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Why do men think its alright to comment on a woman's nether regions?

Q.   This is probably more of a rant than anything, but what is up with some men thinking it's ok to comment on the look of a woman's vagina/vulva?! Whether it's not neat enough, 'beef curtains', too hairy, it 'looks loose'... the list goes on! My m...

A.   23 July 2017: I'd like to add that I have never uttered a word of negativity about a woman's body parts, I don't think those details matter, I was just making a guess about these guys you're dating.... (read in full...)

Have I missed my chance to find a man, settle down and have a family?

Q.   What do you do if you want to find someone to share your life with and get married so much that your heart hurts, but you are in your thirties and feel like you missed your chance? I've had lousy luck with guys all of my life. All I want is to...

A.   23 July 2017: Yeah why don't you move? 90 to 1? I doubt that, but regardless of the ratio, you don't live somewhere that is conducive to finding love. Or become a nun like Zara here....... (read in full...)

Why do men think its alright to comment on a woman's nether regions?

Q.   This is probably more of a rant than anything, but what is up with some men thinking it's ok to comment on the look of a woman's vagina/vulva?! Whether it's not neat enough, 'beef curtains', too hairy, it 'looks loose'... the list goes on! My m...

A.   22 July 2017: It's a sexist double standard, but another reason is that guys have tied the size and effectiveness of their penis to their self worth much more so than other body part on a man or woman. A man probably feels he can comment on a woman's body par... (read in full...)

Does my LDR GF have borderline disorder?

Q.   I posted a similar question a while back but I need some more help now more than ever. Long story short, my parents and i all went camping for three days and I told my gf that it may be hard to talk since I'll be in the middle of the woods/at...

A.   20 July 2017: Where do you see this relationship going? TRUST ME, if you have become tired of it after a few months, wait until you have been together for a decade and have a couple of little kids! She needs counseling, and if she's not willing to get it, you ... (read in full...)

I'm ready to walk, am I just being used as a babysitter?

Q.   hey, my partner sits on her phone all day does the odd chore round the house i mean when one of the babies does a dirty nappy she doesnt get down to cleaning it up she tells me babies pood so i end up doing it and been like that for years im a stay ...

A.   20 July 2017: My opinion is that when the working person is at work, you're in charge of everything kid related, that is your job. When they get home, you're both off and it's time to parent equally. If her job is done while the kids are in bed that's a slightly ... (read in full...)

He won't recognise my need for marriage and a child

Q.   I have been with my LT partner for nine years. Lots of my friends who have been with their partners for about 3-4 are getting married and having children. My partner had a big depression spell so is recovering from that before we do those things but ...

A.   2 July 2017: A person could also say that you don't recognize his need to not be married and have kids... You may be with the wrong person. ... (read in full...)

He wants to be friends with his female co worker and doesn't take my feelings into consideration

Q.   Ive known a man for the past 6 yrs, we lived together for three years. the fourth yr we broke up. he was talking about marriage but never really asked me. then one day a new female came to work at is work place. slowly things changed between us. ...

A.   29 June 2017: If he has proven faithful then there's no reason not to trust him. Having a friend of the opposite sex is nothing inappropriate in itself. You blame a lot on him, but the reality is that if you weren't making a big deal about it he wouldn't be doing ... (read in full...)

Am I foolish to forgive my girlfriend for cheating?

Q.   In January I found out that I'd been offered a promotion at work. A fantastic opportunity to change my life, but it involved 6 months living abroad. My girlfriend of 4 years didn't want me to go initially, but after talking things through she agreed ...

A.   25 June 2017: While there's always a possibility this is the one and only time it'll happen, if you think about her reasoning it's pretty easy to guess that this is something you might have happen again. I know it's hard, but you candy dump her now or wait unt... (read in full...)

After 4 years, does she like me enough to go on a date with me?

Q.   I've been talking to a girl for the last 4 years on and off and we have been friends. For the last 3 and a half years, we've messaged for something like 2 months on, and 4 months off. Just last August, we started messaging back and forth at least ...

A.   7 May 2017: There's no way for anyone to know that, so ask her out. If you can handle rejection this shouldn't be an issue. Since there's a pretty good chance she'll say yes, whether or not she's romantically interested, you need to figure out how you'll a... (read in full...)

What can I do to prevent falling for other men while I'm in this relationship? And what do I do about the guy that I kissed recently?

Q.   I've been in a relationship for 6 years. I love my man with every once of me. I cannot imagine my life without him. I care for him more than I care for myself. I constantly worry about his well being, whether he's happy, whether he's eaten, tired ...

A.   3 May 2017: It's pretty simple: don't allow things to reach that point. If you are attracted to someone and, knowing your history you know that pursuing a friendship with them will likely lead to wanting more, then don't do it.... (read in full...)

We would love to have a child but I worry I am too old!

Q.   Hello, My partner and I have been together for two years now and we have both been married before. We would like to have a child together but I am worried about my age. I have just turned 39 and I worry that is too old. My partner is 42 and he is ...

A.   3 May 2017: There are plenty of people having kids at you age where I live too, but you are definitely not in your prime baby making years. What exactly that means is definitely better to hear from a good doctor rather than a random person on the internet... (read in full...)

Is it normal for men to have sex when women are having their periods?

Q.   I'm meeting up with my bf next month who stays in another city. The problem is that the date when I will be going, I might be on my periods. I've told him that already to which he has said that he's fine with it. What can this possibly mean? Is he ...

A.   27 April 2017: He's just horny, don't over think it. I doubt it's his preference.... (read in full...)

Can a man look at hundreds of porn images and NOT be disappointed at his wife's imperfect body?

Q.   Can men just look at hundreds of women hotter than their wives in porn each week and not feel disappointed that their wives don't look as good as the girls in porn. Even if the wives are fit , how does the husband help but not feel let down that she ...

A.   19 April 2017: I prefer normal looking bodies to so called perfect ones. Yes, I will occasionally admire a perfect body (at least what I consider perfect), but I don't lust over it or get disappointed when I see a more conventional woman. Been married for ten ... (read in full...)

I stumbled across hidden videos in my girlfriends computer of her having sex with her ex

Q.   I am engaged to my dream girl and our relationship is perfect. We've been together for 2 years now and We are the perfect couple... or so I thought.. Things changed when I found some things on her lap top. I needed to finish up a report but forgo...

A.   19 April 2017: I accept the fact that I may not be the best sex partner has ever had. I don't know whether I am or not, but I accept that I may not be. Of course every guy wants to be. But, there are other things I want too, and I don't let them bother me. ... (read in full...)

My husband wants us to stays friends with the woman he cheated with!

Q.   My husband cheated on me years ago. He hid it and never told me. When I found out he lied and said it was before we met and I should have asked him about her. But it wasn't. So he lied about his lie. He kept her as part of our friendship circle, but ...

A.   7 April 2017: I add to the chorus of people saying divorce may be your only option. What he's asking (telling) you to do is totally unacceptable. ... (read in full...)

Should I try online dating?

Q.   As a male virgin who's never been on a date, never kissed a girl, and never had a girlfriend, I've been thinking a lot lately about trying online dating. I've never been competent at approaching women, it always results in rejection. In the pa...

A.   28 March 2017: If you feel self-conscious about your weight and think that it is stopping you from meeting somebody then maybe you should start there. Let's be honest being significantly overweight does limit your appeal to many women. Not to mention the health ... (read in full...)

Should I admit I messed up and try one last time?

Q.   My ex and I were dating on and off for the good part of a year. There was a period where I was speaking to him as well as another guy and chose to be in a relationship with the other guy for three months – this really hurt him. Months later, we ...

A.   24 March 2017: Send the letter, but leave it at that. He's right, at this point you're most likely incapable of being in a healthy relationship. Work on yourself and try to find a way out of your depression.... (read in full...)

Is he scamming me?

Q.   Hi and thank you for your advice I met a male online approximately two months ago. He is very charming. We've talked daily. He tells me his wife died in an accident and he doesn't communicate with his family and he has one son who stays wit...

A.   18 March 2017: Duh... (read in full...)

My boyfriend charged me for work he did for me. Should he have after everything I have done for him?

Q.   I have been dating a guy for almost a year. He is going to massage school and has jobs here and there. He lives with a family member. I have helped him lots of times with homework. I recently bought a new car and gave him my old car, because he ...

A.   6 March 2017: Wow! I would have never charged you with the possible exception of materials if it amounted to much.... (read in full...)

I missed the boat and it's breaking my heart. I wanted to be a wife and a mother. Will I ever get over this?

Q.   I don't see how I can ever be happy. I LONG to be a wife and mom. I want it so badly that it breaks my heart. Realistically, I know that it can never happen because everyone knows that men aren't attracted to a woman who is over thirty. I'm i...

A.   5 March 2017: I don't mean to sound harsh but I think a few answers on dear Cupid won't help you; you need therapy. I'm a relatively handsome 39 year old man and I find woman in their 30's to be ideal. I've heard a number of other guys say this too. In fact, to ... (read in full...)

I was cheating and my husband found out.

Q.   Im a 28 year old female whos been having an intense sexual affair with another man for the past three years..my husband recently found out about us and told me to stop or else..I stopped seeing this other man, hoping my relationship with my husband ...

A.   1 March 2017: If your husband expects a faithful partner, make a decision: are you willing and able to be faithful or not? If not, it's time to end things with your husband. Your selfishness is going to cause him an unbelievable amount of hurt if he catches you ... (read in full...)

Why don't my men value my looks?

Q.   All my life I have had relationships with men who turned out to not be physically attracted to me. Four relationships in fact. Each was attracted to me for other reasons but the physical just wasn't one and it always ended up being an issue. This ...

A.   23 February 2017: Also, take a little time before sleeping with them. That'll weed out the guys who are hoping for quick sex and aren't necessarily attracted to you because they aren't thinking long term so it's not important to them.... (read in full...)

Help me deal with my boyfriend always being broke!

Q.   Hello. I have been in a relationship with my lovely boyfriend for 9 months now. In those 9 months we never went on an actual date. He told me that he grew up very poor so money is still a struggle but things are looking up for him and his family. He ...

A.   15 February 2017: If you don't fix the problem it'll end up ruining your relationship. You said "secretly" implying you haven't told him what you've told us. Maybe you should start there. Be careful how you say it because you don't want to mistakenly hurt him. But ... (read in full...)

My LDR is not motivated to meet in real life.

Q.   I've been dating my LDR boyfriend for over 2 years and we haven' met yet. He never wants to pinpoint a meeting date and acts unconfortable when I try to. He says he wants to improve himself first so when we meet he makes the best impression on me. ...

A.   14 February 2017: He's probably self conscious about something physical and to much of a procrastinator or to lazy to do anything about it. I doubt he's trying to play you. I also think this will never change unless you help him identify the things he wants to... (read in full...)

Is it just looks men care about?

Q.   Do men ever think highly of women for anything other than how the look. My partner never seems to give credit to any woman based on anything other than her appearance and I've been thinking that this actually seems to be such a common thing when I ...

A.   10 February 2017: Both men and women do this and I'm quick to say something to them when I hear it. I don't do it because I find the idea that people are supposed to look a certain way or you're going to talk shit a little simple minded. ... (read in full...)

Why did he use the word coolio?

Q.   I apologise for a really silly question but when i was messaging an acquaintance about an email i thanked him and he responded with the word coolio. I didn't want to ask him what it meant as i felt silly but the only time i have heard that word ...

A.   8 February 2017: Like he said, some people occasionally use it in place of cool, or okay. Not really sure there's any other answer needed. ... (read in full...)

Am I responsible for the baby or did she cheat on me? We had sex on October 8 2015 and she gave birth on June 15 2016

Q.   Morning dear friends. My case is like this: I was in a relationship with my girlfriend(24 years old) for a year. we rarely met; at least once in three months. She visited me on the 8th of October 2015. We played the indoor game; but with pr...

A.   4 February 2017: Considering the nature of your relationship, it's entirely possible she was with someone else. It could be yours, too. Since you have doubts, get tested. If it's your child be a good dad, if it's not she can look elsewhere.... (read in full...)

My husband has Erectile Dysfunction issues and yet is not interested in seeing the Doctor about this. I get no satisfaction. What can I do?

Q.   Hey, my husband couldn't have sex with me. It's been a year since our wedding and I'm still being a virgin , I want to experience it. He says that he has early ejaculation and erection issues too. He never really tried to have with me but he a...

A.   1 February 2017: Maybe he's gay or mostly asexual? Freshly married in your early 20's should mean frequent sex, but without so much as a desire to fix his supposed problem (which I don't is the real problem) implies that he's not being truthful with you. ... (read in full...)

Is it my fault I got put into the FWB category?

Q.   I've always been a woman that holds myself with dignity and believe that I have a lot to offer a man in a relationship. I am in no way saying this to brag or boast myself but my personality has always shined and others have told me so as well. ...

A.   30 January 2017: Either your dating coach is wrong or your misquoting them. It shouldn't be a blanket statement because a guy could want you only as a FWB for dozens of reasons. You seem to be sensitive about people liking you so maybe you held on to that one. ... (read in full...)

What's the purpose of relationships when all it does is give someone power to hurt you?

Q.   Three years ago I was dating someone and it ended very horribly. She left me for another guy and it left me distressed beyond anything I had ever felt. I treated her with respect, listened to her when she spoke, and did what I thought was love her...

A.   24 January 2017: If you are able to live the rest of your life as a happily single person than by all means do it. It is easier, no doubt about it. But realistically, you're probably going to get lonely. Love can hurt, but part of that is up to you. Being rejected... (read in full...)

My wife left me for her ex, who found her on Facebook and now wants to come back. Should I give her a second chance ?

Q.   My wife was contacted by an ex on Facebook who first said he only wanted to be friends, then indicated he wanted more. She showed me his messages and told me they dated in high school and college and she broke up with him twice. The first time...

A.   22 January 2017: If she had come to this decision BEFORE he cheated on her, maybe there'd be a (small) c chance it'd be worth the trying again. But as someone stated, she just wants to be taken care of and she figured you'd do until she finds someone "better"... (read in full...)

All I do is give in this relationship. I get nothing back from her

Q.   Ive been with my girlfriend for 6 years and we are about to graduate from college at end of year and because of her pre med school, we are set to move to Galveston. She wants me to propose to her, and she wants to be engaged by the time we move up. ...

A.   4 September 2015: What you described is not a good relationship, certainly not one deserving of marriage, ESPECIALLY at such a young age.... You know what you have to do. Don't get married, it only gets more difficult to be happy. Love is great, but you are abso... (read in full...)

I got back from a trip to find another man's pair of underwear in my bed. Do I believe my wife's story?

Q.   came home from a week long trip found a pair of men's underwear in my bed that weren't mine. Was told they got mixed in laundry and got there when she made the bed. What's the answer? ...

A.   3 September 2015: Who knows if it's the truth, but I would think that if a guy was at your house he would have remembered his underwear when he left. It's not like a jacket. At the same time that's the most suspicious article of clothing that just happened to show up ... (read in full...)

I won't take crap off of people and he'll never admit that he's wrong. Are we done?

Q.   A few months ago I (38yrs old) met a man named "Jason" who is 34. Recently, we started spending A LOT of time together and although each of us intended on just being bed buddies, feelings have developed. He told me I'm his best friend. I feel the...

A.   27 August 2015: He sounds like a narcissist... Better get out now.... (read in full...)

My ex wants to try again but she broke things off and I'm afraid of being hurt

Q.   Any advice would be greatly appreciated, honestly I'm unsure about where I should go from here, my girlfriend and I were together over a year and it was great, there were no signs of any problems. She went away for a couple of weeks and then came ...

A.   18 August 2015: She probably wanted to break up so she could date this other guy. It didn't work out so she is crawling back to you. There's nothing that would prevent it from happening again so just tell her no thanks.... (read in full...)

Is it something that couple's therapy will help resolve? My Bf is not yet over his ex

Q.   My boyfriend is not over his ex. They dated for a year over five years ago and we are together 3 years. I know he loves me and I love him and we want to be together but I don't know what to do anymore. He gets angry when we talk about it because...

A.   18 August 2015: Sounds like he may benefit from individual therapy more, that way you're not there and he can be more open. He was probably rejected by her which can make people feel like they're not over their ex when they really are. It's a psycholo... (read in full...)

I've said something I regret, what do I do now?

Q.   Hi I am looking for quick advice about a problem with my boyfriend, I don't know what to do, I've said something to him that i regret and now he isn't speaking to me. I have had intimacy problems with my boyfriend because he is on medication wh...

A.   15 August 2015: Uhhh.... You didn't say anything wrong AT ALL! Don't let his guilt trip convince you otherwise. My wife was on a libido killing medication as well and the lack of intimacy (and sexual enjoyment) took a huge toll on our relationship which we're tr... (read in full...)

Would you ever approach an average looking girl?

Q.   I am wondering if there is anything that an average looking girl could do to grab a guys attention? Is there a (non-slutty) way she could dress? A specific perfume? Any behavior? Something she could say? Have you ever developed an attracti...

A.   14 August 2015: Considering the majority of people are average and they seem to find mates, your answer is that you'll find someone. Whether or not it's a specific guy, who knows. Increase your chances by approaching him.... (read in full...)

Why do most guys like big boobs so much?

Q.   Why do most men (especially guys my age...) like big boobs so much? As I see it, it's just extra fat! And last time I checked, for men, too much fat is bad. I have small breasts and feel so inadequate. Breasts are so "out there" (unlike a penis - ...

A.   12 August 2015: It's evolutionary to some extent, but I think it's not as common as you think. Men love boobs. Big ones are just easier to spot with clothes on. But once the clothes come off most guys could care less. My wife has beautiful A's and I couldn't be ... (read in full...)

What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?

Q.   What makes a man fall in love with a woman and want only her?...

A.   6 August 2015: Everyone is so different that it's impossible to answer this in a way that will help you. I for one like certain things, but the reasons I'd really fall in love and have a special connection with someone are mostly about personality. Altho... (read in full...)

She says she loves me and I know she does - she's afraid something is missing

Q.   I have been in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for 10 months now. I'm in my early 30s, she is in her late 20s. We both live in the same city but for the past 6 months I've been traveling off and on to Asia. I am typically home for about ...

A.   13 July 2015: Maybe relationship counseling would be a good idea... (read in full...)

I'm being used by every man in my life and constantly controlled 

Q.   I keep ending up in two types of relationships and I have no idea how this keeps happening! I either end up in one where it becomes nothing but sex, or one where the guy WILL NOT let me not date him or break up with him. The guys who DO want a ...

A.   7 July 2015: This keeps happening to you because you let it. Stand up for yourself and don't do anything that you don't want to.... (read in full...)

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