My gut is telling me there's something weird going on, am I too worried?
Q. I've been in a relationship with a guy for about two years now. He lives an hour and a half away so we see each other on the weekends. Recently, he's been in a class in which he is working with a girl I know and do not like. She used to date his...
A. 17 April 2015: Your gut will often feel things that aren't happening. In other words when a situation like this occurs you start to look for every little thing that doesn't seem right. All of a sudden you're being bothered by things you never would have noticed ... (read in full...)
I just want to go to the party and make him wish he hadn't done what he had done, am I being stupid?
Q. I'm going to a party on Sunday night and my ex boyfriend is going to be there. He cheated on me a couple of weeks ago and stupidly I want him back. He hasn't called or text since we split up and I just want to go to the party and make him wish he ...
A. 17 April 2015: It's only stupid if you don't want him to cheat on you. If you like being cheated on our at the very least you put up with it, then it's not that bad of an idea.... (read in full...)
Should I be apologizing to my Bf over something I don't believe I did? He's mad at me and he has pictures of me that his friends want to see.
Q. Hi :) I'll just skip to the main thing.. So today, my boyfriend told me his friends are trying to get hold of his thumbdrive as they assume that there are some special pictures in there of me. However, this friend of his happens to be in one of ...
A. 15 April 2015: Whether you did it or not, what would be so wrong about talking to someone and laughing. Your boyfriend's insecurity is off the charts.... (read in full...)
Yes I'm flattered by the attention. But Why is it only African American girls who like me?
Q. I like the situation, I just don't get it. I mean it's not EVERY girl, they just happen to be. Every girl that hits on me or has interest in me is black. It's flattering, always good to be liked. I love black women every bit as much as a woman o...
A. 13 April 2015: Black people are quite a bit more forward than most other races. If you have a style that looks somewhat urban, maybe they feel like you'd be open to an interracial relationship.
I've been hit on by black women more than all other races combined... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant but ex wont take me back and has met someone else!
Q. Im in a mess I really need some advice. Basically my boyfriend of 3 years and I split up about a month ago after a series of rows. It was a messy split, we still both loved each other but could not be together. As the days went by I realised that I ...
A. 13 April 2015: Sorry for three pain you're going through. Most people have been there and so I can safely say it will go away.
One thing that won't help, is begging him. That will just push him away and cause him to lose any respect he has for you.
The dec... (read in full...)
He's willing to sacrifice his own happiness to make me happy?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2mths ago. he sees how much of a toll it has taken on me. after all the crazy crap that we've been through the roller coaster of my emotions and pissing him off, he decided to end it all. We had sex Saturday and I ...
A. 13 April 2015: I think you should be realistic here... How long do you think he'll stick around? Her may want to get laid from someone who's totally into him (good for his ego) and nothing more.
Even if that's not the case, when you start behaving in the way ... (read in full...)
Older guy at work keeps flirting with me and it's unwanted - should I tell him off or ignore him?
Q. I know this is long but please read, I'm in my first "proper" job and its annoying me. I'm 21 and in my current temp job till the end of May. I really enjoy the workplace though I am the youngest person there by about a decade, and I get on well ...
A. 13 April 2015: Well, in my opinion, it's worth ignoring him and nothing more. You couldn't file sexual harassment claims against him because you first would have to tell him that he's harassing you and it needs to stop.
I know it's annoying, but I don't th... (read in full...)
Can I ask my boyfriend not to attend events this past FWB of his goes to?
Q. So my boyfriend of 2 years is great! I love our relationship and im incredibly happy. Although there is this one girl who causes problems and im at a loss as to what to do about it. Long before i met him he lived with another girl for about 2 years, ...
A. 10 April 2015: You can ask him to do it but it's controlling and shows a lack of trust in him. Not exactly a great thing to add to an otherwise good relationship.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to know if she enjoyed it and if he wore a condom?
Q. I have a 27 year old girlfriend of 3 years and we have recently been having some issues in regards to spending time together. She has been spending a lot of time with a co-worker (going out, going to his place but just as friends as she claims). ...
A. 9 April 2015: There's some good advice here. She probably enjoyed it, that's why people have sex. She's not going to tell you the details truthfully, accept that.
The important questions are why did it happen and what's going to prevent it from happenin... (read in full...)
Confused, in love, but stuck! Please help!
Q. Any advice would be great please.. So the thing is, I'm 24 now and this all started many moons ago when i was 10. I've always been mad after this lad I've been close to, I literally fell head over heels with him. We have always been on off where we ...
A. 9 April 2015: You don't mention what kind of talks you guys have had. Is tell him must of what you said here. Tell him that you don't want to wait anymore. If nothing changes there's your answer.
By the way, "literally" how you used it means you did a flip of ... (read in full...)
I think my Ex GF Has Borderline Personality Disorder
Q. I've recently broken up with my gf of about a year. I loved her more than any woman I've ever been with, but throughout the relationship she exhibited signs of mental instability that I overlooked or made excuses for because I love her. Someone ...
A. 9 April 2015: I don't know if my wife has any specific disorder or not but she certainly has anger issues and is irrational when I ask her for specific reasons why she is mad at me.
As much as I love her, I do believe my life would have been better with som... (read in full...)
What can I do about my husband's infatuation and his need to talk, all the time, about a girl he works with?
Q. I am so frustrated with my husband! We have been married ten years but together for 15. I thought things were really good we have a child both have good jobs and holidays. Right now we are on a family holiday. My husband keeps bringing a girl up ...
A. 8 April 2015: Yeah, at least you know that he hasn't touched her since he's not afraid to talk about her.
What I would do is tell him that you're uncomfortable with how often he mentions her and that you saw his Facebook.
Having a crush while married is... (read in full...)
Husband facing unwanted divorce without communication
Q. Ok my wife and I have been married almost 6 years, we were deeply in love with one another . Then my wife got a job in another state almost a year after we were married. So I moved with her, I was arrested for a crime I did not commit, 3 years of ...
A. 8 April 2015: I've always feared this kind if situation. But as bad as it is, do you want to be with the type if woman who would abandon her kids? Not to mention abandon you!
DO get child support. If she's working she owes you that much.... (read in full...)
Was his threesome suggestion just an excuse to have sex with another woman? Is it wrong that I felt hurt by his actions?
Q. I agreed to a threesome with my husband and a friend. I've never been with a woman but agreed to try to please my husband. He didn't even touch me. feeling uncomfortable, i went outside. he proceeded to have sex with her. i was reduced to watching, ...
A. 7 April 2015: As stated, part of the blame is clearly yours for agreeing in the first place.
However, it says a lot about the guy you're married to that your feelings in the matter are so unimportant and come after his sexual desires.
I also agree that ... (read in full...)
Text overload and being clingy may have scared him off!
Q. Hi there, I am looking for some honest advice and interested in hearing views from men as well, if possible. Basically, if a guy really genuinely likes a woman and is 'into her', during the early dating stages and she freaks him out with text ov...
A. 6 April 2015: "If he really likes you, you can do no wrong"- your friends are very wrong. This is the entire purpose of dating- to find out if you are into each other, compatible, etc.
You don't have to be perfect, but everything he doesn't like about you goes... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble with my baby daddy!
Q. My baby's dad is being horrible to me and trying to control things. We hooked up one night and had a baby never even dated. We were sort of seeing each other a couple of months ago but behind my back started seeing someone else. Now he's telling me ...
A. 5 April 2015: You say you didn't do anything, and in a small way you're right. Unfortunately in a big way you're wrong: you had a baby with a guy who want long term relationship material.
You guys aren't compatible. He knows it. I think you just need to move ... (read in full...)
How do I get over the break up of my first relationship?
Q. I was with my ex girlfriend for 6 months and about 4 months ago to this day we broke up. She broke up with me because she didn't want to be held down or this committed at this age (she's 17 I'm a few months older so I'm 18). I saw in one of her chat...
A. 1 April 2015: It's easy, just remind yourself that there are many more women to come, ones that are much more suited to you.
If this relationship was meant to work it would have.... (read in full...)
She was insistent on including her daughters in our invitation to her and then she was a no-show! I wasted £300 on all 4 of them!
Q. I got married over a month ago and I invited a friend of mine - we used to work together and became really good friends so I invited both her and husband to my wedding for the entire day. When my friend received her invite she called to as...
A. 1 April 2015: It was rude of her, sure, but they are grown ups, and didn't need your worrying at the wedding. I doubt you worried for there safety, you were probably just mad and pretending to be worried makes you appear less self centered.
Either way she soun... (read in full...)
How to re-create the spark with my ex?
Q. My ex and I were together for many years, broke up due to communication problems and thought we needed to part ways for awhile. We've kept in contact and have been talking about a reconciliation. During our BU, we worked on ourselves and tried ...
A. 31 March 2015: You should date. Don't jump into a relationship... Take it slow and woo each other by doing the same things people do when they're dating. Learn new things together, do fun things, etc.
There's no guarantee it'll be like you just meet but you can ... (read in full...)
How can I calm my sexual urges and lessen my need to think about sex constantly ?
Q. I'm a 21 year old female from a religious background and a virgin. I'm not supposed to date or have premarital sex. I'm not even supposed to masturbate but being a human I do anyways. But recently,that hasn't been helping me suppress my sexual ...
A. 29 March 2015: It's pretty normal. If you want it to be lessoned, try having sex. ... (read in full...)
He's 18 and I like him, but he seems to like a girl too. Should I give up on him?
Q. Should I give up or keep fighting for this this wonderful guy? A month ago I’ve met this wonderful 18 year old German guy. Lets call him A. Theres also this girl, lets call her B. B used to have a crush on me, she doesn’t know I’m gay - o...
A. 26 March 2015: Until you start being honest with each other nothing is going to happen. Cuddling and kissing shoulders are not "bromance" things, they are gay things.
He's at least bi-curious, and he should be smart enough to know you're gay.
Be honest and... (read in full...)
I have insecurities about my weight and shape of my body. How do I overcome them so I can enjoy sex?
Q. I am 22 years old and have been with my amazing boyfriend for a little over a year. I am embarrassed to say, but I'm a good 40-45 pounds overweight and I'm on the short side, 5'4. I got thick thighs, my stomach is not flat, my boobs have gotte...
A. 26 March 2015: It's a tough spot but there are only a few things you can do here.
-Continue to not let him see your body until you lose 45lbs (about a year at best).
-Decide that you are who you are and that if he loves you he'll embrace your body as par... (read in full...)
The girl I have been chatting with slept with someone else
Q. I have been chatting with a girl for over a year. Lately she has been getting very sexual in her comments, even saying we should meet for sex. I am not necessarily the type to want to meet a woman for sex (only) so I laugh her comments off. ...
A. 22 March 2015: You need to stop playing the waiting game and take whatever you think this is to the next level. If course she was with someone else, because she'd be an old lady before you'd make a move!
Just ask her on a date, and take things from there. Y... (read in full...)
Few questions for the guys, including why the heck do you always leave the toilet seat up?
Q. I have a few questions for you guys. 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating? It seems to me, that first you are all into it, beeing kissed and such, and than, you just loose intrested and its more like "Lets ju...
A. 21 March 2015: You're generalizing too much.
1. Been married 8 years and still love kissing my wife.
2. If a guy believes you're a dirty slut then you're with the wrong guy. But it's his right to expect his woman to have had under a certain amount of partne... (read in full...)
When you know all this about them, would YOU leave?
Q. Okay so, I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. The time has come in which I don't no if I'm happy. The thing is it's easy for people to say well leave. If it was that easy I doubt most marriages would last beyond this time period. ...
A. 21 March 2015: I too don't really understand a lot if what you said, so I'll just keep my answer a little general.
Long term happy relationships are very difficult. They take work, communication, understanding, etc. I don't see your relationship lasting and u do... (read in full...)
There is no sex in our relationship and I can't figure out why!
Q. ive asked for help on this site before and do appreciate any insight on my issue. im a 48 year old female living with a 30 year old male. the issue is sex... he wont touch me and says its not me. i cant help to think that it is. he has made many ...
A. 19 March 2015: From what I read here this relationship is making you feel like crap. He is saying and doing things that hurry you, most likely knowing they will hurt you.
So why are you putting up with it? You can find love with someone that will make you feel... (read in full...)
Do I fight for her?
Q. So basically, I met the love of my life 3 years ago, we are a same sex couple, I am 34 she is 30, we married in May 2014, we lived together for 2 and a half years, altogether. We fell in live on our 1st date. Then 8 months into our marriage she ...
A. 18 March 2015: Why is someone that hurts you so much worth fighting for? There are a lot of people that will love you without hurting you.
And someone who falls out of love after 8 months if marriage will be hurting you over and over.... (read in full...)
Found dildo's under my boyfriends bed. Is he cheating?
Q. I think my be is cheating on me. I found an anal sex beginners kit and purple rabbit vibrator already used hidden under his bed after I had been away from his house for 6 weeks. During my absence he would visit me only at my house and I wasn't ...
A. 13 March 2015: It doesn't sound good... What was his excuse?
Regarding the sex toys, maybe he uses them on himself?... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend manipulating me?
Q. We met online 4 months ago. Everything went fine and we started dating. She seemed like a nice, independent young woman (early thirties). She had a job, rented alone an apartment etc. After two and a half months her landlord told her that the ...
A. 12 March 2015: It sounds like you now know the real her. I hate to say it, but do you want this person to be the mother of your children? She had issues that may be able to be fixed but are you willing to wait?... (read in full...)
Is it okay to send your boyfriend a video of you masturbating?
Q. Would you consider it okay to send your boyfriend who is away for a few weeks on business a naughty video of you masturbating? Just to keep the spark going and to give him something to look forward to when he comes back?...
A. 11 March 2015: ID'd day do it. Personally I'd never share such a thing with anyone else, but obviously not every guy is the same...
For your own sake, maybe leave your gave out of it.... (read in full...)
Guys, would you date a 27-year-old virgin?
Q. I'm 27 and still a virgin. I feel so old being one at this age and I'm wondering if guys will even want to give me a chance since there are plenty of experienced women for them to pick from. So, first things first. My virginity doesn't mean much to ...
A. 10 March 2015: It's fine.... (read in full...)
How do I get him to contact me and let me know what I did wrong?
Q. I'm 18 and I started talking to this boy on tinder last month (he's 18 too). We added each other on whatsapp and were talked frequently and then met. Afterwards he messaged me saying all these nice things and how perfect I was. We were talking ...
A. 9 March 2015: Maybe he has a gf? From what you say you didn't do anything wrong. Just write the guy off and keep looking. You didn't lose much.... (read in full...)
Can anyone give advice of how to get through a very stressful time without taking meds?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm feeling incredibly stressed at the moment and I'm looking for some tips on how to deal with it as I'm already noticing the effects physically (restless sleep, acne, feeling anxious, aches and pains etc). It feels like everyt...
A. 8 March 2015: My wife has fibromyalgia and needs medication to control her depression and stress which in turn controls her pain.
The meds eliminated her sex drive and ability to orgasm so we searched for natural alternatives.
We found that there are some v... (read in full...)
Are these signs this guy is a player or not interested(even though he has a girlfriend)?
Q. -Never makes much effort to see me and only when he's away will he talk about us catching up next, but when he's home doesn't initiate anything. -Acts flirty over text, never answers phone calls, acts cold/distant in real life. -When we're 'f...
A. 5 March 2015: Seems obvious that it's because he has a gf... (read in full...)
What sexual skills do men look for in a woman?
Q. Hello, all! You know how they say curiosity kills the cat? Well,I'm afraid I'm the cat in this situation. One of the recent topics on this forum really got me thinking:http://www.dearcupid.or...
A. 25 February 2015: Talk dirty to me, treat me like I'm a king in bed, be enthusiastic, try new things, thrust yourself against me, use your hands, show yourself off, etc. I could go on but I'm not sure how graphic I should get.... (read in full...)
Why do men expect women to be shaved down below? Porn?
Q. I'm out of a twenty year marriage so the last time I dates was some years ago. Since being single again it seems most men now expect or want women to be shaved down below. What's going on? I don't remember this ever being a request or even a prefer...
A. 22 February 2015: I like everything but a jungle. As long as it doesn't go to your legs I'm ok. In other words not everyone likes it shaved. In fact a lot of times shaved is a turn off to me (depends on the woman).... (read in full...)
How small is small for a man's penis if the man is 5 foot and 11 inches and 195 pounds?
Q. Hello everyone sorry to be the umpteenth guy asking this question but how small is small when it comes to penis size? Im 23 and have had sex with over 20 girls but its always been in the back of my head that I'm unproprtional and small. My size is ...
A. 20 February 2015: When you first start dating a girl you're big, but when she gets mad at you she'll tell people you're small.
You're normal. ... (read in full...)
Married with kids. She is seeing other men. I love her dearly...but when is enough enough?
Q. Married with kids. I love her dearly...but when is enough enough? I would really appreciate insight from the outside looking in. I am going to be 100% truthful here. I have no reason not to…I just really want thoughts and advice based on my s...
A. 20 February 2015: You're living my worst nightmare... You have to pull the band-aid off quick! If you leave her, she may realize what she's missing. For now she has a babysitter and someone to pay the bills while she enjoys herself. Love can be had from a ... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to my rich grandfather for help?
Q. I don't come from a wealthy family. The only person in my whole family who has been well off is my grandfather. He's very rich. However, I rarely speak with him. He's a somewhat distant person from our family and I've always felt rather weird around ...
A. 20 February 2015: You don't need the money, hard times happen to most people and almost everyone gets through them if they try. Think of it as a test. ... (read in full...)
What happened to 'getting to know you' first?
Q. Since I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years, I started dating and the situation is that guys that I meet only want sex immediately. I hardly have any dates though I give my phone number. I don't understand what changed during these 4 years. ...
A. 18 February 2015: Maybe you're too sexy for your own good. Just kidding, anyways....
I'll let you in on a secret. Most guys are happy being single if they are getting laid. You've just happened to run into a lot of those guys, but the ones who want more are... (read in full...)
What can I do to help him understand he is ruining our relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship with a younger man there is no doubt on my mind we love each other, he goes to work I am home I rarely go out I pretty much stay to myself before the relationship began I was always surrounded by fam and friends they were always ...
A. 18 February 2015: Uhhhhh, he's not ruining anything, you're just barking up the wrong tree. He's a man who is incapable of being in a normal, healthy relationship. It's not a choice he has made, it's the reality if who he is.
It's time to leave as there is nothi... (read in full...)
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