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*my2007x
writes:Hello. I am extremly worried. I done something that I feel completely silly about. I feel like such a silly little girl. Any feedback and comments would be very much appreicated.I have known this guy for a while and deicded to meet up with him for a few drinks, It was too late afterwards for me to get a taxi/bus home as I had stayed out too late and I didnt want to call my parents to collect me as I didnt want to wake them up lol I'm 18 btw. So he said I could go back to his - which I did. I told him straight up that I wasnt going to sleep with him etc .. so, We both went to bed (shared bed) and we started kissing each other etc etc ... and fooling around .. no sex tho, as I said No to that completely. The next morning though, I told him the reason why I didnt want to sleep with him, as I'm not on the pill etc etc .. and I knew he didnt have a condom, and he said it was not a problem and that he would pop to the shops and get some if i wanted, which I did. So he came back from the shops and we slept together a few times, He had trouble putting it on and kept putting it inside out etc .. and then he started to kiss me and he was about to put his penis in .. and I told him, you need a condom, and then he said, I know but just feel it inside of you first, so I did for about no more than ten seconds... then he took it out and put a condom on it. The next day I went and got the morning pill as it worried me thinking about it. But since then... which was 5 days ago, I've been feeling itchy down there all of a sudden (Is it because I shaved?? and we slept togeather lots??) and I had lots of discharge too. I'ts gone now, so why do you think that was??I am still feeling itchy now, I am starting to think that I am pregnant... do you think I am? I hope I am not. I feel so silly right now it's unreal. I am so dispointed in myself!
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reader, krazykira22 +, writes (10 July 2009):
 hows it going? x
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (29 May 2009):
 Firstly relax and don't panic too much. You remind me of a situation I had: Regarding that seduction thing that Who mentioned, a guy wanted it there and then and in a moment of weakness I didn't notice there wasn't a condom on, because it happened quickly. I was really shocked about it and got the morning after pill.
Basically you are getting a period now - the morning after pill causes a really heavy period - so you won't be pregnant, you'll be fine. So don't think of it in terms of when you would normally expect your period, you are getting it now instead.
For all the guys out there who don't care about condoms - it's us girls who end up going through a horrid and painful period when we have had the morning after pill. After all it would be irresponsible to take a risk and think you are OK - so I am glad you got the morning after pill.
It actually shocks me that there are many guys with a high sex drive that want it there and then, they are happy to seduce but not bother with condoms, or only bother because you insist.
It's about being more alert next time and mentioning condoms before your pants come off. ie pass one to him, or say "There's a condom in my handbag, shall I get it you" or "there's a condom there" something...
At least that way you will not have these regrets and you have the peace of mind.
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reader, Who  +, writes (28 May 2009):
 “The follies of our youth are, in retrospect, glorious when compared to the follies of our old age.”
I agree with all the advice below about taking this as a learning experience and not worrying about it.
I would also add many men behave the way this guy did; working away slowly at your resolve until you are aroused enough to have sex. It is caused seduction and most men learn do because if they stop the first time the woman says no they don’t get anything, but if they continue in the correct manner they often get what they want. I’m not saying this is good or bad just this is the way many men are and you should be ready for it the next time.
I will say this is bad; I think he put it in without the condom hoping you would like it and get carried away, letting him (or not stopping him) continue without it. You should also be ready for this in the future, and not have anything further to do with a guy who tries anything like it.
Hope this helps.
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (28 May 2009):
Amy2007x is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for everyones feedback. I agree with you Fiona completely never thought of it like that - Why didnt he mention he didnt put a condom on first? ... that has angered me, how dare he do that. But, who Am I to talk - I allowed it to go further. Today I am bleeding .. my period isnt due for another two weeks .. realyl worried if i am being honest .. I jst want my period to come and jst make everything better .. I feel like such an idiot right now. 18 and the chance of being pregnant, this is the sort of thing I read and frown apon but looks like I am extyremly hypercirtical. I really dont know what to do.
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reader, Fiona xxx +, writes (28 May 2009):
At least you noticed that he didn't have the condom on. That's crazy though isn't it, that he didn't bother until you said!
You'll be fine, after all you got the morning after pill, which I am pleased with you.
I am wondering if you regretting how it happened, rather than actually sleeping with him? I am wondering if it was more about how it happened and that he inserted his penis for a bit, without the condom. (I would have been annoyed about that).
The thing is once you go back to a guy's place, you are heading in the direction for casual sex. Granted it's possible not to have sex if you forewarn the guy, but then you were surprised about the opportunity in the morning. No doubt you said what you did in the morning, expecting to leave and nothing happen.
You have now had your eyes open to casual sex. Two options either never again, or always carry a condom in case, and be sure you use it and mention using it before your pants come off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): First off...everyone makes mistakes, be they sexual or in other aspects of life. Anyone you meet who claims they haven't made mistakes in life is lying to your face. Don't hate yourself over this, just live and learn.
It's very unlikely you are pregnant from a single sex act. The pamphlet that came with my birth control pills says that the likelihood of pregnancy from a single unprotected sexual encounter is about 8%. It sounds like you took the morning-after pill within a 72-hour window of having sex with him, which drops the likelihood that you are pregnant still further. Frankly, I wouldn't worry about it unless your period is late, in which case you should take a pregnancy test to find out one way or the other. It's FAR more likely that you are itchy from having shaved down there.
If this experience bothered you, avoid casual sex in the future and be sure to use a condom during the ENTIRE sexual encounter. But don't beat yourself up about this. Good luck =)
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reader, Summerlovn2004 +, writes (28 May 2009):
 You are not pregnant the ichy feeling is from shaving, and the discharge is your cum. Don't worry your fine.:D
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reader, deejuliet +, writes (28 May 2009):
 No, you are not pregnant. Pregnancy does not cause itching. You are probably itchy either because you shaved or because you have a yeast infection. You should probably get checked out to see or get some meds from the drug store at least. In the future do not jump into the sack with people on a whim though. You need to have a bit more respect for yourself and hold out for a relationship, not just a bit of fun.
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reader, jj. +, writes (28 May 2009):
go to the county program in your town and they will check you for free if you are either pregnant or have a std.
do assume..go and check it out..end of story..
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): You dont know how many times ive heard let me feel it inside first and then they end up feeling it inside a little too much. Dont fall for it next time you can still get stds and possibly pregnant Its a good thing you took the morning after pill. Dont feel stupid because we all make mistakes just learn from them. The itching it could be from shaving but you said you had discharge and that to me sounds like a yeast infection nothing serious you can get over the counter drugs from the store for that. If their is any bad odor go to the dr. and stop worrying about being pregnant you cant be after taking that pill if you were you wouldnt have itching you would have other symptoms like being nausious and tired and a missed period.
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reader, krazykira22 +, writes (28 May 2009):
Babe noone can be sure for certain until you have been to the doctors! So my suggestion is try not to think about ask a friend you trust to go to the doctors with you and i would ask to see a female nurse and just sit down with her and discuss what happend what your thinking and most importantly what your feeling. whatever you do dont panick and dont worry about something until it comes... if u need more help message me x
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