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Oh well some don't like my thoughts. Got a few poor ratings there, anyway ive made many people happy too. Honestly, i wont tell you what you want to hear ill tell you what i believe.

Mind you please keep in mind this is not advice im giving you they are mearly my thoughts, feelings, and impressions I feel when reading and answering your questions.

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I always think that if I hold on a little bit more she would love me again, but nothing's happening..

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. At first were were having fun and I can see that she loves me as much as I love her but now things got a little bad for me. She told me about this guy that she was talking with on the inte...

A.   9 April 2009: What a crappy girlfriend... you deserve much better from somebody, i know you must feel for her and this situation but if you can find it in yourself somewhere that you may need to prepare yourself to move on it would help you greatly. Ive h... (read in full...)

I always think that if I hold on a little bit more she would love me again, but nothing's happening..

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. At first were were having fun and I can see that she loves me as much as I love her but now things got a little bad for me. She told me about this guy that she was talking with on the inte...

A.   2 April 2009: Mate that does not work. As i said you need to tell her, and if she wants to be with you then be with you - not some other guy. just say something like: "Look, your my girlfriend right?" She'll say yes. Then say "Its not normal, nor hardly mature if ... (read in full...)

LDR and I have so many doubts about his love for me

Q.   I wish you could all give me a little advice, and tell me what you think. I am 30 years old and I've been in a LDR for about 4 years. My bf and I have been through some really ups and down. We have had fight about the distance, trust, dishonesty, ...

A.   29 March 2009: Yes, you see he's simply keeping you hooked on his line. this means he does not show you much interest or say he loves you even though he might do so. he makes you perceive he's chasing another girl to make you "think" he's not interested in you all ... (read in full...)

How many positions during sex?

Q.   Quick poll/survey/whatever you want to call it: How many positions do you like to go through during sex?...

A.   29 March 2009: 4... (read in full...)

Will she want to go out with me again?

Q.   hi well my ex that i loved with everything i had (but i dont anymore only a lil) and i broke up um about a week or two ago and she told me to stop textin her so i did and we havent talked for like a week. the last time we broke up she told me the ...

A.   29 March 2009: It sounds as though, although she might genuinely love you or have feelings for you, you seem to be a place holder. meaning when she finds another love interest she will dump you or stop communication, so she can make herself available and so she ... (read in full...)

Just want to be friends...

Q.   Sigh...well here it goes... This girl at my school asked me if I liked her while we were txting and I said ya cuz I really do! Anyways before I even asked her out she told me she just wants to be friends... That was like a month ago and now she comp...

A.   29 March 2009: Why does she think your annoying? have you been trying to get her attention too much? At least your talking and having a bit of a convo, thats a good start. What do her friends say?... (read in full...)

I always think that if I hold on a little bit more she would love me again, but nothing's happening..

Q.   My girlfriend and I have been dating for almost a year now. At first were were having fun and I can see that she loves me as much as I love her but now things got a little bad for me. She told me about this guy that she was talking with on the inte...

A.   24 March 2009: Id tell her to get ... If your her boyfriend, and she told you of another guy who's more mature and all that crap then what the hell is she doing being with you... ? Mate if she's so mature she wouldnt be checking out other guys on the internet... (read in full...)

Just want to be friends...

Q.   Sigh...well here it goes... This girl at my school asked me if I liked her while we were txting and I said ya cuz I really do! Anyways before I even asked her out she told me she just wants to be friends... That was like a month ago and now she comp...

A.   24 March 2009: There's really no way unfortunatley. So its better and far easier to move on. Communication is the key to all relationships, and she's making the effort to cut it short or cut it completley. Therefore she does not want to be your friend. Or she's... (read in full...)

Do good guys come last when you are choosing who you want to go out with?

Q.   This is a question for the women of all ages cos I want to know what each generation of women think. I am a kind, considerate guy. I always treat girls like they deserve. I don't want you to think I'm big headed or perfect cos I know I'm not. On...

A.   19 March 2009: Depends if he's smart or dumb. I'm a good guy and if I want that girl ill go first leaving mr bad behind - I know how to treat a lady, protect her, nurture her. And if i see what i really want ill go for her - i have confidence in myself. plus i ... (read in full...)

What kind of woman/girl would you go for?

Q.   For a while now, every guy that I have seemed to like is interested in that stick thin, big boobed, blonde haired type, and seeing as I am a size 10/12 [in UK sizes] brunette, I just wondered.... this is one for the guys, but women feel free to ...

A.   19 March 2009: This is my scoop on things: Person Someone down to earth, must be in it for the love, and not the toys, (us guys can see fake women from a mile, but honestly, do sometimes play dumb when a hot beauty comes along, only to enjoy the sex. But tha... (read in full...)

Do men have a forgiving nature?

Q.   do guys have forgiven nature or not.guy said i was rotten to him years ago and he still mad me for it.and i said sorry and i didn,t mean to hurt his feelings.but i really didn,t .but i though he was making fun of me,i didn,t even know he liked me ...

A.   14 March 2009: I really feel sorry for some women because all there lives they have met men who are so crule in the end and that's all they come to know. A girlfriend of mine actually thought that was normal so she started doing it herself to guys when the rela... (read in full...)

My boyfriend checks out other women all the time, how can I get him to stop?

Q.   my boyf is constantly pointing out the hotness of other women. at first when we met i laughed it off but it's really starting to hurt my feelings. i'm not an especially jealous person, i dont care about him saying some actress is hot or anything but ...

A.   13 March 2009: Thats shitty! What a slacker! Id put it in his face and say well what are you wating for? go tell her not me then! Or just take the time to tell him you don't like it and you dont wanna hear it any more. Alot of guys just say it because they ... (read in full...)

How can I make this weekend special?

Q.   Me and my bf have been going out just over a month (was a month on monday) :). I've always had a little thing for him aswell. Anyways... We spend the weekends round each others houses (he lives an hours bus ride away, but we both go to the same c...

A.   12 March 2009: Yep thats right you dont have too make love but you asked for something different or nice. And love making IS nice.... (read in full...)

Interested in an older woman... how can I find out more about her past sex life?

Q.   I have been friends with an older woman for a while now. I am interested in moving out of the friendship zone and become lovers with her. How should I let her know this? Any tips for telling her this? She is what I call a “beautiful” woma...

A.   4 March 2009: Yep don't ask. One of the top rules: never ask a woman about her past. Just go with the flow and don't let it blow. ... (read in full...)

Need to hear from people who have broken up with their first love and re-connected after many years?

Q.   Has anyone broken up with their first real love only to get back together for good later on in life? I love him with all my heart and Im finding it possible that my heart keeps breaking more and more every day he's not here. its been seven months ...

A.   4 March 2009: Let her go and tell her you'd like to see how she is in a few years. Just let her know she was your first love then move on. Try to leave on good terms. My first love is now one of my best friends. We did not see each other for about 6 or 7 years ... (read in full...)

How can I make this weekend special?

Q.   Me and my bf have been going out just over a month (was a month on monday) :). I've always had a little thing for him aswell. Anyways... We spend the weekends round each others houses (he lives an hours bus ride away, but we both go to the same c...

A.   4 March 2009: To make it special or remembered you would have to do something out of the ordinary. Are you wanting to make love with him? Will it be your first time with him? What so what do you really want to achieve? Say if you did want to make love with him... (read in full...)

My ex has got back in touch saying he wants to be really good friends with me... Why???

Q.   My ex boyfriend never did care about me. He lied, went behind my back seeing other girls, complained to his friends about me - about how he did't want to be with me. After more than one year of not being in a relationship and treating me rather ...

A.   4 March 2009: Did he take some time away after the break up? If so this is a good step he as taken but you may need more time to evaluate if you want to be friends with him. Establishing friendship after a breakup and a prolongued period of time that gives you ... (read in full...)

Do men have a forgiving nature?

Q.   do guys have forgiven nature or not.guy said i was rotten to him years ago and he still mad me for it.and i said sorry and i didn,t mean to hurt his feelings.but i really didn,t .but i though he was making fun of me,i didn,t even know he liked me ...

A.   4 March 2009:  Of course we do. Why is he making you feel so bad? to call him and keep making you feel guilty??? so you feel obliged to speak to him all the time? sounds like he could be using it as a way to lead you on kind of like hooking a fish on a line befo... (read in full...)

I fall in love very easily!

Q.   I have a problem. I fall in love very easily and normally is unconditional. In that aspect no other woman catches my eye. Now I did it again but, she does not feel the same. Therefore my question is how can I stop falling so quickly. That way when I ...

A.   2 March 2009: Mate I just would like to share a bit of light here: True love is not always reciprocated. True Love is when one loves another weather that person loves them or not in return for all the qualities that that person has. someone does not have to love ... (read in full...)

I feel a break up coming on and am trying to determine exactly why?

Q.   My wife and I have been together for 5 years now and almost married for two, and have a 3 year old daughter. Our relationship started out as your fairy tale love at first sight and I even played the night in shining armor so to speak when her and ...

A.   2 March 2009: Yes, I too agree with most of what Gina says. However we need to take it one step further for you. You see it is common that people do fall out of love its a normal part of life and from what im gathering here if shes genuine it seems as though s... (read in full...)

Does his attentiveness and effort mean anything in terms of his interest in me?

Q.   I met a guy online and he just asked me out. We went to the same college years ago so I know he’s not some strange old man :) We’ve been emailing for just over 2 weeks and I've seen load of pictures of him. He’s very attentive to what I say and r...

A.   2 March 2009: I agree partly with the below poster but I can tell you a man would only go out with you for three reasons one, yes, for sex or two for a relationship or not rarly but very often both! - guys will certianly keep a girl if she's great in the bedroom ... (read in full...)

Help settle an argument!

Q.   My boyfriend and I are having an argument about cheating. No neither of us is but we can't agree as to what can be defined as cheating. I said that if I made a girl on girl video (hypothetical) but he wasn't allowed to see it BUT I told him about...

A.   2 March 2009: Cheating is where you do somthing with another person in spite or againsed to respective wishes of your lover. heating can be defined not just having sex with another person but also going with someone else that your pertner finds competative. for ... (read in full...)

Fate? Just a really weird coinicidence?

Q.   Almost 1 year ago i called an old boyfriend and another guy answered the phone the new owner of that number and from then until now we are still communicating with each other but we've never met in person the strange thing is i now have strong ...

A.   2 March 2009: Im a believer in Karma, If you do good it will come back to you in kind, if you do bad it will come back and bight you on the arse in some way or another. In other words what goes around comes around, and what comes around goes around. It looks as... (read in full...)

I fall in love very easily!

Q.   I have a problem. I fall in love very easily and normally is unconditional. In that aspect no other woman catches my eye. Now I did it again but, she does not feel the same. Therefore my question is how can I stop falling so quickly. That way when I ...

A.   2 March 2009: I dont think one is able to tell when he or she falls in love it just happens when it does. Consider yourself very lucky to experience this - unfortuatley not many people get to have this gift most peopl only experience once, twice or mabey three ... (read in full...)

Should I ask him or just leave it...?

Q.   I've known this guy for around a year, he randomly added me one night on msn soo we got chatting and it turned out that he lived pretty close to me, in the same city/town. i never trusted people online, with all the stories you hear and stuff, but ...

A.   2 March 2009: likley he will, but for you it could be a little uncomfortabe at first because it will be your first time. Guys usually like to be a girls first so I dont see how it would worry him. 16 to 20 is not that bad its ok. As long as its all legal.... (read in full...)

Are his thoughts as abnormal as he thinks they are?

Q.   My husband and I seperated in January 08. I don't think he really has any problem but I need to support him so I am looking for advice. He has always looked at other women, and I have never had a problem with it, in fact I would point out attrac...

A.   28 February 2009: Hi, This is something im very interested in. Firstly to get to the point of helping him there is a way you can do this but it also asks alot on his part too. The best way for one to begin to love oneself is through ones passions. Passion is the key ... (read in full...)

Should I ask him or just leave it...?

Q.   I've known this guy for around a year, he randomly added me one night on msn soo we got chatting and it turned out that he lived pretty close to me, in the same city/town. i never trusted people online, with all the stories you hear and stuff, but ...

A.   28 February 2009: Definatley ask him it shows your just as interested as he is. Congratulations!! Good luck !... (read in full...)

Crushed!

Q.   I have a crush on one of the popular kids ( to be expeded) we use to be friends and then he found out . now he won't talk to me my friends ask him out for me but he yells no please help...

A.   28 February 2009: yeah your going to have to let this one go. I'd just stop talkin and ask your friends in front of him to stop it too. that way he'll at least see you are trying to keep the friendship going. But it dosent stop there: I'd be inclined to give him ... (read in full...)

How do I get a girl I like to notice me?

Q.   i like this girl can some one give me advice on how to get her to like me? i dont know how to approach her or even have the guts to ask her out im a virgin and have never gone out with a girl before or even kissed one, im such a loser:( everytime ...

A.   27 February 2009: Hey dude, the best way is to be her friend. Friendship is how it all starts. So stop starring and say hi! She's probably wating for you too. Good luck mate! ... (read in full...)

She dumped me and then gets a job at my work!

Q.   What do I do? My girlfriend dumped me less than a week ago. It was a complete shock, she said she loved me and gave no sign of leaving right until the moment she admitted to cheating on me during the last 3-days. It is very painful, I thought I ...

A.   26 February 2009: I also agree with the below poster. At work you will have to remain professional and keep you prsonal life separate otherwise it will get very messy. I suggest kicking some arse and succeeding because cuccess is the best revenge. It will also make ... (read in full...)

What exactly IS flirting and is it okay to flirt when you're in a relationship?

Q.   What exactly is flirting? How would you define it? And do you believe it is ok to flirt with anyone when you are in a relationship? Why/why not? Yes, a very broad, general question I know, I'm just looking for peoples opinions, so I can see h...

A.   25 February 2009: Ok but remember you did not state he was your boyfriend in the original nor any follow up question, these details are crutial for us to give you accurate suggestions. Anyway... The obvious reason why he's not flirting with the less attracti... (read in full...)

If my man watches heaps of Asian girly porn and teen porn, does that mean he would prefer them in real life?

Q.   If my man watches heaps of Asian girly porn and teen porn, does that mean he would prefer them in real life? I have found all this crap on our pc and now when we go out I am seriously paranoid he is perving at asians etc. (although I have...

A.   25 February 2009: Likley yes, if its constantly the same type of person then yes thats the case but also if you can see what tyoe of positions they are, he could just be into the position. he's likley is interested in those type of people because thats what his key ... (read in full...)

What exactly IS flirting and is it okay to flirt when you're in a relationship?

Q.   What exactly is flirting? How would you define it? And do you believe it is ok to flirt with anyone when you are in a relationship? Why/why not? Yes, a very broad, general question I know, I'm just looking for peoples opinions, so I can see h...

A.   25 February 2009: It could very well be that he thinks he's far too good for them, maybe he thinks they will all fall for him and he does not need that in his life, maybe he's just going for all the good looking ones because thats what he wants and is attracted to ... (read in full...)

What exactly IS flirting and is it okay to flirt when you're in a relationship?

Q.   What exactly is flirting? How would you define it? And do you believe it is ok to flirt with anyone when you are in a relationship? Why/why not? Yes, a very broad, general question I know, I'm just looking for peoples opinions, so I can see h...

A.   24 February 2009: If you type: "define:flirting" in google you will get these results from credible various sources: flirt: playful behavior intended to arouse sexual interest wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn Flirting is a 1991 Australian coming of age film a... (read in full...)

How can I have sex for longer and not get worn out?

Q.   Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for one year and we have sex very often, but when we do I find that I can't last as long as my boyfriend does (he can last for ages), I often orgasm and become to tired to continue. I want to be able to have sex...

A.   23 February 2009: You could also start going to the gym and speak to a personal trainer about strength training, this will allow you to hold positions much much longer than you would now. it also means you can cum multiple times becomming less tired. Plus the good... (read in full...)

My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian.

Q.   My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian. She says The Dike (that's what she calls her when my friend isn't around) will eye up all the bridesmaids and also she doesn't want her to come because there going to be a lot ...

A.   23 February 2009: I agree with all the other posters mate. Its your friend and thats it. I can just see when your 40 and she's got you tied up telling you to do everything and not to do anything you want... This will be the killer of your relationship and its just ... (read in full...)

How do I stop hurting so much? was I all wrong?

Q.   my close friend cut ties with me completely. my friend was going through some personal issues. my friend would not make many plans with me. sometimes my friend would cancel plans and not give a reason. or my friend would say no to spending the ...

A.   23 February 2009: Is it a he or a she??? This question is important as men and women mostly have different ways of doing things such as communication, sexual desires, friendship, emotion, etc. Anyway... What ever happened this person is distancing his/h... (read in full...)

Would you forgive me and take me back???

Q.   I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...

A.   23 February 2009: How do you know he's not playing you??? You were going well untill you replied after he sent you the first email. I would have ignored him right then - as you already sent him your goodbye letter and were beginning to clear your mind. Now you just... (read in full...)

My b/f is stalking me?

Q.   I have a problem guys and i need your help. I am with a lovely guy well I thought he was. anyway he seems to want to change me and stop me going out with the girls or any of my mates for that matter. If i do go out he appears from nowhere and...

A.   22 February 2009: Yep he has true issues!!! He's likley afraid you will cheat on him. He also does not want to give you any opportunity to speak to any other guy. He sees when your with your friends that it's an opportunity for you to flirt with other guys through ... (read in full...)

He wants to travel, I don't want him to, what do I do?

Q.   Hi, I NEED HELP... I've been with my boyfriends for a while now, and I love him to death there's absolutely no one I could imagine spending my life with. He's my best friend, and we share these same feelings. My boyfriend and I have experienced s...

A.   21 February 2009: Hey im nearly 30 and i work with a good company and i plan in travelling in about a year for 5 years! if i can do it you can do it too - just because your employed doesnt mean you can't travel. instead go on a "working holiday" where you build your ... (read in full...)

Should I text him? Or will he contact me again about his rudeness

Q.   I met a guy on Oasis the free Internet dating site who lives in NSW. I live in Perth. We seemed to get along really well. He then started sending me pics of his lower private parts and wanted to know what I was wearing etc and wanted intimate pics ...

A.   21 February 2009: Hello, I only read half way but it sounds like some scam. i know oasis i use it too but i think when it comes to showing the explicit body parts how do you know there his (unless his face is showing of course) if hes really that into you he... (read in full...)

Should I let her go even though I love her?

Q.   When you love a girl and you think she likes you (Or thats what the signals seem to be when im with her). She speaks to you in person but not via phone, email or SMS and when you see her in person it's only with her friends. I really love her and ...

A.   21 February 2009: im trying to but she's always busy with work. she has other friends so i let her be with them i get to see her probably every two months. She did say to me "we will see what happens"... (read in full...)

Am I right to be concerned about my boyfriend's strange behaviour???

Q.   Do you guys think im over reacting an should just forget it or do I have cause for concern? My boyfriend of 6 months is very loving but a few things are really worrying me. 1- he hsa no problem with looking at my phone but snatches his off me if I ...

A.   20 February 2009: 1- he hsa no problem with looking at my phone but snatches his off me if I so much as pick it up to move it. A) Well if he's just playing games then no this: Games are now known to cause a hole waist of time, so my simple answer is to him he shoul... (read in full...)

Would you forgive me and take me back???

Q.   I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...

A.   17 January 2009: H diorNY, What he wants (you being in his life) could be very hard on you in the future. Sometimes it's better to take a break entirely from the situation and give it some time and space. Id be inclined to slightly distance yourself from him a li... (read in full...)

Would you forgive me and take me back???

Q.   I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...

A.   13 January 2009: Great! just hang in there okay. So he might trust you again and he wants to get back with you, you know he still loves you he just can't say it. Maybe he's just afraid of being hurt or somthing but I can tell you now he loves you very much, he's ... (read in full...)

Would you forgive me and take me back???

Q.   I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...

A.   12 January 2009: Okay, at the end of the day you still sent them regardless of drinking or under any influence. To answer your question: Yes I would, if I truly loved you, love works in these ways but id be a little careful about you, you would need to do a lot of ... (read in full...)

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