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Is something hand made for your boyfriend seen by them as being too mushy?
Q. Is it a good idea to make a hand made gift for your boyfriend? I mean... do guys appreciate stuff like hand made cards/poems/a home made dinner etc for them or is it considered to be too mushy? -_-...
A. 23 October 2010: If you are having a home dinner, wear a nice dress as though you are going out. It helps to make the moment more special and it's not often that we do this anymore, a tradition almost forgotten.
You may both make the dinner together or you can surp... (read in full...)
Does there always have to be an attraction between 2 people for them to have sex?
Q. When two people have sex, there must be some sort of attraction for them both to do it. Yes you can have one nite stands but something must get you both attracted to each othe even if it is only that? ...
A. 19 October 2010: For me I have to be physically attracted to have sex with a woman. I have standards and I won't shag anything that comes along. For me, the sensation depends on how physically attracted I am to the woman. ... (read in full...)
Is it worth sending an apology letter to an ex?
Q. About 3 weeks ago, my g/f suddenly broke up with me. It was done badly - on both sides, and I posted a question about it here. We've stayed NC since our last call, but I'm starting to feel guilty about pushing her into the breakup, as I wa...
A. 19 October 2010: It's nice to write her a letter but be sure it won't be used against you later. If you do write one keep it short and sweet don't babble too much. then finally honestly compliment something you miss about her and tell her you miss her. Leave the ... (read in full...)
Is something hand made for your boyfriend seen by them as being too mushy?
Q. Is it a good idea to make a hand made gift for your boyfriend? I mean... do guys appreciate stuff like hand made cards/poems/a home made dinner etc for them or is it considered to be too mushy? -_-...
A. 19 October 2010: I think a home made dinner is very sexy. But cards and flowers are usually things that men would give to a woman. I think if you do things that are sexy you may get a better response. For most, women are more emotional beings and men are more ... (read in full...)
So torn between two wonderful men
Q. So I have noticed that this is a common issue with women: I am torn between two men. For your sake, I will give you a brief intro to both men and then explain the situation. Man #1: We were officially together for a year and 2 months. We had a...
A. 19 October 2010: This is really simple. You broke it off with man #1 because there was something not right (ie sex) but you love him. Now your with man #2 because the sex is good (but you don't love him ... yet).
Can you see how both men are filling differen... (read in full...)
Do you think a man can be happy with his wife and still cheat on her?
Q. This is a very quick question: do you believe a man who is cheating on his wife but who tells upfront the woman is cheating with that he is in a relationship and "he can't leave her" and, when asked if he is happy, will reply "I think so" ? Is this ...
A. 19 October 2010: I think he just says he thinks so to make you feel better. But when push comes to shove I think he'll just fall back to the wife. Their relationship may be rocky but it's always going to go up and down in a marriage anyway.
Try reducing any oppo... (read in full...)
My husband always watches sex videos how can I make him stop?
Q. hi everyone I have a problem.....I am married. Its been two years. Every thing is cool. Even my sex life too. Here comes the problem my husband always sees sex videos.It makes me feel very bad when he watches sex videos. I want to make him stop se...
A. 19 October 2010: I'd let him know that if he doesn't stop that the old fella won't work later in life. It is said that too much of that can lead to these sorts of symptoms. But he probably won't care anyway. Maybe he has a sex addiction and at least he's not going ... (read in full...)
What does all this serious blushing mean? Does he like me or is he a stalker?
Q. Hello dear cupids I need your help please! There's a guy at work, who I get along very well with and always have. We seem to be making a lot of eye contact with each other and always seem to sort of gravitate towards each other. Lately I ...
A. 19 October 2010: Well he's not a stalker that's for sure. A stalker is someone who gives you unwanted attention. And you are accepting the attention by liking him. A stalker is not someone that does one or a few weird things. Everyone does weird things or makes a ... (read in full...)
Getting over a broken heart... I don't understand what's wrong...
Q. Two years ago, a man moved into my apartment (we had been talking over the phone for a month before he moved to the state and there were already sparks). When he moved in, we were immediately intimate and close and for about 7-8 months we spent all ...
A. 19 October 2010: I think he does love you. But unfortunately what ever he has in his mind the concept of emotional love does not register for him. I think he has not grown up properly and is being, for lack of a better statement, a pussy boy, scared shitless of ... (read in full...)
Simple question on asking someone out.
Q. Hi, just a simple and quick question: If I make an excuse to enter this girls office at work (Any excuse will do) - is it too rash to, after I strike up a conversation, say "Blah, blah, blah.... by the way, I know this is quite out of the blue ...
A. 15 October 2010: No don't say it like that it makes it sound obvious that you want her. Give her a little excitment and mystery. First talk about something that you've been doing like your "blah blah" conversation then ask her what is she doing for lunch. Then ask ... (read in full...)
Sex cyber girlfriend
Q. Hello i'm just wondering is it wrong to have cyber sex with an older woman while i got a girlfriend. i've been cyber sexting her for a while now i masturbate to her this it feels good but am i doing a bad thing here and should i tell my girlfriend ...
A. 15 October 2010: Good on ya mate. I hope everything works out. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I aren't very good at holding long conversations. How can I improve this?
Q. me and my boyfriend arent very good at holding long conversations and i dont know how to change that coz i dont want a relationship thats just physical...and isnt meaningful. how can i improve this?...
A. 18 July 2010: There are two types of love. Love that is chemical and very sexual and exciting called 'Phisical or Chemical Love', this is what bonds people together in a phisical way. It usually is the beginning of a relationship. It gives you that sexual buzz ... (read in full...)
How to ask her out without ruining our future
Q. Alright my best friend and i ahve been friends for a while now and i have recently fallen in love with her. She knows that i love her, because i tell her all the time. I cant stop thinking about her and even when i sleep i literally dreams about ...
A. 29 June 2010: It all depends on how much it is worth. Is she the absolute perfect woman for you? Would she make you really happy? It really depends on how much you want the object of desire. The thing is at least now she knows right? So you've done the right ... (read in full...)
Regretting an awkward text!
Q. Hello, right, I recently came out of a rather abusive long term relationship. Just as the end (a few months ago) I met a man who I have now met up with a few times. He has textedit me every at since we met and has always seemed keen, sometime...
A. 28 June 2010: I wouldn't worry about it. Don't regret a thing you said. just accept it and move on.
If it doesn't feel right then it probably is wrong anyway. ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me while he looks for someone more local to be with?
Q. I'm in a very long distance relationship and I'm starting to panic ! We talk for hours during the week. Its always "I love you so much, you're so perfect, I want to marry you" 24/7 were in contact. When the weekend comes however, he vanishes. He ...
A. 26 June 2010: It's possible although he has genuine feelings for you, he could be two timing you. But the thing is how will you prove this? Wanna know? Just turn up one weekend as a surprise visit. if he's flustered and confused that you turned up and has some ... (read in full...)
Why don't I love him? Help!
Q. My bf is hot,cute and honest and loves me like hell. And here is the turning point. I dont love him. Why why why wont any one love some one like that? And thats why i broke up. But he still loves me and i still think why dont i love him? I want to ...
A. 25 June 2010: Meet up with him and let him know you want to be friends. It shows you like him enough to stay in contact with him. but if you say that you want to be friends make sure you will be friends and I he calls you be their for him and likewise for you. If ... (read in full...)
If he likes me, why's he so quiet?
Q. Hello my question is pretty simple. I have a friend and all my friends from the way hes behaved are sure he likes me. The thing is he doesnt speak to me much, sometimes he will and others he wont so they cant tell whether hes generally shy or...
A. 25 June 2010: What's wrong with quiet? Why would you want to go yourt with a raging party outrageous lunatic? That could be totally tiring and exhausting!
He's probably just a little more mature than others and is just taking things slowly. ... (read in full...)
Why don't I love him? Help!
Q. My bf is hot,cute and honest and loves me like hell. And here is the turning point. I dont love him. Why why why wont any one love some one like that? And thats why i broke up. But he still loves me and i still think why dont i love him? I want to ...
A. 24 June 2010: I think this has alot to do with your expectations of who you want to settle down with someday. Back in your mind this guy who loves you currently does not fit that description or has the qualities you want or desire or find sexy and loving.
reall... (read in full...)
I love two guys who should I pick?
Q. *OP's Original Title* wll i have been dating my best friend for 4 months now and i can say that i love him so but i have been liking this guy for two years and he beraly let out his true feelings for me i have been hanging out with him often an...
A. 24 June 2010: It's straight in front of you ... Your best friend. The greatest love is the love with your best friend that is the person you will want to spend the rest of your life with. The one you want to marry, because your are both so compatible, that's why ... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to stop being so emotional about money and our finances??
Q. My husband gets very emotional when it comes to finances. He's not very good with handling money - he doesn't spend excessively, he just doesn't focus on how much he has and doesn't make plans or schedules. He's been this way for as long as I can ...
A. 24 June 2010: I would focus on a good family budget where you set goals and allowances for certian types of things such as the things you and he would like to do. A good application is Microsoft Money it will also help you to achieve long term financial goals and ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have wise words regarding shattered confidence?
Q. I feel so rubbish and hope someone can cheer me up.. I have had an on-off relationship with a guy for about 5 years now. Our relationship has been very intense, but he always runs away and comes back again. We recently got back in touch again ...
A. 23 June 2010: He's acknowleding that you are a great woman, at the same times he's saying that he won't/can't/ or never will love you the way you want him to love you. I know you need this but really you do deserve a person who's not going to throw your heart ... (read in full...)
Sex cyber girlfriend
Q. Hello i'm just wondering is it wrong to have cyber sex with an older woman while i got a girlfriend. i've been cyber sexting her for a while now i masturbate to her this it feels good but am i doing a bad thing here and should i tell my girlfriend ...
A. 23 June 2010: It's cheating ... Cheating = adulterous: not faithful to a spouse or lover; "adulterous husbands and wives"; "a two-timing boyfriend"
Cheating does not have to include phisical contact it could be as simple as being decietful or secretiv... (read in full...)
A girl has a crush on my husband. Should I be worried?
Q. Well I soooo need help in this issue I have. My husband and I were having a great morning he walked into the living room to play with the kids and hid phone was right next to me in the bed then a text rolled in I looked at the phone becaues are frie...
A. 23 June 2010: Do you trust him? it seems as though that's slipping a bit here. I would call her back an quickly tell her to piss off and do it front of your husband. Of he gets a bit agitated then maybe just maybe there could be a reason why but if he's cool with ... (read in full...)
Knowing he got another girl pregnant is ruining my feelings for him!
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating about two years ago. Early on in our relationship, he casually mentioned that his ex-girlfriend of nearly 5 years had aborted his baby. He didn't say it like "My child...I was so devastated," but more like "it was ...
A. 23 June 2010: It's not really a good idea to talk about each others past relationships. It opens a rotten can of worms! I would first make an agreement not to bring up those things.
Secondly, I believe this effects you deep down as a woman abortion can be a ver... (read in full...)
I wonder if she is really busy or just doesn't want to go out with me
Q. MODERATOR"S NOTE: Two questions combined from same asker. first off all this girl is pretty and beautiful but when i ask her out on dates she is always busy. I understand that she is in sports and a lot of more things but im starting to get the feel...
A. 23 June 2010: Take it as it is, she's just busy, if she does not like you she would say "say" something. Girls are different they like a chase for some reason it has something to do with their confidence and the more guys that chase them the better. But what ever ... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this girl who keeps hitting on me?
Q. Where to begin. First I am posting anonymously because the girl that I have an issue with found my post on the user name last time. But my situation from before was that my neighbors are quite close with my family. This has been going on for nea...
A. 23 June 2010: Well you twat, you never mentioned once that you have asked your to stop and that you are not interested in her. Have you actually done that? Or do you just expect it to all go away by "playing hard to get" which is what you are doing. Grow a pair ... (read in full...)
Falsely accused of stalking my ex...
Q. Ok so this is going to be long i apologize in advance. So recently i messaged my ex boyfriend who i hadnt seen in 10 mos. I basically told him i was upset about the way things ended and i wanted to see him and talk a little bit to kind clear up why ...
A. 23 June 2010: I would tell him to get grow up! It is really immature behaviour and anyone who believes it who has not met you personally is also immature. A man does not put up with this bullshit and it's obvious these friends of yours are not men but little ... (read in full...)
Why are my 3 sons so painfully shy?
Q. Do weak ,shy fathers cause their son to be weak and shy? I have 3 sons,and none of them ever had a girlfriend,or not really even a friend. They also have other serious confidence issues,and they are all painfully shy. What is hard in every ...
A. 22 June 2010: No, it could simply be the way they are. These days and modern times because of mediums such as television, print media, and the internet, this allows marketing organizations to pre condition people in a way that the idea of the outgoing, ... (read in full...)
Do women keep it honest or do they have grey areas like men do?
Q. I am really curious and need women to be honest here. I've been dating this girl for about 4 weeks and we are starting to talk about making it exclusive. She's amazing, and I am pretty sure she thinks the same about me. So she asked me the ...
A. 22 June 2010: I don't think you can generalize this. It depends on the person individually.... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him, then said he no longer loved me
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We have a 2 year old child together. A few weeks ago he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes and things were great. Then a few days ago he started acting distant to me and one night he ...
A. 21 June 2010: It's his loss, you deserve better from someone. Move on after you have written the letter and then leave it. Try to spend some with some friends and be yourself for a while.
But I find it weird how he will pay the bills if he's left you and he w... (read in full...)
Finally got a date with her
Q. Hello. Today, the girl that I have liked for almost 4 years agreed to go on a date with me. I don't know if she is just humoring me or what, but I want to be able to show her that I could be a great boyfriend. Can anyone give me some ideas on how I ...
A. 21 June 2010: If she's told you she wants to be friends it means she wants to take it slow with you and is still not sure about you, but she does like you, just not enough yet to develop romantic feelings for you. Dont push her at all, just hang in there and some ... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him, then said he no longer loved me
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We have a 2 year old child together. A few weeks ago he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes and things were great. Then a few days ago he started acting distant to me and one night he ...
A. 20 June 2010: I think you have done your well. He knows you love him but I think just mabey you could reassure him by sending him a hand written letter and tell him how much he means to you and your child. This way you get the chance to express everything you ... (read in full...)
Snap at my friend because I'm jealous
Q. I keep snapping at my friend every time he mentions his girlfriend to me. I have feelings for him, so obviously my reason for snapping is because I am a bit jealous. But when I snap at him, I sometimes really hurt him or make him mad. I need to ...
A. 20 June 2010: You need to tell your friend how you feel. Otherwise you may regret nevertelling him. Even if you lose him at least you know. If you win then good luck.... (read in full...)
He asked me to marry him, then said he no longer loved me
Q. I have been dating a guy for 3 years. We have a 2 year old child together. A few weeks ago he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I said yes and things were great. Then a few days ago he started acting distant to me and one night he ...
A. 20 June 2010: It's very possible that a woman he has met has seriously had an impact on him. On occasions when we finally settle some of us have a person who just mirraculasley walks into our life and when we meet that person it changes everything almost like ... (read in full...)
SOS!! boyfriend VS parents!!!
Q. umm...okay, my bf wants to meet my parents, and we been together for 2 years and 5 months. he really wants meet my parents, because he is serious about our relationship (he is 20 in college already and im 17 still in high school) i'm going to the ...
A. 20 June 2010: Do you really need your parents approval to be with him? Do you love him? if he wants to meet him then allow it. See what happens, why not.
And why don't they like him? Hav they actually met him in person yet? If not then how can they not like... (read in full...)
Saw a teacher at a strip club
Q. hi, im just turned 18 and im a senior in high school. a few weeks ago i went to a strip club for my brothers bacholor party.one of the stripers was 1 of my teachers.who is like 24. durin the last 2 weeks of school since she been given be signs like ...
A. 20 June 2010: Well you could ask her for coffee after work and shout her a drink and tell her how you feel to be sure. She's only a teaching for a couple more weeks right? ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is great, except for her past
Q. I know other people have had similar issues so I'm hoping maybe someone can help and suggest ways to deal with it. My fiancee and I have been together almost a year, she means everything to me and I truly do love her. Anyway, she is the first person ...
A. 20 June 2010: Well who gives a turd If she was with another in the past you twat! She is with you now right? So why worry about something that happened in the past? Stop living in her past and just enjoy being with her now in your present and both your futures! ... (read in full...)
Finally got a date with her
Q. Hello. Today, the girl that I have liked for almost 4 years agreed to go on a date with me. I don't know if she is just humoring me or what, but I want to be able to show her that I could be a great boyfriend. Can anyone give me some ideas on how I ...
A. 20 June 2010: Yes be yourself, mature, don't make foolish jokes. She will take you more seriously that way, and a woman will recognise that your not just a joke but you are actually serious about her. and if she is the love of your life DO NOT play bad boy or ... (read in full...)
We broke up, we keep in touch as I insisted but he treats me badly. Any help?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me 1 month and a half ago. We were both pretty new to dating (he was virgin, not me though because I was engaged before but I rarely saw the guy and the relationship was very abusive) I loved him dearly but I did some stu...
A. 20 June 2010: Analytical does not mean he is a mind game person. But if he plays mind games with you it means, I'm sorry to say, very sick in the mind. With a possible condition.
Understand that when a relationship has ended it's ended that's it. If you brea... (read in full...)
Should I take this guy seriously?
Q. 2 weeks ago I met a guy and we started seeing each other. We are both living in the same country (not our home country). We've been on 4 dates and we both said we like each other. we both agreed not to have sex as it's too early and we don't wa...
A. 20 June 2010: I'd leave it, but it all depends if you want to do the chasing or not. At some point in most relationships there is a persuance either from one or the other. It just depends on how bad you want them and if there worth it.
On the otherhand many blo... (read in full...)
How can I fall in love with a man I've never met?
Q. I have fallen in love with a boy that I met online in Mid March. Never once have we chatted on msn...For the first 3 months of knowing one another was through emails, pages and pages worth of emails... Then we moved onto phone conversations. ...
A. 20 June 2010: It is the act of him turning away from you, once he knew how you felt that makes you want him. if it is what I think it is you are feeling it's known as a type of love called "unrequited love". If this is what is occuring, unrequited love is love ... (read in full...)
How to ask her out without ruining our future
Q. Alright my best friend and i ahve been friends for a while now and i have recently fallen in love with her. She knows that i love her, because i tell her all the time. I cant stop thinking about her and even when i sleep i literally dreams about ...
A. 29 December 2009: tell her exactly what you said here... then see what she thinks. its best to be honest mate.
if it dosent work out or she's not interested in a relationship just achnowledge that and and her feelings then continue being friends. never bring it... (read in full...)
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