I don't want to give my friend false hope
Q. Dear all I just need some advice. A good friend of mine told me she had feelings for me last November. I didn't have those feelings so rejected her and she was upset. It was tough for some weeks but eventually she stopped being upset and we seeme...
A. 1 February 2018: I wouldn't block her necessarily, but be clear with her that "no means no"and if she can't handle that you're gone.... (read in full...)
A girl I chatted with online started telling me all of her fetishes. Should I meet her?
Q. Ok so a few hours ago I started talking to a girl on tinder. Within minutes she started talking in quite sexually explicit terms, mainly centred around her foot fetish. I admit I was intrigued and played along. The conversation moved onto whatsapp, ...
A. 31 January 2018: I'd the stuff she's taking about just isn't for your then tell her you're not interested and move on. I don't think she's going to try to get revenge since you don't have any relationship with her whatsoever.
She's just looking for someone ... (read in full...)
My family wants me to forgive our dying father for the abuse but I can't!
Q. Am I a demon for not caring that my dad is dying from cancer and i want nothin to do with it or him or those who care about it. I've posted about my dad with other accounts which I have deactivated. So I would just give a summary of what he did. ...
A. 31 January 2018: If you've reached the point where you don't care, then you don't care. It's not your job to care about someone who didn't properly care for you.
If your family can't understand or doesn't she that's fine, don't cut them off, just tell them you... (read in full...)
Married and seriously falling for my doctor
Q. I am head over heels for my surgeon. I have been seeing him for about 4-5 months and my feelings keep getting stronger. There was only one time when I thought he might be interested. He told me I had a nice smile and put his hand on my thigh. Since ...
A. 23 January 2018: Thinking you're falling in love with doctors, teachers, etc is so common it's not even unusual.
Do you really think it's a good idea to risk your marriage because if a common psychological occurrence?
If so, either get a divorce or tell ... (read in full...)
Why did he block me? Was it because I didn’t have sex with him?
Q. Hey guys.. I randomly met this guy last week and as soon as I saw him, I liked him. He seemed shy and I could tell he was into me but I knew he wouldn't ask me out, so I did. He took my number and he asked me to dinner on Saturday. Well he knew how ...
A. 20 January 2018: Honestly, some of the comments from women about what men think are a little off. Not entirely, but they're generalizations that don't apply to most guys.
My opinion is that most guys will try to have sex with you sooner than later. In itself t... (read in full...)
Why did he block me? Was it because I didn’t have sex with him?
Q. Hey guys.. I randomly met this guy last week and as soon as I saw him, I liked him. He seemed shy and I could tell he was into me but I knew he wouldn't ask me out, so I did. He took my number and he asked me to dinner on Saturday. Well he knew how ...
A. 18 January 2018: He sounds like he's kind of weird. You're trying to figure out what you did and ignoring everything he did wrong.... (read in full...)
I don't feel confident to talk dirty
Q. How can I feel confident talking sexy with my ldr . He like porn that features lots of mistresses and assertive women and I just dont feel I have the confidence to pull that off. When he asks me to talk sexy I just freeze and can't help feeling very ...
A. 17 January 2018: Instead of trying to think of what to say and feeling odd, assume the role, and put yourself in the shoes of the person you're trying to emulate.
For instance if someone asked you to pretend to be a mechanic, instead of stressing out because ... (read in full...)
Is my diet likely to work?
Q. Hey there folks. I am an unfit teen who is grossly over weight. I have heard about the apple a day thing. Does that work? I do excise Monday-Friday for about 40 mins. My mother has bad very bad eating habits, which I have grown up with and she'll ...
A. 16 January 2018: You should look into the keto diet, or any diet that eliminates processed carbs. If you can eliminate processed carbs your body will convert to using fat for energy instead of carbs. I know a guy who lost more than 100 lbs in a year by doing that ... (read in full...)
Should I confront my soon to be ex husband about his girlfriend from another country?
Q. Been married 18 years and my husband asked for a divorce 9 months ago. We are both still living in the marital home awaiting property settlement in a few weeks time. The situation is very stressful and toxic for me. We both have lawyers ...
A. 11 January 2018: I, like everyone else, don't see the point.... (read in full...)
I feel embarrassed and stupid about the party!
Q. My boyfriend invited me to his friends party. I don’t know too many of his friends but he really wanted me to go so I went. We got to the party and he sat across the table from me and talked to his friends and took shots with his friends while I sat ...
A. 7 January 2018: It sounds to me like he could have put a little more effort into making you comfortable, but you could have done the same. It's amazing what you can achieve if you put your phone down and start talking to people.
By the way, your question "is it o... (read in full...)
Can I really believe her?
Q. I was looking through my GF text messages one night because I felt something was different lately with her. So I found a text from a guy that she worked with. The text started out as I hear you are leaving the company for a new job and continued ...
A. 5 January 2018: I don't think the texts prove she was cheating but they were definitely inappropriate. Texts like that are always the first step towards cheating.
If I was you I'd insist that she tells you the truth, and use your best judgement as to whether ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my co-worker out? Or is she a gold digger?
Q. Hello, The thing is I'm getting mixed signals from a female coworker. She said once that she doesn't like quiet guys (like me), or fat guys (also like me), but recently she seems much more eager to talk to me about random stuff (but she does spe...
A. 3 January 2018: She probably likes you as a person, and is attracted to your money.
The fact that she doesn't like overweight quiet guys means you should probably just keep it friendly unless you feel comfortable with the informal prostitution that is a sugar da... (read in full...)
The ex is bad mouthing me to another man. Why would he do this?
Q. Around five months ago for God knows why the guy I was currently going out with ended the relationship with me saying it was too much and the break up was not mutual. I still have him on social media and he has supposedly assumed I've moved on with ...
A. 3 January 2018: Just because you don't want to be with someone anymore doesn't mean you like the idea of seeing them with someone else.
Or, he actually does believe you did something wrong... You could always confront him about it. ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to his personality and not so much to his looks. Can a relationship work like this?
Q. Hi Everyone! Can a relationship work on personality attraction alone l? I’ve met the most amazing guy I’ve quite possibly ever encountered before. We met in the gym where he works, I did NOT find him atttactive at all when I first met him. The...
A. 1 January 2018: Long term happiness is far more dependant on personality than it is looks. Odds are too, that if he treats you well he'd treat any kids you might have well too.
The more you care about him the more attractive he'll become.... (read in full...)
Is it selfish to break up with him over this?
Q. A couple of months ago my boyfriend and I had an argument, I was trying my best to start sex with him, I don't know if he was maybe tired but he got annoyed and said it's a turn off putting sex on a plate. So I decided to stop trying, I though...
A. 30 December 2017: "him not wanting to have sex with me isn't right."
I'm sorry but if you were a man and said that you'd have some upset people replying to you. Everyone has the right to say no to sex. It's a good way to ruin a relationship, but they still have the... (read in full...)
We're both 26, been together 3 years and done nothing sexually beyond kissing! It's just driving me up the wall!
Q. Have been dating for over 3 years, we clicked in more than one way and we're fond of each other. We're both 26 and haven't had sex yet (both virgins) . It's likely she hasn't ever had an orgasm or done much "exploration" on her own either. I have ...
A. 27 December 2017: You never said if she's waiting for marriage or not. If she's waiting for marriage maybe consider whether or not you'd actually marry her. If so, why not take a step in that direction?
If it's simply here being afraid then I'd suggest telling ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend getting friendly with my colleague. Should I worry?
Q. My girlfriend recently became friends with one of my work colleagues on Facebook. On Christmas morning, whilst I was still asleep, my girlfriend sent my colleague a message saying Merry Christmas along with a selfie of herself fully made up. She's ...
A. 27 December 2017: Cheating usually starts innocently enough. Sending a selfie is kind of a bad omen.... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend too sexually demanding?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend around half a year. He has really bad anger issues which he has been trying to control but he still has his outbursts. One of the things that triggers these outbursts is when I don’t give him head when he wants it. ...
A. 17 December 2017: Your boyfriend is an asshole and you deserve better...
I'm not sure if I missed the word in your question but I don't remember you saying that this is abuse. It clearly is.
Let me say that if one of my daughters was grown up and told me thei... (read in full...)
Should I own up to my size?
Q. I only have 4 inches erect and I met this girl about month ago. She is very beautiful and has great personality. We have gotten more physical in the relationship but due to nervousness I invent excuse to leave before she sees me naked or before sex ...
A. 17 December 2017: The truth is that for some women that might be too small. For some women 7 inches is too small, too.
But there are a hundred reasons why a new relationship might not work out. Maybe she realizes you're too sarcastic. Maybe your leisure activiti... (read in full...)
Our intimacy is gone and I don't know what to think or say?!?
Q. Don’t know what to think or say!! I haven been married for 15 years to a wonderful lady. Like every marriage we have encountered ups and downs. For about a year our intimacy is gone. She gets off work at 5:30pm arrives home at 8:30pm. She is a...
A. 16 December 2017: Hmmmm, sounds pretty damn suspicious to me...
I don't know how best to proceed but she may be cheating and you need to get better evidence (cell phone records?). Ask her to account for her time and see if she looks like she's lying.
My expe... (read in full...)
My wife wants an open relationship, I don't
Q. My wife insists on a open relationship for her but not for me. I am very resentful about this but she says its this or nothing. I love her but I am going nuts....
A. 16 December 2017: Basically, like all marriages after awhile, she's bored. She probably does love you, she just wants some excitement in her life. She wants to keep you around to provide stability, and add other people for entertainment.
Unfortunately you have to ... (read in full...)
My friend is behaving differently since we had sex
Q. So I'm 25 best friend is 29. So I have been really good friends with an American man for about 12 years now, we met online and were penpals , we have emailed nearly every day for 12 years and always ring each other and there for each other if we ...
A. 10 December 2017: Do what your heart tells you, I doubt you're reading him wrong. If you've been great friends for so long it could be the beginning of a good relationship. If not, you'll find a way to maintain your friendship.... (read in full...)
Should I treat this like I just got out of a BPD relationship or am I going about evaluating this situation wrong?
Q. I am in high school right now and my first girlfriend recently broke up with me. We dated for about a month and a half and the way she broke up with me was not what anybody does to anybody else. I'm trying to understand and make sense of why this ...
A. 24 November 2017: When people are suffering from mental health disorder it can be nearly impossible to make sense of some of their actions.
Don't take it personally. And trust me, you're better off!... (read in full...)
How do I tell potential dates that I do not engage in sex outside marriage vows?
Q. Hi I am going to start online dating . I don’t want to have sex before marriage . I am not virgin I was married before. Mostly folks respect your decision ( not sex before marriage) if you are virgin . If you are not virgin they don’t respect ...
A. 15 November 2017: Honestly, is say it in your profile. I know that for myself and many other people that's a deal breaker, so going on a few dates and potentially liking someone only to find that out would be both disappointing and a waste of time.
Be straight... (read in full...)
Advice on paying for sex?
Q. Little background: I am a geeky, fat male virgin who's never been on a date or ever kissed a girl. I don't ask girls out anymore because they always say no. I don't have much of an option in experiencing intimacy so I thought about paying for sex or ...
A. 2 November 2017: I don't necessarily think you'd regret it, the are tons of people that do it and don't.
But personally, I'd go to another country where it's either legal or decriminalized.
What you really should do is start working out five days a week, and... (read in full...)
Still not comfortable with my sexuality
Q. Hey all! Forgive me from the beginning if I am over graphical! I've known, and accepted that I am attractive to my own gender in a sexual way for years now. I identify as bisexual, but in private. Anyway I really come with 2 separate questions. I...
A. 29 October 2017: Sexuality is not nearly as black and white as most people think. What you like is what you like, and ultimately you should find a way to accept it and incorporate it into your life.
You may want to look for a romantic relationship with a woman, b... (read in full...)
We are falling out of love and I don't know what to do
Q. After being attached to his phone the TV and napping all day I asked my husband if he would spend some time with me. He suggested we have friends over I replied I would rather spend the night with just you since we haven't had a night alone in a ...
A. 29 October 2017: I was going to suggest something similar to honey pie. Go out and have fun. Enjoy your life, don't make him responsible for your enjoyment.
If he asks what's going on tell him the truth. Maybe he'll get a clue. ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation gay?
Q. If you are not thinking of anything and just masturbating for pleasure is this homosexual?...
A. 18 October 2017: A simple Google search could have answered this.
Homosexual: a person who is sexually attracted to people of their own sex.
If, when you masturbate you're thinking about other guys then, yes, it's gay.... (read in full...)
This woman is getting close on the train!
Q. I catch the busy train to work in Tokyo everyday and there is this cute younger lady who gets on along the way. I am usually standing near the door anyway but somehow she seems to find her way in front of me so we are hugged and crushed together. We ...
A. 18 October 2017: Sounds like she's groping you. ... (read in full...)
What should I do about feeling inadequate?
Q. First off, this is quite the premature question, but tonight, its all I can think about. A year ago, I had to escape a mentally, physically, sexually, and verbally abusive relationship. It was difficult to say the least. A few months after we ...
A. 18 October 2017: Women and men are very different. So while you are looking at yourself from a woman's perspective (and probably one with low self esteem stemming from your bad relationship) and concluding that you're not good enough, he's looking at you from a ... (read in full...)
I feel like I was second servings!
Q. Okay i really dont know what to do in this situation. So my freind is friends with this guy and they are just friends nothing more. So one day he spent the night at our apartment and I ended up having sex with him. I felt weird about sleeping with ...
A. 10 October 2017: I think that if I was you I'd be hurt and upset as well. I don't understand why most of these answers are harsh, either.
Considering she's your roommate all you can do is talk with her about it and try to come to a place where you feel a little b... (read in full...)
He's bragged about cheating on me behind my back but denies it when I confront him!
Q. Have been told by strangers, friends and family that my boyfriend of twenty years has bragged about cheating on me every chance he gets when he's working out of town. He actually butt dialed me during one of his bragging sessions to a friend and I ...
A. 2 October 2017: I think he's given you all the evidence you need to be reasonably sure that he's cheating. If, on the off chance he's just making up stories and telling everyone he's cheating for the fun of it, than he's a giant asshole anyways and you should move ... (read in full...)
Why am I stuck with the girl that doesn't want to give but wants me to do all the work?
Q. I been in relationship for 4 years. She was virgin before we met. I have high sex drive , she doesn’t. I tried to accommodate this by doing stuff in shower and not bothering her. Sometimes I ask her to go down, and she won’t put in effort, when she...
A. 27 September 2017: You're not stuck with anyone... If it's that important to you find someone you're compatible with. I can tell you with 100%% certainty that if it's a this bad when you're dating, you will be in a sexless marriage.... (read in full...)
Men never hit on me
Q. I am 22 and I never had a bf before or ever dated. Guys never approach me for dates and never even approach me even for sex (so I guess that makes me a virgin also). I am also never hit on by guys or had a guy say he wants my number. I am 5'4 and ...
A. 31 August 2017: It doesn't mean anything. Hitting on women you don't know is becoming stigmatized, so many guys just resort to the internet to find women. If you signal your interest you should be able to change things around.... (read in full...)
Why won't he Marry me?
Q. Hi, I have been with my partner 6 years next month. I never wanted to get married, was never something that was important to me. Until I was in love. We have been together 6 years and have agreed to start trying for a baby next year after my friends ...
A. 23 August 2017: If you're 22-25 and he's your age, he probably feels like he's too young. I wouldn't have got married at that age. In fact, when I was asked, I said "not anytime soon."
He should be willing to talk about it though. It's possible he avoids it if yo... (read in full...)
Emotional after I climax- is this normal?
Q. This is embarrassing but I have been abstinent for almost a year and a half because I have my guards up and I have been hurt and it's hard for me not to attach feelings when I sleep with someoene so I don't have sex unless I'm in a relationship- ...
A. 11 August 2017: My wife regularly cries after having an orgasm. She just read something about it and apparently it's somewhat common for women.... (read in full...)
How can I change my outlook on life?
Q. How can I stop my negative approach to life? Has anyone overcome this negative outlook on life and if so how? I have been in therapy and it's clear to me that I'm a miserable woman (sad) but true nothing makes me happy- I myself am not happy - I ...
A. 7 August 2017: I don't want to sound harsh but you're obviously part of the problem. Not because you can't find happiness necessarily, but because you must either have terrible luck or more likely you keep surrounding yourself with the wrong people. Plus, if ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wont give me a BJ!
Q. My girl and i are in long distance relationship since the starting and we love and trust each other deeply. We do occasionally meet and have wonderful sex . Currently we are even planning to get married and get our parents involved . Now m...
A. 5 August 2017: Well, you can't force her, and complaining about it won't do any good. Personally I don't understand why people don't give BJ's/eat pussy just to make their partner happy, but either way you're going to have to get used to a bj free life is you are ... (read in full...)
We met twice and now she says she wants space. Doesn't she like me?
Q. I met a girl online and we've met in person on two occasions. We seemed to just click from the beginning and she even said she didn't understand why I was still single. We've spoken on the telephone at length between meetings, however following our ...
A. 2 August 2017: If someone asks for space the last thing you need to worry about is them thinking you're seeing someone else because they don't care.
And the next time someone asks for space, give it to them! After only two dates there's no reason to hang on.... (read in full...)
Why do men think its alright to comment on a woman's nether regions?
Q. This is probably more of a rant than anything, but what is up with some men thinking it's ok to comment on the look of a woman's vagina/vulva?! Whether it's not neat enough, 'beef curtains', too hairy, it 'looks loose'... the list goes on! My m...
A. 23 July 2017: I'd like to add that I have never uttered a word of negativity about a woman's body parts, I don't think those details matter, I was just making a guess about these guys you're dating.... (read in full...)
Have I missed my chance to find a man, settle down and have a family?
Q. What do you do if you want to find someone to share your life with and get married so much that your heart hurts, but you are in your thirties and feel like you missed your chance? I've had lousy luck with guys all of my life. All I want is to...
A. 23 July 2017: Yeah why don't you move? 90 to 1? I doubt that, but regardless of the ratio, you don't live somewhere that is conducive to finding love.
Or become a nun like Zara here....... (read in full...)
Why do men think its alright to comment on a woman's nether regions?
Q. This is probably more of a rant than anything, but what is up with some men thinking it's ok to comment on the look of a woman's vagina/vulva?! Whether it's not neat enough, 'beef curtains', too hairy, it 'looks loose'... the list goes on! My m...
A. 22 July 2017: It's a sexist double standard, but another reason is that guys have tied the size and effectiveness of their penis to their self worth much more so than other body part on a man or woman.
A man probably feels he can comment on a woman's body par... (read in full...)
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