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I love a girl from afar and she just ignores me!
Q. Ok so im new to this web and im desperate. Im 13 going on 14 in march. I have liked this girl since second grade. Now that im in 8t grade I fell everyday she keeps slipping away. Shes dating people more popular and closer to her group and doesnt ...
A. 16 December 2009: Okay, she likes you but she's signalling that she does not want to be with you. She just wants to be friends. When a girl says your not her type this means nothing to you because all you'll do and 99% of other guys will do is try to figure out a way ... (read in full...)
How can I make him hate her and love me instead???
Q. i am sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend that he cannot sleep with because of her religion. Anyways i am confused. people have told me that he is playing me and i think he is. he has said some really hurtful things to me like he loves her but ...
A. 12 December 2009: ahhhaaaa! Yeah just do it and you will see what goes around comes around ... I can see this totally backfiring on you. or if you tear them apart oneday it'll totaly happen to you or something that you wont like.
He loves her, not you, and your... (read in full...)
My cheatin' man has eyes for my man eatin' friend!
Q. hi i am having some relationship issues here is my problem He did it again he wants to talk to her again but i fear her might fall for her again like last time and if he does i will be heart broken and i love him to death i fell in love with this ...
A. 12 December 2009: Obviously youve had a bad past so far with him, he's cheated on you before and you've basically given him permission to do it gain by sticking around. Your loyalty is great but he's abusing it.
Are you truly happy? If not then its time to get happ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he's tired of me
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend says he's tired of me. He says he doesn't know if he wants to break up or not. Our latest fight was about my insecurity... I have terrible insecurities about my body, and he knows, and he added some "hot" girls ...
A. 12 December 2009: LOL he's so weird girl. He needs to wake up and stop living in the past himself. now you've obviously moved on from YOUR past but he has not from YOUR past.
To tell you here, he's creating the drama by continually regurgitating up YOUR past. it... (read in full...)
I have to initiate all physical contact, and even then he sometimes wont respond!
Q. Hi. My boyfriend is 3 years older than me, and we've been together for just 4 months? Thing is, he really loves me, as I can feel it. We hold hands and stuff. But, when it comes to hugging or kissing, he doesn't really like to do it in the public ...
A. 12 December 2009: how long have you been dating/together?
This is really unusual but it could be that you might be his first intimate lover, he's gay but does not know it himself, he's just not that into you; or possibly that he has another girl but if she sees him... (read in full...)
I want to get back together, he wants to be casual and not rush
Q. My ex and I broke up about a year ago due to just being tired (especially him) from arguments, etc..and other issues.. no one cheated, there was alot of love i think.. we did not have contact because he knows I can't be friends with him and he knows ...
A. 12 December 2009: Oh mate I couldnt be bothered with that.... no don't stop being who you are. I don't see your doing anything wrong your just doing what's right for you, but babe unfortunatley this bloke is not for you. The right one will want you just as much as ... (read in full...)
We broke up and he has a new girl, but he knows I am still in love with him
Q. me and my ex broke up almost a year ago, and since then have remained really good friends, he told me that if i changed my attitude and was the girl he fell in love with again i would be hard to resist, we talk all the time (i live with him, for ...
A. 12 December 2009: I know your a really nice person and you want everything to just be sweet and simple and to make both you and him happy. But sweety, he has just clearly displayed to you that he disrespects you and does not care for the fact you and he broke up and ... (read in full...)
A guy I dated between his prison sentences wants to go out with me again, but I don't know if I should or not
Q. I dated a guy for several months and he broke up with me cause he went to prison and then we dated again after he got out but he went back for 2 years and then we where friends for a while but he went back again. He wonts to go back out wit...
A. 12 December 2009: For now i'll say no.
c'mon you can do better than that. Your still quite young. later in life you'll be kickin yourself really hard. dunno what he was in for but that depends alot on this:
if its something really stupid like not paying a few... (read in full...)
I am living the American Dream, so why am I not happy?
Q. My husband and I have been together for six years, since we were twenty-three; married for two years. I'm currently pregnant with our first child, a son. Both my husband and I grew up decently. The most "worse-off" either of us have ever been w...
A. 12 December 2009: Have you done anything in the past or do you constantly think of a repetitave thought that keeps bringing you down or feeling this way? I wish to know what you are thinking when you feel down. Once we know this we have identified the problem and ... (read in full...)
I love her and I just want to be with her, but how to let her know!
Q. I'm in love with my best friend and i love her but want whats happiest for her and idk how to tell her i love her. i don't want to make it awkward because i know she likes me but i love her and i just wanna be with her...
A. 12 December 2009: If you love her. tell her. Really its straight to the point and gets everything out. You may lose her she may confess that she does too and you both live happily ever after.
On the contrary if you never see her again after saying these words ho... (read in full...)
I love a girl from afar and she just ignores me!
Q. Ok so im new to this web and im desperate. Im 13 going on 14 in march. I have liked this girl since second grade. Now that im in 8t grade I fell everyday she keeps slipping away. Shes dating people more popular and closer to her group and doesnt ...
A. 12 December 2009: Does she know you like her? Have you ever given the obvious signals that you do?
It seems to me she already knows you like her. The best thing in can say is keep hangin in there, but dont spill your beans just yet.
Does she achknoledge you ... (read in full...)
Is he just using me if he doesn't want to marry me?
Q. I have been with this man for going on three years,he shows me in many ways that he truely loves me,but he wont marry me or even make plans,he just tells me we cant aford it.that makes me think all he wants is a clean house to come home to and ...
A. 10 December 2009: Why do you have to get married to be happy with him? I understand that it would be a dream come true but marriage is only something we are brought up to believe is a way of confirmation of our love between one and other. In law you are living ... (read in full...)
Why do people like to inflict pain on me?
Q. I've always wondered this and it's getting worse by the months. More and more people tend to be horrible to me and i don't know why. Is it because of the person i am? Or what? People like to afflict pain on me. Why? For example, one of my friend...
A. 10 December 2009: In light of what others have said here and knowing these were only your examples I gather there are other situations too could you please elaborate some more on this situation. Please feel free to PM me.
I feel there is a connection with this thr... (read in full...)
I want us to remain friends but also let him know I do not love him!
Q. hi I know you can help me! I am a lady who has a friend who thinks that I am his wife to be. That's great but I honestly have no feelings at all for him. I am not even attracted! But he's kind, understanding and supportive. The first problem is t...
A. 10 December 2009: Firstly I don't mean to sound tough herebut try not to let money or making ends meet get in the way of a possible true love. He might have difficulty now but later things could be much better for him. It's still a tough time for the world after the ... (read in full...)
Should I sign my christmas card to my boyfriend with "love from"? We havent said "I love you" to each other yet!
Q. This probably sounds like a silly question but should I sign my christmas card to my bf 'love from...' or leave the love part out? The thing is we have been together in a relationship for 7 months now and havent said "I love you", so im not sure ...
A. 10 December 2009: Why not? If you love him say it. Who cares it's love. Most people fo experience it. And if he freaks out what does they tell you? Do what your heart says everyone has the right to say I love you withought regret.
Think of it like this. We only liv... (read in full...)
Is this what relationships are about, or am I being taken for granted?
Q. I've been with this guy for 6 years. I stood by his side through thick and thin, I put up with things that I would never have. Ok lately in the past year our relationship has crumbled, he's been totally emotionally abusive towards me. He claims ...
A. 10 December 2009: This is my guess here but you know there is the craze where guys are starting to play bad boy right? I'm affraid you've fallen victim to it and your partner has become corrupt by it. Can you see that in him? I started to laugh about it when they ... (read in full...)
Any ideas on how I can lose weight?
Q. I really want to lose weight! In high school I was in such great shape, but now it's been 3 years since I've been out and I gained quite a bit of weight. So my question is are there any ideas you all could give me on how to lose weight? Thanks ...
A. 10 December 2009: Eat a well balanced diet with the right portions (not too much not too little) see a nutritionist for more details on this in your local area.
Combine that with daily excersize by joining a gym and if you can get a personal trainer (find a person... (read in full...)
Calling all males, can you tell if a girl likes you?
Q. Right. Simple question, more complicated answers I guess. I've read lots of times on here before that men and all males in general are rubbish at noticing signs that a girl likes them. Apparently they have no clue until they're told. I know girls te...
A. 9 December 2009: One thing im certinaly aware of and to make it simple here, is that men are black and white like a newspaper, there's no fuzzy grey stuff in between. Men like yes or no answers plain simple cut straigh to the point. But like all humans we have ... (read in full...)
Calling all males, can you tell if a girl likes you?
Q. Right. Simple question, more complicated answers I guess. I've read lots of times on here before that men and all males in general are rubbish at noticing signs that a girl likes them. Apparently they have no clue until they're told. I know girls te...
A. 9 December 2009: One thing im certinaly aware of and to make it simple here, is that men are black and white like a newspaper, there's no fuzzy grey stuff in between. Men like yes or no answers plain simple cut straigh to the point. But like all humans we have ... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight for my wedding in March?
Q. Hello ! I was wondering if someone could get me a 11 days meal plan on calorie switching diet.I tried to go on the net ,but they just want to sell it. So I need to lose weight for my wedding in march. I appreciate any help. ...
A. 7 December 2009: I would recomend going to the gym an having an appointmen with a personal trainer that will also help with diet. You will need to train everyday untill march and if you stick to it you will get your results.
It will be one of the most difficul... (read in full...)
Why does he keep on breaking up with me and coming back within weeks?
Q. i have had the same boyfriend for a yr and half. he has broken up w/ four times!!! and returns w/ in weeks ....anyone can tell me why??? ...
A. 7 December 2009: Deep down it could either be that he does not like something about you thus he breaks up. Or that he wants you to chase him or both
He thinks that being with you for a little while may help you to fall in love with him then he beaks up with you... (read in full...)
Should I marry him?
Q. I made a rash decision to have a baby girl with a man whom I dont love, but he loves me very much. He is 10 years older than me, and at a point in life where he wants to start a family. I don't love him, but I want my daughter to have a family. ...
A. 7 December 2009: Yes, If you truly dont love him, then do not make yourself unhappy. Eventually it will catch up on you.
The things that make life worth living cannot be bought... They must be felt.
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How will I know if I'm 'in love' with him?
Q. Hey guys, i'm really confused. Ive been with my boyfriend for about a year in a half. Weve broken up about 3 times and have gotten back together. We broke up because we werent sure if we wanted to have a long distance relationship bec...
A. 7 December 2009: Hey firstly I think you love him if it was the idea of him, well he wouldn't really be interested so that would create only an idea. That friend I'm sorry sounds to be confusing you, is it another guy?
Being in love is when you both genuinly... (read in full...)
I don't feel like 'oh my god I did it' or anything like that... is something wrong with me?
Q. I’m 27 and the other week had sex for the first time. I’m not religious so I wasn’t waiting for marriage, I just didn’t find the right guy to sleep with while I was dating…and in the past guys left me because I wouldn’t give in to sex early on in ...
A. 7 December 2009: Everything was just fine. Most importantly you were comfortable about it and that just makes it better.
But know you do not have to be religious to wait till marrage. Some research indicates that "the first one" creates a special unified type of ... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me?
Q. Hey guys, I know I've asked this question before but now with a few more leads. I think he has caught onto me used to liking him so he has been giving out the same signs aswell lately. I can't bare to look at him during class anymore because ...
A. 28 April 2009: Another good way is if you can: Find another love interest around your own age at your school. if your school is co-ed then it should make things clear to the teacher also.
Don't feel bad about it, I think this sort of thing happens to alot of ... (read in full...)
Sex CAN be beautiful!
Q. I have made love with 3 of my ex-boyfirneds and my current bf. I was amazed by how romantic and gentle and beautiful sex could be. all my exbfs were virgins and sex with them was boring, tiring (I had to move from the beginning to the end and I am...
A. 28 April 2009: I personally think that sex (Making love) with somebody you love, loves you or even better both love each other is far more pleasing in the bedroom than just having sex with somebody who your not in love with.
I too have had the same experien... (read in full...)
He keeps staring at me! What's going on in his mind?
Q. Hi. I think this guy likes me. We have never talked before but he always looks at me constantly. Whenever I walk past he will just stare at me until i look at him, and then he'll look away. He doesn't do it to any other girls except me. He tries to ...
A. 28 April 2009: It all delends of you like him, and him looking at you or not. DO YOU?
Ask him. But its either: He likes you or; he does not like you. So go ask him and find out. just say: "Why you keep looing at me all the time - its kinda creepy?" or "Why are... (read in full...)
What does "Friends with Benefits" mean?
Q. Hello, i was talking to my ex-boyfriend, and he said we can be friends. im fine with that.He also said we could be friends with benifits. What did he mean? thank you....
A. 28 April 2009: yep, below is true. Friends with benifits are also people (in your case) boys who just want to have you in their little black book. Thats not to say he wont have feelings for you he will when he wants to be with you. It just means there wont be a ... (read in full...)
I am tearing my hair out trying to understand him!
Q. Help please I'm in a relationship with a guy but he is so hard to read when it comes to his feelings that i am always tearing my hair out trying to understand him. He always txts me in the morning but today he was late so i sent him a txt that said ...
A. 27 April 2009: Your not obsessing. You are simply starting to over-analyse the situation. don't worry about him, just take it easy.
What ever you do, try not to take anything non face to face to seriously its almost always incorrect in the feelings you will rec... (read in full...)
Does my teacher have feelings for me?
Q. Hey guys, I know I've asked this question before but now with a few more leads. I think he has caught onto me used to liking him so he has been giving out the same signs aswell lately. I can't bare to look at him during class anymore because ...
A. 25 April 2009: Yes, based on the psychology of the body language you described and the body comment he said to you its highly likley he has sexual interst in you. But as you know his professional situation is his concern.... (read in full...)
In Love with 15 year old guy and I'm 13
Q. Dear Cupid, I really like this guy, he's a gentleman to every girl and he knows who i am the only thing is that he's 2 years older than me!, and i believe that age doesn't matter but he's in my sisters grade see, I'm 13 and he's 15. I've tried to...
A. 25 April 2009: This happened to me almost exactly the same when I was 15. Just tell him. At least you will get your answer or to lessen the burden ask a friend of his if he is interested, make sure its somebody you could generally trust.
If word gets out just... (read in full...)
In a foreign country; the only person I can lean on is drifting away from me!
Q. So I'm in a really bad place right now. I'm 24, and when I left university, I taught English abroad to make money and met a Canadian guy who I really fell in love with. Long story short we stuck together from then on and I eventually came to Canada ...
A. 25 April 2009: One of the true great challenges in life is one you are facing now. True love defies all obsticales and I know even though you feel there is no love there or it is fading away, know that it is not, that it is only beeing blinded by the financial ... (read in full...)
Why don't I fancy him? He's Perfect!
Q. Im so inlove with my boyfriend ,he is the sweetest kindest most loving person there is . He absolutly adores me .. we have been going out for three years now .. sounds blissful doesnt it? everyone envys my handsome loving boyfriend ,he is really ...
A. 24 April 2009:
We can love people, but we can also fall out of love. Especially when we are growing and learning about the world. For men, the first love is magical, It's all heart, and the sex is fully emotional and all, so its likley why its really great for ... (read in full...)
My horrific past is haunting me
Q. For a year I went out with my bf who abused me really badly, not only physically but emotionally and sexually (in which he raped me). I broke it off with him, so I guess hes always had anger towards me for that. For atleast a year after the b...
A. 24 April 2009: Hello,
Firstly, he’s a real looser! Someday he’ll meet his match, what goes around comes around. And It’s good that you have found the strength in yourself to leave in the first place. There are women in very similar situations as you once wer... (read in full...)
I always think that if I hold on a little bit more she would love me again, but nothing's happening..
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. At first were were having fun and I can see that she loves me as much as I love her but now things got a little bad for me. She told me about this guy that she was talking with on the inte...
A. 9 April 2009: What a crappy girlfriend... you deserve much better from somebody, i know you must feel for her and this situation but if you can find it in yourself somewhere that you may need to prepare yourself to move on it would help you greatly.
Ive h... (read in full...)
I always think that if I hold on a little bit more she would love me again, but nothing's happening..
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. At first were were having fun and I can see that she loves me as much as I love her but now things got a little bad for me. She told me about this guy that she was talking with on the inte...
A. 2 April 2009: Mate that does not work. As i said you need to tell her, and if she wants to be with you then be with you - not some other guy. just say something like: "Look, your my girlfriend right?" She'll say yes. Then say "Its not normal, nor hardly mature if ... (read in full...)
How do you get over someone you love?
Q. how do you get over someone you love? she was my first love and its hard cause i think about her all the time and all the memories we had and theres been alot cause we were together for 2 years. im not trying to forget her or trying to stop thinking ...
A. 30 March 2009: Ill tell you the secret and it actually works for me.
You'll have to do somthing a little daring. Be honest with yourself and ask do you really love her... Really have a good think about it because the next part will take some real guts.
... (read in full...)
How can you tell he likes you?
Q. Hi everybody, I absolutely need to know this. I know this might sound really pathetic. If a boy doesn't tell you that he likes you, then how do you tell? Please be gentle because I am new to the whole boys-liking-me thing. Thanks. (Mod Note: Pl...
A. 29 March 2009: Simply by the communication. If hes talking to you and its positive and sweet talk then he genuinly likes you.... (read in full...)
Tips for having sex with a taller woman
Q. I am on the short side and have been dating a woman who is taller than I am. I don’t think the differences in our heights should be a reason for us not to have sex. Any tips for having sex with a taller woman? What positions work well? ...
A. 29 March 2009: To answer your question one of the best positions with a taller woman is when shes on top, so long as she likes that and you do too. The reason is, well to be honest, is that her breasts are right there in front of you to play with.
Im not shor... (read in full...)
Ex suddenly very affectionate..never was in the past!
Q. my ex boyfriend was at the same party as me last week ... when i see him i usually have a convo with him cos im still friendly with him even thou he broke my heart .. after stuff that he told my best mate i decided i had enough of making an ...
A. 29 March 2009: Sound like he was already an affectionate person before but wasn't really sure about you until he lost you.
Firstly, it's very questionable how he calls you only asking straight out for a "root" durins SMS's can you see how because you love him... (read in full...)
I asked my b/f to marry me and he said "I don't know"
Q. i feel as though i may have made the worst mistake in my life. i have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year and i have never felt the way i do with him with anyone else and i have a ton of exboyfriends. i asked him to marry be because i ...
A. 29 March 2009: Yes, ask him why have a good chat about it and then make your decision from there.
Traditionally, as you know a guy asks a girl, but girls asking is on the increase. the good thing about that is it allows her to not beat around the bush with a g... (read in full...)
LDR and I have so many doubts about his love for me
Q. I wish you could all give me a little advice, and tell me what you think. I am 30 years old and I've been in a LDR for about 4 years. My bf and I have been through some really ups and down. We have had fight about the distance, trust, dishonesty, ...
A. 29 March 2009: Yes, you see he's simply keeping you hooked on his line. this means he does not show you much interest or say he loves you even though he might do so. he makes you perceive he's chasing another girl to make you "think" he's not interested in you all ... (read in full...)
I always think that if I hold on a little bit more she would love me again, but nothing's happening..
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. At first were were having fun and I can see that she loves me as much as I love her but now things got a little bad for me. She told me about this guy that she was talking with on the inte...
A. 24 March 2009: Id tell her to get ... If your her boyfriend, and she told you of another guy who's more mature and all that crap then what the hell is she doing being with you... ?
Mate if she's so mature she wouldnt be checking out other guys on the internet... (read in full...)
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