Like what
he writes?
... Add *riffo to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *riffo a private message | | | *riffo's profile:Oh well some don't like my thoughts. Got a few poor ratings there, anyway ive made many people happy too. Honestly, i wont tell you what you want to hear ill tell you what i believe.
Mind you please keep in mind this is not advice im giving you they are mearly my thoughts, feelings, and impressions I feel when reading and answering your questions.
|
|
Is it okay for someone else to tell your man they love him?
Q. So ive been having problems with this girl my Boyfriend went to highschol with, shes in a relationship and lives like 200 miles away, so im not worried about him cheating on me with her, plus i look better, anyways this girl has been telling my bf ...
A. 7 January 2009: Yeah she's being obsessive, its pretty clear she wants him. The funny thing is by her doing that it's actually bringing you guys closer together and bringing their friendship in question. eventually she will stop but it depends on if he answers the ... (read in full...)
What would be the pitfalls of a fling or affair? We're only together because of the kids.
Q. Hi all. Been married 20 years; have two great kids (11 and 8). My wife says she no longer loves me but she wants to stay together for the kids. There is no affection or intimacy but we get along and have fun together and talk etc. I don't know if ...
A. 7 January 2009: Think back to what you did when you first met her what were the things that made her fall for you...
Good luck mate ;) ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for someone else to tell your man they love him?
Q. So ive been having problems with this girl my Boyfriend went to highschol with, shes in a relationship and lives like 200 miles away, so im not worried about him cheating on me with her, plus i look better, anyways this girl has been telling my bf ...
A. 6 January 2009: Shes acting stupid. It seems as though if she does it genuinly as his friend, she dosen't understand the cosequences of it. I mean love and the word love especially directed to somone is a pretty strong thing. she can't go throwing around love like ... (read in full...)
Does this technique work?
Q. I have been wantong to make my penis bigger. Is Jelqing bad for you? Does it work?...
A. 6 January 2009: You don't need to mate! Stop worrying and have some fun!... (read in full...)
Virgin Girl that is waiting until marriage...
Q. When I was starting to get to know a boy and the guy getting to know me But, later confused that I was a virgin and his response was that he liked me so much to have sex that he couldn't stop for me that he said that I had to lose my virginity... ...
A. 6 January 2009: Yes, wait for the right guy!!! You don't have to 'not' be a virgin for anyone. Plus did you know that it is a dream for a guy to be the first one to have sex with his woman? This bloke is obviously pretty inexperienced himself and strangely i ... (read in full...)
Does he still care or is this a tactic to reel me in again??
Q. I had an 'emotional affair' with a guy at work, who is is really brought the best out of me, a part i let go of until I met him. He reeled me in, I never found him attractive, but now I do, we felt for eachother no doubt, but I could not take the ...
A. 6 January 2009: You cut communication for a week? Well that was the killer seed! Treating him harshly with no explanation?
You can't play the chase game with a married person they live with different rules they can always fall back on their partners. And If you w... (read in full...)
What would be the pitfalls of a fling or affair? We're only together because of the kids.
Q. Hi all. Been married 20 years; have two great kids (11 and 8). My wife says she no longer loves me but she wants to stay together for the kids. There is no affection or intimacy but we get along and have fun together and talk etc. I don't know if ...
A. 6 January 2009: It will give her an excuse to go do it herself. In effect it further pulls you guys apart. Maybe she wants you to because she already has somone set up that she wants (you will never know but dont get worried about it) can you accept that???
Stayi... (read in full...)
Is it okay for someone else to tell your man they love him?
Q. So ive been having problems with this girl my Boyfriend went to highschol with, shes in a relationship and lives like 200 miles away, so im not worried about him cheating on me with her, plus i look better, anyways this girl has been telling my bf ...
A. 6 January 2009: brother sister type love? what crap! theres no such thing unless they are actually brother and sister.
Just tell her to lay off, tell your bf its making you uncomfortable and that you would like to be respected here. Even tell her this. she has ... (read in full...)
I want to be the reason he stays! I just don't know how to tell him!
Q. My heart is just breaking. I've wasted to much time not fighting for the man I love. I'm young, yes, but I know my love for him is the real thing. I found out today that his job will be transfering him if he doesn't have a reason to stay... I want ...
A. 6 January 2009: Id just say it to him.
Have you ever told him in the past? If yes, then why hasen't it worked out. if no: Then id just lay it out to him id just say "Well I was hoping that we would be a reason for you to stay. so stay with me..." see what he ... (read in full...)
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 6 January 2009: I will take it a little further. You know, I really HATE gold diggers!!!! Im not sure if thats what she is or that you kept giving all the time. I'm smart enough to rid these off because I know exactly what they want (most of my generation has ... (read in full...)
How do I get her to be my g/f?
Q. I'm 25 and I'm in love with my best friend.we have dated in highschool n broke up when she went to college.we been friends for 10yrs.she is always touchy feely w me.we started having sex a few months ago and bout 2 weeks ago she said she just wants ...
A. 5 January 2009: My first sex partner was my best girl friend not love gf. I was 15 she was just a friend. well its been 15 years now and we are still good mates we call each other and keep in contact a lot. She's now married with fam and kids. im mates with the ... (read in full...)
Ladies, I need advice on making first dates amazing...
Q. I'd like to think of myself as romantic and sweet! But what do the females think! 1) What would be an amazing date be? (WHERE) Like where would an amazing first date take place? Like your dream date? Haha 2) I'm still young and in School so it'...
A. 5 January 2009: No you want to do at least one romantic thing on the first date something sweet so she will remember you. The best I can say is chocolate just buy her a box of nice chocolates. because in chocolate it is a natural aphrodisiac and often reminds a ... (read in full...)
Anxiety attacks & over analyzing things are making me such a mess
Q. hello friends, m a 20 year old guy n im suffering from severe anxiety problems. i dont know whats wrong with me and im scared of whatever i think. i keep analyzing every situation that i come across and usually end up building more and more anxiety ...
A. 5 January 2009: Id start to write the analysis of all your feelings on paper or spreadsheet application such as ms word. It will help you understand them better. Plus you probably have a great skill and instinct for analysis of peoples feelings. You might just be ... (read in full...)
My dad won't let me be an auto mechanic
Q. Im really into cars (and sports) and I think might be a auto mechanic when I finish high school but my dad and most of my family (mainly guys) thinks its not "lady like" (thats a nice way to put it). My dad won't let me a auto mechanic course at my ...
A. 5 January 2009: Thats pretty slack of him hey! But the below post would be a good laugh too. Id ask him what he thinks you should do in your career. Then secondly whey up what you want in your future over the next 10 to 15 years. like where you want to live, what ... (read in full...)
Broke up, wants my things back, afraid of him getting abusive
Q. So after a 5 year relationship, Ive decided to call it quits with my B/f. I'm really confused and feeling very nervous. After a horrible NYE party by now x-bf became very verbally and borderline phy. abusive. He doesent remember a thing and what ...
A. 5 January 2009: Firstly its a myth that someone cant remember anything at all he'd have to be pretty legless and unable to walk or move to be at that state, he's just playing dumb. its an oldies trick used alot in the 80's as a tool for sleeping around. dosent work ... (read in full...)
I'm too clingy and I'm really missing him
Q. Help! am i going insane? It all started exactly about a year and a half. I went to argentina and met a wonderful boy. We became best friends and are now dating. However, as a young teenager i suffered from some bad relationships and it made me very ...
A. 5 January 2009: All love begins within you, who is your number one in the whole world... Him? ... NO! its you! You need to find all the things you like doing like reading, sports video games, do it in your own time and love everything you do. it will help. because ... (read in full...)
I cheated, wife found out and now wants to call everything off
Q. I have been married eleven years and have cheated on my wife 6 months ago and she found out. She has been depressed since the birth of my son (9 years ago) and for the last three years basically stop having sex with me and telling me she hated me. ...
A. 5 January 2009: Also you must really mean it when you say it if you don't she will see straight through you and you could very well lose her... say it and MEAN it!... (read in full...)
I cheated, wife found out and now wants to call everything off
Q. I have been married eleven years and have cheated on my wife 6 months ago and she found out. She has been depressed since the birth of my son (9 years ago) and for the last three years basically stop having sex with me and telling me she hated me. ...
A. 5 January 2009: Buy her a bunch of flowers and tell her that the day you both first met was the happiest day of your life. tell her that things have been very tough over the past year or so, but most of all, you love her and thats why you married her. You made a ... (read in full...)
Am I a friend? more? He calls me buddy
Q. Is he just being polite or is just taking things slow and is interested in me? We go out, we call each other back and forth just to talk, and text. He never mentions his past relationships, nor do I ask. But on these (2) dates he hasn't made a mo...
A. 5 January 2009: Yes, sometimes blokes do this. But there are times where we just wanna be good friends with a lady. A great guy is one who wants to establish a great friendship with you first, this means that if anything happens in the future it will last longer in ... (read in full...)
How can I make my penis scars less noticeable?
Q. Hi im 19 years old male and still virgin. I have a great relationship with a great girl for 2 years atm. She asked me for sex 18-19 months ago, and never stop asking yet. She says she finds me attractive and wants to make our relationship "co...
A. 5 January 2009: Hi, Okay so what did she say? did you show her? why don't you let her make all he decisions rather than worrying about it yourself? if she doesn't want to she'll make it lite on you, you probably wont even know and i highly doubt she'll dump you ... (read in full...)
Why are they so obsessed with size?
Q. Why are guys so obsessed with the size of their penis, despite what women say in response (i.e. size doesn't matter - it's what you do with it that counts)?...
A. 4 January 2009: It's because in the porn industry penis size is a must!! and in pornography they will make a point that this is important. However in reality it's not that important.
Secondly it has a lot to do about the security and if a guy has a bigger o... (read in full...)
My b/f is really clingy
Q. Hey,I have a boyfriend, OB, but the thing is he is really clingy and he calls and texts all the time. It sounds really stupid but I tried avoiding him for one day and he was really upset about it and told me if I have a problem about us then I ...
A. 4 January 2009: No your not stupid, this is normal. You see guys will keep calling untill they are sure about you. I think he's unsure that you wanna keep him and probably thinks your going to get rid of him soon.
The thing is in this situation many girls an... (read in full...)
My husband is taking "waste not want not" too far
Q. I've been married for 5 years now, and our marriage has been great, we've got two lovely children. My husband was brought up to have a work ethic and "waste not want not" which he's taught our children. However, he's started taking the "waste n...
A. 4 January 2009: Usually it's ok to go over a couple of days but I've actually experimented with this subject. during the time I did these tests I found that after about a week you become very tired all the time the body lacks the nourishment fresh food provides. I ... (read in full...)
Questions for women about virginity and sex...
Q. Okay I don't want to seem rude or anger anyone when I ask this. I am simply curious to know more about women and their beliefs on virginity and sex. 1) Do many women lose their virginity after high school 2) Do a lot of women save themselves f...
A. 4 January 2009: I know a couple of ladies that are late 20s and still virgins. The thing I've really noticed is that they are very pure in nature. Very relaxed and calm they seem to enjoy life so it makes me wonder a lot about how much sex actually changes ... (read in full...)
How can I make my penis scars less noticeable?
Q. Hi im 19 years old male and still virgin. I have a great relationship with a great girl for 2 years atm. She asked me for sex 18-19 months ago, and never stop asking yet. She says she finds me attractive and wants to make our relationship "co...
A. 4 January 2009: I don't think she will be too fussed about it. Just talk to her, she's your missis so she'll be right. Sound like you guys have a good thing going :)... (read in full...)
Am I being shallow for liking him now that he's losing the baby-fat and gaining all this muscle?
Q. First off, I'm twenty and in my last semester at community college. The guy in question is also twenty and also in his last semester at the same community college. And by sheer coincidence, we're planning on attending the same university to finish ...
A. 4 January 2009: No, your just becoming more physically attracted to him. Personality is half the battle it seems as though you are both clearly compatable in personality. Now the physical side is growing on you and that's normal.
Did he ever like you or tell you... (read in full...)
Beautiful Girls need loving too! Why aren't Caucasion guys giving me any??
Q. I am a attractive and slender, dark hair, dark eyes with a sophisticated air woman.. I get compliments often of my looks. Usually men who are old enough to be my dad or uncle.. but mostly from the outspoken African American Males. All I seem to get ...
A. 4 January 2009: I think just be more friendly with them just say "hi with a smile" and I bet you'd be asked out in a flash. Men love women with personality though top looking women can be renowned for being snobish and rude (not saying you are, it's the minority ... (read in full...)
I feel like I will never get over him and that scares me.
Q. I was in what I thought to be a serious relationship three months ago. He dumped me because he felt he wasn't sure about his feelings anymore. It took him (1-2 months) to get over me after he dumped me( he would still tell me that he missed me and ...
A. 4 January 2009: You're not dumb for telling him you love him. In fact he's for lack of a better word a stupid freak for letting you go for what sounds like over that. He seems like a chicken shit and affraid of love. There is nothing wrong with it infact it is ... (read in full...)
Do you think I should look for someone or wait for someone to find me?
Q. This guy named Stephen broke my heart months ago.. and its taken me forever to finally just let go and tell him goodbye.. he was awful to me. he cheated on lied to me abused me and made up awful rumors.. about me. and i still cant seem to forget ...
A. 4 January 2009: Both, just have fun and when you least expect it he will come along or you will find him. Just enjoy flirting and have fun.... (read in full...)
He wants to take me to his house. What does he mean by that?
Q. I met a good friend of mine (who's a guy that I really, really like) for lunch the other day. We talked and laughed and gazed in each other's eyes for the first time which felt really strange. Afterwards when he was taking me home he mentioned that ...
A. 4 January 2009: Sounds like he really likes you and may want to firstly start with a movie followed by a bit of lovin if you catch my drift.... (read in full...)
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 2 January 2009: I'd get it over with now rather than wait till your contract finishes - and that's for the sake of the children. Give her the house in the Phillipines and that's it - sometimes you make a loss but its up to you. The children will feel more pain than ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily. Hubby has a low libido, womanizer is older but has an enormous libido. I've always known the womanizer would find someone else, and looked forward to that day. ...
A. 2 January 2009: Interesting: In reply to men jacking off - imagination - Its a natural aphrodisiac. Have you ever cought him jacking off before? I'm pretty sure he would be. I wonder what it is that pushes his sexual buttons, there has to be something!
To me... (read in full...)
How can I move on when I'm hurting so much?
Q. Oh why did I have to go and fall in love with him, i'm so stupid I promised myself I would never let myself fall so deep for another again, I promised myself that I wouldn't open my heart to him not until I was one hundred percent sure that he was ...
A. 29 December 2008: Spend time with your friends. Your friends are the cure to your broken heart. Go out with them and try to move on.
I don't know what really happened but do you want him back? Or are you letting him go?
Please Reply and let me know.... (read in full...)
Do opposite really attracts?
Q. I've been chatting with this guy (I'm also a guy) through yahoo and SMS for 5 days now and I must say that it's love at first sight..he's my ideal man..where both bi guys and both not out to anyone and never will.. I haven't met him yet but plan...
A. 29 December 2008: Well its up to him but drugs are a sign of a weak spirited person. People usually resort to drugs because deep inside there is something not making that person happy or fulfilled in life, could be many things. You will need to talk to him and see... ... (read in full...)
I am heart broken... does he know he broke my heart?
Q. Ok so I was in a horrible abusive marriage and found true love somewhere else. The new BF was in a dead marriage with no love. We fell for each other hard. Whirlwind romance for over a year. We both filed for divorce... But real life sets in- ...
A. 29 December 2008: I'd say he got to the point of telling his children and when he saw their little faces crack it broke him up inside children to men (once they have them) are sacred and such a very special thing. that would be the ultimate thing he would sacrifice ... (read in full...)
I've been dumped out of the blue... what do I do?
Q. Hi, I have recently been dumped, we were going out for a month after knowing each other for over 4 months. It was all going really well until suddenly she started having doubts, but not sharing them with me, just throught her bulletins in myspace. ...
A. 29 December 2008: yeah, the MSN thing may have givin her a wrong impression. id just follow th step in my last post:
"just call her and tell her your sorry about things and that you undersatnd and if there was anything you can do to help just let you know. sh... (read in full...)
Help, I've ruined my relationship.
Q. HI there. I am in desperate need of advice; I have had an amazing relationship with my boyfriend who I consider my best friend, and my lover, for two and a half years; but now it has gone really astray. In the past 2 years I've suffered from pa...
A. 29 December 2008: Firstly its definatley NOT your fault. No way!!! Remember that. Okay?
It could be many things, and its hard to say because I know your feeling so bad about this at this time. Here are some rough ideas based on what you said:
1) He's letting go ... (read in full...)
Do opposite really attracts?
Q. I've been chatting with this guy (I'm also a guy) through yahoo and SMS for 5 days now and I must say that it's love at first sight..he's my ideal man..where both bi guys and both not out to anyone and never will.. I haven't met him yet but plan...
A. 29 December 2008: Yes they do. here's an experiment I give all people who ask this question its fun and can be helpfull. It will give you an idea if the type of person your after.
1) Get an A4 sheet of paper and draw a zigerty-zag line through the center from one... (read in full...)
I don't get what I want!
Q. Im feeling down about the way I am. I'm an attractive 22 yr old female, I get hit on by guys all the time, I like the attention, but I don't take any of these guys seriously. Im so picky! At the rate I'm going, I dont think I'll ever find a good ...
A. 29 December 2008: The saying always goes:
The ones I like don't like me. But the ones who like me... I don't.
You've just gotta let sombody love you, or someday it will be too late. This is often the case for many many beautiful women.
It's a vicious circle... (read in full...)
We want to move in together, what do I tell my parents?
Q. hi I have a question about moving in with my boyfriend. I'm 19 and he is 19. we have been friends for about three years but in a long distance relationship for 6 months. he stays in indiana and he's in school and has his own apartment. he's a really ...
A. 29 December 2008: Yes, just talk to your parent and get their advice. Explain you want to ask them for their advice. and let them know you will do what ever they say or ask. but do stick to it.
I just hope your parents arent that strict over protective that the... (read in full...)
Sex help needed!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for over a year now and have done everything sexually you can before sex. We have talked about it a couple times and she said that she wouldnt do anything serious until after a year. Clearly we are past this ...
A. 29 December 2008: I would dye if i had to wait that long. lol! But you must really love her to wait that long. well done! A good rule is never ask. just start kissing and keep trying but don't come on sleazy, make every time you kiss very special for her. don't t... (read in full...)
I want to meet him, do you think I should?
Q. Hiya, I wrote in earlier this year (few months/weeks back) to ask for peoples opinions of whether or not i should meet this incredible man from belfast. I am 17, and i live in glasgow. He thinks i am 21 however, but we really do get on great, w...
A. 29 December 2008: yeah, just meet him during the day ask him to come to you and go to the park or a coffee or something in the day time around people and just chat so you can get to know him on a more face-to-face level. He will make the effort to come see you for a ... (read in full...)
I've been dumped out of the blue... what do I do?
Q. Hi, I have recently been dumped, we were going out for a month after knowing each other for over 4 months. It was all going really well until suddenly she started having doubts, but not sharing them with me, just throught her bulletins in myspace. ...
A. 28 December 2008: It sounds like she was on the rebound. can you confirm if shes still talking with the ex? if so then she has rebounded of you and will probably go back to him.
If not then mabey shes simply genuine and really did need some space, how much have you... (read in full...)
She's always wearing pyjamas when you go to her house, does this mean she just thinks of me as a friend?
Q. I am soon going to stay around a girl's house for four days, we have talk about sexual activities. And every day I take a picture of her and wank over her. ...
A. 28 December 2008: Just do what I explained in the last post:
It still may be waiting for approval but follow this link:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-a-girl-that-youre-interested-is-always.html... (read in full...)
I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily. Hubby has a low libido, womanizer is older but has an enormous libido. I've always known the womanizer would find someone else, and looked forward to that day. ...
A. 28 December 2008: We need to look at more of his feelings now id love to know more about what he is thinking. Just ask him and see what he says. and get back to us, very tough situation but we need more information.
Is he taking any type of support medicati... (read in full...)
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 25 December 2008: Mate I agree with the last poster. You will never truly know what happened but it's extreamly strange how she ran off and disapeared for a few days. I would NEVER do such a thing if I were married either.
I think you have a lot of thinking... (read in full...)
I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily. Hubby has a low libido, womanizer is older but has an enormous libido. I've always known the womanizer would find someone else, and looked forward to that day. ...
A. 25 December 2008: I'd try to take him out to new things each week. Do you remember if there was somthing he used to do for you when you first dated? Somthing symbolically special? Try and bring the spark that you had back. Also take him to the place where you first ... (read in full...)
| *riffo's friends
These are mutual friends, so *riffo has
added them and they have added *riffo!
|
