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How to ask her out without ruining our future
Q. Alright my best friend and i ahve been friends for a while now and i have recently fallen in love with her. She knows that i love her, because i tell her all the time. I cant stop thinking about her and even when i sleep i literally dreams about ...
A. 29 June 2010: It all depends on how much it is worth. Is she the absolute perfect woman for you? Would she make you really happy? It really depends on how much you want the object of desire. The thing is at least now she knows right? So you've done the right ... (read in full...)
After he told me his plans for our future I am just dazed
Q. Dear Cupid, I am white 25 year old Christian girl. My boyfriend is 31 year old Muslim man. I want to convert to Islam and plan to do so soon. I split with my ex-boyfriend (a university 5 year romance) just before I started dating my curren...
A. 2 February 2010: "His main fears are that his mother and friends would not accept me and would treat me cruelly as I am not from the same culture as them (even if I was to convert)."
This will be the hardest part of the relationship. But at the end of the day ... (read in full...)
I have 5 girlfriends and now it's a problem.
Q. I've got five girlfriends and I honestly don't know what to do. Basically, I met a girl three years ago in college. We began a relationship, got serious, then she left for work in the USA. We're still together in the form of a long-distance ...
A. 29 January 2010: See. I told you.
But I have a question. Have you ever been really hurt by a girl in the past? Or gave your heart to one and said you loved her? In the past?... (read in full...)
He's dating another girl but I like him, is there a chance we could be together?
Q. okaii , so this year my brother who is one year younger than me signed up for hockey , and he's playing on the same team with guys my age. then one day i saw this one guy there that i had never seen before , he was really cute . :$ . so the next day ...
A. 28 January 2010: If you like him your best just to be friends. maybe one day if he breaks up then you might have a chance. but in the mean time, go out and find another one who is not taken and enjoy yourself.... (read in full...)
After he told me his plans for our future I am just dazed
Q. Dear Cupid, I am white 25 year old Christian girl. My boyfriend is 31 year old Muslim man. I want to convert to Islam and plan to do so soon. I split with my ex-boyfriend (a university 5 year romance) just before I started dating my curren...
A. 28 January 2010: Firstly, be carfull about the conversion thing, no offence, but it seems to be a fashionable thing at the mo for muslim men/women to convert christian/other religion girls/boys then dump them. its happend to quite a few friends of mine. Anyway, its ... (read in full...)
I have 5 girlfriends and now it's a problem.
Q. I've got five girlfriends and I honestly don't know what to do. Basically, I met a girl three years ago in college. We began a relationship, got serious, then she left for work in the USA. We're still together in the form of a long-distance ...
A. 28 January 2010: I've never met a bloke who can't fling off a woman who means absolutly nothing to him. I'm sorry mate but your not following your heart for if you truly were you'd be with the right one.
Blokes more than women often get confused with emotiona... (read in full...)
My marriage is falling apart after only a month, all because my husband wont stop his calls to this other woman!
Q. Please can you help as my new marriage is falling apart. I am sorry but it is a long post. I have been married for under a month and things are not going well. Due to work we do not live with each other but see each other as much as possible...
A. 21 January 2010: Yes, don't think of revenge, rather think of letting fate take its path and decide for you, regardless of the pain you may feel. Do your own thing for now. I believe if you are strong enough to do this and by letting these things go, no matter what ... (read in full...)
My marriage is falling apart after only a month, all because my husband wont stop his calls to this other woman!
Q. Please can you help as my new marriage is falling apart. I am sorry but it is a long post. I have been married for under a month and things are not going well. Due to work we do not live with each other but see each other as much as possible...
A. 21 January 2010: I just finished speaking with someone who had the same exact thing only it's a guy.
It's very normal to feel this way, have you been married before? has someone broken your heart in the past? the thing is he married you not her. If he wanted h... (read in full...)
What is the meaning of kisses on the end of text messages?
Q. So, I'm guessing all you guys and girls get "x" or "xx" or even a "xxx" after texting somebody you like or you care for i.e. mom, brother etc. The whole reason I'm here is because of a girl, I really like. I think she likes me because she flir...
A. 21 January 2010: It depends. one: x = a simple kiss. two: xx = an extra kiss. Three: xxx can actually have sexual meaning of just a bigger kiss. When there's lots of them it can be a sign of someone who is really really really keen some would say almost desperate. ... (read in full...)
Romantic ideas for valentine's day???
Q. I'm looking for help and ideas of what to do on valentines day. in the evening/night me and my boyfriend are going out to a nice restaurant for a romantic meal and then off to a nice bar for some drinks but i want to arrange something for during t...
A. 21 January 2010: No worries.
Love. Now that's powerful stuff!... (read in full...)
Romantic ideas for valentine's day???
Q. I'm looking for help and ideas of what to do on valentines day. in the evening/night me and my boyfriend are going out to a nice restaurant for a romantic meal and then off to a nice bar for some drinks but i want to arrange something for during t...
A. 19 January 2010: Buy her a star:
Search: International Star Registry
If she really means a lot to you.... (read in full...)
Conflicted - To leave or to stay?
Q. I have been with my partner for 6 years, I am 24 he is 29. we have been living together for about 5 and a half years. Anyway, recently I have caught him out lying and being dishonesty to me in regards to his activities on dating websites. I bas...
A. 19 January 2010: Firstly, id suggest going to speak to one of those womens refuges just to get yourself by. Then set up a day to do this: Split yourself from the account so you have no financial connection. You should be able to do this at the bank by yourself only ... (read in full...)
Is an old, young looking guy going out with a young woman, creepy?
Q. If a guy is 45, but literally looks 27, and goes out with a 20 year old, is that creepy?...
A. 19 January 2010: Firstly, I don't see it really lasting. I mean when he's 65 she'll be 40. It won't make much difference then but in the mean time "if" it lasts that long she'll be very curious enough to wonder obout other men. So no I don't see it lasting.
This ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 3 months OR friend of 9 years?
Q. First things first I have a boyfriend ( harry ) but i like a guy ( nick ) who I've only just realized I've liked for 9 years..and he has a girlfriend ( mollie ).. We went to a party last night ( house party ) and i got a little drunk, my boyfri...
A. 18 January 2010: you need to make your mind up. but remember who your boyfriend is now, its likley you will lose him of you breake it off with him to be with nick.
So simple things first ... What do you want? life is an experience and you will learn from your own... (read in full...)
Do players get too old to play?
Q. what happens to a player when he gets too old to play? the man Im in love with I know to be a player , Ive been seeing him 6months (casual) he is 42. He is very overweight and has to use viagra and gets very puffed out during sex so I have to do ...
A. 13 January 2010: Essentially the same thing, a man becomes a player usually because he confessed his love to somone he loved, probably at a young age, but she never believed him was not ready, or felt too young to commit. Most men fall in love at a very young age. ... (read in full...)
Should I wear my heart on my sleeve and see what happens?
Q. ok so here is the deal. I wrote previously about some other guy. We ended up breking up becuase he became distant after finding out i didnt want to believe the doctors about me having a misscarriage and i have been fine until now. I turned 21 on...
A. 7 January 2010: Hey, just keep wearing your heart on your sleeve and see what happens, your only just hit the party scene so theres plenty more where all that fun came from. Your only in your twenties for a few years so if i can say anything ... have fun and enjoy ... (read in full...)
Ex is not interested and it hurts
Q. Dear Cupid...so far you are the only person i talk to and who has been kind enough to help.Thank you. Nway with the newyear,i had to make resolutions, that can help me be a better person. So among other stuff, i decided to get into a relationship ...
A. 7 January 2010: Im sorry to say, but this is how it works on the bigger oicture of things. You had your chance with a great guy, this happens alot with us guys when we finally give our genuine hearts to a woman and she either is not ready, does not believe us, acts ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has made me feel like dirt
Q. I currently live with my ex bf we have in his eyes been broken up for about 5 months. He has for the most part treated me like crap but sometimes is nice and says he loves me other times he says I don't want to be with you I'm just tolerating you. ...
A. 7 January 2010: You guys have broken up 5 months ago! Give yourself the last bit of dignity you have and get out of there now. [THIS WEEKEND].
Move on and be happy with someone else who you deserve and deserves you because he's obviously causing you great st... (read in full...)
Trapped! What do I do about him?
Q. Dear Cupid, Recently, I went to my friend's church. I met a guy there. Let's call him Bob. He gave me his number after the service and ever since We've been talking. At first, things went great. He is such a sweetheart. Always calling me cute ...
A. 29 December 2009: The problem is with not answereing phones and not replying. you will end up with a stalker. one thing girls still don't get! you better of being straight to the point and just tell him to bugger off!... (read in full...)
How to ask her out without ruining our future
Q. Alright my best friend and i ahve been friends for a while now and i have recently fallen in love with her. She knows that i love her, because i tell her all the time. I cant stop thinking about her and even when i sleep i literally dreams about ...
A. 29 December 2009: tell her exactly what you said here... then see what she thinks. its best to be honest mate.
if it dosent work out or she's not interested in a relationship just achnowledge that and and her feelings then continue being friends. never bring it... (read in full...)
Trapped! What do I do about him?
Q. Dear Cupid, Recently, I went to my friend's church. I met a guy there. Let's call him Bob. He gave me his number after the service and ever since We've been talking. At first, things went great. He is such a sweetheart. Always calling me cute ...
A. 29 December 2009: o\Okay your only a youngin so ill tell you a trick.
Often withought knowing people throw out fishing lines. now lets think bOb is going fishing and you are a fish. he thrown out his fishing lines and you have bitten his bate and he reeled you in. ... (read in full...)
My ex keeps texting out of the blue.
Q. I broke up with my ex over a year ago. I have to admit, she is the only girl I have ever loved. But I don't mind being single and she never seemed to really commit after a year and a half. Early on after the break-up she would ask me to dinner and ...
A. 29 December 2009: lol, its the classic hook and sinker, shes fishing to get you back. often on makes plans only to disapoint you this usually creates a sence of disapointment and hope that you may have another opportunity. its also a weak persons way to 'say" they ... (read in full...)
Creepy Cousin
Q. Well when I was about 5 or 6, my teenage cousin raped me, not molested. He actually penetrated me. Anyways 2day is my 16th bday and my cousin and I have the same bday. So his mom called and told me happy bday then she gave the phone to him. As he ...
A. 29 December 2009: Tell him you don't like the way he speaks to you. Also I would consider speaking to your mum and dad. ... (read in full...)
I don't want to give her the impression that I like her
Q. Well this girl I used to like keeps telling me she loves me and well I kind of look at her and give her this look like smile and a small shake of the head idk how to better explain but I think I'm giving her the impression that I like her but I ...
A. 29 December 2009: Just be straight out and honest. ask her why, then conclude that you dont feel the same way, but be nice about it.
On the other hand she could just be saying it to be friendly.... (read in full...)
What does it mean when someone says this?
Q. ..what doess it mean if someone says that they dnt ever want to lose you,and they will never hurt you,and when they say" i love you with all my heart"and when they say"we have a special bond"..and when they say"they will never leave you"...
A. 29 December 2009: it means exactly what they said. ... (read in full...)
I'm so worried my boyfriend is cheating on me.
Q. I'm so worried my boyfriend is cheating on me. At the same time I'm reluctant to fit the whole paranoid-woman stereotype, but I can't help it. For starters, he cheated on his girlfriend before me. Multiple times, with multiple girls. While I ...
A. 29 December 2009: I sometimes tend to leave the room when im speaking with someone on the phone. Its simply becaue its private conversation and a discussion may be brought up that could be overheard. its also rude when staying at a guests house speaking on the phone ... (read in full...)
How do I forgive the person who raped me when I was a child?
Q. For years a family member molested me from the age of 4 till I was 12. When I was 9 he started to rape me, I use to be very sore for days and I bled alot and I got infections and couldn't walk properly. I never told anyone as he always threatened ...
A. 29 December 2009: It's true, we all don't know who else he may be doing it to. And by you going to the police could save someone else.
Please don't be a statistic like one of those victimes who dont go to the police, you need to stand up for yourself and stop thi... (read in full...)
Want to have a real relationship and need tips on how to go about it.
Q. Helloo Well from since i can remember ive been the same but in the last few months ive realised how much of a loner i am. I have not many friends and NO REAL friends. Ive never had a girlfriend and dont think im anywhere close. I fuelled ...
A. 27 December 2009: Does your gym have any social clubs/events attached to it? if not take a look in a socia/community magazine and see if there are any courses. Acting courses are a great wat to meet people and also to develop yourself more.... (read in full...)
How do I forgive the person who raped me when I was a child?
Q. For years a family member molested me from the age of 4 till I was 12. When I was 9 he started to rape me, I use to be very sore for days and I bled alot and I got infections and couldn't walk properly. I never told anyone as he always threatened ...
A. 26 December 2009: I'm a firm beliver that the evil that people do, eventually comes back to haunt them someday, and theres no getting away from that ever. I believe what religion really means by "forgivness" is to leave it with god so he can punish that person ... (read in full...)
I ended the relationship, so why am I having a hard time getting over him?
Q. I just ended a two-year relationship. I initiated the breakup, but why am I the one having a hard time getting over him? Here's the background; it's complicated, so please bear with me: We met in early 2008, and we clicked immediately (he ...
A. 26 December 2009: This is a rough guess to the root of the problem here but it seems to me, this is the case of the "unclosed book". Somewhere in his past its questionably possible he was in love with somebody who left him for no real reason or he loved dearly, he or ... (read in full...)
Suffering from retroactive jealousy! Any tips?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 6 months now. We have known each other through work for 3 years prior to getting together. We have an awesome relationship but there is something that still haunts me after 6 months, and that is the ...
A. 26 December 2009: Yep, its our generation dude!
I'm sorry to say, but women get far more encounters and opportunities than men do by a very long shot. I mean we are the ones who have to make the moves right? At least thats what the "rules" seem to be for some stu... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, tell it to her face or write a note?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend. ..and I'm just really having a hard time to tell her. I've always seen myself as a lowest common denominator, even though everyone says I don't give myself enough credit. I wrote a note spilling my feeling...
A. 26 December 2009: I did that about one year ago to a girl who was one of my best friends. I wrote a note and spilled my feelings and told her I loved her but I was unlucky and she ran away, and I never saw her again.
I'll let you know the light at the end of the t... (read in full...)
Should I go back to dating black men?
Q. I am trying to date to try to get over my last relationship.. I know that they say finish a chapter before you start another, but I say the only way to get over the last one is to have sex with a new one. Anyway, I am an interracial dater and it i...
A. 26 December 2009: From my pov at the end of the day I really dont give a shit what the race she is nor mix. Its all about two things for me.
1) physical attraction.
2) the person you are.
I'd really like to date a darker girl like that really hot one with... (read in full...)
He's playing with my head. How can I get over this?
Q. Once i started back to the life ,back on the track , he got back to me .....why ? i am not going to finish from this story or what ? he broke my heart 3 months ago , he said awful things about me, trashed my reputation he was the happiest...
A. 23 December 2009: its the vicious cycle. just dont go back at all. hes simply comming back only because he cant get any anywhere else. your better than that. go for a new guy and when the time is right tell him he should have never had kicked you out at all.
he wi... (read in full...)
Help! How do I let him go...?
Q. My boyfriend, "Chris", broke up with me. I honest to God, truly loved Chris. I wanted to be with him forever, but he didn't see it the way I did. I'm heartbroken now, and I don't know what to do. I've told him before how much I liked him, but he ...
A. 23 December 2009: Time and space heals the heart. In time you heart will heal... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 10 years older, and my male friend called him a cradle robber!
Q. Earlier today, my boyfriend and my two best friends were hanging out at my house. My boyfriend was playing with my hair and watching my friend playing video games. My other friend was being very emo (aka emotional) and he wouldn't look or talk to ...
A. 23 December 2009: LOL I agree with honeypie. That boyfriend must be the Looser soon567 is "really" referring to. I mean whats he really got that the younger one dosent? a job? a car? is very own nintendo? your friend will have the same shit and probably a hell of a ... (read in full...)
My new boyfriend is great, but I'm worried about my ex
Q. I am stuck in the middle of a real dilemma and it's tearing me apart on the inside. This year my boyfriend (now ex-) of 2.5 years and I both went off to college. During my first week there, I met this incredible guy. We started talking and we both ...
A. 23 December 2009: It's only because you still care for your ex and simply because you were with him for so long. Don't worry, time heals the emptyness. And soon the comfort zone you're in will disolve and develop with the new guy.
I think its a bit wreckles... (read in full...)
Who gets custody when mother has been physically abusive and father has failed a drug test?
Q. my brother is having domestic issues hes divorced his son lived with their mother and the teacher just reported marks over his body to the police shes arrested the father failed drug test over pot the son reported that his mom and his moms mom...
A. 23 December 2009: In reference to your question. in this case it depends on the laws of your country. But im pretty certian in most countries, in this case the child will likley be taken away from both of them. because:
1) A child should not be brought up in a vio... (read in full...)
2 week holiday fling was so special I want to emigrate to be with her, what do you guys think?
Q. I have just come back from a wonderful 3 week holiday in New zealand, where i had an amazing fling of 2 weeks with an amazing girl( a friend of a friend) I am now back in UK but she is talking about me moving out to NZ, getting a job, be together...
A. 23 December 2009: Theres no such thing as rushing things. Its simply all about how much your really into each other.
I'd suggest going on a holiday there first, NZ is very different than the UK, very beautiful, but can get bloody boring, and its a hell of a long w... (read in full...)
Is my dream proof that my ex was my soulmate?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up five months ago and I just can't get over him. I have known him for about a year and we were good friends for most of that time. We would go on dates whenever he came to town because it was long distance and we would talk ...
A. 23 December 2009: Dreams are simply the mind figuring out problems. ... (read in full...)
Should I go back to dating black men?
Q. I am trying to date to try to get over my last relationship.. I know that they say finish a chapter before you start another, but I say the only way to get over the last one is to have sex with a new one. Anyway, I am an interracial dater and it i...
A. 23 December 2009: I also agree with the below posts.
Its also funny though how dark likes light and light likes dark. there is a saying ive heard: "once you go black, you never go back" or "once you go white, you know its done right" either way it dosent really m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is 10 years older, and my male friend called him a cradle robber!
Q. Earlier today, my boyfriend and my two best friends were hanging out at my house. My boyfriend was playing with my hair and watching my friend playing video games. My other friend was being very emo (aka emotional) and he wouldn't look or talk to ...
A. 23 December 2009: Your friend simply likes you. But he won't tell you because he's your friend and thats a good thing.
I'm affraid when your "immature" older boyfriend did what he did especially in front of another person it upset your friend. At this time I think ... (read in full...)
Did my husband rape my sister or was it consensual?
Q. i found out that my sister woke up to find my husband on top her having intercourse with her. shes saying this is what happened and she pushed him off and that he kept calling her BABE referring to me. for some reason he hought it was me. yeah ...
A. 23 December 2009: Yes, confront her.
What does your husband say about this? Have you confronted him?
Look at it simply. If she was really raped she would probably be in total shock. By her giving you that pathetic response is basically saying to you she does not... (read in full...)
When men watch porn is it the sexual acts or the actors who arouse them?
Q. I have read on here many times men saying women are insecure and overeacting to porn . They claim the man is not comparing his wife or girlfriend to the porn star and he is not getting aroused over another women but that he is aroused by the sight ...
A. 23 December 2009: Its because the women in porn magazines are air-brushed. You can learn more about that by typing it Into google.
If you look at porn from the early sixties, seventies and even eighties. You will notice gradual change. The whole airbrush... (read in full...)
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