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writes:Here's the thing, I was dating this guy, who is 3 years older than me via the internet and we had arranged to meet and that, it just never happened. Is this too dangerous for me to be doing? I really like him, and he says he loves me, like properly loves me. I dont know whether to keep seeing him or cool things off until we meet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2009): You seen pictures , webcam? in other wosrds You sure that this boy/man is sixteen?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2009): Trust me, boys will say ANYTHING to a young girl to get what they want from them. Hes only after one thing, and one thing alone. If you want though, meet him but take a friend with you. You never know if he is who he says he is, and meet in a public place. Meet him a few times if you like him and dont let him get wht he wants!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): dont be so nieve girl stay away from the pervert he only wants 1 thing hun xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): Girl, you're only 13. And any male will tell you what you want to hear just to exploit you.
Please do not entertain this guy eventhough he says he genuinely loves you. Your much better off dating guys in your neighbourhood that you know and your family knows rather than dating a total stranger.
Be safe girl and make an informed decision. After all its your life. What you do depends on you.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (28 May 2009):
 even if u two had met, and gotten along and all, im afraid that there is a large enough age gap between u two, if u were older, like 19 and he was still 5 yrs older, itd probably be ok, as u would have matured enough in growth etc to take on such a relationship, however, at the tender age of 13 yrs, he being 17, id have to question his motives, your SO young still, itd be like u were 9 yrs old dating a 13 yr old boy.its not right, ur still a young little girl, hes pretty much a man. something is not right with him for wanting to get with u at ur age, and ur naivety and innocence shines out bright as u try to defend that he loves u "properly", but yet u have no idea just what that truly entails. love is very complicated, and with males his age, sex will play a factor, sooner or later. sex is an adult decision, with responsiblities etc, u have no idea what 17 yr old males are all about, and ur bound to get a rude awakening. keep ur innocence and wait til ur older. and, who knows? if u remain friends with him, and u get older and the feelings still remain, then give it a shot!
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (28 May 2009):
 Yes, this is very dangerous and very stupid. He cannot properly 'love' you as the two of you have never even met!!! Love is something that take a long time of shared experiences and actual time spent together. What you have is the fantasy of love, not the real thing. Plus, as other aunts have pointed out, he may be lying! There is no way for you to know without even meeting! However, under no circumstances should you even consider meeting this young man on your own. That would be, by far, the most stupid and dangerous thing you could do! You must have your parents permission and consent and either they or a friend must accompany you to meet him in a very public place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2009): It is dangerous to meet him. Men do this all the time to get younger girls. They lie about their age and give fake pictures, and hack into the girls email to learn more about them so that they can appeal to them.
At your age, especially you should be very, very careful. You are too young and defenseless. If you must meet him, then do so in a VERY public and populated area and do not get in a car with him.
If he wants to meet you badly enough, he won't have a problem doing so around your parents. You might need your parents in this one.. to take you to meet him so you don't have to get in his car, or to be there with you two, so that he can't do anything to hurt you. Untill you really, really trust him that is, and have proof that he is who he says he is.
I'm not saying that this gy is lyeing, i'm just saying.. you are WAY better off safe than sorry.
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