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Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 23 February 2009: How do you know he's not playing you???
You were going well untill you replied after he sent you the first email. I would have ignored him right then - as you already sent him your goodbye letter and were beginning to clear your mind. Now you just... (read in full...)
What was this wet spot on his pants?
Q. While my boyfriend and I were messing around the other night; like heavy petting and stuff; he got wet down there. It was after he'd been rubbing my boobs for a while, he stopped and just grabbed his dick. All our clothes were still on, he had just ...
A. 10 February 2009: Somtimes, yes it comes that much, it is often called "premature ejeculation" but he must be very into you both physically and emotionally. it is also a psychological problem if it persists too much. He is highly sensitive to you. As you both become ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel, even though we live in different cities, or just let it go?
Q. During my last summer job (in another city), I met a nice girl who I ended up being friends with. After the job I moved back for school and still talk to her to her occasionally online. But I've also had a crush on her but never told her how I feel ...
A. 28 January 2009: I'd make a really good attempt to go see her in person. spend the day with her and near the end of the day see how you feel about there then. If you sense that it's strong from her as well I'd so one of these:
1) just take a moment look in her e... (read in full...)
Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 17 January 2009: H diorNY,
What he wants (you being in his life) could be very hard on you in the future. Sometimes it's better to take a break entirely from the situation and give it some time and space. Id be inclined to slightly distance yourself from him a li... (read in full...)
Problematic friend...
Q. Hi, I had this funny curious episode. A guy added me on facebook. As a rule I don't accept friend request from strangers and he was not my type but I chatted a bit and I liked him. Then after reading his profile and finding him to be a regular ...
A. 14 January 2009: I think that you should have called him when he gave you the signal. It's not always up to the guy to do the chasing. Heaps of girls have the initiative to take action if they REALLY want to be with that guy. He most likely would have seen it "oh ... (read in full...)
What should I do about this mystery caller?
Q. Hallo, i think u can help. I am a single guy of 19. Um so shy n introvert. Had never been in a relationship before. Well da thing is for last two weeks i ve been getting friendship texts n miss calls from an unknown number. I did never reply cause ...
A. 14 January 2009: Make friends with her as she wishes. And ask to meet in person first. No use developing a relationship on a phone then when you meet her she's not what you expect or your simply not attracted to her.
face-to-face communication is best.
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Am I just being too clingy in my head? Is this normal?
Q. I am trying not to be clingy and so far so good. I have been with him for about 9 months. What I don't get are two things. The first thing is we have not had that relationship discussion yet I have heard him call me "my girl" on the phone... What ...
A. 14 January 2009: Hi,
That information is much better, mabey it would have been good to post that in the first place. As I see fit you have nothing to worry about with him at all. The only thing is he does. He needs to make more of a comitment to fulfill your nee... (read in full...)
Can someone truly be forgiven?
Q. I had a one night stand while in a relationship. It wasn't planned and in no way could be considered an emotional betrayal. The following morning, having realized what I had done and what I stood to lose, I confessed. Fortunately for me, my ...
A. 14 January 2009: That is true love!
But id just be sure that he never ever uses it against you ever. Id let him know that you feel very bad about it and that you appreciate him forgiving you very much and that it is very rare that he has. but you need to make it ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to see/date/sleep with other girls.
Q. My girlfriend wants me to see/date/sleep with other girls. She says she wants me to be sure that I want to be with her, and that she doesn't want to restrict me or drive me away by being jealous or possessive. I love her and want to be with her ...
A. 14 January 2009: Mate, My first thought is honestly I see this as a way out for her, as soon as you do it she'll be off with a guy she's probably been eyeing for a while - a way to make herself feel better. And honesty this is a load of crap!!! How old is she. 16? ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves me but he still loves his psycho ex!
Q. My boyfriend loves me but he still loves his psycho ex! I don't know how to get rid of her. What should I do? My boyfriend doesn't want to give up one of us, he doesn't even want me to give up on him but how can I get him give up his ex?...
A. 14 January 2009: Hi blacklily,
This is one of those cases where it's you or her. He's still in a massive comfort zone with her and only time and distance will break this, but if they are communication then this is very unfair on you. If so you deserve much bet... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt one girl and the other not talk to me...
Q. Hey, I recently met these two girls Sam and Sky, when we first met I hit it off with Sam really well but now when the 3 of us are together I get mixed signals. One minute Sam is flirting with me and the next day Sky is, I'm 16 and get really ...
A. 14 January 2009: Hey mate,
You do have two main options:
1) You need to talk to Sam and just ask her out. Or kiss her everything else will follow. But if you don't want to actually say the words or go in for the kiss, It will take longer and make it easier o... (read in full...)
Am I just being too clingy in my head? Is this normal?
Q. I am trying not to be clingy and so far so good. I have been with him for about 9 months. What I don't get are two things. The first thing is we have not had that relationship discussion yet I have heard him call me "my girl" on the phone... What ...
A. 14 January 2009: Hi jodie_marie27,
Firstly, your not being clingy. Some partners like to have a very casual relationship. But have you guys ever made it clear to each other that you are together or not? Have you ever been out, both of you together with your fri... (read in full...)
Cure for insomnia?
Q. I just want natural cures for Insomnia. I have not slept in days! I've been going through this since I was a young child. I'm in the Nursing field, and I've asked fellow co-workers and students, they all telling me to pop a pill. I refuse to fi...
A. 13 January 2009: Try old black and white movies on the telly with nice volume, they have a relaxing way of making you doze off. Don't put tv on it has ads, just a classic movie should do the trick. Close your eyes and relax.... (read in full...)
Is he shy? Or only like me as a friend
Q. I was friends with this guy and he asked me to go to the movies with him, so i did and we had a great time. At that point i thought that we were just hanging out as friends. But then he asked me to come to his place and he cooked me dinner... After ...
A. 13 January 2009: How perfect! He's doing just the right thing by building a good solid friendship with you first. So then the love builds, and as it does it will become stronger, this is the way it should always be. Enjoy! and let it grow ;)... (read in full...)
Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 13 January 2009: Great! just hang in there okay. So he might trust you again and he wants to get back with you, you know he still loves you he just can't say it. Maybe he's just afraid of being hurt or somthing but I can tell you now he loves you very much, he's ... (read in full...)
Trust him... or trust him not?
Q. Hey. Well, Story goes my current boyfriend and I have been dating for a real long time and I still don't trust him. He cheated on me once. He was a real player. But that was years ago. A few years later we got back together. (now dating for a yea...
A. 13 January 2009: Well I believe you are in love, your never too young to feel love. But, there are some question as you pointed out. If your not sure about him you need to talk to him and ask him about that fling he had in the past, you need to let him know how much ... (read in full...)
I find myself verbally reminding myself 'I don't love him/I don't love you'...
Q. Hiya. I've been secretly in love with my male friend for six years and recently he got a GF and didn't tell me and when found I out I was soo hurt. It felt like voltage going through me. So then and there I decided to stop being madly in love with ...
A. 13 January 2009: Well, im in a similar situation. i love a woman so much that i just cant bring it to myself to tell her. she's the one golden fish in the sea, the one that is so unique you can't let go. Like you with your love.
What i did was to get over it i bui... (read in full...)
I was let down badly by people in the past and find the idea of letting someone in terrifying.
Q. I guess I have a problem I'm just not sure what I'm doing wrong. Basically I've never had a boyfriend and I'm now 25. I'm not bad looking, I get on with guys really well and I know they're interested because people tell me, but I never get asked ...
A. 13 January 2009: Hello, Im sorry to hear about that. The best suggestion I can make for you, is to make good friends with these guys, if you make friends first let it grow into something over time, even if you like one let it grow untill he says something to you. Go ... (read in full...)
Should men chat to other women online?
Q. Me and my boyfriend just recently broke up after being together for the past year becuase of his Myspace account. I knew he had one when we first got together and I told him then that I didn't like it. He has over 1500 people on it and their mainly ...
A. 13 January 2009: Don't care back! You're way better than that!
Be strong :)... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy gets so protective of his phone..??
Q. When he gets a phone call he goes out of the room... even though I can hear that it's his friend's voice, a male's voice... he looks at me to see if I am listening and then goes out of the room.. What is up with that? I don't question him about ...
A. 13 January 2009: I agree with all the ladies in this thread!
Also, there is some site you can go to and pay like $70 or somthing and its a service that tap's into all his communication including SMS, conversations everything!!! Can't remember the name of it but t... (read in full...)
Should men chat to other women online?
Q. Me and my boyfriend just recently broke up after being together for the past year becuase of his Myspace account. I knew he had one when we first got together and I told him then that I didn't like it. He has over 1500 people on it and their mainly ...
A. 13 January 2009: Maybe, but you will never know. It sound as though he had a lack of communication with you and not giving you the peace of mind you needed to hear from him in the first place. he's left you on the edge it seems.
Another thing is: Dont bother p... (read in full...)
I don't want to lose what we had because of what I did...
Q. My gf and I have just split up after 5 1/2 months. I'm 16 and she's 15 and we're the most serious partners we're ever had for each other. We broke up becuz I wanted to have sex and she didn't want to. Actually she told me no and I said ok then she ...
A. 13 January 2009: It sounds like the damage has been done mate. But if you want to win her back chase her with a bunch of flowers and tell your your really really sorry and get on your knee, even at school sometimes you have to make an imbarrasement to win her back ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has erection troubles and viagara doesn't work..how can I help him?
Q. My boyfriend is 57 yrs old and has trouble keeping an erection so penetration is impossible. He becomes so frustrated and upset and feels sorry for me. He satisfies me in so many other ways. I love him so very much and tell him that we can use a ...
A. 12 January 2009: Thats great idea! exercise will certainly help in some way , id stick to what the doctor says now in fact ask the doctor if he should start swimming too, its better to get this advice from his doctor.
Other than that just keep working on him, i'm... (read in full...)
What was this wet spot on his pants?
Q. While my boyfriend and I were messing around the other night; like heavy petting and stuff; he got wet down there. It was after he'd been rubbing my boobs for a while, he stopped and just grabbed his dick. All our clothes were still on, he had just ...
A. 12 January 2009: Wow you must have really turned him on! Well done!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has erection troubles and viagara doesn't work..how can I help him?
Q. My boyfriend is 57 yrs old and has trouble keeping an erection so penetration is impossible. He becomes so frustrated and upset and feels sorry for me. He satisfies me in so many other ways. I love him so very much and tell him that we can use a ...
A. 12 January 2009: Have you tried caressing him and talking (dirty) in his ear for a while. The imagination is a great tool for this. Try getting him into a state of thought where he's completely relaxed and you can work on him for a while.
Haver you tried this? I ... (read in full...)
Who do you think is in the wrong... Shelby or Nick?
Q. sorry this is going to be so long. these 2 people "shelby" and "nick" a while back hooked up, while "nick" had a girlfriend. Now this is there Msn, conversation, who is in the wrong, Shelby or Nick? (these are my friends by the way.) Nic say...
A. 12 January 2009: Nic sounds like a bit of a knob! because obviously all he wants is a root! But Shelby drilled him a bit too hard and he probably responded irrationally.
I'm tipping more towards Nic being wrong. He had some pretty careless replies.
Interes... (read in full...)
Why don't I have ANY close friends?
Q. I dont get it. I mean Im in my second year of college and have absolutely no one I can regularly hang out with. I had a best friend last year but we had a falling out and she moved away. I know this group of girls, nice girls but whenever I go over ...
A. 12 January 2009: Hey why don't you make friends with the guy in the first post (below) thats a start. Secondly invite one girl over to your house to hang out start out like that eventually she will either bring her friends into your small group or you will be ... (read in full...)
His age is messing with my head.
Q. I met this guy at a bar, sort of a friend of a friend, and I spent the night talking to him and having a great time. Afterwards, though, I found out ... I'm five+ years older than him. He's 23; I just turned 29. Is this sketchy? We've been email...
A. 12 January 2009: A Cougar is over 40 and a Kitten is under 40 and no your not a cougar by a long shot. Anyway, there is nothing wrong with it, if you really like him go for it, just see him for a while to see what happens. Have fun and enjoy. But if your guy friends ... (read in full...)
Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 12 January 2009: Okay, at the end of the day you still sent them regardless of drinking or under any influence. To answer your question: Yes I would, if I truly loved you, love works in these ways but id be a little careful about you, you would need to do a lot of ... (read in full...)
Is she over reacting?
Q. I have been very stress out with planning my wedding, my work and my family life. So sex have the last thing on my mind. My fiance and me haven`t had sex in 3 weeks because I haven`t really been up to it lately. One night my fiance and me were going ...
A. 12 January 2009: Not really, based on her career means she heavily relies on her beauty/attractiveness to win clients/jobs etc. In a similar sense she's feeling, yes, a little less attractive now because you don't want to "make love" with her. if she was an office ... (read in full...)
In love but hugely sexually incompatable - what to do!?
Q. I am a 25 year old gay man in a very loving and committed relationship of four years. Everything is perfect except for the fact that I have the strongest of desires to have sex at least every day while my boyfriend would be happy with once a week...
A. 12 January 2009: It's very common in a relationship for one of the partners to lose the sexual desire. This is caused usually by the person settling quicker than the other (your partner for example). Another aspect is the that you have a far higher sex drive than ... (read in full...)
Help, is there more to it or am I making something out of nothing?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, and we both love each other a lot. However ever since I started being with him he has been very protective over me. I have a facebook account and added someone I knew from school, he got annoyed ...
A. 11 January 2009: Okay, you need to toughen up here: id say "Hey you know your being a bit obsessive, and I don't like it, its pissing me off and I just want you to cool down and take it easy okay?". then rehiterate with him and say: "Everything is ok with us, and ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel, even though we live in different cities, or just let it go?
Q. During my last summer job (in another city), I met a nice girl who I ended up being friends with. After the job I moved back for school and still talk to her to her occasionally online. But I've also had a crush on her but never told her how I feel ...
A. 11 January 2009: If you've built a good solid friendship with her and you really like her a lot take the next step and tell her you like her and your feelings (try to tell her in person). If you really like her, its worth knowing that you gave it a try otherwise you ... (read in full...)
Please do not judge me. I only ask for advice or help.
Q. I just turned 16 and whenever I masturbate, I can only climax if I think about women and having sex with women, but when I am not masturbating, all I can think about is men. I love actors, and I fantasize about actors practically all day and I get ...
A. 11 January 2009: It's only natural your most likley going through a phase of discovering your own sexuality. Most likley the reason why you fantisise about women is becasue you have most experience understanding female pleasures because you are a woman yourself. ... (read in full...)
15 and extremely curious...
Q. I'm actually 15 and extremely curious about sex. Most of the questions are meant for females but males can help as well. 1)Where does a female get the most pleasure? 2)Making Love Vs. Just Sex? 3)What do you consider a large penis? 4)What ...
A. 11 January 2009: Your questions are a little to generalistic, you will never know these things untill you experience it all for yourself you will need to learn, make your own mistakes and successes. Only then you can identify your qualities, this takes years.
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Choked during sex...was it wrong of him??
Q. I've been with my overly passionate, subtle and lovely boyfriend for some time now. He's not very spontanous, everything seems like a walk in the park... and almost routine. Last night we had sex. And he started choking me towards the end out of the ...
A. 11 January 2009: Really it's up to you. But id ask him to be a bit gentle on you and not go "too" hard, there are lots of fetishes like this one that people have during sex. Some people love it, some freak out. So its all up to you. Give him a warning to be a little ... (read in full...)
I don't like the way my mom is acting with her online guy
Q. My mom met this guy online and she really likes him but I dont agree with the way she acts. They only talk on the phone. To make herself look like a busy woman she lies constantly that she goes to all these parties and she went shopping. It angers ...
A. 11 January 2009: Id either just yell out hey MUM! when she's on the phone she might wake up and take a little notice. it sound your being a little neglected. its a little irresponsible of her but at the same time she probably wants someone to love and someone to ... (read in full...)
Not sure how to initiate sex?
Q. i'm going to see a female friend. She wants me to stay few nights with her. I would love us to have sex but do not know how to initiate it. Any ideas on slow signs don't want to be straight up or ask her at all. How can i lead things on? And make ...
A. 11 January 2009: Watch a nice romantic movie I recommend "The Notebook". Sit close to her making sure you can touch her, start to caress her hand or wrist when you can or when it feels right, don't wait till the movie has finished. Then when the time is right look ... (read in full...)
What kind of topics do girls like to discuss?
Q. i have a very close female friend. We talk alot, how do i talk to her on a personal level. We talk at least once every 2days and phone conversations last 1-2hours each time. I just want to get closer to her by talking about everything. I don't know ...
A. 11 January 2009: What ever your talking about for two hours is already the right thing.dont think to much about it mate but some great topics are:
Art, science, the stars, romance, philosophy, shopping, holidays, the future. Just to name a few.... (read in full...)
Am I making the right decision?
Q. I have a husband for over 9 years and he was a drinker before and I knew he smokes weed, I told him to stop doing it and he did but he smokes when I am not around. He drinks and he finds reasons for little things he is mad if we gotta go to the ...
A. 11 January 2009: I also agree with RCN, you can't change what he already is only he can do that.
If you want a baby, I'm sorry to say but you must know your chances are becoming slimmer as time goes on. If you want to try go for it, but if you did have a child ev... (read in full...)
What should I do about my boyfriend?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for about 9 months now but I've known him for 2 years! and I love being with him, I love him so much I think about him all the time!! He lives 20 miles away from me but we still see each other a lot :D 4-5 ...
A. 11 January 2009: Believe him at first but be cautious at the moment. One of your friends yeah, might have seen him with another girl. But doing what? just talking in the street? There's nothing wrong with something like that! id ask your friend telling you these ... (read in full...)
She thinks we are just friends but I want to take this to the next step...any advice?
Q. I met this girl in my college 3 months ago in Canada. She now travels to Japan and study. But we still ongoing keep in touch. We wrote email for each other everyday. We have great conversation. We get along very well. We share a lot common. And I ...
A. 11 January 2009: Id let her come to you. if she 'thinks' you are "just friends" and you want more do things a little extra for her, eventually she will realize you like her more than friends even if you don't say anything, she will know. believe me mate!
Organ... (read in full...)
Why is does my ex keep calling so much if I'm just his friend?
Q. Hi, I was trying to keep a friendship with my ex bf (he broke it off) but it was just too emotionally draining. I still wanna be with him and love him, but he said he doesn't want a relationship at all right now, or maybe never. He gives me mixed ...
A. 11 January 2009: No, this will have a good chance in distroying the relationship entirely. The reason a he broke it off with you, I don't know what they are, but he has done it.
Many people break up realizing they just want to be friends but the common mistake ... (read in full...)
Am I paranoid here...or is he cheating on me?
Q. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 3 months. We have had our ups and down, but who hasn't. I love his guy a whole lot. But, lately, things haven't been adding up. His sister is telling me stuff about him that I rather not have known, ...
A. 11 January 2009: Just be sincere in a conversation by asking him straight out. If you are sincere enough he will most likley comfort you and probably say everything is ok. If he gets heated it's a good sign he's up to something. But it might not necesarally be ... (read in full...)
My Bf' is 15 and is having erection problems! Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 15. We have had sex once before. (Please dont post anything saying im to young,im being very responsible and i love him and know what im doing) The bad thing is that tonight, we were going to do it again but he couldnt ...
A. 11 January 2009: No, this seems to be a psychological problem. How long has it been happening? It could very well be he's thinking of somthing, he could be nervous about somthing else in the relationship. But I'd start by seeing a doctor. There should be some tests ... (read in full...)
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