advice?
Q. i have a crush on a boy for almost 3 years. my friends know and asked him to ask me out. just a few weeks ago i sent him a message telling him i didn't tell my friends to ask him to ask me out. then i sent him another message asking him if he likes ...
A. 11 January 2009: Don't worry about it. He will forget about it by then. But if you want I'd send another messages and just say "okay that's cool, let's just be freinds then. I guess ill see you at school :)" he will actually build some respect in the new friendship ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 want to date a 15 y/o afraid of what people will say
Q. I'm a 21 year old male.... and I found a girl whom I have feelings for.... the thing is she's 15 years old... I'm afraid to date her because of what people might think. Shes a great girl but the age difference is the only problem... Anything ...
A. 10 January 2009: I'd keep it secret untill she's the legal age limit to have sex. Reason being i know you guys would probably do the right thing its just that alot of people could be thinking you must be having sex with her. And this would cause unnessary rumors and ... (read in full...)
I've lost respect for my wife
Q. I have been married for 5 years now and i feel im losing respect for my wife and i don't know how i feel towards her. I feel like im flirting with other women, My wife is a really good woman but i don't feel like i am a good husband, we have...
A. 10 January 2009: I see now. Yes you have a previous love and that door is still open. You really do need to confront this other lady. In fact I'd write her a letter explain everything to her and be honest. Tell her about the circumstances you are in right now. And ... (read in full...)
Stepfather exposed himself to me!
Q. I know this is Long, but I need some advice.. I've been knowing my stepfather since I was 11. He was always the "cool" parent. We developed a close relationship, talking about all facts of life. He was the first one to know when I loss my virginit...
A. 10 January 2009: I think you, your mum and him should sit down one day and talk about it. make sure you tell your mum about it beforehand and tell her that your going to confront him make sure she's supports you when you do this. i thnk this will be very character ... (read in full...)
Sick of being alone!
Q. Hello fello aunts and uncles! Im 19 years old, really attractive, smart and outgoing. I have only had 3 boyfriends in my life but never anything serious. 2 of these boyfriends turned out to be players and jerks who only wanted sex and I was ...
A. 10 January 2009: That nice guy still sounded like a player.
I'll tell you some tricks ladies. I know some women who been in a somewhat similar circumstance and i've helped lots of them in a similar situation to you. Years ago at university, I had a girl who was ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I'm just an accessory?
Q. My partner does the list of things below and will not break the habit despite many 'talks' (one sided discussions that end in me crying and him rolling over). Yet he still plans romantic and wonderful trips for us and gets me lavish presents. And ...
A. 10 January 2009: Its either one of two things. 1) he's doing it without intention. 2) he's playing games (with intention).
If he's doing it unintentionally he sounds like a really inexperienced boyfriend to have, most guys would take the time to complime... (read in full...)
Wrong signal to put xo or xx??
Q. Do you put "xo" or "xx" (kiss/hug) (or similar) at the end of text messages (SMS) to someone you WERE seeing? Do you think it sends the wrong signal? i only mean it in sending it to an ex or someone you were seeing..... to an...
A. 10 January 2009: It may be just his way with friends/people in general like you do it, but his rules may be different. You were once close so even though you're not seeing each other now his depiction of you may be closer than yours of him.
I know I do it to all m... (read in full...)
I've lost respect for my wife
Q. I have been married for 5 years now and i feel im losing respect for my wife and i don't know how i feel towards her. I feel like im flirting with other women, My wife is a really good woman but i don't feel like i am a good husband, we have...
A. 10 January 2009: I feel you still love her but you don't know how much any more, you seem to be border lining off wether this is the end or not (falling out of love). Marriage is certainly something to stick by and battle to keep active. Always give her 100% every ... (read in full...)
My g/f said "I don't want to hurt you I want you to hurt me"?
Q. Alright, I have one that's been kind of in the back of my head for awhile. My girlfriend recently told me, "I don't want to hurt you, I want you to hurt me." Every once and awhile it has come back up in my head and I wonder what that means. It's ...
A. 9 January 2009: Yep it sound like she is afraid to break up with you, not because she does not want to do it but because she never wants to lose you.. EVER! She must really love you.
forget about "the other sex is a mystery" its all crap!
Id just have a nice... (read in full...)
Boyfriend isn't spontaneous!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months now, and i told him i loved him about 4 months in because that is how i felt. I wanted to say it before he did so i knew i felt it and wasn't saying it in guilt. Like i have done in the past.It's just i am a ...
A. 9 January 2009: Well you know its said love is not meant to last forever, but how our grandparents did it is a real secret. You see, no matter who your with in the future you'll always end up in the same place. Eventually you'll know all the sexual position and ... (read in full...)
LDR advice
Q. I was wondering how to make a long distance relationship work? My boyfriend and I have been together for a while, the only problem is that I've recently moved to a different state. I really like him a lot, and he's head over heels, and we have ...
A. 9 January 2009: How far are you guys apart? In miles? Yes, communication is very important at least once per week on the phone. then every opportunity you can make be there. i think its really nice if you could take a bus or train every two weeks to be with him, if ... (read in full...)
Why is he giving me mixed signals?
Q. i have a friend who flirts with me alot and hints that he likes me however he says he likes me but he doesn't want to lose our friendship.he also says i believe what everyone says over him ,which is why he doesn't see our relationship going any ...
A. 9 January 2009: He's not, he said he wants to be friends. He has enjoyment in being with you and flirting is natural to do, he probably has more of a kick in having you and chasing (or you chasing him) than actually settling with you as a lover.
If you want to ... (read in full...)
Watch porn together? Men's opinions wanted
Q. I am female and in a loving relationship. Me and my man both admit that we watch porn (to one and other, not our grandmother or anything). We have a very active sex life, and have lots of variety with what we do. So my question is i guess, would it ...
A. 9 January 2009: Soft porn (R18+) is a way to explore different position and fetishes and is usually the preferred style for couples to explore their fantasies. Hard porn (XXX) is just a way for a bloke or a woman to release the pressure in a lonley situation if you ... (read in full...)
What does he want from me?
Q. This guy and I met back in September at a friend's party where we seemed to get along well and have a nice little chat. That night ended in us engaging in sexual relations (not actual sex, just oral). The next morning we exchanged numbers. Got a ...
A. 9 January 2009: I think you need to always ask yourself "What do I want" think about what you want if you wanna fall in love, well tell him thats what you want, and if he can't provide it because he does not have the balls to give or show it then find someone who ... (read in full...)
I seen the photo! why does he lie about it!
Q. My question is why he keeps denying everything: I dated this guy for a year and half the first four months of us dating was fine in the fifth month he fell into a depression and isolated himself and the only person he wanted to see was me. So I...
A. 9 January 2009: To be honest he seems like a bloke that gets all sookey (wimpy) when the commitment comes, its rare but a bloke that gets depressed because he has an opportunity to be with a lovely lady is quite weird, there are many lonley men that would never do ... (read in full...)
When a guy invites you to his house is it for sex?
Q. When a guy invites a girl to his house, does that basically mean he just wants sex even though we're close friends? He's an older man (probably close to 50) if that means anything; he's not some young horny teen. I just want to know what his ...
A. 9 January 2009: Of course! but not always JUST to have sex (it would certainly be on his mind), it's simply that he likes you and wants to take things further (the next step). He wants to hang out with you and take it easy. Making friends is just the beginning.
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Why do I get so upset?
Q. Hi there.... I need some advice, I have been in a 'relationship' with a divorced man, luckily he has no kids, his wife left him for another man. We have been very close, he means the world to me. Whenever he is working I bother him, he has his own ...
A. 7 January 2009: Nothing is wrong with you. Its normal to worry about these things. Now i can see a little better about the relationship. Id tell him everything you just mentioned in your last post. I doubt he would do anything to hurt you at all - unless he's a ... (read in full...)
Is he justified in making my life hell because he 'loves' me?
Q. Well theres this guy I work with hes 30, I'm 19, was 18 at the time. He kinda manipulated me into a 'relationship', making me feel sorry for him, etc. He used to accuse me of sleeping with guys, having AIDs,go through my bag and my phone, he was ...
A. 7 January 2009: Well done!! :)... (read in full...)
Is it okay for someone else to tell your man they love him?
Q. So ive been having problems with this girl my Boyfriend went to highschol with, shes in a relationship and lives like 200 miles away, so im not worried about him cheating on me with her, plus i look better, anyways this girl has been telling my bf ...
A. 7 January 2009: Yeah she's being obsessive, its pretty clear she wants him. The funny thing is by her doing that it's actually bringing you guys closer together and bringing their friendship in question. eventually she will stop but it depends on if he answers the ... (read in full...)
Why do guys just see me as "one of the boys"?
Q. I don't know what I'm doing wrong. I'm 21 and I've only had one boyfriend and it lasted for 4 months, barely. He broke up with me and it was because he was pretty much using me to find out if he could get over his first true love. Since then I ...
A. 7 January 2009: Hang out with your girlfriends more often and not the boys, and be a little more cautious around the boys as though your more modest.
That should do the trick then they will chase you.
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Why do I get so upset?
Q. Hi there.... I need some advice, I have been in a 'relationship' with a divorced man, luckily he has no kids, his wife left him for another man. We have been very close, he means the world to me. Whenever he is working I bother him, he has his own ...
A. 7 January 2009: There is no reason to get upset if you trust him, right? are you afraid he's with someone else? another woman? because thats the impression your probably making and that shows distrust.
Take it easy and just let him do what he does and you enjo... (read in full...)
He never has time for me any more...
Q. Hi, I've been in so much pain from this relationship, from fighting and him not having enough time for me it's been rough. I talked to him about it, he said it's not his fault he's always busy and doesn't have time. I understand that but I told him ...
A. 7 January 2009: You both are very young, mabey he's affriad at what happens when hes with you.
It sounds like you broke it off. i wouldn't call him for a while wait for him to call you because he will be asking the same questions. in fact move on all together... (read in full...)
Which one could it be?
Q. I'm having menstrual problems, I also have irregular periods. I looked at some of the symptoms and I have more symtoms from an ovarian cyst problem than pregnancy. I'm definitely too young a have little pride and joy in my arms. (baby) but if I ask ...
A. 7 January 2009: You need to have a chat to your mum immediately she will understand, just be honest and tell her how you feel. You really shouldn't self diagnose yourself, only a professional can do that and give you a proper explanation.
Do it now before i... (read in full...)
Is it strange for an older man to be saying he loves me?
Q. Im 19 years old. I have been with my boyfriend for about 2 1/2 months. He is 43. We really get along great. We live in two different states. I fly out there every weekend to spend the weekend with him. He says he is falling in love with me. Is that ...
A. 7 January 2009: No. If you love him and he loves you then thats great. Age shouldn't really matter except when its illegal.
But if you do decide to take that path and you want to spend the rest of your life with him then you must understand what he will be like ... (read in full...)
What would be the pitfalls of a fling or affair? We're only together because of the kids.
Q. Hi all. Been married 20 years; have two great kids (11 and 8). My wife says she no longer loves me but she wants to stay together for the kids. There is no affection or intimacy but we get along and have fun together and talk etc. I don't know if ...
A. 7 January 2009: Think back to what you did when you first met her what were the things that made her fall for you...
Good luck mate ;) ... (read in full...)
They're wrong about me but the damage is done!
Q. I'm a 25 year old guy. I met this girl when I was 21 and it was love at first sight. We worked together and eventually she left her boyfriend so she could start seeing me. She was everything I wanted; cute, smart, funny, loved me to pieces. I had ...
A. 7 January 2009: Like GrimmReality said and ill say it too: "Success is the best revenge!" some day they will look at you and kick themselves for being so immature and losing you.
Kick ass and make a life so damn good the'll be wishing they never did those th... (read in full...)
She just doesn't have time for me!
Q. I have recently engaged in a new relationship with a wonderful girl. She is 17, a senior in High school and I am currently a sophomore in College. The age difference really doesn't affect us that much. My problem is that this girl never seems to ...
A. 7 January 2009: Hey mate, rememebr its just been christmas and new years, she probably already had heaps of other plans and things to do even before like chrissy parties with friends/family etc. Its a busy time if the year.
Just take it easy don't be too pushy an... (read in full...)
Was this mean or well deserved?
Q. In high school I used to be teased because I was overweight, wore glasses, and quiet. As I went to college I started to go to the gym and is a ripped 200 pound running back. When I came back home from college one of the girls that teased me now ...
A. 7 January 2009: "What goes around comes around" either in one form or another.... (read in full...)
She's off limits to me but I really like her
Q. I have a huge problem....i like girls...and i have fallen for one who is..well lets say forbidden, she has a boyfriend and shes not gay, i dont want to love her but i cant help myself shes just so beautiful, shes nice and sweet, we never really ...
A. 7 January 2009: Just be her friend thats the best way. Try not to get confused in your mind between being a friend or a potential lover just relax and be her friend. After all if shes takn thats all you can be.
Good luck! ... (read in full...)
Body language and prayer request....
Q. I have a request and a question, what does body language has to do with getting a gal? Secondly, this is not a question actually, its a request to all readers. my prayer to all readers is, whether u r all da religious type or not, pls pray for me. ...
A. 6 January 2009: God cannot make her love you, even if we all asked. It is up to her. The best advice I can give you is have some time away from her for yourself and with your friends. I don't know if you've already established a friendship or not with her but that ... (read in full...)
How long does it usually take a guy to say I love you?
Q. so my bf and i have been together for over a month and he is a little less than 3 years older than me. he is a juinor in highschool and i am a freshman. he has never said i love you, and we talk on the phone alot, and i get to see him about once ...
A. 6 January 2009: Firstly, Not very long, you guys are still pretty young maybe he's inexperienced and never felt true love yet either. Anyway... let it develop.
I find it strange that a bf can't say nice complimentary things to his gf and as 'Tasteof... (read in full...)
Was he trying to tell me something with his hand holding?
Q. A friend of mine, recently held my hand and started softly playing with it. Was he trying to tell me something with the way he was holding my hand or am I thinking too much about it?...
A. 6 January 2009: Friendly? a friend is a friend, a lover is a lover, a boyfriend is a boyfriend. its that simple. Don't get confused between them!
You need to determine if he's going to be a friend or a lover which could turn into a bf. The signs clearly point ou... (read in full...)
Is it okay for someone else to tell your man they love him?
Q. So ive been having problems with this girl my Boyfriend went to highschol with, shes in a relationship and lives like 200 miles away, so im not worried about him cheating on me with her, plus i look better, anyways this girl has been telling my bf ...
A. 6 January 2009: Shes acting stupid. It seems as though if she does it genuinly as his friend, she dosen't understand the cosequences of it. I mean love and the word love especially directed to somone is a pretty strong thing. she can't go throwing around love like ... (read in full...)
He's bipolar and very confusing!
Q. ok i love the man that i am with he is amazing and i am completely in love with him. But lately its like he is bipolar. one minute he wants to spend time with me and love on me and hold me and the next he doesnt want anything to do with me and ...
A. 6 January 2009: well you never know, you can develop it.
Otherwise mabey he's not sure about falling in love yet, he's just being a little cautious, maybe this is his way of dealing with that.... (read in full...)
He's bipolar and very confusing!
Q. ok i love the man that i am with he is amazing and i am completely in love with him. But lately its like he is bipolar. one minute he wants to spend time with me and love on me and hold me and the next he doesnt want anything to do with me and ...
A. 6 January 2009: Talk to him about it.
Some people believe that doing this cycle it keeps you keen by running away then coming back and so on (a common players game, by never giving too much. its like fly-fishing luring them in till you fully make a catch) b... (read in full...)
Do I let him give me oral?
Q. Hey im 15 and im thinking of letting my boyfreind eat me out. Can you catch anything from doing this? If he does this will he keep wanting more? By the way my boyfriend is 17 thanks so much...
A. 6 January 2009: Not really, just make sure he's clean. Yeah he probably will, but you need to control him and say NO if he pushes to far and your not comfortable about it yet. just talk to him before hand and ask him to respect you.... (read in full...)
Shy! Does she like me?
Q. i like this girl but im not sure if she likes me im clueless if shes flirting with me and she acts shy around me so does she like me?...
A. 6 January 2009: Yeah i think so. just be cool and take it easy don't call her too much and make it as if you like her be her friend but never tell her you like her she will pick up on it that you do and get a real kick out of the flirty tension. You guys will ... (read in full...)
They're wrong about me but the damage is done!
Q. I'm a 25 year old guy. I met this girl when I was 21 and it was love at first sight. We worked together and eventually she left her boyfriend so she could start seeing me. She was everything I wanted; cute, smart, funny, loved me to pieces. I had ...
A. 6 January 2009: Well you might not like this mate but i'm a firm believer in what goes around comes around. Remember your first girl? She was with another guy right? Well as you said she broke it off with him to be with you. I don't now about him but i bet it ... (read in full...)
How to get even with someone who played with your heart- guys perspective
Q. There was this guy who really played me, though i don't think it was his true intention, it happened at work, we were friends and then got too close, he expressed being crazy about me, hung out with me etc... but its crap, cuz it has to be, so now a ...
A. 6 January 2009: LOL, its not crap!!! if a guy says that then thats what he means... to simply put it he's into you and you just knocked him back because you 'believe' its crap... LOL
Anyway how does it have to be crap??? Stop playin games yourself if you think he... (read in full...)
Does this technique work?
Q. I have been wantong to make my penis bigger. Is Jelqing bad for you? Does it work?...
A. 6 January 2009: You don't need to mate! Stop worrying and have some fun!... (read in full...)
What would be the pitfalls of a fling or affair? We're only together because of the kids.
Q. Hi all. Been married 20 years; have two great kids (11 and 8). My wife says she no longer loves me but she wants to stay together for the kids. There is no affection or intimacy but we get along and have fun together and talk etc. I don't know if ...
A. 6 January 2009: It will give her an excuse to go do it herself. In effect it further pulls you guys apart. Maybe she wants you to because she already has somone set up that she wants (you will never know but dont get worried about it) can you accept that???
Stayi... (read in full...)
Is it okay for someone else to tell your man they love him?
Q. So ive been having problems with this girl my Boyfriend went to highschol with, shes in a relationship and lives like 200 miles away, so im not worried about him cheating on me with her, plus i look better, anyways this girl has been telling my bf ...
A. 6 January 2009: brother sister type love? what crap! theres no such thing unless they are actually brother and sister.
Just tell her to lay off, tell your bf its making you uncomfortable and that you would like to be respected here. Even tell her this. she has ... (read in full...)
Is he justified in making my life hell because he 'loves' me?
Q. Well theres this guy I work with hes 30, I'm 19, was 18 at the time. He kinda manipulated me into a 'relationship', making me feel sorry for him, etc. He used to accuse me of sleeping with guys, having AIDs,go through my bag and my phone, he was ...
A. 23 December 2008: No, its all cool. Get the restraining order today. Circumstances have changed dramatically and because you loved him you've just tried to be there for him... its time to look after yourself and move on. Be strong and focused.
Look forward to the f... (read in full...)
Is he justified in making my life hell because he 'loves' me?
Q. Well theres this guy I work with hes 30, I'm 19, was 18 at the time. He kinda manipulated me into a 'relationship', making me feel sorry for him, etc. He used to accuse me of sleeping with guys, having AIDs,go through my bag and my phone, he was ...
A. 22 December 2008: No. Lose him asap. He needs serious help.... (read in full...)
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