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I've got no money to buy my girlfriend a Valentines present!
Q. Valentine is three days away and i have no money at all to buy anything for my girlfriend,this is our first valentine together and my first ever. What should i do?...
A. 11 February 2010: Sorry I mean, Remembering as in that was so cool and romantic. She will remember what you did on that special day in the future with you by her side.... (read in full...)
I've got no money to buy my girlfriend a Valentines present!
Q. Valentine is three days away and i have no money at all to buy anything for my girlfriend,this is our first valentine together and my first ever. What should i do?...
A. 11 February 2010: If you can. On valentines day watch the sun rise with her. People don't do that enough and when you see it rising up over the horizon. Its breathtaking. then kiss her on the cheek.
She will remember you forever.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have friendly phone sex with a classmate when I have a boyfriend?
Q. well...im in a committed relationship...its been 7.5months..me and my bf really love each other..i want to ask that is it ok to have friendly phone sex with my classmate?(we actually don't mean it,its just 4 fun)i mean is it ok or whether i will be ...
A. 11 February 2010: Phone sex. Whats the point of that.... (read in full...)
Have I got my boyfriend enough for Valentines day?
Q. For valentines day I got my boyfriend a necklace and card. I was wondering if that would be enough?...
A. 11 February 2010: It's enough. That is very nice of you :)... (read in full...)
Is it too late to give her space?
Q. I got mad at my girlfriend and she broke up with me after a year of dating she said she didnt think i trusted her and told me she couldnt take me back so soon and that she needed space. she let me see her after a week and said she still loved me and ...
A. 11 February 2010: Just keep giving her space untill she calls you. Leave the ball in her court for a while. Go enjoy doing something else with your mates, it will help to pass the time.... (read in full...)
How often do men become platonic friends with their ex girlfriends?
Q. How common is it for guys to want to be long term friends with their ex girlfriends? does this happen with alot of people, or do i mostly date guys who want to be platonic bff (best friends forever) after a breakup? not a complaint really, just a ...
A. 11 February 2010: You can remain friends after the relationship but it requires time, plenty of space and a lot of patience. Initially too many emotions are flying around and one of the two involved is always wanting more out of the friendship. Thus causing an ... (read in full...)
He told me he's territorial and doesn't want me hanging out with other guys! What does he mean?
Q. hey i gotta question whats it mean when my boyfriend tells me that he doesn't want me hanging with other guys or really talking to them.....he told me hes territorial...??...
A. 11 February 2010: In smaller weaker primitive groups and tribes there is teritorial element buts thats very primitive and is only because the group or individual is feeling threatened or is becoming an extinct species.
In your case its the same thing, he's fee... (read in full...)
Has he gone off the boil?
Q. So I met this guy a week ago. We hungout Sunday night and Tuesday night. He's 35 has a 10 year old. He's been divorced for a couple of years. When I left his place Wednesday morning he said he would be in contact soon. Well I know that he does have ...
A. 9 February 2010: What kind of a man is he? really! and why is it so scary? Your just setting yourself up to fail if you fear that opportunity. Look just do what your heart tells you, if you like him call him. It's the least you can do. If you don't let it be and ... (read in full...)
We've been talking back and forth for awhile now... What does it all mean?
Q. He is a relative of mines, yet distant. a few years ago, he contacts me for a favour..something to do with his music. I said I dont have what he wants but then he started talking more and more...until one day he just showed up at my door without my ...
A. 9 February 2010: I think this bloke really likes you, alot. Because he's trying to get your attention by showing up at your house unexpectadly, he invites you out and phones you. But you have not shown much interest back to him. He's obviously spoken about you to ... (read in full...)
Should I make a big deal of the fact we have no official anniversary date?
Q. Ive been dating this guy about 3 months now and just the other day i had a fight with him about when we started dating because he hasn't actually said to me that he wants me to be his gf and what not.. he just started calling me his gf about a month ...
A. 9 February 2010: No, not about the aniversary date its not really that important, but it does help if you want to celebrate it a year later. It is important if you are married though.
About him thinking you were juvenile about the acceptance and just saying y... (read in full...)
He is waaay too clingy for me!
Q. Ok so my bf for 3 months almost 4, hes getting a little clingy, and i dont blame him. i use to be clingy, but i mean i wouldnt have a problem with it if it wasent constant. he says i love you waaay to much, i try to give him hints that i need space, ...
A. 9 February 2010: No friends? thats bullshite he tells.
It sounds like you've done a fair bit already. Id lay it straight out in plain english and tell him: If he does not give you some space you will break up with him. Too much sugar makes your teeth rot.
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What the hell do I say to his guilt-trips???
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for two years. Then we broke up for a year. And now we've been back together for two months (and counting). During the time we were broken up, I had a one-night-stand (which means I did NOT cheat as we were broken ...
A. 9 February 2010: Some things that need to be clarified ... He's basically told you that you were a slut here:
"I thought I knew you, but apparently I don't. I thought you were against all that; calling other women sluts who did that and then YOU go do that."
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Who do I choose? The guy I like, or the guy I don't want to hurt?
Q. I been through a lot with my muslim boyfriend being a secret to his parents and where he lives it tool three years to introduce me because I broke up with him. I wish he could have did it sooner. While we was broken up I met a wonderful guy we have ...
A. 9 February 2010: You need to be honest with the guy you don't want to be with and say it to him in plane english not with hints or signs. That way he can move on and in time he will get over you. Let him know you don't feel the same way as he does and that you are ... (read in full...)
Has he gone off the boil?
Q. So I met this guy a week ago. We hungout Sunday night and Tuesday night. He's 35 has a 10 year old. He's been divorced for a couple of years. When I left his place Wednesday morning he said he would be in contact soon. Well I know that he does have ...
A. 9 February 2010: Yes, it could be he is busy with his kids. But if you like him why don't you call him? don't worry about the text message. Call and leave a nice voice message. Hearing your voice is more intamate and personal than a text message.
Try leaving ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with Valentine's Day when it just reminds me of him cheating?
Q. Hi All, You may remember my saga about my text cheating husband with a work colleague. When found out and confronted she told me he'd done that sort of thing before. That alerted alarm bells about a necklace he'd bought for her predecessor in 2...
A. 9 February 2010: You're very welcome. During the dinner try not to bring up anything about his girlfriends. He is with you not them and that is all that needs to be.
I hope you both have a wonderful day. ... (read in full...)
He seemed so into me but now he just wants to be friends...
Q. Hey, This is just a really strange one, and I'm at my wits end, I can't do this anymore... Five months ago I met this guy through work, we both work for the same company, I work in retail and he works in one of our support teams. We bonded, a...
A. 8 February 2010: Lay it out straight with him. tell him how you feel as you did here and then say: "Be with me or don't be with me, I'm not interested in being friends anymore, I want to take the next step and you to be with me as a lover, so what's it going to be? ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with Valentine's Day when it just reminds me of him cheating?
Q. Hi All, You may remember my saga about my text cheating husband with a work colleague. When found out and confronted she told me he'd done that sort of thing before. That alerted alarm bells about a necklace he'd bought for her predecessor in 2...
A. 8 February 2010: Sometimes a man has plutonic feelings for another woman. It's rare but they may have started a plutonic friendship then and he loves her as a friend, we dont know what their relationship is but she could be hurt by someone and he gave her a little ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome and I don't.
Q. My boyfriend asked me if I would be interested in a threesome. It's not something that really appeals to me, but I decided to entertain the idea and at least discuss it with him. Not surprisingly, he was trying to push a threesome with a third ...
A. 8 February 2010: No, you are right what you did, so ask him next time "Would you kiss another guy or suck him off for me? im sorry but im not interested in that"
Don't worry about the feminist thing. he's just trying to make you feel bad. Nonetheless he has no i... (read in full...)
Do women like ass hair? Need an answer for tonight!
Q. My question is for the woman out there. When your having sex with a man do you like it if they have ass hair or do you like it more when there is none? A quick answer would be good since i need a answer for tonight thanks....
A. 8 February 2010: Some do and some don't. It all depends on her tasts as an individual. I've been surprised by some of the hottest women ever that say they do ... I think it has something to do with the man, masculinity, protection and all that stuff, you know how ... (read in full...)
Is Facebook reflecting how I fail socially in the real world?
Q. Sorry, but this is post about using a social networking site to validate my worth as a human being. I am on facebook and I am not popular on there, nor am terribly popular in real life. I'm like a leper of facebook actually. Less than 30 friends and ...
A. 8 February 2010: Firstly, it does not matter who asked who to be friends as a level of acceptance or status. It's simply that you are connected now so if I asked you to be friends on a social networking site it does not give you any status as if you are better than ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend might not be capable of fully loving me due to childhood trauma. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'v started seeing someone whom I have quite strong feelings for (we've been dating a month, but I've known him about a year and a half). An interesting dilemma has come up: Just as I've started to get those 'loving' feelings, he's ...
A. 8 February 2010: It seems as though there could be more to it than just his father, the past relationship possibly fell apart due to him feeling love to her and she hurt him. However he blames his father for the mistakes he makes now. I think he loves but he does ... (read in full...)
He is waaay too clingy for me!
Q. Ok so my bf for 3 months almost 4, hes getting a little clingy, and i dont blame him. i use to be clingy, but i mean i wouldnt have a problem with it if it wasent constant. he says i love you waaay to much, i try to give him hints that i need space, ...
A. 8 February 2010: Why the hell give him hints!!! ? !!!
Just say the words! words always speak louder than actions or hints.
Simply say to him: "Don't be upset by what I want to say here. I really like you too [Name] but its just getting a little too clingy, dont... (read in full...)
How do I know what his sexual fantasies are, and do I tell him mine?
Q. Im 23 and my partner is 26 we have been together for 3yrs and are both madly in love but our sex life needs a bit of sparking up but how do i know what he is into, what his fantasies are and how do i let him know what mine are with out bluntly ...
A. 8 February 2010: Get a Kama Sutra book and begin experimenting ... And you'll have fun doing it too! This will give a new light on your sex with him. it may also expose fantasies you never new about each other.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend might not be capable of fully loving me due to childhood trauma. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'v started seeing someone whom I have quite strong feelings for (we've been dating a month, but I've known him about a year and a half). An interesting dilemma has come up: Just as I've started to get those 'loving' feelings, he's ...
A. 8 February 2010: Yes, suggest counselling. If he has never been to counselling it is certianly due. Like a doctor a councellor helps to heal the mind. Maybe ask if a session on relationship would also help for the both of you as well.... (read in full...)
He tells me I am hot so why aren't his friends all over me?
Q. Heeey ! 3 kso i love thiis websiite ! alright , well i was seiing thiis one guy once and he is prettyy much one of the more popular kiids , and were not seiing each other anymore , but were stiil really good friiends , and idk but i thiink he stii...
A. 8 February 2010: Becaue his friends respect their mate and won't go with his ex. give them some time because he might still like you and his friends may be keeping their distance because of that. in time one will crack open his shell and make a move.
But if you w... (read in full...)
The waiter has my number, should I call him to ask him out?
Q. Okay so there is this really cute waiter at a restaurant that my friends and I frequent. I met him about a year ago and recently he seems to be showing more interest in me because every time he sees me he greets me with a hug(a little longer than ...
A. 8 February 2010: If you are interested call him. There's nothing sexier than a girl making the move.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't get jealous?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't get jealous. Is this considered a good thing or a bad thing?...
A. 7 February 2010: Ah, that's a good thing. He's at one end of te spectrum there, the good end, and you are free. Imagine if you were at the other end and he said you could not do anything not even see your friends in fear he'd think you would meet another guy. Some ... (read in full...)
How can I gain a girl's love back?
Q. how can i gain a girls love back?...
A. 7 February 2010: We don't need more detail ... It's a simple question and better asked with less information but in answer to your question: usually the best way to win someone back is by "charm" do you have any charm? It is a skill of the seducer. Learn how to use ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am getting the blame for his past bad relationships. What do I do?
Q. Im in love with a man who is scared of getting hurt, when we are together we have lots of fun and do everything except have sex. He says he doesn’t trust women and doesn’t know if he ever will again. Iv been hurt too and as far as I know iv never ...
A. 7 February 2010: I know some people would beg to differ, but try talking to him about "the one" who hurt him. A girl in his past has hurt him deeply when he must have given his love to her. He's one of the guys who lives in silence preferring not to be with someone ... (read in full...)
Are stretch marks a huge turn off?
Q. hi all ok heres the problem, i have a lot of stretch marks. actually they are alot but the worst ones are on my back, stomach and sides of my upper body. i also got very light skin which makes em look worse. And i heard u cant get rid of these,...
A. 7 February 2010: Non, there not that bad, as a male (for some reason) you have a little more to get away with. For some reason women are far more self concious of these things, they are people of beauty. Infact you would be the second man I've ever spoken to about ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I may have texted too much and scared him away!
Q. Met a man online. Thought he was great got on really well. Has a very stressful job. Used to text him and he wouldn't answer me so I would text him again he would answer with something like, yes still alive, just stressed and thatv would be it. So ...
A. 7 February 2010: Seems to me he "could" have another woman/wife on the side there somewhere because if he was that into you his communication would be returned and therfore balanced. Otherwise it's yes he's too busy at work "all the time??"
Unfortunatley if he's ... (read in full...)
My friend thinks she has to stay thin or else guys won't like her.
Q. My friend is in her mid 20's and she has lost a lot of weight within a few months. She says that guys give her attention that she never got before when she was heavier. Guys that rejected her in the past are now asking her out, but she just likes ...
A. 4 February 2010: It's really hard to tell withought really being there. All I can say is to support her if she's your friend.
If it gets really bad like she starts to go too gaunty, then that's when you should start to worry and start to look for some kind of ... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight but am so lazy! How can I be super motivated?
Q. I'm 31 yr old and have always been overweight by 10- 15 lbs since high school. 8 yrs in marriage, 1 child and have gone up to 170 lbs at 5'3" height. Have PCOS, irregular periods and sleep apnea. I really want to lose weight. I have so many ...
A. 4 February 2010: If you go to your local gym a personal trainer will be able to help you with this. I'm not sure how you are now but the bigger one is the harder it is to win the challenge. But you can do it if you are determined enough.
Initially I'd spend at... (read in full...)
Guys put me on a pedestal and never see the real me.
Q. I always end up with guys who put me on a pedestal and don't seem interested in getting to know the real me. You know how everyone says when you notice the same pattern recurring in your lovelife, it's a good idea to look at the part your behaviour ...
A. 4 February 2010: Hello, To put some clarification to this most men would think your the perfect woman because they had eventually fallen in love with you. It does not take very long to love someone. Some would say only a day would be enough to plant the seed of love ... (read in full...)
How can I give my girl the most sexual pleasure?
Q. How can I give my girl the most sexual pleasure? Itsa not that we don't have enough but I don't think I'm giving all I'm getting...
A. 4 February 2010: You do such a thing by giving her true love. If she is loved, all physical pleasure is multiplied by infinity.
Does she love you? If you love her the things even you do will feel much better and you will feel completed in giving all that you are ... (read in full...)
I asked my ex out and I'm not sure if she's interested. Help!
Q. well it's simple. I asked my ex out and i'm not sure if she's interested. Ok my ex broke up with my 6 months ago as of February 5th. yesterday I asked her to go to the movies with me this weekend. At first she said yes, but at the end of the school ...
A. 4 February 2010: If you've already started plans with the new girl. See what happens and be with her, she deserves that chance. Your last gf dumped you, so it ended right there, if you go for her again, some day she may dump you for the same stupid reason or ... (read in full...)
Do I just back off and see what happens?
Q. I was sort of seeing this guy from uni and although we get on really well and have a good connection i could tell he had doubts. He said he was scared of getting into a relationship but then he would continue to be encouraging and flirty/romantic ...
A. 2 February 2010: Is he a numb skull? Most people who are in or are going to be in a relationship somday if it lasts that long end up moving in with each other at some point. lol, he's got it all backwards.
Just make it clear with him, and if he does not want it ... (read in full...)
Why do guys confuse women all the time! Come on guys, let me know your thoughts
Q. I am so very much confused. I am in a relationship that is not the greatest and hasnt been for such a long time now. Recently i have been talking to my partners brother a lot as i lean on him a lot for emotional support and he knows this, this has ...
A. 2 February 2010: It's because he likes you and he's experimenting on the type of girl you are by sending these messages. He jokes when he calles you names because he thinks its funny after all the conversations you have that it's still going on. plus its a guys ... (read in full...)
I asked my ex out and I'm not sure if she's interested. Help!
Q. well it's simple. I asked my ex out and i'm not sure if she's interested. Ok my ex broke up with my 6 months ago as of February 5th. yesterday I asked her to go to the movies with me this weekend. At first she said yes, but at the end of the school ...
A. 2 February 2010: your ex is an ex for a reason. i see no future there. if you do start again the same shit will happen again... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to turn a friendship into a relationship?
Q. I have this guy friend who I've known for over a year. We used to be quite close but after a long break of being on holidays and stuff during the summer we didn't get to even text much, although we don't have deep conversations like before, we still ...
A. 2 February 2010: Invite him to dinner for a proper date, dress right up, drink some wine, be seductive and let him know flirtaciously you want to take things with him to another level. And then make a night of it.
Nothing is mysteriously sexier than a woman wh... (read in full...)
I regret dumping him and would do anything to get a second chance.
Q. I'm so confused! I was hanging out at my friends house, and a bunch of people were there, including my boyfriend at the time and one of my ex-boyfriends. It was really strange to hang out with both of them in the same room, and it made me realize ...
A. 2 February 2010: Your ex is your ex for a reason.
Move on from both of them. However, it sounds a bit shallow hearted to dump your recent now ex bf over this. Sorry, but if you have'nt leaned that one, now you know.... (read in full...)
Can friendship turn to a romantic relationship?
Q. Is it possible to be with someone romantically that i have been just friends with for years and have it actually work out?...
A. 2 February 2010: Yes, certianly! Thats how all the greatest love stories begin. With a good solid friendship. love is best when your in love with your best friend.... (read in full...)
He told me he's territorial and doesn't want me hanging out with other guys! What does he mean?
Q. hey i gotta question whats it mean when my boyfriend tells me that he doesn't want me hanging with other guys or really talking to them.....he told me hes territorial...??...
A. 31 January 2010: Tells me he's a very insecure bloke who needs serious help. At least you had a heads up as he told you. So now you have a choice. No mOe friends and possible abuse and/or stresses in future when you do make male friends or say good bye arsehole.
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