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Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 6 January 2009: I will take it a little further. You know, I really HATE gold diggers!!!! Im not sure if thats what she is or that you kept giving all the time. I'm smart enough to rid these off because I know exactly what they want (most of my generation has ... (read in full...)
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 2 January 2009: I'd get it over with now rather than wait till your contract finishes - and that's for the sake of the children. Give her the house in the Phillipines and that's it - sometimes you make a loss but its up to you. The children will feel more pain than ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily. Hubby has a low libido, womanizer is older but has an enormous libido. I've always known the womanizer would find someone else, and looked forward to that day. ...
A. 2 January 2009: Interesting: In reply to men jacking off - imagination - Its a natural aphrodisiac. Have you ever cought him jacking off before? I'm pretty sure he would be. I wonder what it is that pushes his sexual buttons, there has to be something!
To me... (read in full...)
She's always wearing pyjamas when you go to her house, does this mean she just thinks of me as a friend?
Q. I am soon going to stay around a girl's house for four days, we have talk about sexual activities. And every day I take a picture of her and wank over her. ...
A. 28 December 2008: Just do what I explained in the last post:
It still may be waiting for approval but follow this link:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/if-a-girl-that-youre-interested-is-always.html... (read in full...)
How to make friends?
Q. Ok so I've been so very lonely for the past 5 years because since 2003 I still don't have a single friend.. I do have many friends back in China but when I come here in Ireland things change.. I don't know what's the problem.. I dont want to be a ...
A. 28 December 2008: It will change at college... But if you wanna make some now just ask someone to go do somthing like a movie or to hang out at your place or go to the shops. it's that simple.
if your question has more in depth please explain the details.... (read in full...)
If a girl that you're interested is always wearing pyjamas when you go to her house, does she just think of you as a friend?
Q. If a girl that you're interested is always wearing pyjamas when you go to her house, does she just think of you as a friend? I'm not talking sexy negligee or lingerie, I'm talking flannel matching top and bottom pajamas. Don't get me wrong, sh...
A. 28 December 2008: All girls I know that are friends wear their pyjamas in their own house because it’s comfortable. It usually means she is very comfortable also around you.
If you really like her just ask her. Otherwise another man will come along and sweep he... (read in full...)
Finding inner peace without God..advise please!
Q. It is a spiritual question, and I hope I can get some opinion. I'm not a religious person on this point, but I wish to reach out for some spiritual answers and help. It is difficult ,as I can't pray to a God I don;t believe in on this point. I ...
A. 28 December 2008: To me the god we are taught to believe in does not really exist. I believe there is a god but the god we know is far more complex to understand than most people could really comprehend: To me life after death exists. But only exists in an ent... (read in full...)
I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily. Hubby has a low libido, womanizer is older but has an enormous libido. I've always known the womanizer would find someone else, and looked forward to that day. ...
A. 28 December 2008: We need to look at more of his feelings now id love to know more about what he is thinking. Just ask him and see what he says. and get back to us, very tough situation but we need more information.
Is he taking any type of support medicati... (read in full...)
How do I let him down gently?
Q. So there is this guy that likes me, alot. but i just dont feel the same way about him. i just dont have the heart to tell him. he is so sweet, and really a cool friend. but honestly i dont see us having a relationship ever. he is the friend type of ...
A. 26 December 2008: Excellent question!! You will need to sit him down look him in the eye and tell him you just don't feel the same way. If you say you want to be friends you will need to maintain that too. Otherwise don't bother being his friend or it will get worse. ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my math teacher?
Q. Hey, you have probley heard of thousands of teenage girls saying this, and you are probley tired of it by now. Yet, i think i have fallen for my maths teacher. I'm 15 and I'm a year 11 student at a school in the UK. My maths teacher is 30 (so only ...
A. 26 December 2008: Your not immature love can strike at any age. You just have to let it pass you by try the tricks I explained in my earlier post. Eventually it will pass.
This type of love is the equivalent of falling for someone who does not love you back lik... (read in full...)
Should I call him back?
Q. Hi all,well this guy said 4 me to call him but he wasn't home and I was so nervous I forgot to tell his mom to tell him I called so should I call him back ...
A. 26 December 2008: Yeah sure just take it easy no worries and just say that you forgot to tell who called but you may gave left it for more than day 24 hours by the time you get this message. So just call back anyway and say that it was you who called yesterday and ... (read in full...)
I think masturbating is affecting my health
Q. I am 22 yr old..but just 45 kg..i am masturbating once or twice in a week..i think it is affecting my health..But i cant control it..What should I do?...
A. 26 December 2008: I know many men and young people that have done it at least once a day for a year. I've read an article once in mens health that said regular masterbation can reduce the chances of prostate cancer. ... (read in full...)
Too old for a first boyfriend
Q. is 30 years old too old for a first boyfriend and first kiss,i know i am pathetic...
A. 26 December 2008: Your not pathetic. It's beautiful. and no it's never to old. :)... (read in full...)
Penis bigger than usual..why?
Q. Alright so I'm wondering if anyone can explain this. A few days ago I was having sex with my girlfriend, it was the first time I'd seen her in a little while so I was pretty pent up. Anyways, she kept going on about it being bigger than usua...
A. 26 December 2008: Environment and temperature has known to be a good cause for growth, Summer and winter have different effects as you get older, summer being the peak for size. Though everyone is different.
try remembering what you did around those days, what did... (read in full...)
I think she is cheating but it's weird..
Q. Ok I am in a bit of a problem and not sure how to handle this, I am not new to the dating game but this is one of the more complex problems I have had. We will start from when we first met, I met my girlfriend online one year ago (a few days ago ...
A. 25 December 2008: Look mate I only read half of that but I'd just say wake up smell the #%¥* roses and tell her your not dumb and if she wants to not give you any attention any more then it's over and ask get to leave or leave yourself. She's just ducking you around ... (read in full...)
We said we love each other--confused
Q. I told my boyfriend that I love him and I think I said it a little early. then he wrote this beautiful poem and wanted me to figure out that he loved me back. then he wanted to say it to me in person. and he did, it was cute. problem is... we don't ...
A. 25 December 2008: You should never feel the fear of love there is no fear it is the most beautiful thing. Plus romanticism is making a massive comeback while bad boy/bad girl is becommong ever more unfashionable.
Enjoy it you are very lucky to both experien... (read in full...)
What time shall I put the turkey in the oven?
Q. What time shall I put the turkey in the oven. My husband say's 10.00 but I say it don't need to go in till 11.00. The turkey is 10lbs and needs to be ready for 12.00. Please help. He says this is the final straw if the Christmas dinner is spoilt. ...
A. 25 December 2008: I hate blokes like that. How slack to treat you like a bloody slave. I'd dump any man instantly on the spot for imposing such old fashioned and out dated rules on me, if I was a woman. You are a human being. If he can't forgive and keeps making you ... (read in full...)
What to do to make him last longer in bed?
Q. My boyfriend doesn't last very long when we have sex, a few minutes max! and it's over so quick i don't get anything from it. We are still in the early stages of the relationship and i was wondering if there was anything i could do to make him last ...
A. 25 December 2008: If your into this go down on him untill he climaxes. Then have him go down on you untill you reach a high to maximum pleasure then after that get on top of him and, well, ride it out. Or; Have him be on top giving the love to you.
I know this is ... (read in full...)
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?
Q. I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family. Recently I was on the internet and went to Yahoo mail. My Filipina wife’s Yahoo email came up on the screen because she had forgotten to log off her email when leaving the ...
A. 25 December 2008: Mate I agree with the last poster. You will never truly know what happened but it's extreamly strange how she ran off and disapeared for a few days. I would NEVER do such a thing if I were married either.
I think you have a lot of thinking... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend have been talking about having a threesome.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been talking about having a threesome. neither one of us know where to start. Any suggestions on where we can we go and find a person (female) that will be willing to join our threesome? We live in Boston....
A. 25 December 2008: Firstly see if he would be willing to try with a guy. It's hardly fair if it goes one way. You'll need to knownecause someday you'll most linley want to go the other way too when 'you' get tired of ffm. You will need to find a bi girl or guy. Joi... (read in full...)
Penis size opinions - help
Q. Hello to everyone. I am about to have sex with my girlfriend and I am really concerned about the size of my penis.It's about 4-4,5 inches in length and about 4,5 inches in girth when erect. I am quite fat for my age (21), about 246 pounds (for BMI...
A. 25 December 2008: Don't worry mate. Most women you be with won't really care about the size. Some do not many but at the end of the day it dosent. I've had this discussion with many men and women and I've found that a woman mainly enjoys the sensual pleasures you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily.
Q. I'm in love with 2 men - my hubby and a single womanizer who pursues me mightily. Hubby has a low libido, womanizer is older but has an enormous libido. I've always known the womanizer would find someone else, and looked forward to that day. ...
A. 25 December 2008: I'd try to take him out to new things each week. Do you remember if there was somthing he used to do for you when you first dated? Somthing symbolically special? Try and bring the spark that you had back. Also take him to the place where you first ... (read in full...)
Should I just bite his neck some more and make him forget I am a virgin?
Q. I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 15. Last weekend I stayed the weekend with him. I'm a virgin and he told me once before that he didn't want to take my virginity away. Well we started making out and I started biting his neck which REALLY turns him on. ...
A. 25 December 2008: Just do the same thing as before but don't remind him that your a virgin. Just let it go smooth. He's a cool guy by actually appoligizing for the attempt. And I can see that he really respects you.. Well you guys are young and under the legal age ... (read in full...)
Is my husband on the down low?
Q. I have been married for 2.5 years and have not had sex for 17 months. I am trying to determine if my husband is on the down low. Does anyone have any signs I can look for? Or help me understand why we have not had sex for 17 months since I have ...
A. 25 December 2008: I have been asked this same question from many women who are very close friends to me. When it came to the truth there were couple of factors:
1. He could potentially be cheating with another woman. This needs to be further investig... (read in full...)
What kind of relationship do you think this is?
Q. I am with this man, we get into fights he has hit me a few times, enough now when he gets to yelling I am in fear of being hit again. I tell him to leave but then find myself missing him and calling him. He does come back this last time he came ...
A. 25 December 2008: he's treating you like a toy. Just move on it's that simple. Emotionally it will be tough though. But try to go out with friends.... (read in full...)
If I don't know how to kiss, my HS Senior won't go out with me!
Q. ok here the thing I am a sophmore and there is this guy that I like but he is senior. So with that being said next fall he is going to college."( In my eyes he tried to get with my sister because he called me and instead he spoke to her on ...
A. 25 December 2008: Get rid of him!!! how unromatic for your first kiss find a guy who will take his time with you and treat you better. What a looser man he's a fool! even if he's hot inside he's not want you want to trot. ... (read in full...)
I feel like he loves his ex more than he loves me.
Q. Hey, i've been with my boyfriend for a year i love him so much and even though he loves me back i still think he feels more strongly for his ex then me and it kills me ... He still talks about her and still keeps a memory box of things they did...
A. 25 December 2008: Yeah I've got gfs that after 10 years I still talk too there just mates though nothing else but it's pretty rare. He must have really loved her if he's keeping all these things about her was she his first love? Funny how she cheated on him three ... (read in full...)
I just don't seem to get as much out of sex unless it's anal. Am I a freak?
Q. Sometimes I wonder if I'm normal. Hi I'm 25 and Having a bit of a problem. It's just that during sex I actually find it more pleasurable when something is being done anally to me. Even masturbating I go back there as it feels amazing. It's been ...
A. 25 December 2008: I love bi girls they are the most lovley people. No your not a freak for enjoying anal it's cool. I'm a guy I don't like recieving it but I don't mind giving to a girl, it comes down to individual preference. That girl that dumped you was just an ... (read in full...)
I'm so nervous he won't like my christmas gift !
Q. So it's christmas eve everyone. For my boyfriend I bouqht him this qold and silver watch [by the way I'm fifteen and so is he]. I think it's cute but I'm nervous and scared because I don't know if he will. I mean, this is my first christmas with a ...
A. 25 December 2008: Don't worry mate :) if he dosent like it he's a fool and kidding him self. What a great gift I'd be totally stoked if I got a watch from my missis! You did well.... (read in full...)
How important is it if a guy has no friends. Not a party animal and doesn't drink?
Q. He's 26! How important is it if a guy has no friends. Not a party animal.. doesn't drink. And his last relationship was (2) years. ago. Is that a warning sign that he can't be in a long-term relationship with someone? Great guy but I have my doubts ...
A. 25 December 2008: He's a great guy but maybey he's sort of over the party seen now some guys do it all between 18 and 23 then realize there's a whole lot more than just getting hammered and trashed all the time.
Maybey be dosent like the friends anymore he was once... (read in full...)
Is this long distance friendship becoming a relationship?
Q. Well, I've been having a long distance friendship with this guy I met 2 years ago in a delivery I made at his office (US airbase). He happened to left shortly after that, so I decided to contacted him and since then emails have been sent. Firs...
A. 24 December 2008: Ask him if that he seems to be showing quite some interest in you and you're just wondering why. A simple way to get an idea. Be playfull and jokey / flirty about it so you feel more comfortable about it and can easily move away if it's a negati... (read in full...)
Her friend is in town and now she's blowing me off - how do I make her miss me?
Q. Well I have been dating a someone special to me nearly 2 months now, but recently within the last 3 weeks we have been more intimate.(sexually and emotionally) But recently her friend came in town to visit for the holidays and I been feeling like ...
A. 24 December 2008: Merry Christmas! Firstly forget about all the star sign stuff you can't read anyones mind. Just give it time. she wants to hang with her friend and you will scare her off off you call every day in this circumstance. Just give her space and s... (read in full...)
Can women and men just be friends?
Q. does anyone think men and women can just be friends?...
A. 24 December 2008: Oscar wild was a very famous a still loved poet, a man that stull pulls the ladies by droves to his grave in Paris where it is tradition toi kiss his grave because of the words he said:
Between men and women there is no friendship possible... (read in full...)
Any advice on this guy that just broke up with his girlfriend?
Q. this guy i like just finished with his gf last night iv liked him for ages and hes always seemed to flirt with me last night he told my pal about his break up then how he liked me she told him to tell me cos i like him to but he said he di...
A. 24 December 2008: go for it. just ask. what have you got to lose? think about it. but remember its pretty slack dating a bloke straight after a relationship. plus be carfull he might be on the rebound and once he finds out what your like and he dosent like somthin ... (read in full...)
Midlife crisis or the end of a relationship?
Q. Is it possible to love someone but be repulsed by them sexually and continually dream of a life without them? Could this just be a midlife crisis or does it signify the end of a relationship? ...
A. 24 December 2008: the end of a relationship... if your married then i am a believer in giving absolutley everything you've got 100% every single time, for if you do this you can oneday walk away with no regrets.
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My boyfriend is not demonstrative, should I cool it?
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend. We have been dating for two years now. I love him very much, but he does not show that he reciprocates that love. My boyfriend claims not to be very "verbal." I, on the other hand, like to call him and send him...
A. 23 December 2008: Just be who you are, take it easy thats all dont get cought up in any games and think too much it will distroy it all.
If thats the way you are then thats the way you are,in the example when he was with his ex in your follow up post.
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He's flirty with other girls but could it be me that he wants?
Q. I've been seeing a boy for some months now. I really like him. I think i he likes me too, but I don't know if it is more than friends. When we see each other in group with our friends, the other girls are flirting with him and he laughs much with ...
A. 23 December 2008: nah, its more than likley he likes you, guys and girls do this to make you want him them more.. unless he's doing it without noticing, therefore he really is not interested... the challenge is trying to figure which one it is.
1) The Player: ... (read in full...)
Are there any support groups for females like me?
Q. my husband and i are thinking about including another female in our relationship. is there anyone that this has worked for? every thing i have ever heard or read the husband leaves the wife for the new female. also are there any support groups for ...
A. 23 December 2008: i agree with britt429 in the first sentence. 3-way is never ment to last but it could if you all really loved each other. I've said this many times before... find out of he would be willing to do it in a MMF (male, male, female) not FFM (fe... (read in full...)
Should I be sad he didn't invite me?
Q. its a tough situation but guys and gals i really need ur help!! im desperate :(...ive been with my bf for 4months now.but we know eacher other 4over a year now and we both liked each other long beofre we officially got together. i mustsay that we ...
A. 23 December 2008: what a load of bull! if hes your man, then you should be able to talk to him when ever you like you are between 18 and 21 your an adult now.. if your parent and his parent are laying that on you its because they are insecure about your social life ... (read in full...)
Engaged to an alcoholic- how do I leave?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 years, engaged for 1 year. I've always known he had a dependancy for booze, but recently it's hit ludicrous levels - depression, won't take medication, won't go to work, out drinking for 12 hour sessions. ...
A. 23 December 2008: Write him a letter, it will be very hard... Tell him you will always love him very much but you dont want this in your man. tell him you want to see him succeed and build his life, tell him all the things you want that he can set as a goal ie: a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is becoming more sarcastic and causing problems!
Q. Hi, ive been with my boyf for nearly 16 months, were both 16. Were always talking about our future, had all our "firsts" together and my family adore him. Lately, in front of my mum, hes becoming more sarcastic to everything i say, arguing over sil...
A. 23 December 2008: for lack of a better word tell him he's tring to be a "wankface" another term for an attempt to be a 'bad boy' any way its outa fashion now and he's fallin into the game trap that messes and corrupts the mind of style and class.
You may have to ... (read in full...)
Feeling paranoid, please help!
Q. Hey i have been going out with my new girlfriend for nearly 3 weeks now but I'm feeling incredibly paranoid. I always think she is messing around behind my back. My ex girlfriend cheated on me once and i was with her for 2 years and i keep thinking ...
A. 23 December 2008: Talk to her about it in your own time. Don't make it to dnm (deep and meaningfull) just be a man and talk to her about how you feel. be honest and tell her about your past experiences
Look her in the eyes and see if she looks into your eyes, if... (read in full...)
Anal sex: How do you make it pain-free?
Q. My girlfriend and I have had sex once before but she doesn't want to risk getting pregnant since we know condoms don't always work. Do to circumstance we are unable to obtain any other kind of birth control. So she asked me if I'd be willing to have ...
A. 23 December 2008: Just go see a doctor in your own time. That's bull @^%$ if you can't get the right protective gear and get on with it... don't fool yourself. lube is easy to get just see a doctor. or ask her to go on the pill, your an adult bro!... (read in full...)
Does acne make me too ugly to get a girlfriend?
Q. I got two questions. One,wot are da qualities that girls look for in a guy? I am 19 . Still single. So pls,help me out. Two,i had lots of acne.so i have some spots on my face,not that much visible .but is it way too much ugly to have spots on face?...
A. 23 December 2008: Always dress smart, speak at the best manner, don't always try to talk gangsterish around a girl, there not one of the boys, there a lady, they have class! you wanna look your best and by just trying, it shows that you take pride in your self and ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my math teacher?
Q. Hey, you have probley heard of thousands of teenage girls saying this, and you are probley tired of it by now. Yet, i think i have fallen for my maths teacher. I'm 15 and I'm a year 11 student at a school in the UK. My maths teacher is 30 (so only ...
A. 23 December 2008: Yes I understand... Are there any other math clases you can transfer to? If yes go to that class and get your mind off him. If not consider leaving that school and go to a new one. The new school will have new guys... c'mon isnt there one guy... (read in full...)
Fallen for my math teacher?
Q. Hey, you have probley heard of thousands of teenage girls saying this, and you are probley tired of it by now. Yet, i think i have fallen for my maths teacher. I'm 15 and I'm a year 11 student at a school in the UK. My maths teacher is 30 (so only ...
A. 22 December 2008: Unfortunaltey theres really nothing you can do... Ive been there done that when i was 14 i loved this beautiful French teacher i fell in love with her.
If you genuily love him then maybe its best if you walk away and if you can, don't go to his c... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not demonstrative, should I cool it?
Q. I have a problem with my boyfriend. We have been dating for two years now. I love him very much, but he does not show that he reciprocates that love. My boyfriend claims not to be very "verbal." I, on the other hand, like to call him and send him...
A. 22 December 2008: To cut a long story short. its only human nature to keep the chase alive. This is a form of you chasing him and he's keeping the chase alive by not replying. Basicly it seems as though he knows how to keep a woman on the chase but is poor at the ... (read in full...)
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