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Could this be bad for our marriage?
Q. I am a 59 year old woman married for 28 years. When my husband developed health issues that affected his ability to get an erection I thought my sex life was over. He tried Viagra and and some other stuff and when nothing worked he started telling ...
A. 31 March 2011: Once he rips you and your husband apart I give it about six, maybe twelve months after you marry him and he will then divorce you taking everything you owned with him. don't fall for the cougar trick! Set up a few fall backs for yourself just in... (read in full...)
How can I fall in love with a man I've never met?
Q. I have fallen in love with a boy that I met online in Mid March. Never once have we chatted on msn...For the first 3 months of knowing one another was through emails, pages and pages worth of emails... Then we moved onto phone conversations. ...
A. 20 June 2010: It is the act of him turning away from you, once he knew how you felt that makes you want him. if it is what I think it is you are feeling it's known as a type of love called "unrequited love". If this is what is occuring, unrequited love is love ... (read in full...)
Sex positions for female stimulation?
Q. So I'm definitely what you'd call adventurous in bed and willing to try pretty much anything. But my favorite position is missionary and I'm worried I'll be seen as "boring" or something. I can orgasm from penetrative sex better than anything else, ...
A. 19 June 2010: Missionary is the best position to fall pregnant. Not that he'd run away but most guys would probably worry why you'd always want missionary. Use your imagination more when in other positions, breath deeper and let it become apart of your emotion as ... (read in full...)
Can a man last too long? What can be done if you have this problem?
Q. Ladies...how long do you like your guys to last in bed? I'm in my first new sexual relationship in a very long time, and my partner says I have the longest staying power of anyone she's been with. Most partners she was with she did quickies only, ...
A. 18 June 2010: Lol, you must be a porn star! But most men around your age last that long anyway. She must be pullin your third leg mate. Or she just had a run of bad luck with those other blokes. Statistically speaking it gets harder and longer as you get older ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he's not a sexual person...is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating long-distance for eight months. We're finally going to be living in the same city. We're both in our 30's and haven't had sex with each other yet. He wasn't bringing it up, so when I finally did, he said, "We ...
A. 18 June 2010: Yeah, this is basically him saying that he loves you. He wants you to know he wants you for who you are. You are his best friend, his soulmate it's deeper than a sexual urge his in euphoria just being with you and that is the best love you can have. ... (read in full...)
Sex positions for female stimulation?
Q. So I'm definitely what you'd call adventurous in bed and willing to try pretty much anything. But my favorite position is missionary and I'm worried I'll be seen as "boring" or something. I can orgasm from penetrative sex better than anything else, ...
A. 18 June 2010: Missionary is probably the most boring for a guy if thats all you'll expect. Some guys have a caution to beware of those types for some reason those are the one that get pregnant and you don't want guys Voiding you because of a sex position! You ... (read in full...)
I feel used! What should I do?
Q. i really dont know what to do , 8 months ago my husband cheated on my with my bestfriend , i knew in my heart something had happened , he lied and lied about it , everytime i asked he would put me down for even questioning him , he made me feel like ...
A. 18 June 2010: Your welcome. Be strong for yourself and your kids. sad that someone can do that to an innocent child. You deserve better from someone so go see the counsellor get it sorted then make your decision.... (read in full...)
He cheated on me with his ex, but says he didn't come!
Q. hello. my partner of 3 years had just recently cheated on me with his ex gf. they never had sex but did other foreplay type things. he reakons he didnt come when she gave him head could this happen? and also i need advice on what i should do... t...
A. 18 June 2010: The fact I the matter is they were both in a room behind your back doing something, a simple kiss can be classed as cheating you don't have to have sex or get a blow job to cheat. You don't even have to touch each other.
Cheating = adultero... (read in full...)
I feel used! What should I do?
Q. i really dont know what to do , 8 months ago my husband cheated on my with my bestfriend , i knew in my heart something had happened , he lied and lied about it , everytime i asked he would put me down for even questioning him , he made me feel like ...
A. 18 June 2010: How can you honestly be with both of them after your "best friend" and your "husband" have humiliated you and broken your trust.
I know you must love him and your friend but this is his problem not yours it's also your friends problem. I would se... (read in full...)
What does "i need a lil space" mean in a long distance relationship
Q. my boyfriend and i have a long distance relationship and been together a month and a half things have been going so well. however tonight (6/17/10) he told me he needs a lil space, thats hes depressed and doesnt know what to do and he will talk when ...
A. 18 June 2010: The distance is taking a toll on you both. You need to see each other soon. He misses you and you miss him.
It's very tough having a LDR but you both need to realise that by sometimes being away from each other it makes the heart grow fonder. ... (read in full...)
About to get married and still unsure!!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm engaged and getting married to my girlfriend of six years in about a month. However, her behavior in the past six months have really worried me. One personality trait that I have always despised all my life is close mindedness...
A. 18 June 2010: Relationships are not perfect. This is something you have to accept if you love her. I don't know her age but some people learn and grow quicker and slower than others. But taking responsibility is a sign of leadership. She may be lacking some ... (read in full...)
Fun on vacation with her but now what?
Q. About a week ago i went to Panama City with a few friends from College and met a really good looking, down to earth girl. One of my friends and i started talking to her and her friend on the beach(we initiated the conversation.) and ended up getting ...
A. 18 June 2010: There is no mixed signals. They are quite clear: you met this girl, she was interested in you, she texts you straight away, she's broken up with her boyfriend.
That is not mixed signals now do you want her or not? Go get with her!... (read in full...)
Her parents don't think I'm good enough!
Q. Hey guys, I have one complicated love situation. My girlfriend and I have been together for several years now. We love each other a lot. However, there exists a problem with her parents. There are two main reasons that they don't accept me as bel...
A. 18 June 2010: If you think about from their point if view it's probably got a whole lot more to do with letting her go. As she grows in o an adult and is becoming ready for marrage etc. This can feel as though they are losing their little girl. Also it's ... (read in full...)
Will I be able to continue living on my own...?
Q. I know this isn't exactly a relationship question, but I'm wondering if anyone has any advice? I'm 19 and just moved into my flat. Previously I lived with my parents but moved out due to problems I was having at home, then with my ex-boyfriend but ...
A. 18 June 2010: Start making budget plans and ask your current temporary imployment agency to find you another role before your current temp contract terminates. This is there job.
F you find that it's just going to be too tough start making plans to move out... (read in full...)
Need help with shy guy...
Q. I can't tell if he likes me or what I should do. Any suggestions? And why would he suddenly stop talking? I recently fell for a painfully shy guy who is giving mixed signals. The closer we got (which he often initiated on his own) the more distant...
A. 18 June 2010: He's playing games not understanding what he wants. He does that specifically to make you wonder wh,y which initiates the standard chasing factor. F he's a shy tuly lay it out and tell him how you feel. If nothing happens or he does not come to you. ... (read in full...)
Could this be bad for our marriage?
Q. I am a 59 year old woman married for 28 years. When my husband developed health issues that affected his ability to get an erection I thought my sex life was over. He tried Viagra and and some other stuff and when nothing worked he started telling ...
A. 16 June 2010: It could potentially get out of control but not if you let it so. It's good that your husband is so caring and loving and to be honest in the long run that is the one thing that will count far more than a sexual encounter no matter how good it makes ... (read in full...)
We were both tipsy and we ended up having sex!
Q. Hi! I'm in love with this beautiful lady and she loves me too but she is scared I might hurt her. I've been pursuing her for the past 4 months but she has been playing hard to get. She invited me to a concert on the weekend with her friends...
A. 9 June 2010: Yes it's clear but you blew up on her by sending the email. I'm sorry but you fail. When she asked which guy she should choose you could have said "me" and then it could have dragged on a bit more but you would have had a better idea on whY she was ... (read in full...)
We were both tipsy and we ended up having sex!
Q. Hi! I'm in love with this beautiful lady and she loves me too but she is scared I might hurt her. I've been pursuing her for the past 4 months but she has been playing hard to get. She invited me to a concert on the weekend with her friends...
A. 9 June 2010: Wait a min, have you actually seen her bf or her with him? 1) The whole purpose of her dating you could simply be that her relationship is on the tail end with him. It's callled in slang: jumping ship. Or 2) she does not have a boyfriend at all. ... (read in full...)
We were both tipsy and we ended up having sex!
Q. Hi! I'm in love with this beautiful lady and she loves me too but she is scared I might hurt her. I've been pursuing her for the past 4 months but she has been playing hard to get. She invited me to a concert on the weekend with her friends...
A. 2 June 2010: Stay with her and be there for her. it will show that you're serious about her.... (read in full...)
Is he keeping me around until someone better comes along ?
Q. Have been with my guy for almost 3 yrs we broke up for 6 months and have been back together now fir 5 months . The problem I have is he keeps saying he isn't ready for a committed relationship he is trying to get to that point . We don't see other ...
A. 1 June 2010: it's a term called "jumping ship" but more to the point you already broke up once before which means yur just in a ticking time bomb untill it happens again. and that's when he'll likley "jump ship" the funny thing is it's way, way more common for a ... (read in full...)
How do I get my ex-boyfriend back?
Q. ok I was just wondering me and my ex boyfriend broke up after a week of dating because everyone caused a lot of drama but he came over 2 nights ago to help me with my math home work it got done at 11 30 than he stayed and sat with me talking about ...
A. 1 June 2010: Look to cut a long story short he is your ex for a reason and later in life you will learn that you dont go back to an ex because the same old shite just happens again and again. So my best words are is to move on and find another bloke who will ... (read in full...)
We were both tipsy and we ended up having sex!
Q. Hi! I'm in love with this beautiful lady and she loves me too but she is scared I might hurt her. I've been pursuing her for the past 4 months but she has been playing hard to get. She invited me to a concert on the weekend with her friends...
A. 1 June 2010: That's good but why would you regret what you did just be your self and don't be a fool and play any games. Other wise.... YOU LOSE!... (read in full...)
My boyrfriend has addictions to drugs and harming people and animals
Q. Hey guys, I have a problem that I'm coping with and I would appreciate it if you could help! Recently I hooked up with a boy from my team sport. He's fifteen, I'm sixteen, despite the age on my account. Anyway, I'm really into him and he's extremel...
A. 1 June 2010: Lol yeah he sounds like a real cock head you know when you watch a movie and you see one of those weird loosers that the audience dosent like? well that's pretty much him. He's not your true hero.... (read in full...)
They're totally in love but it's driving me nuts!!!
Q. Hey. My best friend is in a long-distance relationship with a guy the same age as us (18) and they're totally in love. I don't have a problem with this. Her boyfriend comes to stay with her every few weeks and they're very happy together. The pr...
A. 1 June 2010: Leave them alone. You should be ashamed of yourself for thinking that there "too in love" nobody is ever too in love it's just simply love. So get over it build a bridge and experience love for yourself other wise fate will come back and bight you ... (read in full...)
Getting married in a few months but can't get my ex and the sex we had out of my head.
Q. Loved sex with ex girlfriend but am getting married in a few months. Have seen ex gf who I was suppose to marry. When I have seen her I think of the best sex I have had. Love future wife and sex just not match in terms of orgasmic frequen...
A. 1 June 2010: Sorry but, build a bridge and get over it. you do not deserve this woman you are currently with. get your priorities straight, you are not a teenager anymore your a man so be one. Other wise dump her and go back to your ex. Which will sooner or ... (read in full...)
How can we spend more quality time together alone?
Q. My fiance' works 7 days a week, owns his own business, has 3 children (2 at home). My only child is out on his own. Problem is, fiance' can't seem to make time for me. He's either at work, on phone with work, or on computer watching work. Then ...
A. 1 June 2010: No, it is simply he is having diffculty managing his work/lifestyle balance. It is important to set a time for oneself to work for example 8am to 6pm weekdays and 9am to 1pm on weekends. If he does not do this eventually it will likley take a toll ... (read in full...)
I am afraid to tell him I want to spend as much time with him as possible incase I scare him away
Q. So I had been talking to this guy through email over a period of three months, he would tell me about his journeys overseas and about himself and vice versa and we really connected and we even spoke on msn on christmas day. Each day I would wake up ...
A. 18 May 2010: No, your just thinking too much about it now. Love is simple it just happens you can make it happen.
If you feel that your not giving him enough space and you haven't even met then there is something really wrong ...don't you think? When two peop... (read in full...)
A man is obsessed with me, please help.
Q. Hi, I am trying to end a relationship with a man who is obsessed with me and intent on marrying me. He is a good man and he truly loves me and wants to protect me. But he is controlling, and even though I love him, I can't take the control. I k...
A. 22 February 2010: Yes, do please let us know. ... (read in full...)
I was wondering why a guy would leave someone like me for someone like this?
Q. Guys, I need your opinion here. I am (what people say is) an attractive, tall slim brunette. I have only been with the one guy in my life and I put everything into our relationship. I was open, honest, trusting, always cheerful and fun to be ar...
A. 22 February 2010: lol, the therapist will tell you that just to get the $$$ from you. But they are great at doing that and doing their job. I wouldnt blame if thats the 'advice' you were given.
Here, you should take sites like these as opinion based only, not as a... (read in full...)
I was wondering why a guy would leave someone like me for someone like this?
Q. Guys, I need your opinion here. I am (what people say is) an attractive, tall slim brunette. I have only been with the one guy in my life and I put everything into our relationship. I was open, honest, trusting, always cheerful and fun to be ar...
A. 14 February 2010: No no no your not on yourself. It's him he's the idiot who is being stupid. He'll soon realise in time. But all when it's far too late. You should love yourself before you love others and thats obviously what your doing.
It's his loss. Move on ... (read in full...)
I was wondering why a guy would leave someone like me for someone like this?
Q. Guys, I need your opinion here. I am (what people say is) an attractive, tall slim brunette. I have only been with the one guy in my life and I put everything into our relationship. I was open, honest, trusting, always cheerful and fun to be ar...
A. 14 February 2010: This is a real shame! this guy has not let go of his immature childish youth, it does happen. has he ever taken drugs? Fair enough, that we all do the party scene in your youths up untill its 25. But in the latter of our twenties its sort of ... (read in full...)
Do any other girls out there withold sex from their partners when they have done something wrong?
Q. Please Help .... I have a problem . When my boyfriend does something wrong , like out late with his mates , or comes home intoxicated , I without Sex for a period of time . I tell him the set penalty time and he signs a form ..eg : 1 week , 1 ...
A. 14 February 2010: Well done thats a great sex game! builds up anticipation and when you do go to the bed its really good right?
Everyone does this in a sence (of punishment). men and women, lovers, have been punishing each other for thousands of years weather ... (read in full...)
A man is obsessed with me, please help.
Q. Hi, I am trying to end a relationship with a man who is obsessed with me and intent on marrying me. He is a good man and he truly loves me and wants to protect me. But he is controlling, and even though I love him, I can't take the control. I k...
A. 14 February 2010: No, don't play mean, and don't ignore him. He'll look for an excuse in that it is just you playing "Hard to get" these are the two worst things a girl can do if she really does not like him. he will just chase you more and more intensly to prove ... (read in full...)
Two types of men...
Q. I come across two types of men in my dating life - those who quickly think I'm the answer to make their lives perfect and so within a couple of weeks they're saying they love me, talking about moving in together soon and starting conversations about ...
A. 13 February 2010: Plexi's almost got it but it goes a little deeper than that and the thing about the nice guy is the wrong way around. It's the bad guy that's been hert in the past thus is why he is bad.
Firstly the nice guy knows how to behave with a lady he ... (read in full...)
Should I count the condoms and see if he used any?
Q. I'm not one to constantly seek being in a relationship and my past (and only) three relationships have resulted in heart ache purely for me. That being said I have an air of being promiscuous (a misconception) due to my large amount of gentle...
A. 12 February 2010: Yeah, go for it. But even if the numbers are out of wack he will just say he gave them to a mate to try.... (read in full...)
A precaution for dating sites... don't fall for scammers!
Q. I just want to bring up a serious issue happening on dating sites like Match.com, yahoo personals, OKcupid.com. I have my profile on some of these popular dating sites that I mention and from my experience some of the people on there are scammers. I ...
A. 12 February 2010: My philosophy is: Payed dating sites are just another form of sex solicitation.
Almost all the paying dating sites have illigitamate photos and profiles on them, they usually have a very small staff in the background sending messages and interest... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a break up when he's dating a girl with the same name as me?
Q. Hi im 16 years old and dealing with a breakup. i was on and off with my ex for 2 years. He was my first love and everything. We would always get into stupid fights and go on a break that did not even last for more then a day. Three weeks ago he ...
A. 12 February 2010: The positive thing for you is he is trying to fill a void, YOU, by going out with a girl with the same name as you, it seems as though its only a rebound and he's attempting to replace that emptyness with this other girl. if you can try not to call ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend starting to distance himself, when everything is going well?
Q. We've been dating for 9 months, so we've pretty much went through almost everything. From him losing interest, being too controlling, and me being sick of putting all the effort into our relationship because i wasn't getting anything back. ...
A. 12 February 2010: This bloke has been corrupt by mind games, and he's playing them with you. wether he's interested or not its hardly worth being with a bloke who can't make his mind up himself.
If your in it, then your in it all the way right? and that means al... (read in full...)
Ideas for Valentine's Day if you're single?
Q. What does a single guy do for valentine's day weekend? This is a light hearted thread for actual ideas - if you want to rant about the lameness and/or commercialisation of the day, and how it's totally rubbed in your face that your single - th...
A. 11 February 2010: A good site is: www.plentyoffish.com you may find a date there in your area who im sure is feeling just the same as you are. Its free and there are no catches. just put a message on there that you want to spend the day with another.... (read in full...)
Is it wise to leave my 28 years old fiance for a 53 years old man?
Q. It's about 5 years already that I'm just attracted to older men.I can not be with young guys for too long.I find them boring,unreliable,hard to deal with... but because of my mum who is so angry at me for loving an older man that she just saw his ...
A. 11 February 2010: Based on what you say your simply with the wrong guy. Age does not define someones intellectual or emotional intelligence. Maybe you seem to be dating younger men who are not very good lovers.
The older man may have a little more security but befo... (read in full...)
I've got no money to buy my girlfriend a Valentines present!
Q. Valentine is three days away and i have no money at all to buy anything for my girlfriend,this is our first valentine together and my first ever. What should i do?...
A. 11 February 2010: Sorry I mean, Remembering as in that was so cool and romantic. She will remember what you did on that special day in the future with you by her side.... (read in full...)
I've got no money to buy my girlfriend a Valentines present!
Q. Valentine is three days away and i have no money at all to buy anything for my girlfriend,this is our first valentine together and my first ever. What should i do?...
A. 11 February 2010: If you can. On valentines day watch the sun rise with her. People don't do that enough and when you see it rising up over the horizon. Its breathtaking. then kiss her on the cheek.
She will remember you forever.... (read in full...)
I am afraid to tell him I want to spend as much time with him as possible incase I scare him away
Q. So I had been talking to this guy through email over a period of three months, he would tell me about his journeys overseas and about himself and vice versa and we really connected and we even spoke on msn on christmas day. Each day I would wake up ...
A. 30 January 2010: The biggest mistake in this instance if that females expect the man to do all the moves. ie: waiting for him to call you. us men call because we are doing what our heart tells us to do ... My suggestion is to not listen to what your friends say and ... (read in full...)
I am afraid to tell him I want to spend as much time with him as possible incase I scare him away
Q. So I had been talking to this guy through email over a period of three months, he would tell me about his journeys overseas and about himself and vice versa and we really connected and we even spoke on msn on christmas day. Each day I would wake up ...
A. 29 January 2010: No, meeting him in real life will be almost like starting again. Because when you are speaking face to face there are so many other communication variables such as body language, including eye contact, mannerisms, body movement and speach and ... (read in full...)
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