The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi everyone!!!
well I think anyone who thinks they can accurately predict human behaviour is at best kidding themselves , at worst delusional.
Seriously, the greatest thinkers and intellects throughout history have attempted and failed to pr... (read in full...)
We're ready to have sex, I'm not sure what to do, and I'm worried about my penis? help me!
Q. Ok then this is really wierd for me to be putting this here but it feels like I need answers for my question than other peoples. Ok so I am quite literary really scared of sex i've never done it before, I have a gf and i'm 18 and she's 17 and she...
A. 12 July 2008: O.K. dude, from one uncircumsized guy to another.
The foreskin generally doesnt retract until the head of your penis is well lubricated.
Try this, get some lubricant ( like KY Jelly )and apply it to the tip of your penis. Then slowly "pull down t... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 10 July 2008: Puts hands up.
Guilty as charged Big Sis.. but me thinks you know that already!
here's a quickie for you.
Q: What's geographically wrong with Australia?
A: Its above sea level.
... (read in full...)
Dear Cupid, this is the kinda stuff we want to hear.....
Q. Just a little light comic relief, some entertainment if you like - sort of based on some of the problems here on Dear Cupid. Feel free to lighten your load : ) I'll start by submitting 8 things that I think guys would 'LOVE' to hear from their ...
A. 10 July 2008: Ha!!!
nice one big sis.. you are the greatest!!
... (read in full...)
He texted me 80 messages, but still, my confidence level is low, does he really like me or what?
Q. And please dnt tell me its in his kiss lol! im having this problem with a guy in work that i really really like we have had many converstaions about the whole situation and he totally knows how much i like him! he has told me that he is totally fl...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi there,
holy cow. 80 messages in one day!!.. and you are still thinking whether he likes you or not.. My dear you don't know very much about men do you.
If he texts you 10 times he nuts about you, 80 times? he is almost obsessed with you.
So... (read in full...)
When would be the proper time to try, to have sex with her, she is very shy?
Q. I love my girlfriend she is a pritty shy girl to be honest. her ex boy friend treated her badly but was more advancde then me , i dont no when i should make the move to have sex with her and how? i dont want to make a move then get rejected i would ...
A. 9 July 2008: Well the key question is how long have you guys being going out together. If it is just a very short period then you will need to wait a while.
But with her past problmes, she probably is very nervous about sex. What you need to do is show her... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a husband I think is too good for me?
Q. Hallo I am quite average looking. Plain really. Never dated. Tried a few times, but not very successful. Never thought I would get a very attractive partner in life, but that was ok, as long as he was a good friend. Then I met this guy a...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi,
well the first thing you need to do is stop feeling sorry for yourself. I dont mean to be rude, but somebody needs to give you a good wake up call me dear.
You have a husband that is in love with you for who you are.He is right, these bimbos... (read in full...)
I think my gay boss fancies me. Am I imagining it?
Q. Hi I'm a straight man, 21, but I think that my gay boss (24) fancies me. Even though he has said in the past that he doesn't believe in relationships between work collegues I think he's showing signs that suggest otherwise throughout the last few ...
A. 9 July 2008: Yeah mate, I think we can take that as a given.
So do something about it if it makes you uncomfortable, you have a right not to work in an environment where you think sexually suggestive comments are being thrown at you.
You dont have to be rude ... (read in full...)
I am a teenage male, who is seriously interested in losing my virgin status, how do I go about this??
Q. hi. im a 14 year old boy and i REALLY want to have sex. i can't stand it... im tired of people saying "just wait till your older. i want to now... i have friends at school who have already had sex. and if i get to i WILL wear condom...i just wa...
A. 9 July 2008: Mate, just suck it up. I was gagging for it at 14 as well, so tough luck champ, that's life, get a packet of tissues and do what the rest of us did at your age.
... (read in full...)
Do some girls object to receiving oral sex
Q. is it true that some girls dont like being eaten out?...
A. 9 July 2008: Oh dear, I love giving noral sex but I was in the unfortunate position of going out with a girl who hated it. She hated the fact that it brought her to orgasm ( she hated to lose control )...you are bringing back bad memories.. :)
Fortunatley my c... (read in full...)
Fortune teller predicted an early pregnancy ... and the condom broke.
Q. my mother has recently had her tarrot read. It says about me going to have a baby when im really young. I had sex with my boyfriend and the condom broke. What should i do?...
A. 9 July 2008: I hate to be the party pooper, but I really despise these so called mystics who influence the way people lead their lives. They are money grabbing shamen if you ask me, nobody can tell the future by turning over a pack of cards made in a factory in ... (read in full...)
I think my gay boss fancies me. Am I imagining it?
Q. Hi I'm a straight man, 21, but I think that my gay boss (24) fancies me. Even though he has said in the past that he doesn't believe in relationships between work collegues I think he's showing signs that suggest otherwise throughout the last few ...
A. 9 July 2008: If it makes you feel uncomfortable simply tell him it does, but I understand that can be hard for a young bloke to do.
Or start talking about girls and girls you fancy.
I don't think there is much harm in it to tell the truth, but most gay guys... (read in full...)
I recently found out my husband has been seeing a prostitute. What do I do?
Q. I have been married for five years and have recently found out that my husband has been seeing a prostitute. When I confronted him he was sorry but I believe that he was sorry he was caught. I am very depressed and cannot stop thinking about the ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi again,
It is a shame to see that there are children are involved as well as it will be so much harder for you to just up and leave, but I'm sure if this is the path you are going to follow then you can find a way. He is not living up to his r... (read in full...)
Do people who have trouble with intimacy tend to "disconnect" from their lovers?
Q. Do people who have trouble with intimacy tend to "disconnect" from their lovers? I fall in love easily and deeply. But I tend to self-sacrifice my needs, always putting others, espeically my man, ahead of my own desires. I frequently put up with ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi,
I think it is a problem with the men you choose not with you. You do have a self preservation instinct but you don't you dont have good taste in men.
I would advise not to give up, there are plenty of men out there who will give what you giv... (read in full...)
I recently found out my husband has been seeing a prostitute. What do I do?
Q. I have been married for five years and have recently found out that my husband has been seeing a prostitute. When I confronted him he was sorry but I believe that he was sorry he was caught. I am very depressed and cannot stop thinking about the ...
A. 9 July 2008: Hi,
that is totally understandable. Unfortunately a lot of men , married or not, use prostitutes.. I personally cannot figure out why having sex with a heroin addict provides pleasure. But you only have to look at any paper and see pages on page... (read in full...)
My husband caught me cheating for the third time. I can't help it. Would I be better "swinging" or with an open relationship?
Q. my husband has caught me cheating for the third time. i really love my husband but i cheat regularly. often an attractive man hits on me and i just can't resist and i am in bed with him. i explained this to my husband and i told him that i ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hi,
well I wont judge you. Your story matches a story my friend told me about his boss. Once his wife had children she became insatiable and demanded that she be allowed to sleep with other men. Apparently since she's been going to swingers... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is sexually abusing me....
Q. my boyfriend wants to have sex with me.we already had twice this month.whenever he gets a chance,he starts fingering me.last night,he just pulled open my top and started sucking my breasts.he wanted my naked photos which i gave him.i never refused ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hi,
he is abusing you and raping you. My god girl, you have to get out of this relationship as soon as you can.
But beware, he will use the photos against you. that was a huge mistake but you cant take it back. Don't fall for his threats, you soun... (read in full...)
What should I do next? Have I royally screwed it up?
Q. So, I havent seen or really heard from a guy I've recently been seeing in a week, save for a Happy Fourth! text message. After calling once and leaving a message on Sunday, I sent the following: "So, should I go through your secretary to schedule a ...
A. 8 July 2008: Hmmmm.for someone with a bit fo a chubby complex I imagine he took your comment the wrong way. It does sound a bit insensitive.
But heck, I am the last person to tell people about insensitive jokes ( I make several every day ) but I usually make... (read in full...)
How can I get him alone to ask me out?
Q. I know this waiter and he always goes out of his way to talk to me and my family. I think he is interested but he never ask me out yet. The last time we saw him we were not even in his section and he was off work but came over to talk he sat at the ...
A. 8 July 2008: As Tremor says , go into the restaurant by yourself. Good grief! wouldnt that be obvious? Ahhh, what love does to us eh..makes us obvlious to the most obvious signs.
He is probably waiting for you to come in by yourself, there is no way he will ask ... (read in full...)
The man I love has just left his wife. Should I leave my husband?
Q. The man I am in love with has just told me he's left his wife. I am so confused and don't know what to do. We are both married and I have worked things through with my partner - I'm still completely miserable but I guess that's normal when you give ...
A. 7 July 2008: Hi,
only you really know. I don't think your marriage is the bed of roses you make it out to be if you are already having an affair with someone else.
Your marriage obviously deserves to be worked on , as the excitment and thrill of the lover wi... (read in full...)
I'm feeling insecure about my performance in bed with this new woman!
Q. My situation is this. I am 30 and have been in a long distance (5000 miles) relationship with a woman about same age as myself for the last 6 months or so. We are very much in love and have been since the first date. Over the last couple of weeks...
A. 7 July 2008: Hi,
good grief mate. You are bringing all this drama on yourself. Sorry to be blunt, as it must be daunting trying to live up to what you think are her sexual expectations.
But they are all in your head, if she was unhappy she would've dumped y... (read in full...)
He's addicted to porn but he's perfect in every other way. I don't know what to do.
Q. I'm pretty depressed right now. I've been with my 42 year old boyfriend for 3.5 years. I am 40. At the start of our relationship he was upfront about his porno tapes. About 6 months later when feelings started developing I became insecure with ...
A. 6 July 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to say but you sound very controlling.
It is not healthy to try and control people, why are you doing this? His porn viewing is not affecting your sex life and he does it in the privacy of his own home, but you use deceit to ma... (read in full...)
Should I stay in this marriage?
Q. I have been married for six years and have a beautiful son who is four. My husband and I looked like we had it all. However, there were some things going on behind closed doors that I never allowed anyone to know including my family, friends and ...
A. 5 July 2008: Hi,
Well how can you love someone who is blackmailing you. It's impossible. Your husband is an unstable character and under no circumstances should you let him have custody of your child.
Go see a good lawyer, make a list of everything he has done... (read in full...)
I saw my 44 yearold mother having sex - surely she is too old?
Q. I am 24. My mom is 44 she had a divorce after long married life of 28years.She was shattered and had lived a lonely life all alone for a year in her small parental town. When I got setelled with good job in a bigger town she came to live with me in ...
A. 5 July 2008: O.k dude, nobody wants to see their parents having sex, so we'll cut you some leeway here.
But you are 24 for gods sake, grow up.
O.K , sorry about that, you are a good decent bloke for helping out your mum and you should be commended for being th... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 5 July 2008: Were they happy with such a small payout??... (read in full...)
I woke up to find him having sex with me. Am I still a virgin?
Q. i need to know if im still a virgin!! i have been with my boyfriend for 4 months and he stopped at mine on thursday and we both fell asleep but then when i woke up he was in me, ive never had sex before and i didnt feel him on me but he was actually ...
A. 5 July 2008: Hi,
I'm sorry to say but he has raped you.
There is no excuse , drunk or not for non consensual sex.
I was a horny teenager once, and on more than one occasion turned down by a drunken female when trying it on, and you know what, I took my... (read in full...)
Are girls who grew up without a father attracted more to "bad boys"?
Q. My question put simply: Do Girls who grew up without knowing their father (i.e the father left home when they were born) have a tendency to be attracted, and go with "Bad Boys" who dont really care for them, and ultimatly cheat on them and treat th...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi mate,
wow you cant force a girl to fall in love with you even if you are nice. It goes beyond that , sexual, intellectual etc.
Not having a stable father figure in the house is bad for any child boy and girl. But plenty of people grow up in o... (read in full...)
Should I date my mom's assistant manager?
Q. Should I date my mom's assistant manager? Hi i'm 25 years old and have not had luck with men in my life. I always end up with jerks but I just recently found out my mom's assistant likes me. I have known him for years and we get along good, though I ...
A. 4 July 2008: I dont think there is any real correct answer for this. You are damned if you do and damned if you dont. If you dont you may let the love of your life slip through your hands, if you do , you may split up in three weeks in a hail of bad words and ... (read in full...)
I had a baby very young and people seem to judge me. How should I handle this?
Q. why do people always judge me when they see my in the streets, or abuse me and call me all the names under the sun when they see me with my child. im 16 now, just after my 14th birthday i was raped by a friend of my cousins in his late 20's and ...
A. 4 July 2008: Because they are small minded and ignorant and have nothing better to do with their lives than stick their beeks in someone else's business.
You sound very brave, one day you will look back at these experiences and be so proud at how you pulled y... (read in full...)
I'm confused about my love life, what should I do?
Q. hi!!!!! lifez becoming hard to me and i really need some advice to my problem wel in brief i was in luv with a guy for 2 years and everything was going on wel until 1day i came to know that my boyfriend is a big flirt;he dated many ;i c...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi there,
Well, I think you are just choosing the wrong type of men mate .
Now I know it is not as easy to just change your habits by waving a magic wand, but ask your friends and family for a start. Ask them to be honest with you, do they like the... (read in full...)
For Men: Questions about women!
Q. This is kind of a funny question but why do men like to smell women's hair? Is a womens scent attracting to a man? I know that everybody likes someone to smell good but is this like a sign of beauty? This is just a fun question for men what is it i...
A. 4 July 2008: Smell is not so important for me. As long as it is pleasant but not overbearring. I can't stand a girl who covers herself in cheap scented perfume, its just tacky.
The same goes with makeup, I can never see the point in piling on the war paint eith... (read in full...)
I think I married a stranger!
Q. So my relationship is changing in some major ways. This once very attentive loving man ( I will call "G"), who wanted nothing more than to spend as much time as he could has turned into something else entirely. We had a baby almost 4 months ago, ...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi there,
I feel so sorry for you. It must be miserable. But I think you really need to sit down and discuss this like two reponsible adults.
You have a baby together and you still say you love him (kinda). Can you arrange a babysitter and a night ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend had a wet dream about another man...is this normal?
Q. My boyfriend told me he had a wet dream last night. In it,a man was masturbating him. And he came in it. I find that disgusting. He said it was only a dream and he's straight. Pls help. Is that normal?...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi,
it may be a little wierd, but certainly not proof of homosexual tendencies. I have to admit I have never had a dream like that, but If I did I wouldnt tell my partner! I'd be trying to blank it out!
holy cow!
But seriously, is he a physical... (read in full...)
What's the clue that a western boy wanna go to bed with a girl?
Q. Hello,guys,I'm a Chinese girl.I'm wonering what's the clue that a western boy wanna go to bed with a girl. I have a friend and he's enlish.He wanted to invite me to watch a film in his own apartment.Before that we are only common friends and we t...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi,
what a fascinating question.
Look don't worry too much about this. If he is a nice guy he may drop a few hints or even attempt a bit of light touching ( like an arm around you or a touch of the shoulder ). But it is easy to just tell him that... (read in full...)
He seems to have changed. Is he scared?
Q. hi, i've been with my boyfriend for over 10 months now an he means the world to me, but recently he seemed to of changed to a person ive never seen before an now he's called it off for a bit so he can find out wat he really wants. i said to him i...
A. 4 July 2008: Hi there,
It must be tough I know . But unfortunatley there is little you can do is someone stops loving you . It looks like this is the case, guys find it very hard to tell a girl that they don't love them anymore as we worry that she may flip out.... (read in full...)
An Epiphany
Q. Ok... have you ever had a really good sneeze? You know the kind that feels like it starts from the toes and and there is a surge of power bulding up all the way till you SNEEZE and let it all out- no surpressing it- just an earth shattering ...
A. 4 July 2008: Well written and well thought out Nephertite, I'm sure there is someone out there you will be a very lucky man when he meets you.
And I hate couples who hassle single girls ( its always girls never single guys ) over why they haven't got someone,... (read in full...)
My willy won't stay hard for sex!
Q. Hello, I'm 28 yr old male.Usually if I am trying to have intercourse but having trouble getting it in I lose my erection . If the girl is tight or dry my penis seems to get discouraged after 1 or 2 attempts and will only get 2/3 hard. Its like unle...
A. 4 July 2008: I can see why that may be of some concern mate. But as I said before try not masturbating if you can. It may take a wee while but I'm sure this may be the root of the problem.
If you still have problems maybe go see a sex therapist or your doct... (read in full...)
My willy won't stay hard for sex!
Q. Hello, I'm 28 yr old male.Usually if I am trying to have intercourse but having trouble getting it in I lose my erection . If the girl is tight or dry my penis seems to get discouraged after 1 or 2 attempts and will only get 2/3 hard. Its like unle...
A. 4 July 2008: HI,
If its too tight or dry well you shouldnt be putting it in there anywhere. Have you heard of oral sex ? Or foreplay.
It's where the girl gets nice and lubricated so there is no problem fitting your penis inside her. If she isnt lubricated s... (read in full...)
I'd like to save my marrige - but it feels like it's only me trying.
Q. I'm confused! My husband cheated on me numerous of times (5) I got herpes from him, separated for nine months almost got divorced and dicided to give our kids one more chance to have mom and dad together. And now after being 5 years back together I ...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
If his behaviour is reminiscent of old days and you have a feeling he may be cheating , then chances are he is.
Looking at other girls isnt necessarily a sign that he is cheating though ( hell, I do it all the time!) but you obviously have mor... (read in full...)
I really don't know who to be with....Oh, and I'm pregnant with twins!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 yrs. Things keep going well then they will get bad again. I'm pregnant with his twin boys. I'm not happy with him. He tells me what to do, tells me he doesn't find me attractive and puts me down. I've found so...
A. 3 July 2008: It all depends if your boyfriend is abusing you or not. You say you love him so obviously there is something to work on. And he is the father of your soon to be babies spo you really should be staying with him at the very least until the children ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he say's he's confused????
Q. ok, now im more confused then ever!!! One minute he can't wait to see me and wants to spend all his time with me...(ya like 5 times a weeks) he gives me roses and a card telling me how much i have made him soooo happy and putting a smile on his face...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi there,
I have to commend you on your actions. I think you did everything you needed to do. This guy has let you open your heart to him and then come out with his whole insecurity trip again and again.
You see him for what he is , an emotiona... (read in full...)
I can't help but wonder whether he still finds me attractive at all!
Q. I have been living with my partner for 2 years. In the beginning I asked him what made him go out with me, he said that my looks attracted him at first, but later he liked me for me. I am a bit insecure, and asked him whether he likes the way I lo...
A. 3 July 2008: Hi,
I think you are at that stage which a lot of relationships get to where things are becoming a little bit stale.
If he says he still finds you attractive then he does. All men have a type we fancy, for me its the young Sofia Loren ..holy c... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008: I must be reading a different article from everyone else.
The way I read it, Big Sis is merely stating that she has picked the wrong type of men in her past ( and she admits it ) and now she aint gonna take that shit no more. And everyone... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 3 July 2008:
Twist of fate, me old matey what can I say, you just keep providing further examples of primeval behaviour, prey tell does your long suffering wife have to shave your back regularly to keep people from throwing bananas at you?... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 2 July 2008: Twist of fate... mate you are living proof of why ikind considerate women like Big Sis have to write these type of articles.
I just hope you're single mate.... (read in full...)
The Understanding Male Species...or not?
Q. After reading several of the replies submitted by Agony Uncles here on Dear Cupid, I have come to realise, or should I say, believe, that the majority of them are really very sympathetic, kind, loving, caring ~ but most of all understanding. But ...
A. 1 July 2008: All I can say Big Sis is they were fools to treat a classy act like yourself this way.
So a big thumbs down to those deadbeats and a big thumbs up to Big Sis - you're the best baby!... (read in full...)
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