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When men watch porn is it the sexual acts or the actors who arouse them?
Q. I have read on here many times men saying women are insecure and overeacting to porn . They claim the man is not comparing his wife or girlfriend to the porn star and he is not getting aroused over another women but that he is aroused by the sight ...
A. 23 December 2009: Its because the women in porn magazines are air-brushed. You can learn more about that by typing it Into google.
If you look at porn from the early sixties, seventies and even eighties. You will notice gradual change. The whole airbrush... (read in full...)
I want a baby but he says we have no savings...
Q. Me and my husband got married only last year but we've been boyfriend and girlfriend for more than 6 years and decided to get married.Now i want to have a baby bcoz Iam in the right age right now his younger than me,i am very upset with him until ...
A. 22 December 2009: Remember it's about cashflow, you will be bringing a child up for many years.... (read in full...)
I want a baby but he says we have no savings...
Q. Me and my husband got married only last year but we've been boyfriend and girlfriend for more than 6 years and decided to get married.Now i want to have a baby bcoz Iam in the right age right now his younger than me,i am very upset with him until ...
A. 22 December 2009: Money means nothing here neither does savings. With babies/children it's more about cashflow and financial security, yes initially it costs a little more but should not be such a financial burden in any case. If your cashflow is right then you will ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend insecure and following the masses?
Q. Is my boyfriend insecure? You see, he's a very nice, sweet, low profile, smart guy. Really down to earth with most things, he's like the perfect guy! But there's one thing that kind of bothers me... Sexually it's like he's been brainwashed by t...
A. 22 December 2009: I'd tell him to stop being such a "tryhard" all the time. You can do better than him he must be "all show and no go" ... (read in full...)
I love and want to be with him but I feel there are so many negative points?
Q. Ok people i have a complicated situations and i wanted peoples opinion about it. i have been dating this guy for 3 years now. i am in love with him and i feel he loves me too. This is my fist time being in love like this. i meet him at a college ...
A. 22 December 2009: If you were the provider. Can you really handle that? There is always one who is the bread winner in a relationship. times are changing women are becoming more prominent in the work plac these days. You mother may nit approve based on her up ... (read in full...)
My best friend had revealed he's in love with me, but I don't feel the same!!
Q. Hi All, One of my best friends has revealed he has stronger feelings for me than as friends, but I don't feel the same... Can we stay friends? Please read it all, as there are details that change circumstances in what i've written. Thanks!...
A. 22 December 2009: Hi, the best thing you can do is one of these:
1) just sit him down and tell him how you feel, he will respect you for that. But please be sure you are very clear with him look him in the eyes and tell him how you feel (that you dont want to be wi... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 22 December 2009: He does not love you. I know it hurts but its true. He would have left his wife a long time ago to be with you if he realy truly loved you.
Look, try this: cut the chase and give him a time limit. Call him back and say "be a man, if you truly lo... (read in full...)
Getting back with my ex feels like we are a new couple again, how do I handle this situation?
Q. Hi, I need some advice about sex with my bf. I'm getting back together with my ex after being apart for a year and we agreed to give it another go. We've been talking on the phone, meeting up for lunch etc, sort of like dating all over again I ...
A. 22 December 2009: just do it when ever you feel comfortable. I think you may already be.... (read in full...)
Everything about my boyfriend disgusts me, how do I get out of this relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship that i don't like but i don't know how to come out of it. Everything about my b/f disgust me. I want out, but i don't know how. Pls i need help!...
A. 22 December 2009: Your best to be honest and break him the truth. Sometimes it hurts, but we are better off learning from our mistakes.
What ever you do don't leave him with question marks in his mind otherwise you could find it difficult to let him go. Be clear an... (read in full...)
I love and want to be with him but I feel there are so many negative points?
Q. Ok people i have a complicated situations and i wanted peoples opinion about it. i have been dating this guy for 3 years now. i am in love with him and i feel he loves me too. This is my fist time being in love like this. i meet him at a college ...
A. 22 December 2009: Being a christian and not going to church does not mean its a bad thing. god would respect that, and im certian he would want you to live your life as he gave it to you. Therfore live it harmoney.
Being married in the past does not mean its a ba... (read in full...)
Gay and in love with a straight friend, he says there is hope, but what about our partners?
Q. Dear Cupid I'm 30 and gay. I'm still in my first relationship of three years. He is 22. We are happy with no more problems than any other relationship. But I have met a straight guy that has befriended us and he and his girlfriend have become our ...
A. 22 December 2009: I would not go any further. To save your heart I would not take his hopeful words too seriously, just yet. He may be saying that only not to hurt your feelings because he does not want to offend or lose you as his friend.
On the other hand say... (read in full...)
Do girls like red headed guys?
Q. Hi im 20 year old guy,and im a natural red head, my question is do girls like red headed guys or do they find them a turn off?...
A. 22 December 2009: It's the same, as black, blonde, blue, purple and pink hair. It's more about who you are than your hair. but personally nautural redheads (females) do not get me going. I wont tell you why. but ones that color their hair red somtimes do.... (read in full...)
Did he mean what he told me this morning?
Q. Dear Cupid My married boyfriend called me this morning at 5.30am simply to tell to stop this relation, stop smsing him and its an official break up. I know that he was pressurised by his wife to call me at wee hours simply to annouce a break of...
A. 22 December 2009: Yes he means it. If he's married you will always be second. No crap, that's it. Why why why would you bring yourself to a man that's already married?If he does that to her then he would have done that to you if you were married you know.
Forge... (read in full...)
How does love work inside the brain?
Q. Hi-- I was wondering if anybody could send me a link or explanation of how love works inside the brain. What causes the joy? Butterflies? Electricity? Pain? I haven't really understood the sources I've found, and I'm just curious. The pa...
A. 22 December 2009: You will find that according to scientists love is cause by a chemical reaction in the human brain. Look more into "peptides". But that's based on hard facts to this date.
I personally believe love is a source of energy that also is connecte... (read in full...)
Women's feelings about "needing time"
Q. i cant really make this clear, because im not seeking a clear answer, i just want a generalization from female members, what are reasons for a girl telling a man she wants time to work on herself? I ask because ive recently had a neighbor with whom ...
A. 22 December 2009: It seems as though there was some information you may not be filly aware of. Firstly she will do this for two basic reasons.
1) she has found out somthing about him she does not really like. Ie he may have different behaviour when it's only him... (read in full...)
She did me wrong and I broke it off, but why isnt she begging for me to come back?
Q. So, my ex has done me wrong--undeniably. I broke it off. She cried and still wanted to be friends. I said no. She got angry. It's been 4 days. Why hasn't she called me back begging? I don't really (only kind of) want to talk to her, but it sure...
A. 22 December 2009: Mate, your attitude is all wrong. People aren't computers. You cannot figure out a way to "get" her to chase you. Most importantly thinking like that in the first place means you are playing games.
That's why you won't get her back. If you do w... (read in full...)
How long does No Contact last?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 5 days ago. I am trying the no contact theory. How long should I wait to contact him. I really miss him and wish he would come back. Please help....
A. 22 December 2009: This is simple. Simply call him when you fell comfortable to that's it. That's all that matters at this point. :)... (read in full...)
Do boys ever mature?
Q. how do i feel better? i feel guys only wanna date me to prove a point to their friends im 19 nd a virgin. my very first bf broke up with me cuz he said the relationship got boring. then he lied about sleeping with me. then i met another guy who i ...
A. 22 December 2009: Prince charming will come right when you least expect him. Your still very young so there's plenty if time ;)... (read in full...)
How long does No Contact last?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me 5 days ago. I am trying the no contact theory. How long should I wait to contact him. I really miss him and wish he would come back. Please help....
A. 18 December 2009: It dosent work it will send the wrong signals to a guy and it will all fall apart. It creates false hope/expectations and before you know it your back where you left off.
Playing mind games will get you nowhere. Just call him now and be honest. ... (read in full...)
Do boys ever mature?
Q. how do i feel better? i feel guys only wanna date me to prove a point to their friends im 19 nd a virgin. my very first bf broke up with me cuz he said the relationship got boring. then he lied about sleeping with me. then i met another guy who i ...
A. 18 December 2009: Your not boring they just have expectations of you which aren't what you want to give. So they try to hurt your feelings because they can't
get what they want ... Sex.
If you really want to piss them off you could say to your friends that it's be... (read in full...)
I don't care what my ex thinks so how do I tell him that?
Q. Well well what do i have to say other then i really like this guy but the EX is in the way with alot of things. he talks to me alot and always tells me what to do well im kinda nervous that the guy i just started to really like will think some thing ...
A. 18 December 2009: When you broke up you obviously decided to be friends. Maybey oneday you can but after a relationship you can't it's too complicated and feeling get in the way. This is what's happening with him your EX.
You'll need to tell him once that from thi... (read in full...)
Am I right to ignore him?
Q. Recently, i've been ignoring the guy i like because we got really close and then suddenly turned on me one night and started talking really nastily.... I am right in doing so? Should i just walk away from it now to save more hurt or should ...
A. 18 December 2009: I agree with irish49 he's playing bad boy the wrong way. And your not that desperate right? Anyway he's doing it wrong: a real bad boy is never mean to his woman. He's tough on the outside and nice on the inside not the otherway way round.... (read in full...)
She did me wrong and I broke it off, but why isnt she begging for me to come back?
Q. So, my ex has done me wrong--undeniably. I broke it off. She cried and still wanted to be friends. I said no. She got angry. It's been 4 days. Why hasn't she called me back begging? I don't really (only kind of) want to talk to her, but it sure...
A. 18 December 2009: Don't play this trick with a girl they almost always win. It's because you hurt her feelings and now she's probably moving on. You will probably end up chasing her begging for forgiveness and she will enjoy make it tough on you. ... (read in full...)
I met him on a dating site, now he has deleted his a/c I am worried about him
Q. A few years ago I joined a dating site for fun. One day, bored out of my mind, I had a look at my matches. One guy (an older guy) in particular seemed pretty interesting so I sent him a message. We had a great chat and soon we were on MSN winding ...
A. 18 December 2009: Lol, no worries ask oldersister ;)... (read in full...)
I met him on a dating site, now he has deleted his a/c I am worried about him
Q. A few years ago I joined a dating site for fun. One day, bored out of my mind, I had a look at my matches. One guy (an older guy) in particular seemed pretty interesting so I sent him a message. We had a great chat and soon we were on MSN winding ...
A. 18 December 2009: In light of this I wouldn't think to much of it for now. Yes people do disapear on the Internet often. I would say that even though you are afraid of the idea of love I think you experienced it a little and that is now why you miss him so much. But ... (read in full...)
I met him on a dating site, now he has deleted his a/c I am worried about him
Q. A few years ago I joined a dating site for fun. One day, bored out of my mind, I had a look at my matches. One guy (an older guy) in particular seemed pretty interesting so I sent him a message. We had a great chat and soon we were on MSN winding ...
A. 18 December 2009: Ask oldersister;
Some women, alot of women "are" overly cautios. As if your going to get attacked in a middle of a shopping centre by a guy one busy afternoon, im sorry but alot of these women I wouldnt even touch with a ten foot pole anyway a... (read in full...)
Am I right to ignore him?
Q. Recently, i've been ignoring the guy i like because we got really close and then suddenly turned on me one night and started talking really nastily.... I am right in doing so? Should i just walk away from it now to save more hurt or should ...
A. 18 December 2009: You could face him and explain in a nicer 'adult' way that you didnt appreciate him speaking the way he did to you. I would if I was you. Other wise he'll be led to believe thats the way you'll react in future, thus he'll likley think he can do it ... (read in full...)
His text/phone friendship with his ex torments me...
Q. Right so a girl my boyfriend had an on/off thing with before me, is back in contact with my bf, phone/text wise. My bf and I have discussed this and he said he just wants her friendship, nothing else. Now, this is fine, but obviously it's always on ...
A. 17 December 2009: How long ago did he "really" break off with this girl? Did he have enough time to get over her? I mean years.
Although he may like you. If he broke of relitavley recently (within the last three months) and they dated for a while (more than thr... (read in full...)
I met him on a dating site, now he has deleted his a/c I am worried about him
Q. A few years ago I joined a dating site for fun. One day, bored out of my mind, I had a look at my matches. One guy (an older guy) in particular seemed pretty interesting so I sent him a message. We had a great chat and soon we were on MSN winding ...
A. 17 December 2009: Don't believe the first responce. Most are not married most are looking for an actual partner ... Again some women are too "over cautios" ... just relax.
Really if we want it we will get it. We don't spend hours and a fee on a stupid website ... (read in full...)
I met him on a dating site, now he has deleted his a/c I am worried about him
Q. A few years ago I joined a dating site for fun. One day, bored out of my mind, I had a look at my matches. One guy (an older guy) in particular seemed pretty interesting so I sent him a message. We had a great chat and soon we were on MSN winding ...
A. 17 December 2009: I think your attitude is all mixed up here. I mean you joined a dating site, I don't know which one or what type it is but they are pretty self explanatory. If it has something to do with love then that's what most people are looking for if it has ... (read in full...)
How do I attract a guy that doesn't want me for sex
Q. so all my friends have boyfriends and have already lost there virginity. they dont pick on me for still being a virgin but they dont really talk about anything else beside haveing sex. i am really focused on school and haveing a job. im almost 17 ...
A. 17 December 2009: Theres heaps out there, but they all still want sex. you'll have to have a (d'n'm) with him and if your worth it he'll wait for you. Its a natural part of life ... yes thats LIFE, a sexual transmitted desease.... (read in full...)
I met him on a dating site, now he has deleted his a/c I am worried about him
Q. A few years ago I joined a dating site for fun. One day, bored out of my mind, I had a look at my matches. One guy (an older guy) in particular seemed pretty interesting so I sent him a message. We had a great chat and soon we were on MSN winding ...
A. 17 December 2009: Send him a message telling you miss him just like you did here ... if you can. send it to all his accounts that are still available, it sounds you really like him alot, so its worth trying to express your feelings. send to all accounts just once ... (read in full...)
His actions don't match his words!
Q. I'm a 20 year old girl - and I'm the only person out of everyone I know that's never been in a relationship. The guy i've liked since the summer finally decides to msg me after months pass of not seeing each other to hang out....and it go...
A. 17 December 2009: with relationships words count far more than actions.
To answer you question why do guys do that. is because girls do that too, you girls do give alot of unconfirming signals to us. But he sounds confused, and dosent know exactly what he wants hi... (read in full...)
When I try to involve him in the plans for our wedding he gets mad and says whatever you want!
Q. Im 27 i have been with my fiancee for almost 9 yrs. we are engaged to be married in april of 2010. i am a stay at home mom he works. but i just cant get him really interested In our wedding plans. i am doing it alone and its to much on me i have our ...
A. 17 December 2009: Does he say "do whatever you want" niceley or is he a little rude? Does he make you feel guilty? or uncomfortable?
If a fight starts id say its highly likley a financialy driven factor. He dosent want to be rude to you by saying thats too expensiv... (read in full...)
I love a girl from afar and she just ignores me!
Q. Ok so im new to this web and im desperate. Im 13 going on 14 in march. I have liked this girl since second grade. Now that im in 8t grade I fell everyday she keeps slipping away. Shes dating people more popular and closer to her group and doesnt ...
A. 16 December 2009: Okay, she likes you but she's signalling that she does not want to be with you. She just wants to be friends. When a girl says your not her type this means nothing to you because all you'll do and 99% of other guys will do is try to figure out a way ... (read in full...)
Brother--how to pacify his aggression?
Q. hey everyone, i have an unusual query, in regards to helping my 11 year old brother. no he isnt depressed, no he isnt in some other bad situation, he just gets very upset over video games. when he is playing by himself, even on a placid golf gam...
A. 15 December 2009: He seems like an anylitical thinker which means when he playes these games he very well knows with his physical ability that if in reality he could do the things he wanted to do. When a controller is all he has as a variable mechanism it makes him ... (read in full...)
I told him I love him and now he is backing off!
Q. Please someone give me some advice. I have been dating a man for about 6 months now. He has constantly been in my face telling me he loves me and I will be his wife. Well, I didn't say anything to him about this but a really good friend of his was ...
A. 14 December 2009: I'm sorry to hear about that. I'll make this as simple as I can.
With love when we say to another we love them, they'll do one of these things. 1) they will say they love us back. 2) they wont say anything, but they will respect our words and stay... (read in full...)
She put me in the friend zone and then broke up with me
Q. So I had been dating this girl for a year and a half and she started acting more distant. I pressed her on it and she said she no longer has romantic feelings for me. She said she has never felt so comfortable with a boyfriend before and she ...
A. 14 December 2009: Hey mate yep, go for the other women. if all of a sudden you get her attention because of that? Well, if it was me I would'nt go back - no way. Because that means she didnt give you the time of day and did'nt really "think" about what she had with ... (read in full...)
My guy has never come straight out and said " I love You"
Q. SO my guy has never said these three words "I love you." right out like that...Instead he says things like "Love yah lots!" Or he will tell his friends he "love yah lots!" then turn to me and say "love yah lots...more." Or if I do something stupid h...
A. 14 December 2009: With love, words are way F-ing louder than actions!!! believe me, actions are just little tipy toes baby. But there is nothing like getting your love accross and your answers straight out. No bullshit, and pure releaf to you. People have to stop ... (read in full...)
If we are friends how come he doesn't message me like he does other friends?
Q. hey again :) ok... theres this guy in class. he's one of my best friends. the thing is we became best friends all of a sudden. i mean we've known each other for a year and a half, initially we hardly used to speak to each other. n in the past two...
A. 14 December 2009: So he told you that he's messaging other girls at night? and how much fun they had catching up? This sounds like he's just trying to make you feel jealous so that you chase him more ... just ignore it. Otherwise you'll fall for the hook! Your just ... (read in full...)
How can I make him hate her and love me instead???
Q. i am sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend that he cannot sleep with because of her religion. Anyways i am confused. people have told me that he is playing me and i think he is. he has said some really hurtful things to me like he loves her but ...
A. 12 December 2009: ahhhaaaa! Yeah just do it and you will see what goes around comes around ... I can see this totally backfiring on you. or if you tear them apart oneday it'll totaly happen to you or something that you wont like.
He loves her, not you, and your... (read in full...)
I love a girl from afar and she just ignores me!
Q. Ok so im new to this web and im desperate. Im 13 going on 14 in march. I have liked this girl since second grade. Now that im in 8t grade I fell everyday she keeps slipping away. Shes dating people more popular and closer to her group and doesnt ...
A. 12 December 2009: Does she know you like her? Have you ever given the obvious signals that you do?
It seems to me she already knows you like her. The best thing in can say is keep hangin in there, but dont spill your beans just yet.
Does she achknoledge you ... (read in full...)
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