Am I still a virgin after having only anal sex?
Q. Dear Cupid Me and a boy I’ve been seeing couldn’t control ourselves and ended up having anal sex despite the fact that we’re both Mormon and are forbidden from having sex until we’re married. Whilst we’ve both agreed to keep it a secret from our ...
A. 15 September 2021: I think if you really want to call yourself a virgin you might be able to get away with it but the definition of a version is someone who hasn't had sex and anal sex is still sex.
But since obviously you haven't had vaginal intercourse you coul... (read in full...)
I'm exhausted and ready to break up with my boyfriend
Q. I am 27 years old and had 3 long time boyfriends. This guy is 4th. I am not a dater..actualy hate this process.I tried but then i discovered that most of my dated are in for sex ..i guess i dont have enough interest in just that. I came from ver...
A. 15 September 2021: Don't ignore warning signs! There's no way in hell things will get better! He will eventually drive you crazy... (read in full...)
Things were great, then suddenly she blocked me
Q. Hey all and first off, thanks for taking the time to review my situation. So this started a little under a month ago, me and this woman I met through the internet have been chatting 24/7 every day. Met up a couple times and hit it off. Things ...
A. 17 August 2021: Take a hint man! You're on the verge of becoming a stalker.
Don't obsess over why someone breaks up with you, you already know the answer: you weren't compatible. That's all you need to know.... (read in full...)
I'm shocked at how blinded I was by online man I gave money to
Q. Hi and thank you!! So I'm dating a man who unfortunately is consumed with money ots money this, money that. Huge turn off to me. Sure we all need it but it doesn't consume me. Seems hes always broke always needing something. I need groce...
A. 14 June 2021: Well it should be obvious that he was taking advantage of you. And it's probably safe to say that he will be back since you are a steady source of income for him. Ask suggested you should block him to not give him the chance to manipulate you into ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is lying to me again she has a history of doing so
Q. Can anyone help me with the math here because i think i'm being lied too by the woman i'm currently seeing. She text me good morning at 08.00, then another text at 08.57 asking how day was going. At 09.36 she text and said she was having bre...
A. 14 March 2021: Keep in mind that she didn't leave the WhatsApp message knowingly, so you shouldn't expect a perfect answer there.
I never cheated on my ex wife but occasionally if she had bugged me about timing of things it would have looked like I had.... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my boyfriend share pictures of me on social media?
Q. I’ve been with my boyfriend since summer 19 And he is the greatest thing that ever happened to me he’s always there for me emotionally shows me love and affection, spoils me, and is my best friend. I lost my mom to cancer in October and he has never ...
A. 1 March 2021: I was married for 12 years and I'm not a very active social media user either, and to the best of my knowledge I never posted a picture of my wife and I (it's possible I posted a picture of her with my kids).
I'm just a private person, I feel lik... (read in full...)
Swinging has turned into more for me I've been sneaking around behind my husband's back
Q. A little over a year ago my husband and I went on Tinder looking for another couple to have some fun with. We found a couple , texted back and forth in a group text and after a few weeks we finally met. We ended up switching partners and having sex ...
A. 24 February 2021: Maybe you need to be polyamorous? What you're doing is obviously not okay because you're violating your husband's trust. And I don't think you know this guy well enough to risk your marriage for him do you?
... (read in full...)
28 and still confused
Q. I'm 28 and still dont know what I am, so my question is when does the big relation happen where I'm like "nope I'm straight" or "bi" or "definitely gay" how long will I stay confused? A started having fantasies about men when i was young, alway...
A. 19 February 2021: As a straight guy who has never for a single minute questioned my sexuality, I can't give you advice that's more specific than this: sometimes it's better to resist the temptation to label yourself. As everyone is discovering it's not as simple as ... (read in full...)
My long distance husband keeps asking for money
Q. My husband and I have been together 4 years. For the most part it's pretty good except for money. He relies on me too much to take care of things financially. I should mention hes been back and forth we don't live together as a married couple ...
A. 15 January 2021: I wouldn't say it's a scam necessarily, you don't give enough info for us to know his intentions.
Could be be taking money from you with no intention of actually coming to live with you in a traditional way? Certainly. It's been 4 years so that'... (read in full...)
I can't stand my teenage kids anymore!!
Q. I can't stand my teenage kids anymore. All they do is expect everything and act entitled and I've had enough. I'm out of work right now and cannot afford much my wife works but doesn't make alot of money. I'm thinking of just letting go and not ...
A. 13 January 2021: I don't know how to solve your problem except to say that you raised them, and in large part they are the way they are because of how you raised them.
So remember that and be patient. Instead of fighting (if you do), talk to them and tell them how... (read in full...)
Trouble with a friend who borrows money and won't pay it back
Q. Hello So, my friend seems to have money issues. I don't mind helping out sometimes but recently I found out after I borrowed 200.00 a mutual friend also gave 200.00 so I sort of expected mine back. However, she said shes broke and needs it. A...
A. 10 January 2021: I agree with the never lend money you can't afford to lose thing.
I also think when you lend people money you should treat it as a gift, if they pay you back that's great, but they're obviously not good with money or at least don't have enough o... (read in full...)
I feel like the man who left his wife for me is regretting it. Can anyone tell me what to do?
Q. My married boyfriend left his wife for me. We were having an affair for 8 years prior. He moved in with me in November. But instead of feeling happy about this new beginning like I am, he acts hot and cold. One day he is loving and attentive and the ...
A. 10 January 2021: He's dealing with two things here: the reality of being with you full time (there's always an adjustment when you change a relationship like that), and mourning the end of his marriage.
Be understanding and encourage him to speak openly about ho... (read in full...)
He proposed I said yes but I don't want to marry him!
Q. My boyfriend of a year proposed. I said yes because his family was right there. I don’t want to marry him and I’m freaking out because I’m not married. He’s just not what I want....I don’t know what to do . He’s also still married to his first wif...
A. 10 January 2021: I don't understand how guys put women in this situation. When I asked my wife to marry me it's because I knew she'd say yes based on our conversations.
You had every right to say no although it's obviously a little awkward.
Iadd my vote ... (read in full...)
I would do anything for my husband but I know he won't for me
Q. My husband is an alcoholic. Idk why it wasnt so obvious before except that I recently quit drinking and I guess his drunkenness is more noticeable. He is active duty. He somehow excels at work and no one knows he is a raging alcoholic. He c...
A. 2 January 2021: Your mom is right, you need to leave him. You have a sad story, I feel sorry for you, but I'm glad you're working on things. However you can never really improved your life until you leave him. There's no way around it. He would owe you child ... (read in full...)
My ex got married is pregnant and is now back in my life
Q. My ex gf of 9 years, broke up with me recently. She jumped into a relationship right away and did not take the time to get over our relationship and properly move on. We had a good relationship, but it was not really moving anywhere, so she felt ...
A. 24 December 2020: Sounds to me like she can't be single, especially with a baby on the way, she needs someone to help take care of her and the baby and she knows you'll be acceptable. She may be telling you what you want to hear, but there's plenty she's not telling ... (read in full...)
My always broke boyfriend asked for money and when I offered him some he said it wasn't nearly enough
Q. Hello So I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and hes always broke. Always some scenario happening. I have grown tired of it. His most recent request is hes broke can I help him. I offered 80.00 and he declined. He said it's not enoug...
A. 24 December 2020: You're enabling him and the only way to stop this from happening is to stop giving him money. Tell him ahead of time that you're done so don't even ask. It would be one thing if he was having a difficult time through no fault of his own, but ... (read in full...)
He's more opposite and terrible in bed... help!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. Its obviously been a very weird year for everyone, and it's been very weird having a new relationship through this time. We get on pretty well, and I have very strong feelings for him.. So...
A. 3 December 2020: That list is too long, you should just find someone you're compatible with!... (read in full...)
How can I start casually dating and hooking up with this dealbreaker?
Q. Im a 25 year old male with only 1 sexual partner in the past. How can I start casually dating and hooking up? Im not looking for a serious relationship as i just got out a 9 year relationship 4 months ago. How can i break it to a lady that i dont ...
A. 12 November 2020: Penis size is a personal preference just like many others things are. Hair color, breast size, nice feet, height, personality type, body shape, etc. You have been rejected plenty of times for other things you just didn't know it or care, but for ... (read in full...)
How can I help her to see why I feel used and annoyed without her getting angry at me?
Q. Hi everyone, Just wanting a little perspective on a situation. My partner and I have been together for several years. She has gone back to school for the last three years and I have worked full time to support us. She is just finishing up wit...
A. 12 November 2020: So you're willing to sacrifice your feelings and happiness to avoid upsetting her? No wonder she takes you for granted. Sometimes you just have to tell people how you feel.
Obviously it's a stressful time for both of you and she needed a break, b... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to pay an escort to date me?
Q. Hello I am a male virgin who has never been on a date or kissed a girl. I have many friends who are women but never had a girlfriend. I'm not particularly handsome and I am chubby. I'm bald also. I basically look like a gorilla. I am socially aw...
A. 2 November 2020: I don't think there's anything wrong with finding an escort. It may help you with your confidence. Start getting into shape, eat healthy, work out, spend time with an escort (just don't get taken advantage of), and maybe in a few months you'll feel ... (read in full...)
My husband disrespects me. I think he's lying and spending time with his baby mama
Q. hello ill try to make this as short as possible, my husband and i have been together for three years. when we were dating he cheated and impregnated someone and we broke up. he asked for another chance and i forgave him. i moved to virginia with him ...
A. 2 November 2020: I think people are being a little harsh here as usual. But I also agree that realistically you should be getting a divorce.
I'm sure you don't agree, however. In that case it sounds like a big, if not the biggest issue in your marriage is a lack o... (read in full...)
I made a huge mistake and now, what should I do?
Q. So, there's a lot of history here and i feel like all the details are important so forgive this very long story/question. This girl [I'll call her X] and I have been messing around since we were teenagers. We're now in our 30s. We were a couple f...
A. 27 October 2020: You need to either fix your relationship or move on, and you need to do the right thing and leave X alone. She's made it clear that you and her are not happening in want meaningful way, only in a destructive one.
There are plenty of fish in the s... (read in full...)
Do I tell my friend about her teenaged son's attraction to me?
Q. Hi I am 44 and I have been divorced for 6 months. The divorce was hard on me and I have very low self esteem and ended up having to move in with my friend and her son. Over the course of the months I have been staying with my friend I noticed...
A. 27 October 2020: I wouldn't tell her, it's completely natural. Obviously you should be a little more careful about cruising a line. Little things don't seem like a big deal but they often lead to bigger things if left unchecked.... (read in full...)
What does "I don't see you that way" mean and how to change it?
Q. I'm a male virgin who's never kissed a girl or been on a date. Whenever I work up the courage to ask a girl out, I always get told "You're a sweet guy but I just don't see you that way." What does that mean? I always interpret it that I am too ug...
A. 23 October 2020: I think one of the things that can turn women off most frequently is a lack of confidence and being too nice. If you fall into those categories you should work on changing that.
I can tell you with certainty that confidence turns on so many wom... (read in full...)
I want to buy a sex doll to be my gf
Q. hi, im Owen. i'm 39 and i live in california. i have a thin 4 inch penis and haven't had sex in 15 years. i am also a premature ejaculator, and because of these things i am intimidated and nervous near women. i don't feel comfortable trying to date ...
A. 23 October 2020: Owen, some women obviously care about penis size. But some women also want you to be rich, or have a six pack, or be of a certain race, or a certain body type, or have a sexy accent, or to be macho, or be really nice, or WHATEVER. You're not going ... (read in full...)
Can men be balanced in bed?
Q. Can men be balanced in bed? I have only had either dominating or submissive guys. The dominating ones are selfish, controlling, insecure and eager to have sex. Submissive ones are a bit too nice and overly slave like, wanting to please you badly but ...
A. 26 September 2020: Wow, anonymous have probably the most ridiculous answer over ever seen here, lol. That must have taken a lot of effort.... (read in full...)
Do white men find women from Bangledish attractive?
Q. I'm a Bangladeshi girl and I've always been attracted to White men. But the White guys I've met online are attracted to me only until they find out my nationality. Some even straight off told me, they thought I was a Latina (like..?!!) I've no ...
A. 3 September 2020: Regarding your reply: I can only speak as an American, living in a culturally diverse area. There aren't a lot of Bangladeshi women around, so most men here probably aren't even sure where your country is.
Although there are plenty of Indian w... (read in full...)
Do white men find women from Bangledish attractive?
Q. I'm a Bangladeshi girl and I've always been attracted to White men. But the White guys I've met online are attracted to me only until they find out my nationality. Some even straight off told me, they thought I was a Latina (like..?!!) I've no ...
A. 30 August 2020: I think women can be beautiful no matter where they are from. My brother dated a girl from Bangladesh who was gorgeous. I've met other attractive Bangladeshi women.
The guys you met were fetishising what they thought you were. They probably... (read in full...)
I don't whether to fight for it or to move on from this relationship
Q. Hello everyone, my ex-gf of 10 years have recently just broken up with me. To be exact she broke up with me July 15th. i will try to make this long story as short as i can. Everything started when she moved down to Oklahoma with her parents in ...
A. 27 July 2020: You're not going to accomplish anything but further heartbreak at this point. It's almost impossible to compete with "the new guy" because they haven't been together long enough for her to experience his flaws, but since you've been together for 10 ... (read in full...)
Gentlemen, how many likes do you get on dating apps?
Q. As the title of my post asks - how many Likes does the average male homo sapien get from women on dating apps? A few months ago my sister helped me create an online dating profile. She helped take my profile photos, reviewed my profile and then...
A. 13 May 2020: Guys don't get very many, that's not how it works... Unless your pretty good-looking I guess. I don't get a ton of interest from women, maybe one a day or less, but when I reach out to them I get acceptable results. My problem is that apps feel ... (read in full...)
It feels like a slap in the face to provide everything for this relationship and not even get the respect of an adult conversation.
Q. Hello! I have been in a relationship for over two years. My SO hasn’t worked most of our relationship. I have an apartment that he pretty much stays at unless he goes home after a fight. I am constantly stressed about bills and responsibilities ...
A. 7 May 2020: There's too much here to fix, you need to move on with your life without him. ... (read in full...)
I dated a doctor before Corona, now not sure how to behave with him.
Q. A couple of years ago I dated a guy for a couple of months. He was nice but I wasn’t over my long term ex. It ended because he said he couldn’t get my wall down (he was right). In February we bumped in to each other in the pub and went for a coffee ...
A. 7 April 2020: Maybe you should call him once a week or so, have a nice convo, avoid talking about work or coronavirus, and be patient. You can't force something here. When things calm down ask him out. ... (read in full...)
My wife has an anger management problem and my patience is wearing thin. What can I do to help?
Q. My wife has an anger management problem. Sometimes she is mad at me, but many times she reacts angrily in ways that are disproportionate to the situation. If she "almost" (but does not) burn dinner she will stomp her feet and pound the table. I...
A. 31 December 2019: I just divorced a woman like that. Everything was my fault or our kids. Angry just about every day, often several times a day. Didn't think she needed to do anything about it.
My advice is that if she won't admit the problem and do somethin... (read in full...)
Why did my husband go my sister-in-law's house when he knows I dislike her?
Q. Let me give you a little background first before asking the question. My husband and i live in city A, his brother and his wife live in city B, and all our parents are based in city C. We wre all currently in city C with our our respective paren...
A. 31 December 2019: Another vote in favor of your husband... Don't drive a wedge in between him and his family because of your insecurities.... (read in full...)
Would I be judged for not wearing a bra?
Q. I would like an honest opinion please I don't find bras comfortable. Would i be judged by men or women if I was to be without a bra in public I'm only small up top and I know it's my choice but even tho I'm small up top, to put it simply, ...
A. 24 December 2019: Well being totally honest with you if your nipples are visible guys will definitely notice and they may give you some uncomfortably long looks.
Regarding the whole judgment aspect, if you know in your heart you're not doing anything wrong then you... (read in full...)
I don’t want to leave my husband but I need help forgetting the other man!
Q. I need some real help. Here is a bit of background that might help whoever reads this give me better advice. I have been married 5 years but together for 10. We met in high school, went to college together, and are both have the same job right n...
A. 26 September 2019: It's easy to be incredibly into someone when it's strictly romantic. Most people start that way then slowly become miserable (or not). Part of marriage is working on your own relationship, the other part is resisting the urge you get when things ... (read in full...)
He didn't try to stop me when I told him I lost interest. Can I salvage this?
Q. Please don't make fun of me on this post because I'm not looking for smart comments like "Well you lost interest, so why do you care? There is this guy i was having a casual sexual relationship with for 3 years. All was great, except he wouldn...
A. 26 September 2019: You could try to call him and talk about it with him... Seems easy enough.
That being said he clearly isn't on the same page as you are so you're better off now.... (read in full...)
Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women .
Q. Do most men see short women as less attractive than tall women . I often see descriptions of ‘hot ‘ or attractive women include the word tall and cute or sweet women as shorter . Obviously individuals have individual preferences but in GENERAL is ...
A. 18 August 2019: Height for a woman is definitely not as important as you might think, unless you're significantly below or above average. Even then, for every guy that thinks you're too short or too tall, there's another that is fine with it.
I can't tell you... (read in full...)
Online romance was going well till we face timed. He acted like things were great but has now said he can't be in a relationship
Q. So I'm pretty upset...been chatting to this guy for a month...we have talked every day for hours. We get on really well or so I thought...similar interested he makes me laugh loads and he was initiating texts like good morning texts etc. He used to ...
A. 4 August 2019: Do yourself a favor and stop wondering what you did. It's a lot more likely that he has issues that prevent him from meeting up.... (read in full...)
How can I deal with my conservative- verbally abusive living situation?
Q. How can I navigate my abusive living situation? Background - I grew up in a conservative home ( think our current state of the union remarks) is here my parents care about money- materials and how good their daughters looks and well educated...
A. 1 August 2019: I don't think I have a great answer for you but I want to say that what you're doing is very selfless and you're the type of friend most people would be lucky to have.
All I can say is that in the times that my life hasn't been great it helped t... (read in full...)
I feel he led me on and then rejected my offer for sex!
Q. I (27F) have been having a crush on a colleague at work (46M). We hang out together and have lunch/dinner together. Since he is moving out of state, I wanted to confess my feelings for him before he left, and I knew it would not lead to a serious ...
A. 11 July 2019: He only owed you sex if you paid in advance and in that case he could refund your money... (read in full...)
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