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writes:Dear Cupidi have a boyfriend who is 2 years younger then me. im not really comfortable with that age gap but he always make sure we don't let that come between us.out of all the guys i'v dated, he tops them all and he always remains me of his love for me. but i can't help thinking of the age gap between us. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks a lot for giving me such great answers. You guys give me a feeling of relief that of course age gap doesn't matter at all, it's what's that inside of us that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007):
Let me pose it to you this way. Suppose you were dating an equally-awesome guy but he was a decade other than you? I'll bet you would be very quick to defend it with "age doesn't really matter."
If age really doesn't matter, then younger doesn't matter either, does it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Heya hunni, it's only a two year age gap. There is nothing to worry about! He's the best boyfriend you've ever had, don't let this bother you. Two years is nothing x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): You shouldn't let 2 years bother you at all. My ex-partner is 13 years younger than me and we made it work for 16 years before other things went wrong... the most important thing is that this guy makes you happy
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 If he is the best boyfriend you have ever had why would you let a tiny 2 year age gap bother you so much, he doesnt let it so why do you? Dont risk a relationship over age espeically two years just dont think about it age after all is just a number.
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reader, stina  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Hello Anonymous,
What about the two year age gap makes you uncomfortable? Can you explain a little further? Is it because of something that *you* feel, or is it because people are poking fun at you for dating someone younger?
If you two get along that well, I couldn't imagine you'd actually be thinking that the age gap is that big of a problem unless someone else is trying to tell you otherwise. (Maybe I'm wrong?)
If someone is nagging you about it, tell them to get lost. This guy seems to treat you like a queen. Would it be better if you got with someone two years OLDER who treated you like dirt? To me, it seems like the other people are just jealous. Maybe they have issues that they need to deal with on their own, and are dragging you into it: misery loves company, you know.
But if *you* yourself are actually uncomfortable, you need to figure out what it is about the age difference that's really making you feel weird. Is this a new relationship, by any chance? Maybe once you two have been together for a while, you won't even think about your age in relation to his anymore. I don't see why you would... But if it really poses a problem, you should probably think about finding someone who suits all of your needs. I'm sure your guy won't want to go through life hearing about how you don't like his age if you two remain together and that stays near the top of your priority list.
Take care.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Two years of difference is nothing. Just don't worry about it.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (28 September 2007):
 A two year age gap is really nothing atal. You say that out of all the guys you have dated he tops them all. So enjoy your relationship together and stop dwelling on something as small as a 2 year age gap.
All the best x
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): Whats 2 years in a lifetime? Seriously, if he treats you right and makes you happy there wheres the problem. I think maybe you are thinking about what other people might think too much, Just enjoy it and let things take there course. Good luck to you x
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reader, Midge +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Trust me, at your age, a two year age gap is perfectly fine. If he loves you and you love him, stop thinking about something as trivial as a small age gap. Enjoy your time with him and be yourself!
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reader, BlueEyes89 +, writes (28 September 2007):
 You really dont have to worry about it, and the end of the day, it is only 2 years!! If it was 20 years then maybe you should re-think things...but nice men who will e besotted with you and tick nearly every box on your list, are so hard to come by, so id just enjoy him and the things you do together...and stop fretting, because as you said, he's the best guy you have ever dated.. Just have fun, 2 years is nothing.x
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