The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi everyone!!!
well I think anyone who thinks they can accurately predict human behaviour is at best kidding themselves , at worst delusional.
Seriously, the greatest thinkers and intellects throughout history have attempted and failed to pr... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 5 July 2008: Were they happy with such a small payout??... (read in full...)
I can't help but wonder whether he still finds me attractive at all!
Q. I have been living with my partner for 2 years. In the beginning I asked him what made him go out with me, he said that my looks attracted him at first, but later he liked me for me. I am a bit insecure, and asked him whether he likes the way I lo...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
I think you are at that stage which a lot of relationships get to where things are becoming a little bit stale.
If he says he still finds you attractive then he does. All men have a type we fancy, for me its the young Sofia Loren ..holy c... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008: I must be reading a different article from everyone else.
The way I read it, Big Sis is merely stating that she has picked the wrong type of men in her past ( and she admits it ) and now she aint gonna take that shit no more. And everyone... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008:
Twist of fate, me old matey what can I say, you just keep providing further examples of primeval behaviour, prey tell does your long suffering wife have to shave your back regularly to keep people from throwing bananas at you?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he doesn't feel the same any more. Should I break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend who I totally love told me he doesn't feel the same anymore. We were both staying at my house on Friday and we had a small argument because he said it was weird that I had pictures of him beside my bed(there not all him - mostly friends ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi again,
there is little you can do if he is feeling depressed. Tell him to go see a doctor, he needs professional assistance.
But I still stand by my original advice, you deserve better than being controlled by someone, it is not healthy , do you... (read in full...)
It's always been a casual relationship, but now I can't believe anything he tells me. What do I do?
Q. I have had a relationship with someone for over 2 years now. I knew it was casual from the start and we dont live together. I asked him from the begining to be always honest with me if he did go with someone else. I have just found out now from him ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
I guess that he probably didnt tell you because he thought you were probably more into him than he was into you.
I would put money on that it was his idea for the relationship to be "casual" and that you agreed so you wouldnt lose him , even i... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he doesn't feel the same any more. Should I break up with him?
Q. My boyfriend who I totally love told me he doesn't feel the same anymore. We were both staying at my house on Friday and we had a small argument because he said it was weird that I had pictures of him beside my bed(there not all him - mostly friends ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
well he may be suffering from depression, but it is hard to tell from the little you have said.
I'm sorry to say I have no sympathy for him because of one thing you said: "he never used to let me go out on my own"
I think the best thing for yo... (read in full...)
Is it okay to continually email this guy or do I look like a girl with no life?
Q. Is it OK or am I look like a desperate, girl-with-no-life kinda way if I like to share and write stuff about my life to this guy I met some time ago. See, he's military I met him in a mission, and obviously I like him awfully a lot. I decided ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
as long as you are being honest with him, then emailing him once a week is hardly being obsessive.
And I'm sure if he doesnt want you to then he will simply not reply to anything you say. So I really cant see the harm.
I'm sure he loves... (read in full...)
I cheated whilst on holiday for the first time on my bf of 5 years!!
Q. Im away for holiday and I cheated on my bf here.I was absolutely drunk I couldnt even remember what I did!The guy just used me.I know that we didnt have sex but we did other stuff.Ive been with my bf for nearly 5 years.He's my first guy!I feel sooo ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
use this as a cautionary tale. Don't get drunk and out of control , if you do make sure you have close friends around you. A lot of men wouldnt have taken no for an answer and you could have been raped.
Telling your boyfriend will most li... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't talk to me and he cheats because he is unhappy...
Q. Iv been wiv my bf 3 years hes 19 im 27. Because of our age gap the relationship has been quite secretive and i think this has lead 2 a lot of problems. Now he cheats all the time. Hes never had sex because ive always caught him 1st but i dont wanna ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
I hate to be the one to break it to you mate. But there is no future with this boy. And he at 19 really is just a boy not ready to accept the responsibilites of taking on a ready made family and a partner with personal problems.
He simply d... (read in full...)
He sent me this email... opinions please?
Q. I was dating this guy for 6 months and I'm 7 months pregnant and he left me for another girl and I don't know why. He is excited about the baby but doesn't want to be with me, can you read his e-mail and let me know what you think?dearest Miranda, ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
I'm confused, you are pregnant and married but it's not your husband's. Is that right? So I guess you are 100% sure it is not your husbands in that you never have sex anymore? Otherwise how can you be certain?
I think he is right about someth... (read in full...)
I found hair on the carpet that wasn't mine, is he cheating?
Q. So, today I was waiting for my boyfriend to get back to our apartment and I was sitting on the floor with our puppy. Well, I brushed my hand across the carpet and my finger got (grossly) tangled in some hair. I absolutely hate loose hair...but ...
A. 3 July 2008: oops.. sorry mate, I misread your post.
my apologies.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is wonderful, but I'm still attracted to my 'bad boy' ex - help!
Q. I’m 19 and my b/f is 23. I’ve NEVER cheated on him (or anyone for that matter) and would never. I love my boyfriend of a year who is totally amazing and the best boyfriend any girl could want but I recently redeveloped my love for my ex wh...
A. 3 July 2008: Mate,
If you dont like people to help why ask for their help.
I was only saying what I said because you seem to relish the freebies you get from your boyfriend and take them for granted, which doesnt make you the most independent of people i... (read in full...)
I'm having some issues with a guy I just met, help!
Q. I recently met this guy last saturday night. I really like him, but my family and alot of my friends do not approve. I guess he sort of has a back image and backround representing him. But, I really like him! Anyways, I gave him my number on satur...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi, you are attracted to him because you see him as exciting , something different from your safe little world, a man who will never provide a dull moment. Be he is dangerous This is a problem for you, as many nice girls end up with abusive par... (read in full...)
Why would a guy have sex with a girl and not want her to be his girlfriend?
Q. If a guy doesn't want a girl to be his girlfriend but still wants to have sex with her, does that mean that shes ugly or doesnt have a good personality?...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi, You need to start understanding more about men, in particular more about the type of men who will take advantage of a girl like you. These guys are called players, they will butter you up , tell you sweet things, and make you feel very specia... (read in full...)
I'm having some issues with a guy I just met, help!
Q. I recently met this guy last saturday night. I really like him, but my family and alot of my friends do not approve. I guess he sort of has a back image and backround representing him. But, I really like him! Anyways, I gave him my number on satur...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
you can only get good advice if you really open up to the aunts here and explain what it is about this man that is bad. be honest and people will give you honest answers, be cagey and you wont.... (read in full...)
He said he'd be here for the baby but he just ignores my messages, why?
Q. i am preg but not with the father,he will stil be around for the baby..but sometimes he ignore's my messages and it would be only about the baby,why do men do that??...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
if you are not together anymore then I think he may be in the mindset that he will be there for the baby when it is born and a functioning human being. As a guy he probably thinks that the pregnancy stuff is for when you are in a rela... (read in full...)
I found hair on the carpet that wasn't mine, is he cheating?
Q. So, today I was waiting for my boyfriend to get back to our apartment and I was sitting on the floor with our puppy. Well, I brushed my hand across the carpet and my finger got (grossly) tangled in some hair. I absolutely hate loose hair...but ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
you are overreacting. I think your own infidelity is still haunting you, you almost subconciously want him to cheat on you to level the score.
But just because you cheated on him it doesnt mean he will do the same to you. The worst thing yo... (read in full...)
Help! My ex tried to use me to cheat on the mother of his child and she just called me to ask if he's been faithful!!
Q. Please help me! I don't know what to do... I recently had a very, very complicated situation dropped into my lap. About four months ago I broke up with my boyfriend. Shortly after he moved out he found out his ex-girlfriend that he had dated ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi there,
I wouldnt call her myself. But if she does call you again you shouldnt be put in a situation where you have to lie for this scumbag who is still trying to hit on you. He cant keep it in his pants and the girl he has a baby with dese... (read in full...)
What do you do in a relationship that's not functioning anymore?
Q. What do u do when you are in a relationship that just isn't functioning anymore? When you've given all you've got but just can't anymore. My boyfriend and I have a daughter together. We've been together for six years now but its been crazy. ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi there,
it is sad to see stories like this. Both of you have lost your independence having to live at your mothers. But you cannot be held to blame for your partners failures , he has to stand up himself. And by the sounds of it he isnt.
You s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is wonderful, but I'm still attracted to my 'bad boy' ex - help!
Q. I’m 19 and my b/f is 23. I’ve NEVER cheated on him (or anyone for that matter) and would never. I love my boyfriend of a year who is totally amazing and the best boyfriend any girl could want but I recently redeveloped my love for my ex wh...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
can I ask why you don't work? Is it because your boyfriend supports you or you are simply looking for work and are having trouble finding a job. At 19 you should be developing your independence as a woman, not relying on others for handouts... (read in full...)
I've developed feelings for my friend, but she's not interested. How do I cope with this?
Q. I really need some help here, I broke up with my girlfriend a month ago...since then I've noticed that I've been getting feelings for my closest female friend. I talked to her about my feelings and she said she doesn't want to jeopardize our ...
A. 3 July 2008: Mate,
she may see you in a different light in the future. But right now you are on the rebound and if you don't mind me being frank with you, you are jeopardising your friendship with this girl. You may end up losing a girlfriend and a good frie... (read in full...)
I fell asleep with another guy (no sex), and now I'm afraid of what my boyfriend will think. Help?
Q. my boyfriend of a 1 1\2 is out of town for a month for training. the first night alone i went to a party and got a little drunk. my guy friend was thier and i know he has feelings for me even though we have disscussed that i am very much in love ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
You don't need to tell him, you didnt do anything and if you do tell him it will only sound a lot worse than it is.
See this as a lesson, that you shouldnt put yourself in situations where you might have some explaining to do to your boyfrie... (read in full...)
How do I get over an "emotional abuser"?
Q. How do I get over an emotional abuser? I love him deeply, but he always found flaws in me... He was very loving and respectful most of the time. But when he''d get mad and make me cry, he'd get even angrier. It's true I made mistakes, but st...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi,
first off , stop trying to make him think he is an abuser. Abusers will never admit they are out to control the people they apparently love.
He has you wrapped around his little finger making you believe it is you who causes these rages. I... (read in full...)
Is there any way to notice if you've had sex? Do you walk differently?
Q. my boyfriend and I are starting to have sex. last time, we were having sex and when i took his thing out of mine their was white stuff all over, an I think it might be his cum, but I cum alot and it might be mine, but he said it was not him because ...
A. 2 July 2008: Mate,
listen to emilya's answer. You are going to get pregnant very shortly if you continue like this. Your boyfriend will disappear very quickly when this happens believe me, and you will be on your own with a baby to support as a young girl. You ... (read in full...)
A whirlwind romance and six years marriage, and I'm now regretting it. Any advice?
Q. I have been married for nearly 6 years, a whirlwind romance which I am now regretting. I am a Foster Mother who stays at home as that is what is requested by the agengy I work for. My husband hurls abuse that I am a lazy cow, even though I do all ...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi,
I think you know what you have to do. It is just the logistics of the problem that are confronting you.
This man is a total arsehole and you know it.
My advice is to start making plans now, make out a list of what you will need to go it al... (read in full...)
How much should I spend on my girlfriend's birthday present?
Q. Hi, I need advice about how much money I should be spending on my girlfriend's birthday present considering we've only been going out a few months. For her birthday she suggested that I could take her on a weekend break to Center Parcs, a...
A. 2 July 2008: G'day mate,
sorry champ, but she sounds a little superficial if you ask me. A genuine girl will treasure a gift that comes from the heart, something that reflects that you have spent time and consideration choosing, not something that involves... (read in full...)
Why do they just stop talking to me suddenly?
Q. I´m very tired of female friends that stop talking to me from one moment to the next. it´s very rude and inconsiderate. It keeps happening to me. I just don´t understand. I´m very sure that it wasn´t from saying or doing anything that could possibly ...
A. 2 July 2008: Mate,
saying it may be their time of the month gives a little clue where your head is at and how much you understand women - very little by the sounds of it.
I would put my money on it that it is something you are saying to them and you are tota... (read in full...)
I can't stand the thought of kissing my husband. Have I got some sort of disorder?
Q. My favorite past time was simply kissing my soon to be husband. We have been married for over a year now and I simply cant even stand the thought of him kissing me. I love him and we have a great relationship. Is this a disorder, what is my problem?...
A. 2 July 2008: Hi,
I have never heard this one before, I think you are going to have to be a bit more specific mate.
Do you still have physical contact, hugging , holding hands and sex?
Has his personal habits suddenly become too much for you to handle?
We d... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 2 July 2008: Twist of fate... mate you are living proof of why ikind considerate women like Big Sis have to write these type of articles.
I just hope you're single mate.... (read in full...)
How do I make the top of my penis less sensitive?
Q. how do i make the top of my penis less sensitive?...
A. 1 July 2008: hmmmm
me smells a rat.... (read in full...)
Is it good that he's having "thinking time" about moving in together?
Q. My Boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 8 months. He says he loves me and I love him. He told me he has been thinking we should move in together but wants to take a couple weeks with time to himself to be sure this is 100 percent what he ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
So why didnt he just wait a few weeks for his "thinking time" and then suggest that you move in together then? I dont get why someone would say "lets move in together" followed by "but I need some thinking time first".
anyone?
It all so... (read in full...)
How do I make the top of my penis less sensitive?
Q. how do i make the top of my penis less sensitive?...
A. 1 July 2008: Why on earth would you want to do that buddy?
If its a case of premature 'you know what', then I suggest a condom with a numbing agent. Ask at your local chemist, or if like 95% of men you are too embarrassed then simply look until you find it.... (read in full...)
My husband keeps hinting that I have sex with his brother, who I have been attracted to for years now; what do I do?
Q. My husband and I moved in with his younger brother (12 years younger) a few months ago. He and his wife are in the process of getting a divorce and we agreed to move in to help each other out with bills, etc.My husband and I have been together for ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
best to keep this one in fantasy land dont you think. Surely the one night of sex can never be that good to risk damaging your marriage . You've done this before and it didnt work out so wellk, this time its his brother for crying out loud... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 1 July 2008: All I can say Big Sis is they were fools to treat a classy act like yourself this way.
So a big thumbs down to those deadbeats and a big thumbs up to Big Sis - you're the best baby!... (read in full...)
I cheated on him - do I have a right to be mad if he does the same?
Q. Twisted story..I need some advice please read story!!I will try to sum it up. I cheated on my husband at the beginning of the year and admitted to the affair about 2 months ago. He was hurt and of course mad but since then we have been trying to ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
I think your relationship is in serious trouble as neither of you can trust each other anymore. Your husband's infidelity is not excusable but by the same token it is in response to your infidelity and passing a communicable disease to him as w... (read in full...)
I cheated, but now I'm married and I will never cheat again. Should I tell him?
Q. 15 months ago I cheated (i gave a friend a hand job) on my at the time boyfriend (we got engaged 3 months after it happened) now we are getting married in 1 and a half weeks and I am wondering if I should tell him? In all actuality we were in a ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
I really cannot see why you would even contemplate telling him. The only possible consequence I could see would be that he would call off the wedding. Unless of course this is what you secretly want? Is your blood boiling over my last que... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm ruining everyone's lives!
Q. I am so low at the moment i don't know what to do! I have made the worst mistake of my life. I am taking antidepressants because i had post natal depression. My partner cheated on me while i was pregnant, so that didn't help. Well i went to a part...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
First off you are not ruining everyones lives. I'm sure the people who love you are very concerned for your wellbeing.
The one thing I am very angry about is this workmate of yours, he was scum for taking advantage of you. I just had to menti... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being a virgin, maybe I should have just gone out with sluts and been more liberal. I think it's time for a change in values...
Q. I´m a 23 year old virgen. I was brought up believing that saving virginity for marriage is the right thing to do. I believed in being patient, honest and faithful with my girlfriend. I believed in sacrafice and putting my partner´s feelings above my ...
A. 1 July 2008: Mate,
you are not going to get much sympathy if you refer to women with a sexual past as sluts. Certainly not from me, so grow up and join the 21st century.... (read in full...)
I never wanna fall in love again because I'll either be a WHORE or he'll be a PLAYER!
Q. I don't know what to do with myself. I'm still deeply, madly in love with my ex. He broke up with me today, again. He always does it. I just, I guess I'm an idiot. When we first met, the chemistry was all over. When we started dating, everythi...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
I dare say you won't have heard the last of this guy. He has total control over you, why would he want to give that up. And you are mistaken if you think that another girl will willingly jump into his arms, most girls I know hate control frea... (read in full...)
I'm dating an older guy online, could he be using me?
Q. Hello. I have a question to ask.... I am a 15 year old girl...and i'm dating a soon to be 22year old male over the internet. My friends think it's wrong and my parents don't know about my relationship with this guy.. I want to move o...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
I doubt he is 22 ..probably more likely 32. But even if he is 22 sorry to say but you are a victim of an online predator who only wants to hook up with you so he can have sex.
Your friends sound very sensible and you are lucky to have them. Ho... (read in full...)
We decided to take things slow but is not seeing him for 2 weeks a little extreme?
Q. I don't understand,I started seeing this guy bout a month ago. I had split up ith my boyfriend 3 months before and he split up with his girlfriend a month before seeing me. because we had both been hurt before, we decided to take things slowly and ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
This doesnt sound to hopeful. If he only split up a month ago, chances are he is still hurting big time.
Why don't you send him an email and just ask him if he would mind having a coffee and chat with you. The only real way is to ask him to t... (read in full...)
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