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writes:ive recently split with my boyfriend. we werent together long and he didnt take it very well. he dragged out the whole thing for a wek before he would let it lie. anyway im glad i did it. i dont want a boyfriend. i want to have fun and i wasnt having fun with him. Im going to uni in a yr and i dont want to be tied down to anyone, Is it wrong to feel like that? i wasnt in love with him and i couldnt see us progressing any further. i think im going to be happier. will you ive me your views o nthis.help fro mpeople who have felt similar would be nice thankyou xxx
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reader, boo33 +, writes (24 September 2007):
boo33 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou everyone. you ahve all amde me feel so much better about what i did. Thanks XxXxXx
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (24 September 2007):
 at last!
someone who is regretting splitting up with their partner!
if you weren't happy in the relationship and you felt it better to be apart, then you absolutely did the right thing not just for you but for your ex aswel because you didn't give him false hope by staying for his sake.
enjoy you're life, young, free and single!!
make the most of it, you got you're whole life to settle into a relationship!!!
good luck!!!!
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (24 September 2007):
 If you werent in love and just want to live and have fun you did the right thing and you shouldnt be upset about doing what you thought was right, go and have fun you dont need to be tied down to someone your not intrested in.
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reader, Uncle_Phil +, writes (24 September 2007):
 You sound like an intelligent sort of person!
You did the right thing, feeling the way you do. Don't have any regrets, because if you didn't feel anything towards him there was absolutely no point in continuing with it.
Enjoy Uni when you get there - you'll make lots of new friends and you'll get yourself highly educated provided that boys don't get in the way of your studies.
All the best
Phil
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2007): It's normal... never has happened to me (I'm with my first bf now, and I'd be devastated if we broke up)... but I've seen it happen.
I think it's fine, everyone's different. And you're actually very mature to decide for yourself, and not stay with him for pity or anything, because that wouldn't be ok.
If you didn't love him and din't want a boyfriend, then it's the right thing to do. You're not fooling him or yourself. Now he can move on and find someone who'll make him happier and you'll go have the life you want. So, it's normal and ok.
Cheers!
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reader, baby duck  + ♥, writes (24 September 2007):
 Of course it is okay ... it is more than okay: it is good. I always told my sons, "Don't be in a hurry for a girlfriend; she's just another mother, asking you who you're with, where you're going, what you're doing and when you'll be back! That's why you have me!" You are young and have so much to learn about yourself before complicating everything with a relationship. He may not be happy at the moment, but it's not good for him to be in a relationship with someone that doesn't want to be there ... so your decision was good for him, as well. Stay true to yourself, while treating others with respect and kindness, and you'll probably make good choices. Best wishes!
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (24 September 2007):
 If you were not in love with him, then you did the right thing, for you and him. You are free to pursue your interests, and he is free to find someone else, too. You mention that he didn't take it well. It would have been much worse for him if you had kept him hanging on to false hopes.
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