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The ex is bad mouthing me to another man. Why would he do this?

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Question - (3 January 2018) 3 Answers - (Newest, 4 January 2018)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

Around five months ago for God knows why the guy I was currently going out with ended the relationship with me saying it was too much and the break up was not mutual. I still have him on social media and he has supposedly assumed I've moved on with this guy I know and recently he phone this guy and talked very badly about me and threatened him to stop talking to me and basically tried to put this guy off me. I am so confused on what his underlying motives are because I haven't done anything to make him this angry towards me and for him to go to the extent to calling my friend is just crazy. Can you help me understand why he possibly did this?

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A male reader, Billy Bathgate United States +, writes (4 January 2018):

He’s a jealous creep who says he doesn’t want you but doesn’t want anyone else to have you. He broke up with you now is the time for you to break up with him. Block his phone number and block him on social media.

If he tries to contact you in person get the police involved. He has already threatened your new fellow. You don’t know what he may do next.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (3 January 2018):

Just because you don't want to be with someone anymore doesn't mean you like the idea of seeing them with someone else.

Or, he actually does believe you did something wrong... You could always confront him about it.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 January 2018):

Honeypie agony auntNope, I can't read your ex's mind.

He might feel that he somehow still have a "right" to control your life even if he didn't want to date you any more.

CUT the ex off from all contact, all social media and phone. WHY would you keep such a guy around? He has no right or reason to go digging in your social media or life. So STOP giving him access. Stop letting him create drama in your life. If he tells friends of yours lies, well they KNOW you and you can tell them you have no idea why he is doing it or what is the matter. SHRUG it off.

And unfortunately there isn't much you can do. You can't control what your ex says, feels or do.

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