Will there be someone for me?
Q. Will there be someone for me? I'm 27, have a successful career and am smarter than most peers my age. I've dated a couple of times but things did not work out. As I read the questions on this site...seems like there's a lot of bad guys out there - ...
A. 22 June 2008: Hi,
of course there is. We are not all bastards, though plenty of women would probably disagree.
It all depends on what you consider a good partner. The first thing you mention is that you have a successful career which means it is obviously im... (read in full...)
He makes un-PC jokes. Do I have to feel uncomfortable all the time, or can I make him censor himself?
Q. Hi guys, I'm pretty stressed out about my situation. I'm a very P.C. person, I always think about the bigger picture of what people say, and every once in a while my bf says things or makes jokes that make me really uncomfortable and I think ar...
A. 22 June 2008: Hi there,
if a joke is overtly racist I have a problem, even one that implies that a person of a different race is somehow inferior.
But I believe the whole point about being a couple is you can make little jokey comments about other people b... (read in full...)
I have no desire to cheat or be unfaithful, but how do I rid myself of these emotions?
Q. I am married to a really nice guy. All in all our relationship is ok but I guess we have our ups and downs like everyone else. Recently I started working with a guy who I find myself being very attracted to so many levels; physical, mental...
A. 21 June 2008: Hi,
If you married quite young ( and by the look of your age group you have ) you may subconciously be thinking you missed out something as you committed yourself to one man at a very young age. So this new guy has added some zest into your life... (read in full...)
Shouldn't he be having a bit of variety (watching porn) as to not become bored with me? Should I encourage him to fantasize about other girls...?
Q. Is this too "good" to be true? I feel like something's wrong with it! Either my bf is a liar or seriously commited. The other day we were talking about sex and stuff. I asked him if he ever wanted to go to a strip club. He said he didn't, that it ...
A. 21 June 2008: Hi there,
personally I can never see what the fascination is about watching a heroin addict take her clothes off. I went to a strip club once and it was awful, I just felt so sorry for the girls up there moving about while these creeps lusted over... (read in full...)
Why is it men run when things get serious?
Q. Hi. need some someones perspective on this please. i'm left feeling very down and confused. Why is it that men run when things get serious? and this guy is 40! I been online dating for a while now as i don't get much time to myself and my friends ...
A. 21 June 2008: Hi,
sorry mate, I cant figure this one out, I'm as confused as you. I guess some guys are just emotional retards who when they realise they are genuinely falling for someone have to back off . If he was just after sex he wouldnt have introduced you ... (read in full...)
Is it unreasonable to ask him to wait 6 months for me knowing that it will decrease his chances of getting a good job placement?
Q. Hi guys, My boyfriend and I started going out knowing full well that he wants to move to the other side of the country at the end of the year. He has been studying for 5 years for his degree and wants to move to a country town to start his career...
A. 21 June 2008: Hi
being in australia myself I know how hard it can be for people with differing careers taking them all over the country. As you know the economic crises has hit the big cities quite hard and a lot of the work is now in the mines and out in the ... (read in full...)
Anyone know about blood pressure? Apparently mine is high!
Q. Really gutted because i stopped smoking 6 weeks ago, cut down the booze a bit, got a dog a couple of months ago so get a bit more exercise, and came out a stressful relationship about a month ago. yet i went for a new patient health check at the new ...
A. 21 June 2008: Hi there,
its still early days mate. Just hang in there and look at your diet as well. Try and cut out fatty foods and eat as much fruit and veggies as you can. I had high blood pressure for a while and it dropped significantly when I changed my d... (read in full...)
I feel as if I am at crossroads in my marrige...all advice really appreciated!
Q. I have been married for 6 years, this is my second marriage I'm 41 my hubby is 40.My first husband was controlling and aggressive and violent. One of the reasons I was attracted to my second husband was the fact that he was undemanding, kind, co...
A. 20 June 2008: Hi there,
I'm really sorry to see you going through this. It looks like you went down the right track by avoiding a violent controlling type like your ex but maybe you picked someone who is the exact opposite of your ex.
There is no shame in admit... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 20 June 2008: Good on you !! Let him try his arse bandit show on some other poor girl - my partner is shall we say very elastic and sex just keeps getting better and better- your boyfriend has no idea how to please a woman - that's all this is about.
good luck... (read in full...)
I am married and started seing someone else very frequently... we have now broken up... how do I get over him?
Q. Yes I know it was and is wrong and I know many people will deserve the pain I am in. I am married for almost 7 years...my husband is great and all that normal stuff no abuse etc. Just no affection. 8 months ago I met someone due to interes...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
I wont say you deserved it, but by the same token you know you are responsible for your own actions and you have cheated on your husband.
The only way to get over the grief is to try and focus not on this man but on the man you are married ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend acusses me of cheating all the time and I don't know what else to do, help please!
Q. Hiya, i'm really confused :( i've been with my boyfriend for 7 months and everything is just going wrong :( i love him so much but at the moment he's really hurting me, he makes me sound like an awful person who only cares for myself and that really ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
Unfortunately you will find that there are a lot of boys and men out there with controlling personalities. You have just had the bad luck to have one as your first boyfriend.
Its best to let him go make some poor other girl's life a miser... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the office whore!
Q. so i was in a porn movie about 5 years ago when i was 20, (i was in a very dire and bad situation in my life) but i have grown and learnt from that experience and i have gone to school and got myself a job on a magazine. I am very happy with how I ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
You think this girl hates you enough to dig out the dirt on you. I think you may be thinking she is a lot more resourceful than she is, or at least is paying you more attention than she wants.
I'm sure she has better things to do than spend mo... (read in full...)
Am I infertile or is it just luck?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for the past six months and we have sex quite often. We've never once used protection and don't get me wrong I'm glad I'm not pregnant! But I just don't understand why that's the case. Does that mean I'm infertile or is i...
A. 19 June 2008: Your extremely lucky you are not pregnant.
Now excuse me for being rude, but are you nuts?
It's time to grow up and take responsibility, you are too young to get pregnant and I guarantee your darling sweetheart will run for the hills when you do.... (read in full...)
My wife's paranoia is driving me mad!
Q. I have been married for three years and dated my wife for 10 years before that. I have never cheated on her or even come close. Even when we did the long distance relationship thing for several years, I never so much as talked to another woman as ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
I believe relationships should never involve one partner having to constantly reassure the other that they are being faithful. Unless of course they have genuine cause for this concern.
This is her problem and she needs to address it with you... (read in full...)
Why can't I enjoy sex with my boyfriend, I'm bi-sexual
Q. well i'm a bisexual girl very much in love with my boyfriend but i'm having severe sexual problems. we been together for over 2 years and only had sex about 5 times. he is frustrated, i am frustrated. i only had sex with one other guy before my ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
just something I think needs to be cleared up here.
Have you enjoyed sex with another man before or is this your first male partner. I think this is important as it could mean you just dont have the sexual chemistry with your current part... (read in full...)
My teacher and I got on well until he overheard my conversation with a friend! Help!
Q. i'm 16 and here is my situation. I used to have a crush on my teacher like all teenagers, and i got over him over time :) Me and my teacher used to get along really well and he always used to say hi in the corridors and always make eye contact with...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
sorry mate,but say nothing to him. He is paid by the education department to be your teacher not your friend.
If he is sore about it then he will get over it, but he is an adult and your parents have put their trust in him to educate you ... (read in full...)
Younger man vs. older man, what shall I do?
Q. I have been dating a man 10 years younger than me. Now a man that is 40, 5 years older than me wants to date me. He is a very reputable and kind person but cannot offer me much, as he is getting out of a divorce now and is very hurt by it. Th...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
Sorry but I'm not so sympathetic to your plight.
If you already are dating a man, why on earth are you still looking around? If I was the younger man, I would insist you go with the older bloke as you obviously cannot commit to a one on one r... (read in full...)
She's 21 and wants to party alone before the ring...
Q. Ok, I was 21 she was 17, everything was happy. Fast foward 4 years and some and now I'm 25 and she's 21 we've been living together for 2 years and she's just perfect for me. I tell her I want to get engaged just a week or two after her 21st bi...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi mate,
first off you cant let her dictate some sort of time limit for you, you have a right to lead your own life. But in a sense this shows how unready she is to settle down doesnt it?
I feel very sorry for you, but you need to cut contact ... (read in full...)
Is he too young for me do you think?
Q. I wonder if anyone can advise me on a startling new problem that's come up. Im 35 and single, never been married or had kids, and a few years ago got to know a lovely guy through some friends, who was 19. i found him really attractive and ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
I have to admit I had a fling with an older lady when I was 21. It was awesome I have to say, she certainly taught me a lot about sex and life and I will be forever in her debt.
But the relationship was never going to last, eventually I went t... (read in full...)
He prefers his work buddies , some are girls, over me, is something up?
Q. I have a small issue. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. A short time compared to other people. Almost six months into our relationship i pretty much moved into his townhouse with him. Then in may his lease was up and had to ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi there,
I'm sorry to say but all indications are that he is seeing someone else.
You have to know deep down that his "restaurant activity" excuses are a load of bull. You have given him your complete trust, the problem when you do somethin... (read in full...)
My husband left and got another girl pregnant, how to deal with all this?
Q. A month a go my husband left our home. He said he didnt know what he wanted. We have been married one and a half years and togther 2 and a half. He was going to come home and then met a young 18 yr old girl. He is 24 I am 26. He came back come leav...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
I guess whether you did sleep withe the "random guy" is now irrelevant. You don't say whether that is true.
Your relationship looks doomed I'm afraid to say. You might just have to move on, you married very young and in this day and age... (read in full...)
How can I gently break up with my boyfriend?
Q. me and my older bf (im 16 hes 22) have ben together for nearly a yr and everythings been fantastic but just lately ive started to want to go out more and meet more new ppl and maybe new lads i wann hav fun and go on dates while im young but he wants ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi,
It won't be easy but he is is incredbily naive to think that a 16 year old girl wants to settle down. He must be living in a fantasy land. You are probably still at school for crying out loud!
Tell him that while you love him to bits you hav... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says my vagina is loose and that he does not feel a thing... what can I do? How do I fix it?
Q. I have not cheated why does my vagina feel loose... my boyfriend thinks that I've cheated... before he even mentioned it, I have been noticing a diffrence with our sex life... when we have sex my vagina has no tightness to it.. I try and ...
A. 19 June 2008: Hi there,
Your boyfriend is a jerk. If he says this again tell him that it's not your fault he isnt big enough to satisfy a woman.
Accusing you of sleeping with other men is the biggest load of crock. That is not going to make your vagina loose... (read in full...)
Where is a man's "G-Spot"?
Q. Can someone tell me in a FULL DESCRIPTION where is a man's G-SPOT (in details)...
A. 18 June 2008: I would be most interested to know myself.
I fail to see how my partner going up my jacksie in search of the prostrate could be even remotely stimulating it makes me squirm even thinking about it!... (read in full...)
What's the main reason men cheat?
Q. Y do MOST men CHEAT? What gives them a reason to have more than 1 women? I no theres alot of reason but whats the MAIN reason? Does SEX plays a BIG role in a relationship?...
A. 17 June 2008: Yes, a lot of men are bastards and you apparently pick them up.
Try changing your outlook so you don't attract the player type.
Most of us don't cheat but the ones that do always have a girl on their arm ( and I'm sure you are one of these gi... (read in full...)
Any tips on being a good Muslim wife?
Q. hi, does anyone know any tips on how to be a good muslim wife? thanks....
A. 17 June 2008: Be submissive and do what your told.
Sheesh I dont know mate, it sounds like you are buying into the wife being there to cater to the whims of your husband school of thought. If that's what you want I guess it's a free world otherwise the best way... (read in full...)
Should I go against myself and be a FWB, and enjoy myself with him and be heartbroken if he finds true love elsewhere, or do I cut my losses and run?
Q. I'm 32 and recently began chatting online to a really great 37 year guy. We got on really well, and after about a month, we met up. And got on really really well. I stayed at his and we had a great weekend together. (yes we slept togethe...
A. 17 June 2008: HI,
I think if you are already worried about the way things are going then there is little hope for a long lasting relationship.
Only you can tell at the end of the day what you really want in your life, but this guy at 37 may just have a history ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's okay for a 19 year old to party till late or travel to a different city with friends?
Q. I would like to know your opininon for the following question 1) Do you think its okay for a 19 year old to party out with her friends until late in the night (say about 3 am) 2) Does she have the right to plan a trip with her friends to a dif...
A. 17 June 2008: Hi,
I emigrated by myself when I was 19! For heavens sake in Australia you are of legal age, entitled to vote and drink in public houses. So you are old enough to make your own decisions.
But if you are living with your parents then they may obje... (read in full...)
Should I tell my bf about my drunken flirting?
Q. Recently when out and quite drunk I got talking to this guy who was really dead on. He knew I had a boyfriend and he had a girlfriend. I was chatting to him for ages about both our partners and lots of other things. But as the alcohol started ...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi,
why on earth would you even consider telling your boyfriend?
You state he is a jealous/protective type so first I would like to scale down your 100% happy quote - I'm sure you are not happy when he is accusing you of flirting with other me... (read in full...)
I want to do more sexy things for my boyfriend...
Q. Me and my bf have been together for almost two years now and we've has sex plenty of times but it seems that I'm always the one enjoying it better. Don't get me wrong he gets off and says he is when I ask him but he always does all the work. I'm not ...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi there,
I wouldnt worry too much. At your age you still have your L plates in the experience side and great sex I believe doesnt really kick in till your over 30! So something to really look forward to huh?
We guys are quite keen on verbal co... (read in full...)
In a relationship for no reason, and what do I do about my ex?
Q. I was 'seeing' this guy for 4 months when he ended it with me. I now have a new boyfriend, but am still hopelessly in love with him. I think i partly started going out with my new boyfriend to spite the guy i was seeing. The guy i was seeing l...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi,
please dont take this the wrong way but these are very childish games you are playing - all of you. All it demonstrates is the lack of emotional maturity required to commit to a relationship.
Really, when you mature more you should be able to ... (read in full...)
What's an overly clingy girlfriend?
Q. how do u define a clingy gf? i was simply telling my bf how much he meant to me and saying things like your the only person that will ever mean anything to me, ur the last thing i think of when i go to sleep and who i think of when i wake up and he...
A. 16 June 2008: You have been together 21 months so the relationship should be pretty solid.
You are Australian so being a resident myself I am wondering if you are going out with a typical Aussie bloke. Living here I reckon about half the men I meet are emot... (read in full...)
AI have huge jealousy issues...is it me or the way he behaves?
Q. I am a 21 y.o woman and have been with my partner for 7 months. We were best friends years before we got together. I have a jealousy problem anytime we go out i feel like i have to watch where he is looking an if i see him look at another women i ...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi,
from a male's perspective it always puzzles me when I read these posts. Not that I dont understand you, but we fail to see the connection between looking at a good looking girl on the internet and our current partners. Personally I dont have... (read in full...)
caught my boyfriend of two years cruising for sex at an adult book store. Plese advise!!
Q. Last week I was coming home late from work, when I noticed my boyfriend's car parked outside an Adult Book Store- I knew immediately he was cruising for sex. I waited outside the store, and noticed him circling around the building looking for sex. ...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi,
i think you really know the answer to this already.
His urges for same sex intimacy will not die if you take him back and impose conditions. All that will happen is he will have to take extra effort to hide them from you.
You cannot fo... (read in full...)
He has been violent to me will he change?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend over a year now, and we just had a child together a month ago. He the nicest guy I have ever met and treats me better than anyone I know. He is a very easy to get along with, my friends like him, and my family loves ...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi,
these posts are so sad because all the women always state what a sweetie their husband is before telling us that he is violent.
You have to leave him now. The fact that the last time was the worst is only a taster of things to come. You ha... (read in full...)
Hey Guys! How come you disappear after a few dates?!
Q. This is a question for all the men. Why do you guys disappear? Like, after a few dates, few phone calls, emails..then, just vanish into thin air? for all the baffled women out there, whats up guys? ...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi,
I would say you are simply meeting the wrong type of men. Which is something you will have to look at.
You do not mention if you sleep with them early on in a relationship. If you do a lot of men will simply dump you once they've carved out t... (read in full...)
I feel like I can't do anything right in my marriage!
Q. OK so I feel like I can't do anything right in my marriage of almost 2 years. My husband is Iraq and I recently brought my sister to live with me for a couple of reasons but the main reason was to help her get her life together. I stressed to my ...
A. 16 June 2008: Hi,
I can understand the stress your husband must be under serving in such a volatile environment. It must place all sorts of pressures on him.
But by the same token you are not immune to these pressures either , you have to worry about whether ... (read in full...)
We're not even engaged yet. Am I wasting my time?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months and we practically live together. We have done since more or less day one of our relationship. Before we got into a relationship, he was renting a house off his mum but she needed to rent i...
A. 15 June 2008: Sorry,
I'm confused, does he live with you or not? If he only stays over on occasions then I cant see why he should be obligated to share the mortgage with you. But if he lives with you then he should. The way to do it is to share the expenses, once... (read in full...)
I'm 17. He's 25. People say it's "sick" or just "wrong". Is it?
Q. I have been seeing a guy who is 8 years younger then me, (im 25 his 17) We have been going out now for just over 6 months, but during this time we have had alot of people tell us that our relationship is 'sick' or 'wrong'. Is it really that wro...
A. 15 June 2008: Hi,
its a free world mate and you guys can do whatever you want.
But from your perspective if you think this is a serious relationship I assume you understand that in 4-5 years time he will be a very different person than now, he will have hopes an... (read in full...)
I'm happily married - but in love with another . .
Q. I dated a man 5 years ago for a short period of time. I was crazy about him but didnt think he returned my deep feelings. I moved on romantically,and got married to a very lovely person after 18 months of dating. I remained friends with my old ...
A. 15 June 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry but you don't really seem to be terribly concerned about your husband save for the comment that he is a lovely man. Its all about you and your ex flame.
If you truly love your husband you will cut off contact with the ex. it is cl... (read in full...)
I like my teacher, he found out and now he's constantly watching me!
Q. Well theres this teacher in my school who a I Started to like nearly a year ago and well when a told one of my friends she told him at first I thought it was the worst thing ever but now am glad she did tell him cause ever since then hes been lookin ...
A. 15 June 2008: May I ask who he has been asking about you with? I find that a little puzzling because a predatory teacher I imagine would not want a bunch of girls to know that he plans on committing a crime. And as someone who has taught in an all girls school I ... (read in full...)
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