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I want to marry two women and they both know about it, is there any way this can be legal?

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Question - (9 April 2009) 7 Answers - (Newest, 18 October 2010)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

If I marry two women and they both know and they approve of it is it legal if they both agree? And if not, is there a way that if they both sign legal documents through the courts through the laws can they both marry me then?

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A female reader, mlambert United States +, writes (18 October 2010):

Kody Brown from utah is married to 3 women and engaged to another. Somehow that is legal. But how can you honestly be truely committed to another person if you are also seeking the love from another person? Think deeply about how you feel and how fair it is to everyone involved before pursuing out of selfishness or lust. Good luck to you.

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A male reader, FireManJ United States +, writes (7 August 2009):

FireManJ agony auntPolygamy is not legal, and probably never will be, because our system is not set up to provide Justice For All, but to allow the powerful to manipulate the masses.

It is, how ever, totally legal for you to be an adulterer. I know, makes no sense, but again, the law isn't about justice, it's about power.

Do all three of you a favor. Don't any body get married. Have a ceremony on a quiet beach or mountain side some where, just the four of you (you three plus God as a witness), where the three of you promise to stay with each other for life, move in together, have kids and go on with life. If you want to be totally safe, have your two women live in separate houses, that will help if things ever go to court. And for Heaven's sake don't ever tell any one that either woman is your wife. If they ask, they're just girlfriends, and you're all just busy committing fornication, which is totally legal. The key is, the law supports people who act irresponsibly and immorally. So sleep around! Just do it with these two women only for the rest of your lives. But the minute you actually claim them as your wives and own up to the children you create with them, oh Lordy! You're a criminal, baby!

So to recap, in the eyes of the law:

Polygamy - bad - illegal

Adultery - good - legal

Fornication - good - legal

Out of wed lock births - good - legal

Confused? Welcome to the club.

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A female reader, Jessieluvbird United States +, writes (9 April 2009):

Jessieluvbird agony auntI do not think it is legal you should really take some time into this and see which one you like more around ALL aspectd

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009):

afraid not not legally EVEN if they BOTH agreed.

look doesn't matter if they sign both agree infront of people or anything.

it's against the law.

you cannot marry two people.

it's bigamy.

not even legal

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2009):

hi Anon

You cannot be legally married to two women at the same time in a Western Country. while the first Marriage would be recognised as legal. the second will be Bigamy and you could find yourself arrested.

However the good news is as both the lucky ladies are in agreement with this scheme all three of you could toddle off and have a fantasic holiday in a hot sunny country where polygamy is LEGAL and have yourselves an all in Wedding and a Honeymoon.

GL and let us know how you get on


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A female reader, deejuliet United States +, writes (9 April 2009):

deejuliet agony auntThis is called polyamory and is a lot more common than people would think. No, there is no way that I know of to make this legal. Even in Utah where the mormons regularly practice polygamy it isnt actually legal. The man marries his first wife and the rest are 'spiritual wives'. That does not mean you cannot be with both women ~if they approve ~ but one would have to be your legal wife and one would only be your 'girlfriend' or 'spiritual wife'. You can be equally commited to both, providing financially and emotionally, even all living together. As long as you are all in this together I see nothing wrong with it. If there are some other legal documents you could sign, I dont know about them, but you may be able to talk to a lawyer and have something drawn up. It may not hold up in court, but it certainly would be evidence of your commitment.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (9 April 2009):

eyeswideopen agony auntNot in these United States, not even in Morman country. Not legally any way.

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