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Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 23 February 2009: How do you know he's not playing you???
You were going well untill you replied after he sent you the first email. I would have ignored him right then - as you already sent him your goodbye letter and were beginning to clear your mind. Now you just... (read in full...)
I want to know how I can trust her again and forget about this.
Q. Ok... I'm back again, I have forgave her for sleeping with my friends who are not around any more. I want to know how I can trust her again and forget about this. We might not have been together when she done this, but if your not together then ...
A. 20 January 2009: Ok, if your not living with her I think its best to have a little space for a while. write to her, email her phone her or see her in person. Either way do it once so you know she'll read it or hear it. Ask her if she still wants to be with you (make ... (read in full...)
I want her back but she won't hardly look at me
Q. Me and my gf had been going out foe 5 months before we broke up one week ago. We were each other's first make out partner all the way to oral sex in this time. All of the people in school said we were a beautiful couple and we were perfect for each ...
A. 19 January 2009: If you want to be your friend and not her lover. then you need to give it some time and space. But speak to her about this, say to her you want to still be friends and mean it, then agree to meet up in six months time and it should be fine. However ... (read in full...)
Was I an asshole?
Q. One night came home after work and was horny as hell. I ended making love to my girlfriend. She's extremely self-conscious about her breasts because of a birthmark and won't take off her bra for me no matter how I beg. Anyway I couldn't take it ...
A. 19 January 2009: Mate, you totally topped arsehole land and sat on the throne! NOT GOOD, when you went to the bathroom door that was her seeing if you would except it and by saying "ew whats wrong with your boobs" just completley shattered her self confidence even ... (read in full...)
New relationship..already problems
Q. Um....hi im having serious boyfreind troubles and i need some serious help! I know this guy and he was my best guy freind and i really liked him and than my freind got us to start dating and now i dont like him infact i cant stand him hes so ugly, ...
A. 19 January 2009: Hey,
If you don't want to be with him I suggest asking yourself if you still want to be his friend? If yes then be prepared for a possible hard time (depending on how he feels). You could very well lose him as a friend if you do this wrong, b... (read in full...)
Discussing difficult situation from past with new girlfriend
Q. I'm 17, and a junior in high school. Last summer, an ex girlfriend of mine falsely accused me of attempted rape. The case didn't get very far, the police dropped it almost immediately, and another organization that specializes in sex abuse cases for ...
A. 18 January 2009: Its better comming from you than through someone else.... (read in full...)
Discussing difficult situation from past with new girlfriend
Q. I'm 17, and a junior in high school. Last summer, an ex girlfriend of mine falsely accused me of attempted rape. The case didn't get very far, the police dropped it almost immediately, and another organization that specializes in sex abuse cases for ...
A. 18 January 2009: Mate, if you were found innocent by two seperate organisations and you know very well you didn't do it then your innocent right!?!
Id just tell her. If she's really a good girlfriend she will be fine and be with you.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my straight friend I'm gay?
Q. How do I tell my straight friend (Im NOT attracted to her in any way) that Ive known since we were both in the first grade that Im gay? Shes a good friend but we have never discussed r/ships or dating, shes never dated anyone,noone, yes she is...
A. 18 January 2009: I've got a mate who went through what you did with me. We are only mates and he was gay but never told me because he was afraid he would think id get phobic.
Eventually he told me, we went to a cafe had a coffee and a chat. Poor thing, he was real... (read in full...)
Male perspective: Haven't spoke to boyfriend since x-mas
Q. I have not spoken to my boyfriend since before xmas. I had a death in the family of a close relative. I have three children. Youngest is his. We dont live together. Many years of togetherness and he has been fairly supportive. things just got ...
A. 18 January 2009: Im now interested to know a little more about why he can't spend christmas' with you? why???
Does he have other family? Does he have any past experiences? and why is he not intmate especially since April?
These are questions you need answerd... (read in full...)
Married & cheating with a co-worker
Q. I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...
A. 18 January 2009: We can script this all day long, and try to figure out a way how for you to be eased off of this there would be many different variables that would come into play at any given time depending on emotions, who she and you are, etc. However, no matter ... (read in full...)
I want to give my boyfriend fellatio, but he has a LOT of pubic hair.
Q. I want to give my boyfriend fellatio, but he has a LOT of pubic hair which is a turn off for me. I want to ask him to trim it, but I don't know how to ask him. He's very insecure and I don't want to make him feel bad. How can I suggest it without ...
A. 18 January 2009: Nads hair removal for men!
You put it on (its a cream) wait 10 min's and the shower does the rest. It just falls off and no shaving or timley trimming involved. Too easy!
Takes 15 min's and he's squeaky clean ;)
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Did he do something wrong or am I being over-sensitive?
Q. A few weeks ago I met a guy and we got along very well. I liked him, he liked me. We hung out a fair bit of the last few weeks. This guy had known my house mate for five years. They had always got along very well and liked each other so often t...
A. 18 January 2009: Sorry, I meant he.... (read in full...)
Did he do something wrong or am I being over-sensitive?
Q. A few weeks ago I met a guy and we got along very well. I liked him, he liked me. We hung out a fair bit of the last few weeks. This guy had known my house mate for five years. They had always got along very well and liked each other so often t...
A. 18 January 2009: If he knew the housemate for five years, maybe in the past they had something going on that you may not know the full details about. Plus if you started chasing him and made it known to them, then maybe the housemate realized what she was missing ... (read in full...)
How do you know when its love?
Q. How do you know when you love someone? Is their a certain way u feel? ...
A. 18 January 2009: Love is when you are feeling happy about the person you are with it represents the everything in your life. You will feel completed as though there is no other thing to worry about in the world anymore.
Though love is different for every person a... (read in full...)
Breaking up and moving on
Q. How do you get over a breakup? Today, me and my boyfriend split up, i'm devostated and can't stop crying, please give me some tips on how to move on!? Thanks so much!...
A. 18 January 2009: Hi LaydeeOfSorrows,
You need to spend as much time as you can with your friends. They will help you get over him just by being with them. Id also do something that you like to do in your spare time to get your mind off him.
Be strong :)... (read in full...)
Married & cheating with a co-worker
Q. I cheated on my wife with a co worker (we made out once). I completely regret and I wish didn't. My wife always has been faithful towards me. She has no I idea what I have done. Should I tell her? The co worker keeps flirting with me and I can't ...
A. 18 January 2009: I think you should tell her. The below poster is totally right in part but you need to learn so you'll never do it again. Its like when your a kid and you touch the hot plate - You touch it once, but you'll never touch it again! Telling her is the ... (read in full...)
We agreed to be friends but it hurts so much
Q. Hey everyone. I have been in a Long distance relationship for 1.5 years. I am a few years older then the girl, shes going into last year of school now. Pretty much We had a GREAT relationship for the whole time, I was in love with her, and she was ...
A. 18 January 2009: If you cut of communication with her you should tell her that you need some time away say six months, then meet up again after that. But be cautious that if you do this the relationship you have now with her could change forever.
I personal... (read in full...)
The art of flirting
Q. I'm shy how can I flirt with guys? usally they will stare at men but I don't know what to do, I make eye contact but sometimes they stare at me too long and the gaze is too intense, makeing me feel like they want me for a booty call. How can I flirt ...
A. 18 January 2009: Just be friendly. always smile, and before you now it they will all be talking about you in wonder. Dress sexy/classy this is hot! Flirting is all in the conversation: How to tickle ones fancy using words that could mean a few things? Play on with ... (read in full...)
Am I just a plaything to her?
Q. okay so i am 17 years old and my girl is 16 it seams like i do everthing for here and she always gets wat she wants i love her alot but it seams like all she wants is a little plaything she gets all pissed about everything i do and she tells me im ...
A. 18 January 2009: i agree with PunkyPippi.
Hang in there, sometimes its what puts the spice into the relationship and leads onto better things with her.... (read in full...)
Male perspective: Haven't spoke to boyfriend since x-mas
Q. I have not spoken to my boyfriend since before xmas. I had a death in the family of a close relative. I have three children. Youngest is his. We dont live together. Many years of togetherness and he has been fairly supportive. things just got ...
A. 18 January 2009: Its already been way to long! Communication is the key to all relationships and if you leave it for too long it has a high potential of completely destroying it.
The chasing game (in this instance: cutting of communication causes him to chase yo... (read in full...)
Tit for tat and it smacked me back!
Q. Okay I found out that he was still talking to his ex when i asked he denied it but she called his phone since i was hurt i wanted him to hurt to so i had another man's voice on my answering machine ..he refuse to speak to me and he came and took the ...
A. 18 January 2009: Hi TRIPPIN,
You did the right thing at first by facing him with it. However, you played a very dangerous game there, as soon as you play revenge tactic it heavily disrupted the relationship, chances are it has reduced the trust factor in your rel... (read in full...)
Where do guys get advice for girls?
Q. Just out of curiousity. Where do guys go for advice on girls?...
A. 18 January 2009: Their fathers, magazines, books, their friends, television, their mothers and most importantly other girls.... (read in full...)
There's always an excuse not to meet up
Q. hi i have fallen for a girl at skool and she says she really likes me too and wants to go out with me. But she says she wants meet up more first. Which i'm fine with. But when i ask if she wants to meet up she always says that shes too busy or has ...
A. 18 January 2009: She's playing the chasing game with you, even if she has no money it still plays in her favor. This is the most basic of game playing and is a completely natural process in dating. As I see fit you've got the signal she likes you, so just keep ... (read in full...)
Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 17 January 2009: H diorNY,
What he wants (you being in his life) could be very hard on you in the future. Sometimes it's better to take a break entirely from the situation and give it some time and space. Id be inclined to slightly distance yourself from him a li... (read in full...)
Caught between the two, don't know what to do!
Q. I've really liked this guy for some time. But it was only recently that I found out he likes me back. Nothing has happened between us; we aren't even dating yet. Last night I went town with my "friend" who I previously hit it off with in the past...
A. 17 January 2009: Thats perfect! you couldn't have done it better. He will understand. It's better being friends in the long run anyway - It might hurt him a little, but give him a call later to see how he is.
If he tries distancing himself, just reassure him late... (read in full...)
Love the new, still think of the old
Q. Please help me, i am so in love with my boyfriend, but i still feel like i have feelings for my old boyfriend, although he was horrible to me and we didn't last long, i haven't been with my old boyfriend for over 2 years and i have been with my ...
A. 17 January 2009: You just have to forget about him. By keeping in contact it keeps the spirit alive in your previous relationship. id take approximately six month without contact at all and after that see how you go, if you go to the same school then it could be a ... (read in full...)
Caught between the two, don't know what to do!
Q. I've really liked this guy for some time. But it was only recently that I found out he likes me back. Nothing has happened between us; we aren't even dating yet. Last night I went town with my "friend" who I previously hit it off with in the past...
A. 17 January 2009: Hi UnfinishedSymphony,
If you tell your friend your not interested just like that, he will be upset anyway. The best thing you can do is to let him know you can't see him as much anymore and that you still want to be friends with him. But tell him... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend/teacher is mad I hooked up with another guy in my class
Q. well... i have a really stressful situation.... ive been going out with my boyfriend for 1.5 years now.. hes 23 and im 18.... im in my last year of school, and he's an english teacher... a few weeks ago, he got a permanant posting at my school!! ...
A. 16 January 2009: If it was meaningless with the guy on the weekend then just tell him (teacher BF) that. He should get it clear. He for one should know that these things happen in your senior years anyway.
How long till you finish school? Is this your last yea... (read in full...)
What is with exs??
Q. WHY DO EXES ALWAYS....? why do exes always ring you after so long and try to talk to you and wants to get back together?? soo dumb they had their chances and they messed about.. whats up with that? PLEASE ANSWER...??...
A. 16 January 2009: Hi Spendy,
Usually if someone really "loved" you a lot and things seem to become overwhelming in the previous relationship you had with them, they will go away/break up/want space, etc to clear up their minds or maybey you did. Then when they ret... (read in full...)
He's a totally different person when he's on drugs...
Q. Hello there, I have a major issue. I've been with my BF for almost one year. That may not seem like a long time to you but considering I practically live at his house every day is pretty much equivalent to a few years together. Anyway, my pro...
A. 16 January 2009: Often the biggest mistake that is made is when a relationship starts under an influence of drugs or alcohol. You might very well have fallen for a bloke that has disappeared or had a major shift in personality since you first met.
I don't know wha... (read in full...)
How rotten is this?
Q. I have caught my bf in little lies off and on for quite a while but what he has done in the past couple of weeks was just over the top. I've caught him quite a few lies. First he loans money to someone he works with for only a few weeks. I'm s...
A. 16 January 2009: Hello, I hope this gives you some insite.
If you blank him, then remember cutting the communication can potentially distroy the relationship. If you do it for too long 1) It will never be the same again. and/or 2) He could become obsessiv... (read in full...)
Just finished reading a romantic book and now I'm feeling all melancholy...
Q. hi just recently i read this romance book that i can really relate myself to the girl it was the best book ever (twilight) and i finished it in a day but as soon as id finished it it was really weird because i felt so sad and melancholy because the ...
A. 16 January 2009: There are lots of them out there. But one of the most romantic things you can ever do is have just one guy who is a good friend, he dosent want to always be with you both sexually and in girlfriend/boyfriend relationship but, maybe, deep down inside ... (read in full...)
Why is my boyfriend doing this? Please help me!
Q. Me and my BF got into an argument.. he got really angry and started saying horrible things to me.. he said I am always whining and..(f*king about with other guys).. he said I am not having sex with him so someone else must be getting since he ain't ...
A. 15 January 2009: Hi Spendy,
Im sorry to say but this bloke sounds like a bit of a wank! Id get rid of him and you know you deserve way better! Take a look at your self in the mirror right now. See when you are crying? Is that the type of bloke you want? One that... (read in full...)
Should I go no contact with my ex
Q. Ok, i've been reading alot about no contact and various plans so i was wondering what's best for me. so here's my situation. we were together for 2.5 years. it was a very good relationship with few problems. were both 21. he broke up with me...
A. 15 January 2009: I think you need to speak face-to-face. This is the best form of communication. communication is the make or break of all relationships. Just meet up for a coffee one lunch time in the day for say 1 hour and get your message across. Other ... (read in full...)
Husband giving 2 year old beer
Q. My husband keeps giving our 2 year old son a sip of beer. I tell him not to because our son keeps vomiting but he wont listen. Now our son keeps asking me or my husband for beer in his milk. If I dont he'll start crying or all angry. What should I ...
A. 15 January 2009: You have to protect your child. Your husband should really know better and we don't know the psychological effects this could cause on your son's little brain. I can see an addiction already developing. Id seriously be tough as nuts and tell your ... (read in full...)
Should I go no contact with my ex
Q. Ok, i've been reading alot about no contact and various plans so i was wondering what's best for me. so here's my situation. we were together for 2.5 years. it was a very good relationship with few problems. were both 21. he broke up with me...
A. 15 January 2009: Hi Lizzyb,
Firstly, on some phones, yes, you can create different groups of contacts.
To answer all your other questions you can cut off all communication, if your absolutely sure you don't want to be with him or have him apart of your life any... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like CRAP after finding out an old friend is in Playboy?
Q. Hey all, this is probably kind of a stupid situation, but I just found out a girl I went to high school with and was friends with is on the cover of the new Playboy lingerie magazine. Ever since I found this out (it was just yesterday) I have felt ...
A. 15 January 2009: Your welcome! Don't worry about your BF if he looks at that stuff. If he's got a hot GF like you, he wont really need to. Though somtimes guys look just because its a blokey (boyish) thing to do. Anyway, if he found her in there it would be more of ... (read in full...)
I'm going crazy thinking about her, and want to call her, but I don't want to invade her privacy, because I know she wants space
Q. Basically they broke up but she's still not over him they never had closure in their realtionship, now I have jumped in the picture and she really does like me and wants it to work out, but now she realizes she catn ignore the lover of her ex, and ...
A. 15 January 2009: She's still in the comfort zone of her ex, she still loves him. The best thing she can do for you is to give it space from him and time from him, not you. She should be spending more time with you or her friends, if you and her want anything out of ... (read in full...)
Is love enough...?
Q. Is love enough? I had been waiting to go out with this guy for ages, he was my best friend! but recently we seem to have nothing to talk about, we used to be on IM and the phone all the time talking , but recently we don't talk and when we do t...
A. 14 January 2009: Firstly, try not to rely on that: opposits are supposed to attract. they don't always. Forget it and live life withought analysing things like that, it could very well give you the wrong impression and you could make a bad decision based on that, go ... (read in full...)
I want to know how I can trust her again and forget about this.
Q. Ok... I'm back again, I have forgave her for sleeping with my friends who are not around any more. I want to know how I can trust her again and forget about this. We might not have been together when she done this, but if your not together then ...
A. 14 January 2009: The best thing is to just love her, as you are, and do new things to build the relationship back up again. Take her somwhere special, a place that is your own, tell her you love her.
You need to get it out of your head, don't ever use it againsed... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like CRAP after finding out an old friend is in Playboy?
Q. Hey all, this is probably kind of a stupid situation, but I just found out a girl I went to high school with and was friends with is on the cover of the new Playboy lingerie magazine. Ever since I found this out (it was just yesterday) I have felt ...
A. 14 January 2009: I'll tell you a tip. If you ever want to be a "real" model you'll never ever go in such a magazine. It's dispised in the fashion industry very much to go in those sorts - Because when your a "real" model the big brands use/employ you for a shoot ... (read in full...)
Am I his girl or what?
Q. I have been seeing a man for the past 4 months... We usually spend time at his place. We eat together, and cook sometimes,watch movies,t.v., talk and spend quiet time. We are intimate, and have amazing sex. We truly enjoy each others company ...
A. 14 January 2009: Your definitely his girl! And that my friend could have very well been a good test, not that it was set up, but made your guy truly realised that you are a top woman who is committed to him and sincere about the relationship. This was demonstrated ... (read in full...)
Problematic friend...
Q. Hi, I had this funny curious episode. A guy added me on facebook. As a rule I don't accept friend request from strangers and he was not my type but I chatted a bit and I liked him. Then after reading his profile and finding him to be a regular ...
A. 14 January 2009: I think that you should have called him when he gave you the signal. It's not always up to the guy to do the chasing. Heaps of girls have the initiative to take action if they REALLY want to be with that guy. He most likely would have seen it "oh ... (read in full...)
Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 13 January 2009: Great! just hang in there okay. So he might trust you again and he wants to get back with you, you know he still loves you he just can't say it. Maybe he's just afraid of being hurt or somthing but I can tell you now he loves you very much, he's ... (read in full...)
Would you forgive me and take me back???
Q. I had been dating this guy for three years. He was wonderful to me and I really loved him. He found out that had been online messaging his sis bf.The messages were a bit suggestive but I was not in my right mind because I was under the influence. We ...
A. 12 January 2009: Okay, at the end of the day you still sent them regardless of drinking or under any influence. To answer your question: Yes I would, if I truly loved you, love works in these ways but id be a little careful about you, you would need to do a lot of ... (read in full...)
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