Is he justified in making my life hell because he 'loves' me?

A female age 30-35, *ittleMissy writes:

Well theres this guy I work with hes 30, I'm 19, was 18 at the time. He kinda manipulated me into a 'relationship', making me feel sorry for him, etc. He used to accuse me of sleeping with guys, having AIDs,go through my bag and my phone, he was obsessed with me he thought I was absolutely perfect apart from I apparantly slept around and he even used to wait outside my house all day to check on me. He took my friends number from my phone, he asked me for it I told him flat out no, shes 17. he took it anyway to see if she could tell him any stuff that i'd apparantly lied about, like i'd say I couldn't meet him cos I was at school, and I'd be lying. He used to pressure me, push me, manipulate and sometimes even force me for sex constantly. I asked him to leave me alone I know this is not normal. I'v been trying to find a new job, its only part time but I cant leave cos i'm a student and my family need the money I bring in desperately. So anyway he started saying I'm a slag and I broke his heart and I used him, I may have broke his heart, but not on purpose as he seems to think and I'm certtainly not a slag and I did't use him. He cried and threatened to kill himself and stuff and I was nice to him cos I felt mean and all this was my fault then he blackmailed me into sex one more time saying if i didnt he would tell my family and my boss i was a slag and show my text messages aas proof, I was crying all the way through and then he said to me he had videod it. so now he still goes through my bag and my phone and accuses me of sleeping with everyone, he waits near my house all days and says he has evidence of men going in. he doesn't but if he did, in my opinion, what is it to do with him, surely if i was sleeping around the only person who should be concerned is my new boyfriend. so hes basically following me and accusuing me of stuff and he justifies it all by he 'loves' me. the other night at work he grabbed hold of me and started touching me.he claimed that since everyone else wsa allowed, he was I was crying my eyes out so my boss dragged it all out of me. didnt tell him that hed touched me just about the texts and him being near my house. hes now turned it round and claimed that i'm stalking him saying I love him basically doing what hes doing to me. he said to me the police wont care as everytime hes text me iv replied either in anger or telling him not to kill himself as hes threatened, hes saying its all my fault iv made him crazy and hes gonna show this tape hes apparantly made and all my texts to my family. I don't know what to do anymore i feel likee ki;;ing myself is this my fault?

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