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writes:I am female and in a loving relationship. Me and my man both admit that we watch porn (to one and other, not our grandmother or anything). We have a very active sex life, and have lots of variety with what we do. So my question is i guess, would it be good to watch porn together once, just to try it, or would it be cringey? I am especially interested in men's perspectives on it. And, how would i set up the situation?
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Soft porn (R18+) is a way to explore different position and fetishes and is usually the preferred style for couples to explore their fantasies. Hard porn (XXX) is just a way for a bloke or a woman to release the pressure in a lonley situation if you know what I mean.
Thats it.
If its the positions and styles your looking for google the "Karma Sutra" thers heaps of video's and books about it too.
good luck :)
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reader, Aech135  +, writes (9 January 2009):
 Go for it. I doubt he'll mind it and you both will probably enjoy it unless it's going to make you uncomfortable to watch it with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2009): Continue just as you've been doing. A relationship where you can talk honestly about things you like, without feeling embarrassed or ashamed is a relationship which holds intimacy and truth highly.You've both talked about what you like. Try to watch some mild pornography together, you could even set it up as a lesson, commenting on the positions you prefer, or things that disgust you which doesn't turn you on.There isn't actually a need to watch pornography together, sometimes people find it embarrassing and interferes with the sex routine you have already developed, of course sometimes it can help.I suggest you take things carefully, you might actually offend each other with your likes and dislikes. Be carefully about how you bring the things you see into your bedroom. You may find that you only do the wilder stuff and the loving tenderness you had before gets lost. So make sure that romantic kisses, ordinary sex positions still play a part. Balance, communication and consent work best. You sound like your in a loving relationship, there is no hurry, just take things slow. Make sure if you feel uncomfortable at any time, you ask for the shared appreciation of pornography to stop, and go back to what you were doing before. Good luck, be careful and considerate and have fun.
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