What can I do to help him understand he is ruining our relationship?
Q. Im in a relationship with a younger man there is no doubt on my mind we love each other, he goes to work I am home I rarely go out I pretty much stay to myself before the relationship began I was always surrounded by fam and friends they were always ...
A. 18 February 2015: Uhhhhh, he's not ruining anything, you're just barking up the wrong tree. He's a man who is incapable of being in a normal, healthy relationship. It's not a choice he has made, it's the reality if who he is.
It's time to leave as there is nothi... (read in full...)
Why can't I stay focused on my weight loss!
Q. Dear cupid,I have a slight weight issues doctor told me I am at risk for health issues.I have been literally dying in side to lose this weight even before I went to the doctor.I love myself big or small I'm not in denial I just can't understand why ...
A. 15 February 2015: What's your problem? Are you not eating right our not exercising? Where are you kidding focus?... (read in full...)
My husband calls me fat and useless, I think he is cheating on me!
Q. My husband Is cheating and denies ces So rude towzrds me and everytime He tells me am So,fat,uselesscalls me idiot.he sends secret messages to a particulzr girl,once i asked himhe shouted and got annoyed of me and pretend he didnt know anything....
A. 14 February 2015: I don't know enough to give you really helpful advice. But I have a little bit that you may want to consider.
As wise owl said, leaving may not be an option. Unfortunately that makes changing things difficult. You have no leverage.
The bes... (read in full...)
How Can I Lose My Virginity
Q. I'm 25 years old and I'm still a male virgin. I've never even kissed a girl and I've never even been on a date. Since girls probably prefer a guy who knows what he's doing, how can I lose my virginity? Do I lie about it? ...
A. 14 February 2015: If you were 17 and a virgin you'd probably lie about it too, so what difference does a few years make?
Our, if she asks how many women you've slept with, just tell her you don't like talking about that kind of thing. I don't ask and don't answer i... (read in full...)
How do guys really feel about stretch marks?
Q. I've been reading on this website for the past couple of months and I've noticed a lot of posts concerning stretch marks lately. It's got me thinking a lot. I've always been pretty confident with my body but I do have tons of stretch marks. I...
A. 14 February 2015: I've been with two women that had stretch marks. Nothing major, but they weren't invisible.
I didn't give a single shit.... (read in full...)
3 years, 3 visits in LDR and we have never had sex yet she always talks about it when we aren't together!
Q. Hi guys I just want some advice as to what is right. i've been in a long distance relationship for 3 years. She was studying in the USA at my uni and we grew very close and decided to start dating just as she went home again, in the hope she...
A. 12 February 2015: It's not you, she's got her own reasons. Maybe she's self conscious? Who knows, but it's almost certainly get own problem. Instead of feeling hurry, why don't you ask her to be honest and talk about it?... (read in full...)
How can I do to prove to them that I'm not the same immature teen I used to be?
Q. I feel like my boyfriends family judge me on my behaviour as a teenager and don't accept our relationship but when I try to talk to him about it, he tells me I'm being silly and that they do like me. When I was younger, my parents divorced...
A. 11 February 2015: Why don't you try talking about it? Be honest, tell them that you took the divorce hard and were not a good kid for awhile, but you realized what you were doing and worked hard to change.
Tell them that you know a few words won't change their mi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend talks about getting married but I have just found out he is cheating on me!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months ...we have a great relationship and fantastic sex....his job means he has to work away recently I found out that he stayed in a hotel with his accountant I looked on his fone and discovered he hasn't been ...
A. 10 February 2015: Why do you think he has four marriages? He rushes into things and he cheats on people.
Don't be number five. If you want to stay with him you'll have to accept infidelity as it seems like that just party if who he is. You can always open up the r... (read in full...)
When I admire nude women does that mean I am objecrifying them?
Q. I sometimes admire the female shape in nude pictures...mostly artistic photography but sometimes more erotic glamour pics. The elegant lines and curves are beautiful and endlessly fascinating. Usually I'd rather look at an excellent body than at ...
A. 8 February 2015: Looking at a beautiful naked body is the most natural thing in the world. To deny that is to deny human nature.
If the woman shows herself voluntarily then where's the harm?
Now, does it objectify the woman? Maybe, but what else is a pictur... (read in full...)
What can I do? He wants to still see me, but he doesn’t want to tell
Q. My ex-boyfriend and I were together for a year we were wonderful together... But things started getting crazy. We broke up three months ago but still we were living together. He started talking to this girl and ended things completely with m...
A. 8 February 2015: It means he likes you but doesn't want to be with you and doesn't want to cheat.
You having a chance means he knows you're not right for each other but likes you enough that he'd start saying you again until something better came along.
In othe... (read in full...)
I'm depressed that my husband, like other men in my past, prefers smaller breasts!
Q. I see a lot of women write in worried about their small breasts but I have the opposite problem. I have large breasts and every man who I have been with including my long term marriage has preferred smaller breasts and not been at all interested in ...
A. 8 February 2015: You know what, breasts are great, but often a guy wants what he doesn't have. I had a gf with regular sized boobs. I wished they were bigger. We broke up and I dated a girl with bigger ones and I wished they were smaller. We broke up and I dated a ... (read in full...)
OK, what about foreplay on men?
Q. This is a question mainly for the guys, and is something I've wondered about for ages. During foreplay, men have so many choices as to where to touch/kiss/lick a woman, there are so many erogenous zones.. instep of feet, thighs, waist and stomac...
A. 7 February 2015: I don't care for anything other than maybe my neck or a kiss here or there to let me knows she's horny.
Nipples don't do it for me, it feels a little weird, like I have boobs or something. I think it's relatively common for guys to like it but n... (read in full...)
I don't like my boyfriend going to his ex's house!
Q. Hi everyone, my bf has 3 kids wit his ex. The youngest is only 5 months. They were split up while she was pregnant. Her choice as well as his. Sometimes he goes to the house to look after the kids. He says she goes out while he is there. I am not ...
A. 7 February 2015: Either you learn to accept it and trust him or you leave him. The choice is yours, but sure to having kids with her it's necessary for him to go over there sometimes.
In the bright side, if he does rekindle things with her that means he's a c... (read in full...)
Is she slowly backing out of the relationship?
Q. Hi, recently i have been seeing a woman who is a single mother. Things got quite serious around Christmas time and seemed to be going well. Out of the blue she calls to say we should cool things down. I was a little taken aback but agreed. A few da...
A. 7 February 2015: It's hard to know what's going on. In general, I wouldn't stick around to find out because I wouldn't want to be with someone that just leaves me hanging like that.
If her life is so stressful that you can't be a part of it that's a bad sign. Or... (read in full...)
"What kind of words I can use to tell a girl face to face "in a seductive way" that I wanna date her?
Q. Hi guys! My name's Jimmy, I'm 37 and I'm still single. I had a little number of girlfriends (about 4) and all of them were from out of my city. I'm a very good lover (good in the sack! lol) and they love that! I' a gentleman, I know how to express ...
A. 7 February 2015: You sure are confident for someone with such low self esteem!
Anyways, maybe you should try something besides telling a girl she's beautiful on the internet or being seductive. I think for a lot of women this can make it seem like you're just try... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I'll bore him to death! How do I make myself more interesting?
Q. I'm seeing this guy,, I know him very well now, and I'm pretty sure it's a relationship, or about to be. He's mentioned to other's I'm his girl, his friends call me his girl or he is my man or that I am with him. They treat us like a couple. Well, ...
A. 5 February 2015: what you did today is mostly just small talk. What really makes somebody not boring is the in-depth conversations, joking around, and other traits that aren't directly related to what you did today.
in other words I doubt that you're boring. ... (read in full...)
Six months into the relationship I find out she lied. How do we move on from this?
Q. Just looking for opinions what other guys would do in my position. Basically me and my girlfriend have been together 6 months, in the early stages of the relationship there was rumours had she sent pics of herself in underwear to a guy she had be...
A. 4 February 2015: If you were okay with her sending pics to you so soon, and you knew she wasn't a virgin you should be able to accept this. Fyi when someone says "I've never done anything like this before" they're probably lying.... (read in full...)
First partners and oral sex?
Q. When you dated your first boyfriend, did you give him oral sex?...
A. 4 February 2015: Are you trying to see if your addition is "normal"? Well it is.... (read in full...)
Acne, a genetic skin condition and scars from an accident. How can I overcome by body insecurities that are ruining my life?
Q. I am very happy I found this site. I am very insecure with my body to the point to where I sometimes just look in the mirror and cry. I have been in 2 relationships. Both of them ended basically because of my body insecurities/iss...
A. 3 February 2015: "Even I am disgusted by it."
Unfortunately, more often than not, people are disgusted with their own bodies even though other people may not be.
My wife has acne scars, she's just under 5 ft tall, she has thin hair that only looks good when ... (read in full...)
If I'm going to be treated this way should I not be honest?
Q. Some weeks ago i found a wallet, there was no identification inside the wallet but there was £110. I handed the wallet in to my manager with the contents. Several weeks later my manager called me into his office and gave me the wallet saying it was ...
A. 3 February 2015: A job should never be so precious that they can get away with whatever they want. I'd guess they are breaking the law. If anyone should be paying for it, it's the manager.
I've been fired for doing the right thing before (2 times) and I'd do it ag... (read in full...)
What should I do if my sister's Bf has told my parents about the naked pictures on my lap top?
Q. This is lame and sad but its the truth. I live with my parents and its because there are no jobs here and if I had any money that would remotely cover house, apartment anything like that I would go and move out in a heartbeat. I'm sure your ...
A. 2 February 2015: You have got to figure out how to get out of there, you can't grow up until you do. Borrow money from your parents then go to your bfs house. Stay with him until you get a job.
Our something! Or you'll be stuck there until it's too late for you ... (read in full...)
I'm an underpaid nanny. What should I do?
Q. I've worked for this family for a bit over a year now. I'm honestly starting to feel like I'm underpaid compared to other Nannies. I m a certified nanny with CPR/ First Aid training. Hence I get paid 300 a week with no taxes taken out (7.50 an ...
A. 28 January 2015: They are effectively paying you around $6/hr because it's under the table. You are earning no unemployment, social security, etc.
Where I live there are burger places that start at $10.25 and you get benefits including health and tuition reimburs... (read in full...)
What does he mean by "soul mates"?
Q. I've been friends with a guy for 3 months now and we have a lot in common and he said we're like soul mates since we have a lot in common. What does he mean by that, or what is he trying to tell me?...
A. 28 January 2015: Probably nothing, I bet he just thought it sounded cool. It obviously got you thinking...
If you really want to know, ask him.... (read in full...)
I am seriously thinking about putting my 2 year old up for adoption! Advice?
Q. Hi please don't judge me for this : I am seriously thinking about putting my 2 year old up for adoption. I love her but I am not the mother I hoped to be or she deserves. I cry on a daily basis, find myself snapping at her. The burst into tea...
A. 27 January 2015: Let me tell you that you're going through a rough patch. When she's the there are options for her to get away, play with other kids and for you to de-stress yourself.
You may also be suffering from depression on top of everything you have to ... (read in full...)
Who should be her priority, her husband or her adult child?
Q. I have a question and I desperately need an answer. My wife and I have been married for almost 22 years. She has a son approaching 29 years of age from her first marriage. He lives with his father. Her ex suffered a heart attack a few years ago, a...
A. 27 January 2015: Our you could phrase your question like this: why are you trying to force her to choose between her son and her husband?
Obviously an arrangement should be made for him to get his own place, but why can't he stay with you until that happens?... (read in full...)
I had considered asking if she would let me masturbate to her but I don't want to come across as a creep. Is there another alternative?
Q. Hi. I am stuck and am open to advice. My cousin and I have been close as "brother-sister" while growing up. She is a few years older then me but we are both in our twenties. I have always had a crush on her but when we were teenagers while ...
A. 27 January 2015: Deal with your minor obsession in a way that doesn't make you seem like a creep... Because asking your "brother/sister" cousin if you could jack off to get is going to make you sound like a creep no matter how you put it.
And let me tell you: if ... (read in full...)
I want to ask my girlfriend to marry me but I'm afraid it will scare her away
Q. It's a long story so be patient with me. I met C when she was 17 and I was 25. I had no idea how old she was because she moved in the same friendship circles I did. We went on a few dates and there was this spark. I fell for her instantly. She was ...
A. 26 January 2015: Maybe it'd be better to go to pre marriage counseling first. I don't think there's a set of words that will stop her from being afraid of marriage. Maybe you can get a ring, get down on one knee and ask her to be your "life partner"?... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of one year, is addicted to skype sex chat
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for lil over one year, we spent alot of time to gether, went on trips, had a very fun snd relaxed relationship. Im 28 years old and he just turned 27. He had girl friends before me but never had sexual relationship. ...
A. 26 January 2015: Don't try to force the wrong guy to become the right guy. There are plenty of miserable woman that can tell you that's a bad idea.
Leave him and look for a guy that's better for you. Don't settle for love because live without compatib... (read in full...)
Is my 61-year-old husband fooling around inside the health club? Or am I just paranoid?
Q. My 61 year-old-husband has a health club membership to use the sauna/shower/steam room. He does not go there to exercise. He is there a few times a week to shower after work before coming home. Is there cause for me to be concerned?? Is it p...
A. 26 January 2015: Yes, you are being paranoid. There are much better places to have sex than a gym closet. And you could EASILY spend an hour taking a shower, hitting the steam room and soaking in the hot tub.... (read in full...)
How do I let my boyfriend know that I like it when he looks and dresses a certain way?
Q. I am dating a guy I am not physically attracted to. We were friends for years but lost touch. Eventually we got back in touch recently and he asked me out. I said yes because he is a great guy-sweet, kind, caring, warm etc. I actually can not say ...
A. 24 January 2015: Anyone who criticizes you for wanting to be attracted to your bf is a total hypocrite. 99% of people will try and find someone they are attracted to. Basically the most attractive person that will have them without being do attractive that they have ... (read in full...)
He has 4 kids by different women! How do I ask him about this? How to continue to love someone with so many children?
Q. Dear cupid. Im 35 years old with no kids and never been married. Just met a guy i love so much, i went into his facebook account just to find out about before i can be serious about our relationship. To my suprise he has 4 kids with different woman ...
A. 20 January 2015: "how do i continue to love someone who has so many kids"
You have to decide if this is a deal breaker our not. Nobody is perfect, but this is something that is difficult for you because it is a big deal. It says a lot about this guy, and none of ... (read in full...)
My ex of 3 years has replaced me within 6 weeks
Q. After 3 years of being with my boyfriend from age 16-19 he told me suddenly that he doesn't love me as much as he used to and ended the relationship, he said he wanted to stay friends but I said I would rather not as it would play with my emotions ...
A. 19 January 2015: Him finding a new girl doesn't mean he's forgotten about you. It could mean he needed help getting over you.
It hurts, but take heart knowing that the guy of your dreams would not have done this to you, so he's still out there hoping to find you... (read in full...)
My ex of 3 years has replaced me within 6 weeks
Q. After 3 years of being with my boyfriend from age 16-19 he told me suddenly that he doesn't love me as much as he used to and ended the relationship, he said he wanted to stay friends but I said I would rather not as it would play with my emotions ...
A. 19 January 2015: Him finding a new girl doesn't mean he's forgotten about you. It could mean he needed help getting over you.
It hurts, but take heart knowing that the guy of your dreams would not have done this to you, so he's still out there hoping to find you... (read in full...)
Should I give those 3 or 4 girls, who each hurt me, a second chance?
Q. Hello everyone, i would love to hear opinions from you all. Suppose, all the girls(3 or 4 girls) i fell in love in different stage of my life pretended to love me, when they actually used me to get their ego boost, and hurt me, and finally push me ...
A. 18 January 2015: You don't explain what happened, but I'm just going to assume it's incompatibility that ended your relationship, not evil, heartbreaking women.
When a relationship ends before you're ready for it to end it hurts. But it doesn't make the women ba... (read in full...)
She's completely undermined my sexual confidence with her comments about her ex
Q. Let me apologize in advance for another penis post . LOL I can relate to the commentS I have read about being rejected and worrying my penis is inadequate. I am average but thick. 6" long and 6" around and she still tries to make me feel goo...
A. 18 January 2015: Dump her, you're exactly right. You well never feel adequate because let's face it; in her eyes you're not.
Everyone has a personal preference. She probably thinks a huge penis is more masculine, and that is her right, but it means you're not comp... (read in full...)
She will not break up but refuses to see me again!
Q. Girlfriend will not break up, but refuses to see me again. What is the best course of action as a man? So, the girlfriend of 9 months says that she now has no "free time for anything more than friends." She won't bring up breaking up, but feels ob...
A. 17 January 2015: Send her a text and say you are breaking up with her. Duh. It's over,I don't know if you were going for advice that could change that or what.
But any self respecting man would not sit around and wait. Ironically if you dump her she may actually... (read in full...)
I can't get myself to study, about to fail, help everyone !
Q. Hello everyone, before I start talking about my problem I would like to thank you for taking time to read this and answer me. I’m a medical student, which has always been my dream since I was 5 years old. Always being that straight A’s sma...
A. 16 January 2015: Some people make themselves fail so the failure is on their terms. You were probably always the girl everyone thought was smart, and struggling in school has made you doubt your smarts. So instead of failing because school is to hard, you're ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her then find out she's pregnant
Q. Hi iv got myself into a situation.. iv been dating my girlfriend for near 7 years now and I felt our time was up.. I then had another girl flirting with me constant at work and over Christmas I let sometin happen with her.. I felt so bad that it had ...
A. 15 January 2015: This may come as a surprise to you, but some women get so desperate when they are dumped that they will tell a guy they're pregnant to get him back.
If you come back she will have to fake a miscarriage. Sometimes they will blame that on you for ... (read in full...)
My boy friend lied about liking big breasts and now I feel self conscious about my small chest
Q. Hello, this might be a bit redundant as there are some similar questions on this site. Anyway, I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and everything's great. However, I recently found out he's lied about his physical preferences. ...
A. 15 January 2015: I like moderately big boobs, I believe it's more mating instinct than anything (lots of milk).
Also, when women have clothes on you can still see big boobs. Unfortunately small boobs kind of hide.
But,I can tell you with complete honesty... (read in full...)
When is it OK to have sex with your ex?
Q. When is it ok to have sex with your ex? I (25/f) dumped my ex (30/m) 6 weeks ago. He' s recently offered me a plane ticket to see him to catch up, check in on each other, and have a last time go in bed. Initially we were both excited, as I'd already ...
A. 13 January 2015: I've done this and it was nice. I disagree with the advice here.
I was over her in the sense that I knew I didn't want to be with her, but I still had feelings, maybe even still loved her.
The sex under those circumstances was great!
... (read in full...)
What can I do about my insecurities?
Q. Hi everyone, just would like some advice about the situatuon im in basicly me and my bf have been together 3 years and becausr of my insecurities I feel like im ruining the relationship a little as I dont feel goid enough. I no alot of people have ...
A. 12 January 2015: You should stop thinking that someone else's opinion makes you who you are. You are you. If one man has a preference that is different than you does that mean there's something wrong with you?
No.
It means you're not his type. No big deal. If ... (read in full...)
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