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writes:Hi guys,My boyfriend and I started going out knowing full well that he wants to move to the other side of the country at the end of the year. He has been studying for 5 years for his degree and wants to move to a country town to start his career (his profession involves farmers etc) which I can respect. He's worked hard.It was just supposed to be a casual thing between friends, but it got serious very quickly.I'm also studying, but if my career is going to be anything to write home about I need to be in the city for a few years at least to establish myself.My degree finishes 6 months after his and he has asked me to follow him when I'm done ie. spend 6 months apart.Is it unreasonable to ask him to wait 6 months for me knowing that it will decrease his chances of getting a good job placement?I doubt he'd go for it but I've already moved house to be closer to him (he doesn't have a car so I always drive to him) and often give up time to be with him and it feel like I'm the only one making an effort... Reply to this Question
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reader, Collaroy +, writes (21 June 2008):
 Hi
being in australia myself I know how hard it can be for people with differing careers taking them all over the country. As you know the economic crises has hit the big cities quite hard and a lot of the work is now in the mines and out in the country. But it doesnt mean we have to live out there, the economy will pick up.
For you I guess it is going to be a hard decision eventually as he may very well want to stay out in the bush and well lets face it if you are not excited by the prospect you will hate it. It gets mighty hot out there, the bloody flies drive you nutso, and the folk well lets say arent the most progressively minded of people. Its a hard life mate out in the bush. You have some tough choices ahead of you. But the sooner you make them the better. good luck.
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reader, supermum  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 yes t is... in the nicest possible way... if he gets a job, he will be et a car able to make more of an effort to come and see you.
finish your course, and i hope it goes ok for you. all the best
hayley
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