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I yearn for true love, harmony and happiness, again. But how? Is it too much to ask for?

Q.   I miss my ex so much. Me and him broke up almost 10 years ago. We both moved on and I got married, divorced and contacted him, and he got in and out of several relationships, but today he doesn´t seem to be interrested. He was my first real...

A.   15 December 2014: I don't mean to offend you, but I think your best option is to see a therapist. No, you're not crazy, but I believe you have an irrational fantasy for this guy. You seem to be aware of that in a way, but not enough to end the fantasy. And a f... (read in full...)

I yearn for true love, harmony and happiness, again. But how? Is it too much to ask for?

Q.   I miss my ex so much. Me and him broke up almost 10 years ago. We both moved on and I got married, divorced and contacted him, and he got in and out of several relationships, but today he doesn´t seem to be interrested. He was my first real...

A.   14 December 2014: By asking people to not use their experience to answer you're making it pretty difficult to answer. How do you think people learn about these kinds of things? The only answer you want is how to get back with this guy, yet you know your options ... (read in full...)

He told me about his past to try to seem "more desirable"

Q.   I have been seeing a guy for 5 weeks. He already tells me he thinks I am the one and that he is falling in love with me. He has a female co worker who he sits next to. However after a drunken work party he came to visit me, he was drunk andsta...

A.   12 December 2014: This is one of those grey areas where your anger is justified as long as you think it is. It's not our job to tell you how to feel... I would say that it was a stupid mistake on his part though. You just have to ask yourself a couple of... (read in full...)

She wants to be with me but feels guilty about dumping her boyfriend

Q.   I started hanging out with this girl whom I knew had a boyfriend of 1.5 years. In our talks, I found out that he had been nice to her. However, had a tendency to look at other girls on the internet and that crushed this girl. She tells me that she ...

A.   11 December 2014: Do you feel comfortable with things the way they are? I doubt it, so it's time for you to tell her to shit or get off the pot. She's got an ideal situation. Love and familiarity with her boyfriend, romance and excitement with you. Unless she is f... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has had incest fantacies and it only complicates from there

Q.   My boyfriend of 1 year has had a past form his teenage years where he writes and fantasizes on online portals, about sex with his mom. I was never aware of this and have recently came across this profile of his. He has used her real name there and I ...

A.   10 December 2014: Would you trust a guy with incest fantasies to raise your children? ... (read in full...)

We bought a home together. Now she's taken up with a new guy and kicked me out of our home. How can I convince her that I'm not the ''controlling'' one?

Q.   I have lived with this girl for 3 years. She recently started talking to some other guy and left me. The problem is im pretty sure she is being manipulated. This guy kicked me out of the house we bought together and controlls who she talks to. Ever...

A.   10 December 2014: Your problem is DEFINITELY not the girl, it's the house. Forget about her romantically and get your house back. She'll learn on her own the hard way.... (read in full...)

My wife has been having an emotional affair... what do I do?

Q.   I have been married for more than 20 years and have had to move to another state for employment reasons. I recently found out that my wife has been having an affair on an emotional level with my ex neighbour. It has been mainly by email and ...

A.   10 December 2014: You could start by finding a way no be with her... She's probably lonely.... (read in full...)

I don't want to pay for her martinis and lobster plate.

Q.   I have a question on what to do in this situation., We go out once a month with my girlfriends. we usually split the check equally., We noticed long ago that one of the girls when we re out orders in exess. By that I mean: she orders always t...

A.   9 December 2014: Always ask for separate checks. It should t be a big deal for any reasonable person. "Hey guys, I'm going to ask them to seperate the checks, it just makes more sense to pay for what we order."... (read in full...)

I kissed his friend years ago ..... should I tell my boyfriend?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 months and we have a great relationship, he's 23 and I'm 22. We have not yet had sex because we want to wait a few more months as we are both virgins but this is a pretty irrelevant detail. Four years ago...

A.   9 December 2014: In my opinion, this is something that he has absolutely no reason to know. This is such a non issue that it's not worth worrying about for another minute.... (read in full...)

My visiting a strip club upset my girlfriend ... how do I fix this?

Q.   I need help fixing things with my girlfriend. Over the last few months she has gone off sex quite a bit and we only really have it once a week just now. She's been to the doctor who said she is physically fine so it might be stress or something. ...

A.   9 December 2014: I think you need to stop apologizing and explain yourself to the best of your abilities. Once you've done that it's up to her to forgive you. That may take awhile, but if it's meant to happe. It will. If she brings it up don't go rehashin... (read in full...)

Has anyone else had second thoughts about getting married?

Q.   I am 20 and my fiancé is 23. We have been dating for 4 years (so since I was 16). We are both in college and about to be finishing up. We are set to get married in 6 months. However, I'm feeling doubtful. He is the most respectful, loving, caring ...

A.   8 December 2014: You're too young to get married, especially when you're having so much doubt. There's no hurry!... (read in full...)

How do guys ever meet women?

Q.   This is probably a stupid question, but how in god's name do guys even meet women, let alone become friends, partners etc. I see thousands of couples ever day, and I am always thinking, how did they meet.. I'm not counting work, where I meet ...

A.   7 December 2014: I've met many girls through friends. Probably most of them. I was never "hooked up" but we would just hit it off. I've met girls at school, probably the best place in the world to meet a woman, possibly even at your age. I took a sewing class at... (read in full...)

Why are the men in porn so average whereas the women are usually very attractive?

Q.   Why are the men in porn so average whereas the women are usually very attractive? My SO and I watch some porn and it seems that in the vast majority the women are outstandingly attractive whereas the men are, very often, borderline ugly. This leav...

A.   6 December 2014: Because men watch way more porn than women do. And they don't look at the guys...or maybe an ugly guy makes them think they could get the girl. Tbh I am not attracted to porn stars, they look too fake for me.... (read in full...)

Why are the men in porn so average whereas the women are usually very attractive?

Q.   Why are the men in porn so average whereas the women are usually very attractive? My SO and I watch some porn and it seems that in the vast majority the women are outstandingly attractive whereas the men are, very often, borderline ugly. This leav...

A.   6 December 2014: Because men watch way more porn than women do. And they don't look at the guys...or maybe an ugly guy makes them think they could get the girl. Tbh I am not attracted to porn stars, they look too fake for me.... (read in full...)

Where can this relationship go if he wont be honest and commit

Q.   i met a guy on a dating site 3 months ago and had some dates we both came off the site but recently hes gone back on he hasnt told me this, i just found out. he said he wants to see me again and likes me then tells me (what i think is rubbish) he ...

A.   3 December 2014: Well if you don't like the way someone is treating you, why waste anymore time? You can talk to him but he'll still be the same guy.... (read in full...)

How can I get a date with this shy guy before I lose my chance?

Q.   Hello. I'm in a band and have suffered from some hearing damage so may need to leave. I am band members with a guy I really like but we only see each other at these rehearsals and if I leave I know I won't see him again until I go to my band's gigs ...

A.   3 December 2014: It's as simple as asking him if he'd like to hang out sometime. Don't be afraid, it's not a big deal.... (read in full...)

Is having a really intense and perverted makeout session as good as sex?

Q.   Is having a really intense and perverted makeout session as good as sex? Soo....Let's say me and a guy had a makeout session...with me in panties and him only in boxers.....and he ejaculated through them and onto my stomach....and then he grinded ...

A.   3 December 2014: It can be, but for how long? If you keep it up you'll be having sex in no time. If that's not what you want than slow down a little. You should have condoms just in case. Also, beware of any guy saying "just the tip"!... (read in full...)

I caught my girlfriend wearing sexy bra & panties...cheating right?

Q.   My girlfriend of two years came home from work and was undressing out of her work uniform when I walked into our bedroom and saw that she was secretly wearing sexy lace bra and panties under her work outfit. I never saw or got her the sexy panties ...

A.   3 December 2014: I think you should have some actual evidence before you dump her. This is purely coincidental. Is she cheating? Who knows? This only proves that she was wearing sexy underwear and nothing else at this point.... (read in full...)

Will my boyfriend's feelings for me become stronger now that he's finally had an orgasm?

Q.   Okay sooo, I made my man cum for the first time ever in life from fellatio . We hav been together now for 6 years and not once could I. He's told me that was his first time cumming this way . Will this change his feelings more now in a g...

A.   3 December 2014: It'll spice things up in the bedroom, but that's about it. We'll see how long it takes for you to tire of your newfound ability.... (read in full...)

We separated and I've been hearing about other men she's slept with. Do I move on? Come to terms with her actions? Or what?

Q.   Hello ive been with my girl for two years and at first everything was great. Then we both started having money problems and she got fired. Then i got injured at work. Then i started hearing rumors of other men who she slept with at one time. She w...

A.   3 December 2014: If you can't take the heat, get out of the kitchen. You're a little vague about when she was with these guys, but either way it seems as if you're not right for each other.... (read in full...)

How does my dating advert come across?

Q.   I need some advice on my dating advert please!: Sociable and friendly guy would like to meet a warm-hearted girl for laughter and maybe more. I'm a good listener, so lets talk! I have been to Cologne recently, really loved it and going to tak...

A.   3 December 2014: As much as it seems that the purpose of your profile is for a woman to get to know a bit about you to see if they're interested, it's not. The real purpose is simply to get them interested enough to contact you. So everything in your profile needs ... (read in full...)

I know I'm young, but how do I tell my best friend I love him?

Q.   im in love with my bestest friend and i have decided to tell him that i love him but i don't know how to tell him. we have known eachother scince we were really young so it will be hard to tell him how i feel. i know im too young to know what tru...

A.   3 December 2014: The most common way to say I love you is by by saying the words "I love you". Did you really need advice for that? ... (read in full...)

The Loyal ex or New exciting danger love?

Q.   Hi everyone! Im sorry if this is long I really need some good advice or anything. So, im really having a hard time deciding what to do about my current relationship. I met a guy online and we hit it off right away. After our first date we kn...

A.   2 December 2014: Many people feel that intensity when their with someone who doesn't treat them right. But, as you are aware, being with them for the long term will be nothing but heartache. A smart person chooses someone they're attracted to who treats them ... (read in full...)

I know I'm young, but how do I tell my best friend I love him?

Q.   im in love with my bestest friend and i have decided to tell him that i love him but i don't know how to tell him. we have known eachother scince we were really young so it will be hard to tell him how i feel. i know im too young to know what tru...

A.   2 December 2014: I think it would be a mistake tottell him you love him at this point. It may be true, but if he's not on the same page as you it could scare him away, which would obviously not be what you want. Instead, make it obvious that you like him. Ask him ... (read in full...)

How does my dating advert come across?

Q.   I need some advice on my dating advert please!: Sociable and friendly guy would like to meet a warm-hearted girl for laughter and maybe more. I'm a good listener, so lets talk! I have been to Cologne recently, really loved it and going to tak...

A.   2 December 2014: Yeah I agree with Ruby, what makes it not work is not that you like those things, but that EVERYONE likes them. Get into some depth and you're on your way to a profile that actually means something. As it is now, there's really nothing that def... (read in full...)

My husband and his family didn't know that I never been in highschool and I cannot find job here.

Q.   please Help me!!! i have a secret! My name is Sunset. I have a secret and i hide it for my own sake, I dont want people judge me. I believe I deserve equal treatment, love and respect. I'm going insane every night to think what happened if they...

A.   1 December 2014: I want to add that you should tell your husband the truth, it's not as big a deal as you think. Lying is, however. Don't blame your sister though, it's not her fault. Just tell him you had to help your parents and couldn't go to school.... (read in full...)

My husband and his family didn't know that I never been in highschool and I cannot find job here.

Q.   please Help me!!! i have a secret! My name is Sunset. I have a secret and i hide it for my own sake, I dont want people judge me. I believe I deserve equal treatment, love and respect. I'm going insane every night to think what happened if they...

A.   1 December 2014: I think you can lie about it. It's not like they're going to ask you for a high school deploma or call a school in the Philippines to verify. If you really want to better yourself, you'll need to take some ESL classes and get in to college,... (read in full...)

Is he keeping his options open?

Q.   Hi Cupids, I was asked out by a guy on Facebook who likes my pictures on Facebook. He was open with me and said he needed a woman. At first we flirted a bit, but I thought he was a bit too forward and pushy so I turned him down when he did come...

A.   1 December 2014: There's a pretty good chance that he's still interested in a purely physical relationship. If that's what you want them ask him out.... (read in full...)

How does my dating advert come across?

Q.   I need some advice on my dating advert please!: Sociable and friendly guy would like to meet a warm-hearted girl for laughter and maybe more. I'm a good listener, so lets talk! I have been to Cologne recently, really loved it and going to tak...

A.   1 December 2014: Did you ask this same question last year? Either way you need to go back to the drawing board and ditch all of the cliches unless you somehow feel like you are a living, breathing cliche. ... (read in full...)

He lied to me. How can we move forward?

Q.   Hi all I'm looking for some advice please. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5.5 years. He went out last night to see a gig with his friend as he does often, and he turned up at my door this morning to say he lost his phone. I don't h...

A.   1 December 2014: It's called a " white lie". If you don't have a problem with him going then there's not really a problem. Unfortunately, people lie to protect themselves. I'd guess everyone does but I can't say for sure. In my opinion it doesn't indicate cheating... (read in full...)

How can I block out the hurtful words and focus on taking care of my daughter?

Q.   I have a very hard time taking care of my 14 month old daughter when my GF (her mom) is mean to me. Not big things but like putting off feeding her for 10 minutes while I try, and try to make things better between us. I'm the type of person that can ...

A.   1 December 2014: You'll do more harm thanks good if you stay with your gf and set such a bad example for your daughter... If you don't do something, who do your think your daughter will grow up to be like? You guys need counseling, talking about these kinds of... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend bisexual?

Q.   I've been dating this super amazing guy for almost a year now. We both want to get married and were both looking for stable relationships. I ask every man I date if they've ever had any homosexual experiences. I usually ask in the beginnin...

A.   30 November 2014: You literally asked "Am I being a hypocrite?" Hence the reason you received "yes" as an answer. You're entitled to do anything that you want to do within the law, so if you want to dump him because he doesn't drink enough water go ahead. But ... (read in full...)

What should I do to stop his passive-aggressive behaviour?

Q.   Well, I need some opinion and advice me please on what should I do? My boyfriend and me been together for 5 years and things went rocky lately, he broke up with me 3 days ago, before he break up with me, he'd told me several times about his ...

A.   29 November 2014: You can't change him he has to change himself. Tell hihithat the two of you need couples counseling. If you don't try something drastic he's not going to change and your compatibility issues will always be insurmountable.... (read in full...)

Would pride stop him from giving a second chance?

Q.   Hi, a question for the men:- Is a man who is into casual sex with a girl, always interested in having it with that person? If I turned a man down for sex for whatever reason - whether it was because the time wasn't right, or I wasn't sure he was ...

A.   29 November 2014: Someone that's interested in easy sex will probably still be interested in it later. If he had a desire for something more that's another story. You'll probably have to make it very clear that you're willing because he may not try again, he might... (read in full...)

How can we make our relationship work while he's forever playing his games or on his phone?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and its been the worst two years! At first our relationship was great, we did everything together, he did small things for me, he was caring and romantic. And its went to hell. We don't do anything ...

A.   29 November 2014: You should have ended things a long time ago. You guys are obviously not compatible, so trying to force him to be your ideal guy is just going to drive you nuts.... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend bisexual?

Q.   I've been dating this super amazing guy for almost a year now. We both want to get married and were both looking for stable relationships. I ask every man I date if they've ever had any homosexual experiences. I usually ask in the beginnin...

A.   29 November 2014: Your behavior is the definition of hypocritical, you admitted it yourself. That's not a good thing... Instead of punishing him for things you enjoy yourself, do some soul searching to figure out why you're hung up on this and give the poor guy... (read in full...)

Has he been hiding these feelings all these years?

Q.   My husband of 15yrs has never said anything to horrible to me.. But for the past for weeks he has not held back.. Last night was pretty hurtful.. He said he hated my guts, I was fat and sloppy, he couldn't stand to touch me, my kids hate me, he is ...

A.   29 November 2014: You guys need counseling, not advice. Sometimes people say mean things that they don't totally mean, but there's usually some truth to it. So he probably has some of those feelings. But seriously, your marriage is broken and you need to fix it.... (read in full...)

I told him I was a virgin, but left out lots of details

Q.   Thanks in advance for your advice. 4 months ago I met an incredible man and we have been dating since. He is 23 and I'm 22. We have a great relationship and I can feel that he truly loves me. Both of us know we share something special and I don't ...

A.   28 November 2014: I don't think that knowing every single thing that's been in or around your vagina is something everyone you date needs to know. Whether or not you're still a virgin is debatable, but you're definitely a virgin to lovemaking, and that's the spir... (read in full...)

He lied - should I confront him?

Q.   theres a guy i like n he likes me or so i thought we were supposed to be seeing each other and going out tomorrow , he said for a joke about going on a dating website he knew i wasnt happy about that and he said he wasnt really , ive just discovered ...

A.   28 November 2014: Since the extent of your relationship is "liking each other", I think that you don't have much to lose here by responding to his lie any way you see fit. You know more about yourself and the situation then we do. If it's not that big of a deal the... (read in full...)

Should I fake liking sex?

Q.   Hello everyone so I need an advice, I'm 23 years old and have been living with my husband for 5 years, we have 2 kids. I love my husband we recently got married through church (Catholic). Anyways so here's the thing, he has been the only man in my ...

A.   28 November 2014: If you're taking an antidepressant that could be the cause.... (read in full...)

I yearn for true love, harmony and happiness, again. But how? Is it too much to ask for?

Q.   I miss my ex so much. Me and him broke up almost 10 years ago. We both moved on and I got married, divorced and contacted him, and he got in and out of several relationships, but today he doesn´t seem to be interrested. He was my first real...

A.   27 November 2014: I think you're creating a fantasy around him that's closing your mind to other guys. You say you broke up because you hurt each other too much, but why are you so sure he's changed? I had good relationships in my early 20's, and the girls who hurts ... (read in full...)

Would it be weird if I waited a whole year to date just her, knowing I like her? Or do I date other girls in the interim?

Q.   There's a girl I really like in my school, (I'm a freshman in high school) and she likes me too, but her parents won't let her date until next year when she turns sixteen. What should I do? Should I date other girls? Would it be weird if I waited a...

A.   27 November 2014: Since most kids date whether their parents like it or not, it may be an excuse. Obviously you wouldn't be able to have a relationship outside of school but a non intimate relationship in school doesn't seem out of the question. Either that or ... (read in full...)

Soon we will be in a LDR. So far one month together. Is it too soon to say "I Love you" ?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for a month now. We started talking online and we talked for about two weeks before we met and we went on 3 dates before we started dating. He is an amazingly sweet guy, he makes me feel amazing, and I have nev...

A.   27 November 2014: If things with this guy are meant to be you won't have to stress over little details like this. Just be the best gf you can and forget about these trivial details. But, the truth is that what you feel is probably not love as much as it is infatuat... (read in full...)

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