We decided to take things slow but is not seeing him for 2 weeks a little extreme?
Q. I don't understand,I started seeing this guy bout a month ago. I had split up ith my boyfriend 3 months before and he split up with his girlfriend a month before seeing me. because we had both been hurt before, we decided to take things slowly and ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
This doesnt sound to hopeful. If he only split up a month ago, chances are he is still hurting big time.
Why don't you send him an email and just ask him if he would mind having a coffee and chat with you. The only real way is to ask him to t... (read in full...)
What do I say to him at his sentencing?
Q. My soon to be ex-husband and I were together for six years. After three months he started being physically and emotionally abusive, I stayed, married him, and had his child. Stayed for another year and a half after our daughter was born. The ...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
Say what you have said to us here. That you gave him everything, your heart and soul and a child and he repaid you by abusing you and putting your child at risk. Tell him that you hope his time in jail will give him time to reflect that he ... (read in full...)
I'm resentful that my boyfriend has so much money when I have all these health/financial problems! Why is he sooo frugal?
Q. Hi, I am feeling jealous, resentful and bitter that my boyfriend has so much money and I don't know how I can get past this issue. I'm not working and am on disability for lupus and kidney disease and I'm staying with him rent free. I get aro...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
i do understand your position and I have always been one to believe that whatever I have is shared with the person I love. But unfortunately in this day and age people simply do not act like this. They protect their assets, a sign of the time... (read in full...)
Did I cheat or did I not cheat? I'm so confused....
Q. Ok, so the guy that I am dating (but he claims we are not in a relationship "JUST dating") stopped speaking to me for two weeks. I thought he was not coming back. History: Long story short, (about 3 years ago) I was married for a year and my no...
A. 1 July 2008: Hi,
I think what you have got to do is start picking men who will care for you more than the ones you seem to pick up.
First off, dump this current boyfriend, he is giving you the runaround and will only make you more miserable.
Take a step... (read in full...)
Do you guys think 18 is a bad age for marriage and kids?
Q. do you guys think 18 is a bad age for marriage and kids? i mean like if you find the rite person to be with, have a career and ur partner has a job to fall back on.....
A. 1 July 2008: I doubt you have the career at 18 you believe you have, and if you have a baby that so called career will fizzle away. Does your boyfriend's job pay him enough to support you and a baby , rent on a house, bills etc. Is he prepared to sacrifice ... (read in full...)
Should I go for the one I think I love, or the one who's in a gang?
Q. I really like this guy, we've been best friends for a while now. We had an amazing time the other night. We stayed up all night talking, kissing, cuddling. I was the happiest I have been in a long time. Though, we are not dating, I think I may be ...
A. 30 June 2008: Hi,
I think you need to take a step back. You don't appear to have the maturity to really offer real committment .
Going for the gang guy is just a case of "bad boy" itis. You know he is wrong for you but you are seduced by the danger and t... (read in full...)
Is a kiss just a kiss? Was THIS kiss just a kiss?
Q. My girlfriend of four years kissed a work colleague. We were going through a rough time and it was during this that the kiss occured. A few weeks before the kiss she had told me she wasnt in love with me anymore......... i had threatened to end it a ...
A. 30 June 2008: Hi,
well I'll give you credit for being honest mate.
But her indiscretion sounds a lot more honourable than yours. She made one mistake and regretted it instantly, pushing away the man ( who was probably a good friend ) away the next time . It has... (read in full...)
After 10 years, it's starting to bother me she's the only sexual partner I have had. Is this a mid-life crisis??
Q. My partner is 6 years older than me and we have been together for the last 10 years. She is the only g/f I've ever had but she has had sex with at least 25 boyfriends prior to our relationship. After 10 years, it is only just starting to bother me ...
A. 27 June 2008: Mate,
even if you are 26 you are not going through a mid life crises. that will come in about 15 years :)
Like Waz said, sex is best when you are in a committed loving relationship. One night stands suck so believe me you are not missing out ... (read in full...)
I am obsessed with the girl my ex fiancee cheating on me with
Q. I found out my ex-fiance had slept with a co-worker behind my back. i posted a distressing agony on here. but the thing is i am obsessed with this girl. and i say girl becuase she was only 17. I just cant explain it, but im obsessed. i hate her and ...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi,
you know you have to stop this. For a start, this is just a young girl who was seduced by an older bloke who wiled her with his charms. If anybody should recieve your anger it should be your ex, he is the lying cheating rat, she is just a youn... (read in full...)
He coming along way to visit me..should I 'put out" for him? I feel obligated..
Q. I've been on 3 dates with this a guy who lives 2hrs away from me. He's coming to visit me this weekend and staying over for a night. We get along really well and communicate via e-mail a lot. Am I expected to put out, since he's coming all the way ...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi,
The concern for me is that you say "should I put out for him" like it is a duty and not something you actually want to do.
When you first have sex with a partner it should be because the mood takes you there not because you feel obligate... (read in full...)
How do you spot an abuser? What are the signs?
Q. I know a lot about abusive guys and how to spot one. I'm wondering if cussing at a girl is a sign of an abuser? Like have any guys out there called your girlfriend a "f***ing bitch"? But would never ever hit her? My boyfriend and I had a fight toni...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi,
normally I would say run for the hills. But you seem to have your head screwed on right and are able to spot the signs of an abusive man.
If you said some pretty mean things to him maybe it was just a knee jerk reactionand he really regrets ... (read in full...)
He dumped me via email! How can I move on and regain trust in men?
Q. I just got dumped today by my boyfriend (now ex, I suppose) of 4 months by email today. He sent it to me in response to my calls yesterday when I had a horrible feeling that he was avoiding my calls. In the email he said that he will still st...
A. 27 June 2008: Hi there,
don't give up. We are not all bastardos like this man. I'm sure in time you will realise that you just picked a dud and that someone else is out there for you.
You were just unlucky to pick an emotional retard who is still wrapped ... (read in full...)
She seems clingy! So I am questioning whether I truely love her?? Any advice?
Q. Hi, I have lived with my girlfriend for nearly 1 year now having moved in with her after about 4 months although this feels alot longer as I have spent more or less every day with her. Ever since I've moved in she seems to want to spend every minu...
A. 26 June 2008: Mate,
I'm not too sure what to think. On the surface she sounds like she is quite controlling, but on the flip side spending all night on your computer is hardly a way to foster a healthy relationship.
At the end of the day I think you want dif... (read in full...)
The perfect man for me - except in the bedroom department. Can anyone give me any words of wisdom/
Q. I am a 35yr old female going out with a 36yr old male, we plan to move in together in the next 6months. My problem is we have only had sex 6 times in the last 12 months. Not my choice, his. I have tried to talk to him about this many times and he ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
it may be stress, but if he cant communicate with you then you shouldnt be moving in with him. The situation will only get worse I imagine.
Moving in with him would be a big step and its something you should only do if you think you can shar... (read in full...)
Has anyone lost it and laughed out loud in the middle of sex? He was growling like a lion!
Q. Has anyone been in a position that has almost made you loose it and laugh outloud uncontrollably in the middle of having sex? I had sex with this guy and everything was ok until he started to make noises like a lion. I said nothing and hoped I could ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
a lot of guys don't like ther partners laughing during sex. And it is best to avoid this.
But seriously, if he growls like a lion I don't know what he expects.
I bet you aren't the first girl to crack up in giggles when the lion roar starts.... (read in full...)
Sex is hurtful, could it be because he is better endowed than my ex? My first experience with the ex did not hurt at all.
Q. Hi everybody, first I want to say thank you for taking the time to read this. I am 20 years old. I had sex first when I was 18 with my first boyfriend. My first time to be honest with you didnt hurt at all and it actually felt really good. I d...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
You sound realitively inexperienced, so the first thing you need to do is get some lubricant from the chemist.
This will make it easier for his penis to fit in your vagina, and couple this with a lot of foreplay so you can be naturally lu... (read in full...)
When should I tell my ex that I'm seeing someone new?
Q. I left my boyfriend of 3 years for another guy, who I am now extremely happy with, but I never told my ex about the other guy (from the advice of others telling me it was more than he needed to know)... Thing is, its been 2 weeks and I know he isn't ...
A. 26 June 2008: If you share the same friends you have to tell him now.
Otherwise one of your friends will tell him. You cannot keep this a secret , someone will find out.
You are under no obligations to him as you are no longer dating.
But the sensitive... (read in full...)
Do I tell him to stick it or should I text him again?
Q. I haven't seen my ex for 7 years. He got into contact last year. He wanted to meet etc but I am with someone and he is NOW with someone. We arranged to meet last year and I called him to say where I was and he said he was going to get out of bed and ...
A. 26 June 2008: Yes of course it makes it worse. You seem very confused and his treatment of you is the very definition of "treat em mean keep em keen" .
He is leaving you hanging, honestly what on earth do you expect to happen if you do meet up. Closure? Sure... (read in full...)
Why do you think he done this-do you think he was jealous?
Q. Hi all hope you can help me shed some light on a situation that happened a few nights back, here's what happened, i was out in a group of friends including my ex(we have remained friends) the other night and we stopped off for a drink in a bar ...
A. 26 June 2008: Why don't you ask him. It really doesnt sound like a big deal. He could have simply been in a bad mood.Or he still holds a torch for you. Who knows? ask him.... (read in full...)
What brings on his bad mood? What can I do?
Q. i need so help please. ok so ive been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and here latly everytime we go out we both have a really good time but once we leave he is in a really bad mood and alwayz takes it out on me there has been times that he ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
well its most likely two things. One , the alcohol, he is an ugly drunk. A lot of guys (and girls as well ) turn ugly when they drink - it is not a good thing believe me, and it will get worse before it gets better - if it ever does.
Two, ... (read in full...)
He told me that I'm sending him mixed signals, how do I salvage this situation?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of weeks ago, but I recently met a very nice guy (not a rebound) that I'm starting to like and can probably grow to like a lot in the future. He's been very good at persuing me and asking me out, while I've just ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
I think this guy is being a jerk if you ask me. If he truly respects you as an individual he wouldnt be trying to paw you when you go out on a date. There is nothing wrong with a peck on the cheek and maybe even a little cuddle after a few da... (read in full...)
Can anyone recommend a way I can get through to him?
Q. I was seeing a bloke for around a month and he finished with me because he had depression and said he really likes me and wants to protect me from him as he would let me down...anyway since then i have sent some messages asking how he is and the ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
I think you just have to let him be. He does not see you as someone who can help him deal with his depression and that is a shame. You obviously have a big heart as many people would not offer the support you are prepared to give after su... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with this cycle in our 4-plus year affair!
Q. I am in a 4year plus extra marital affair. I love this guy and supposedly he loves me too. We both are controlled by our spouses. I have had enough with both my husband and him and have told my husband that I want change(he is mentally and ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
well it looks like you have worked this out by yourself .
You should feel no compulsion to stay in an abusive relationship, and your husbands controlling nature is abuse. Already you have a son who will most likely grow up and emulate his ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know how old she was when she lost her virginity?
Q. I am having trouble coping with the fact that my girlfriend won't tell me how old she was when she first had sex. I know who it was with, just not how old she was. I also want to know how many different guys she's been with and who they are. To a ...
A. 26 June 2008: Mate,
sorry but I can see where this is heading. Once she tells you then all you are going to do is give her grief about her past sexual history. The fact that you were a virgin when you met is your problem not hers. So you are just going to have... (read in full...)
Is it normal for him to want more than one woman?
Q. My boyfriend and I met and fell in love very quickly and knew we could spend our lives together. He told me early that he didn't think he could only see one woman naked for the rest of his life and would like to have prostitutes give him hand jobs ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi there,
well its different strokes for different folks. A lot of couples are comfortable with their partners seeing other people. But most arent, so I'm afraid its b.s , and I'm sure he isnt your first partner so you know its b.s as well.
I'm a... (read in full...)
My husband has been visiting dating websites!
Q. i am new to this site, i ran into it on accident but i'm glad i did. the first question i ran into sounded just like mine. my husband has been going into websites without me knowing and there date, or meet someone websites. i found out by accident ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
this is no way to confront the problem. If he is actively seeking partners then shouldnt you ask him why he is doing it?
If you can't do this then your relationship is missing trust which is not a good sign.
good luck anyway mate.... (read in full...)
Questions about getting back with the ex!
Q. I was wondering if anyone here has gotten back together with their ex boyfriend who broke up with her. I wanted to know if i should keep contacting my ex boyfriend that i love and dont want to lose. Is there hope? Also, A MORE IMPORTANT ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
I don't really think this is a good idea. What makes you think he would have changed in the meantime. The excuses he gave you sound pretty weak if you ask me, so I dare say it was more than that ( and something you probably dont want to hear... (read in full...)
He won't remove his ex from his friends list!
Q. my boyfriend have a second myspace account and he refuses to remove his ex from his friends list,he removed her from his top friends list but he wont remove her from the friends list ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
I think these facebooks and myspace accounts destroy relationships and are a gross intrusion on people's privacy. So many partners simply log on to their S.O's accounts to see what they are up to. Often it is very innocent.
If you have logged o... (read in full...)
Our sex life doesn't satisfy me.
Q. Hello, I really need your help in somethong serious! I have more than one problem! I hate doing the doggy style and my husband loves it.. he asks me almost everytime while we are having sex to bend down so he can do it,,(excuse me for the language ...
A. 26 June 2008: Hi,
It appears your sex life is all about your partners enjoyment and nothing about you.
He is being a selfish arsehole who only cares about doing things which satisfy him.
A loving couple will please each other, and for a real man there is no ... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to masterbate every day?
Q. is it wrong if i masterbate everyday?? my friends say it is wierd for girls to masterbate...but i dont see why guys can and not girls?? so is it healthy if i masterbate everyday??...
A. 25 June 2008: I'm afraid your friends dont know what they are talking about. Masturbation is a healthy activity, nothing wrong with once a day.
Maybe find some friends who are a bit more open minded, yours sound like they are rather reserved.
... (read in full...)
How do I ejaculate quicker?
Q. how do i ejaculate quicker? it always takes a very long time and i was wondering does anyone know how i could ejkaculate quicker?...
A. 25 June 2008: If you masturbate regularly then that could effect you like this. You need to build up the anticipation level.
Either that or try some new positions techniques or things that get you really turned on. If you don't work on improving your sex life... (read in full...)
After we had sex he said he'd call... it's been three days and I am going coo coo!!
Q. There has always been a chemisty between me and one of my best friends roommates. We ended up making out drunk at a party a couple months ago. We saw each other through our mutual friend we flirt, but nothing ever happened. Recently we ended up ...
A. 25 June 2008: Hi ,
well why don't you give him a call!
You know him already, there is nothing wrong with talking to him, he may very well be busy. Stop driving yourself crazy like this.
If he turns out to be one of these jerks who as soon as he beds a girl h... (read in full...)
How to I make my daughter a lady and not a tramp?
Q. Help please!! I am a single dad and live with my daughters. (4 of them. I love them all very much and until last week it was not a problem. My oldest daughter is 18 years old and is a very strong minded thing. Anyway last week I finished up work...
A. 25 June 2008: Hi there,
sorry mate, but I think I can see the problem here.
I understand it is natural for a father to want to protect his little girls from the outside world especially the legions of sex starved men wanting to take advantage of them.
But i... (read in full...)
He has informed me that his birthday is also National Sex Day!
Q. I am a 15 year old girl, and my boyfriend is turning 16 in August. By August we will have been dating 5 months. I am a virgin, he has told me that he isn't. His parents are going away the week of his birthday, and he has also informed me that his ...
A. 25 June 2008: He's wrong, its "do you think I am a total sucker and am going to full for your pathetic bullshit " day.
C'mon , show some common sense, he has just demonstrated that he has no respect for you as a person. All he wants it to have sex with you. And... (read in full...)
I'm sore after having sex, what could be the problem?
Q. I've been having a problem lately with my sex life. both my boyfriend and i love making love to each other but the problem is that I'm always sore afterwards and i don't know why. when we first started having sex it didn't hurt as much but t...
A. 25 June 2008: He's probably going at it a bit too hard mate.
Tell him to slow down until you are nice and naturally lubricated. If you are getting sore (especially if he is big) there may even be a slight tear inside.
If it continues to hurt go see your doc... (read in full...)
Were you nervous about asking your partners on your first date? How did you do it?
Q. I like this waitress in my local pub that I want to ask out, but I'm nervous about it? I was just wondering whether readers were nervous about asking their partners out, and what they think I should do? (sounds obvious, but I'd still like ...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi,
mate if all you've said is "scampi and chips" don't expect her to come running into your arms.
She probably gets hit on by guys all the time so if you just come out and ask her without her even knowing your name she will simply see you as n... (read in full...)
Do guys really prefer virgins?
Q. hi everyone. ok i went on holiday a few weeks ago and went on a date with this boy who was a year older than me. within 1 hour it was clear all he wanted was sex.(i didnt give him it!) i told him i was a virgin but he was still eager saying stuff ...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi there,
at your age if a guy tries to have sex with you within one hour, he is a freakin creep who if he gets what he wants will blast it out to all his mates in record time. Good call by you.
If a guy tries it on so soon you know that he is no... (read in full...)
Were you nervous about asking your partners on your first date? How did you do it?
Q. I like this waitress in my local pub that I want to ask out, but I'm nervous about it? I was just wondering whether readers were nervous about asking their partners out, and what they think I should do? (sounds obvious, but I'd still like ...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi,
I suffered from the same affliction. I think the ladies dont understand how hard it can be for a guy to ask a girl they fancy out, you suddenly get tongue tied, mumble or become a blubbering idiot. And that's on a good day!
In fact my wife ask... (read in full...)
My sex life lacks passion, should I stay with my BF that I DO love or keep in contact with the other man who made me feel so special...?
Q. I went away for the weekend with a group of friends to Ireland. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, who I love very much. Our sex life hasn't been very good for the last 1.5 years, he doesn't initiate things very often and only makes an ...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi,
Lack of intimacy can do strange things to your head. While you think that your partner is perfect in every way, his lack of affection is a major issue and in a way this drove you to seeking companionship outside the relationship.
It could ... (read in full...)
Do all men manipulate you when you are vulnerable?
Q. I have found in two long term relationships with men that as I get to know them and I start to talk more openly about my feelings and vulnerable aspects of my thoughts or personality they use those very things to either undermine me in an argument ...
A. 23 June 2008: Hi there,
its is hard to tell if you are overreacting as you don't give any examples. So sure, it may be something that is inside your head that you are allowing to take over your rational thought processes.
But more than likely you have ... (read in full...)
Will there be someone for me?
Q. Will there be someone for me? I'm 27, have a successful career and am smarter than most peers my age. I've dated a couple of times but things did not work out. As I read the questions on this site...seems like there's a lot of bad guys out there - ...
A. 22 June 2008: Hi,
of course there is. We are not all bastards, though plenty of women would probably disagree.
It all depends on what you consider a good partner. The first thing you mention is that you have a successful career which means it is obviously im... (read in full...)
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