Soon we will be in a LDR. So far one month together. Is it too soon to say "I Love you" ?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a month now. We started talking online and we talked for about two weeks before we met and we went on 3 dates before we started dating. He is an amazingly sweet guy, he makes me feel amazing, and I have nev...
A. 27 November 2014: If things with this guy are meant to be you won't have to stress over little details like this. Just be the best gf you can and forget about these trivial details.
But, the truth is that what you feel is probably not love as much as it is infatuat... (read in full...)
I need to know if he's cheating -- and how to find out?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for almost four years. Ive always had this screaming thought that he was doing something wrong, hiding something from me. A couple years ago I found an open condom wrapper in his car (a condom he didnt use with me). When I ...
A. 27 November 2014: If being with him is turning you into the type of person that looks for lube on every square inch of the wall and is "destroying your soul", then maybe you shouldn't be with him...
You don't need to prove anything in court, you just need to know ... (read in full...)
I don't know if this guy still likes me!
Q. Hi I'm sure I just sound like a typical teenage girl but I don't know if this guy likes me! We talked on snapchat everyday for like 3 hours and the conversation was so easy and he told me he liked me, in my mind it was going well. Then i messaged...
A. 26 November 2014: Nobody can answer that with this information.
But, let's say he did like you. What would that mean? Would you ask him out? Would you just talk to him on snapshot? If your question is only relevant because you are curious then I'd say to find som... (read in full...)
She's taking dancing lessons with her ex!
Q. My girlfriend of about 4 months teaches ballroom dancing, and is still learning -of course. Overall, our relationship is good -- we acknowledge we love each other all the time. I don't dance, but that's ok. Here's the problem. Once a week she driv...
A. 25 November 2014: If she's trustworthy then it shouldn't be a problem.
On an unrelated note, your not dancing could very well become a problem, especially as your gf gets more into it. Trust me, women who dance want a man who can dance.... (read in full...)
Am I too tight?!
Q. Hello, I'm a complete virgin, never been fingered or touched at all.. Whenever I've got Into situations (being alone with a guy etc) I've always completely freaked out and sometimes started crying.. I don't want to let the guy down. I'm scared of ...
A. 24 November 2014: At your age if your body isn't ready there's no reason to rush things. You may be too tight because you're not mentally ready, you're too tense.
You have the rest of your life to have sex. Yes, it can be enjoyable, but it can also be a nightmar... (read in full...)
Confused, but better than most!
Q. I have been married for 8 year and have known my wife for 10. I have a near photographic memory and remember many things that people tell me. 10 years ago I contracted an STD from my wife. She found out she had it from a medical checkup. No big ...
A. 24 November 2014: Confront her again for what? To make her feel like crap so she can invent a time machine and tell her younger self to wait for you?
Unless you're planning on leaving her (which would be a mistake) then get over it. If you don't she'll probably... (read in full...)
My wife won't have sex with me anymore and won't tell me why not
Q. I think the title says it all. We have been married for 7 years, together for 10 years, and the sex went from twice a night (which is normal in a honeymoon phase) to never over the course of 2 years. Over the last 5 years we have not had se...
A. 23 November 2014: Some anti depressants can completely kill a person's sex drive. While my wife is on them she has absolutely no desire for sex and is incapable of orgasm.
If this isn't the case for your wife maybe you need to talk to her about having an open rel... (read in full...)
Decode this Text PLEASE!
Q. What does this mean Help! I text him after a couple of days of no communication. I asked him how he was and he wrote back "Super Busy" I text back "ok and he responded back fast by saying "Please don't read into this I am super busy" seeing him for ...
A. 22 November 2014: Are you kidding me? It means what he says In the text, unless he's lying in which case it doesn't.... (read in full...)
My current boyfriend can't seem to stop looking at dirty magazines despite knowing how it makes me feel!
Q. Dear cupid, I have been in my relationship for 16 years. I have 2 kids with this man and 2 from my marriage. My current boyfriend can't seem to stop looking at dirty magazines despite knowing how it makes me feel. I have explained my feelings to him ...
A. 20 November 2014: Yes lying because you're not really giving him any choice. You'll probably have to stop giving him a hard time about it since he obviously doesn't feel like your dislike of the magazines is justified.
Or you can keep making him promise he won't do... (read in full...)
Love him but he's very abusive when angry
Q. I'm on my last bit of hope for my relationship. I have been going out with my boyfriend 2 years and like any relationship we have our ups and downs. I figured out pretty soon in the relationship that he was very verbally aggressive in arguments and ...
A. 18 November 2014: Don't be a statistic.
There are so many guys in the world who will treat you well and make you happy. Yes not special and you should never be afraid of someone you supposedly love.
If you don't have the courage to leave him than for your un... (read in full...)
I had a feeling he was texting other girls, and he was! How do I approach this as it will reveal I went through his phone?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 15 months. Recently I haven't been feeling the same, like I still love him but I get the feeling he doesn't. Things have changed a little over the weekend and I don't like the way it's going. I had a feeling he was ...
A. 18 November 2014: You snipped for a reason. Be honest because this is about the FACT that he cheated. If you're okay with that it's up to you.... (read in full...)
Does a blow job require this in order to feel good?
Q. Guys when a girl gives you a blow job, does a girl have to deep throat for it to feel good for you. Answers from guys only please. ...
A. 18 November 2014: No but it's nice. Keep in mind what feels good is in the mind too.
I had a friend who liked a finger up his but when getting a bj too. No thanks.... (read in full...)
I feel he is still looking for other women whilst sleeping with me.
Q. I have been seeing a guy for just under 4 weeks. We met on Tinder and our dates have been wonderful. At the weekend I stayed at his and we slept together a lot on saturday and once on sunday before i left. We had a wonderful romantic time. He text ...
A. 18 November 2014: Man, you have got to relax a little... If he read this he would probably dump you right away.
Here's the thing. You have the right to demand whatever you want from whoever you want. They have the right to say yes or no.
So if you require excl... (read in full...)
Can a relationship work when it starts with sex on the first date?
Q. Does sex on first date ever lead to a relationship? I met "Al" two weeks ago and the connection was amazing. We didn't want the date to end so we hung out on his roof and then, his place. One thing led to another and we slept together. I have NEVER ...
A. 16 November 2014: Anything is possible and worrying about it won't change what happened or the future.
If your question is really "am I wasting my time?" Then I'd say probably not, but there's no guarantee (even if you didn't have sex so soon).
... (read in full...)
My fiance and father of our child has revealed that he has fantasies about having sex with other women. How am I supposed to cope with this?
Q. What would you do/think if your fiance who you just had a baby with says he fantasises/wants to have sex with other women! One of the woman he sees around work and talks to. Hes never cheated as far as i know and says he only would sleep with oth...
A. 15 November 2014: There's not much you can do about it except wait to get married. He may not have cheated but being faithfully married is difficult for most people, especially those who have want to be sleeping with other people outside of their relationship.
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I'm afraid if I tell my crush I like her she won't talk to me anymore
Q. I have had a crush on a girl in my college for about 3 and a half years now.(we both are 16) we talk a bit like casual hi-hello( though I am always the one to approach her) . I never told her I liked her but I think she figured it out by the way I ...
A. 15 November 2014: I think people that think they need to tell their crush that they like them are dooming themselves to failure.
She may not like you yet because she really doesn't know you. How do you change that? By asking her out! Not by "revealing your fee... (read in full...)
Can a man be happy with a slim girl when he really prefers BBW?
Q. My boyfriend is into pretty much only BBW / chubby porn, but won't just admit he fancies big girls. he says it gets him off but I just have a gut feeling he prefers big girls. None of his exes have been too chubby though and I am slim. Hi calls me ...
A. 15 November 2014: I think you have to accept the fact that you might not be his ultimate sexual fantasy. And that's okay!
I know my wife, if she could choose anyone in the world, would probably be with a Brazilian guy, but she loves me and is happy with me.
I... (read in full...)
I found out my husband has been cheating and won't talk about it
Q. Me and my husband has been together for 16years.ive reacantly found out what my gutt has been telling me all this time to be true hes cheated on me for sometime now hes not denying it however he claims hes not doing it any longer and hes sorry but ...
A. 14 November 2014: Unless something changes he'll do it again (and again...). His promises, if he gives any, are totally worthless.
If you must stay with him then you need more than his word as he's proven that His word can't be trusted.
I think marriage counsel... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable when my girlfriend invites over her male friend for a movie night alone at her place?
Q. My 2 1\2 years long distance girlfriend told me today a male friend from college is going to watch a movie tomorrow night at her place so she can not see me on skype (we do it every night) she says that the time is not convinient to her (10 pm not ...
A. 13 November 2014: Listen, LDR's are totally unnatural. Get a plan for closing the gap. If there's no light at the end of the tunnel people will stray.
I'd give her a week to figure out what she wants, then have a serious discussion about your future if she want... (read in full...)
Men, would you see her as girlfriend material if she doesn't have a connection to family or friends?
Q. To the men of dear cupid. What would you think of a woman who doesn't have much support in life? Say if most of her blood family were no longer emotionally invested in her and some of the members treated her poorly. Would you take her seri...
A. 13 November 2014: Just be yourself and attract a guy who appreciates you for who you are.
It seems to me that an answr to this question won't help you live your life any better.
So, to answer your question: a woman without friends and family is a red flag for m... (read in full...)
In a marriage, would you be happier with the person you love or the person that loves you?
Q. This is an age old question but I would like to poll a question. In a marriage, would you be happier with the person you love or the person that loves you? (Note that it's a one-sided love. You may care for the other person but I am referring to ...
A. 13 November 2014: Neither. I don't understand how people get into this situation... If you don't love someone or vice versa, why would you marry them?... (read in full...)
I found incriminating evidence against boyfriend about cheating but he denies it all. What should I do?
Q. I've been in a two and a half year relationship which began when we were 15/16. We have a wonderful relationship and he treats me incredibly well, we are both respectful and incredibly loving. Faithful and genuine. In the early stages of our rela...
A. 11 November 2014: You know exactly what's going on, it's just hard for you to believe.
If it makes you feel any better, I don't think he's physically cheated. I think he just gets bored and horny and sex chats or something similar. Is it okay? Obviously not, but... (read in full...)
I do love my boyfriend but I'm tempted by the other guy
Q. Hi - any help would be appreciated. I am on a total mess. My best girl friend and I went away last year and met a couple of guys. Both of us are in long term relationships but nothing happened with them. We spent a couple of nights out getti...
A. 11 November 2014: It seems pretty obvious the only thing you'll get from this guy is sex. If that's worth ending your relationship (which you should do before cheating) that's your choice.... (read in full...)
Lately I find myself not wanting anything to do with men anymore.
Q. I am in my early 40s. I have been single for the last 15 years, raising my daughter. Now she is all grown up and moved out long ago. I never got married to a father of my child. We are on good terms though, almost friends. I had relationships lo...
A. 10 November 2014: Then why not just have sex if that's all you miss?
My aunt was in the same situation and has been single for 20 years (at one time by choice, now probably not as much).
... (read in full...)
My girlfriend said that I don't physically turn her on.
Q. To give context I am 23, and my third year anniversary with my girlfriend is next weekend. Last week we were chatting in bed and she casually said that I physically do not turn her on. I didn't really respond as I wasn't sure what to say at the ti...
A. 10 November 2014: I think that your case for breaking up with her is a good one. Marriage is difficult, and physical attraction is pretty important to staying interested.
But, breaking up with her may not be the best solution. Maybe your issue is fixable. Are you ... (read in full...)
How do I go about this when I have NO PROOF if I suspect he is/had an affair
Q. I am living with my boyfriend. All I can go on is my suspicions. I've read numerous articles about spotting behaviors that would point to a man having an affair, but those behaviors don't show in my boyfriend. He has talked about marriage with me...
A. 10 November 2014: People get bruises and scratches from day to day life FAR more than from sex.
Worry about the co-worker when he suddenly STOPS talking about her.
Talking about someone you work with a few times a month is not a big deal and means only that ... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend's friend went to a hooker, does that mean your boyfriend could do it too?
Q. Hi everyone. Should I worry that a friend of my boyfriend has been using prostitutes? (The guy is single). Does that mean my boyfriend could also do it? I am just wondering if the people your boyfriend considers friends could have an impact on his...
A. 10 November 2014: Yes he may. Or, he may not. If someone could point to a statistic that proved you're more likely to sleep with a hooker if your friends do, what would do?
Break up with him? Worry? Demand he stops hanging out with his friend?
What I recomm... (read in full...)
His love for me is like a knife with a sharpened one side and double side like a sword--what does that mean?
Q. I'm female and 24years of age and my guy is 29years of age,he is the type that likes saying things indirectly so please readers what does my boyfriend mean when he says "His love for me is like a knife with a sharpened one side and double side like ...
A. 7 November 2014: It's him trying to be cheesy and deep. Don't think too much about it because it's just a few words together that he thought sounded cool.... (read in full...)
Am I being paranoid for being jealous during a party I attended with my Gf? Should I say somthing?
Q. I went to a party recently with my gf. This is the second time (or third) she really goes out with these people instead of just being at school with them. My gf is loyal, but since we are LDR(5 hours by bus, right now), she seems less loyal to ...
A. 7 November 2014: It sounds like a case of too much jealousy and paranoia to me.
Probably caused by insecurity.
There's a few things you need to realize. First, there's nothing wrong with her being friendly to either sex.
Second, you need to stop reading g e... (read in full...)
Sexless, affectionless, respectless marriage.
Q. I never thought I would be on one of these sites asking people's opinions on personal matters.. but here it comes guys. I have been married for 7 years now. I am 35 year and he is 47. I was married before, to a complete and utter control freak, v...
A. 6 November 2014: I don't see any reason to try and salvage an abusive relationship. If your husband thinks nothing is wrong it will never change. If he doesn't care that you're happy or not, why would you stay?
I'm sorry, but you're not going to find anyone h... (read in full...)
Why won't he pull out during sex?
Q. So I have a boyfriend who's a pretty good guy. The only thing is, he doesn't want to pull out during sex. Or wear a condom. Says he hates them. We're both pretty stable so that's not a problem. My only question is, why does he do this? We both have ...
A. 6 November 2014: Men don't trap a woman because a woman who doesn't want to get pregnant can manage her own birthday control. If you don't use condoms or any form of birth control, AND you let a guy come inside of you, pregnancy is the normal result. ... (read in full...)
What kind of person makes this sort of random offer?
Q. I met a man on a train on the way into New York City. He was very helpful as I was asking for directions and he travels often, so we spent about an hour chatting. He gave me his number so he could send me some links and when I texted him to thank...
A. 6 November 2014: There's always the people that will tell you he's a murderer, but I think it'd be fun as long as you think about how to protect yourself.
I've had random encounters like this whole travelling and met some incredible people.... (read in full...)
Why won't he pull out during sex?
Q. So I have a boyfriend who's a pretty good guy. The only thing is, he doesn't want to pull out during sex. Or wear a condom. Says he hates them. We're both pretty stable so that's not a problem. My only question is, why does he do this? We both have ...
A. 6 November 2014: Because he thinks with his dick. Because you don't think about your future.
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Is it acceptable when my girlfriend invites over her male friend for a movie night alone at her place?
Q. My 2 1\2 years long distance girlfriend told me today a male friend from college is going to watch a movie tomorrow night at her place so she can not see me on skype (we do it every night) she says that the time is not convinient to her (10 pm not ...
A. 5 November 2014: Whether or not it's acceptable is your call. Some guys are okay with their girlfriend sleeping with other guys, some guys don't want their wives face to show.
If she doesn't accept what you find acceptable, then you have to change or leave he... (read in full...)
He used to do his own laundry! Is he cheating on me?
Q. Is he cheating? My boyfriend of 4yrs and 11 mnths . nowadays constantly takes his clothes to the dry cleaners where his ex works.but before he used to do his own laundry. Is he cheating?...
A. 5 November 2014: That's the flimsiest reason to suspect him of cheating. Does he have a history of infidelity?... (read in full...)
What does it mean when he says I am his "guilty pleasure"?
Q. What does it mean if a man tells you your his guilty pleasure? What would it mean to you if you were to say this to someone or someone was to say this to you? How would you translate this in your inner world? Personally, humorous, passing c...
A. 5 November 2014: You're thinking too much. People don't put nearly enough thought into what they say as some people seem to think.... (read in full...)
Guys, is this a turn-off?
Q. Sometimes my vaginal discharge is very sour, very tart, like a vitamin C pill. Anyone else ever have that? Dudes, you ever notice that? I know it changes with time, it's not usually the fluid that comes with being turned on. What's it mean and is it ...
A. 3 November 2014: "Is it unpleasant for dudes" and "guys is this a turn off" led me to believe that's what you were going after.
I've never tasted a vagina that reminded me of vitamin C. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you obviously, but I've never ex... (read in full...)
What's going on with my B/f? Is he gay? What was he setting up the video camera for?
Q. Over the 10 years or so I've been with my boyfriend he has continuously used porn. Until recently I thought only straight porn. He now confesses to occasionally watching gay porn. Also sending videos and naked pictures on a gay site. He only ...
A. 2 November 2014: The real question is why in the world have you been with a guy who treats you like rubbish for ten years? Do you deserve to be treated like rubbish? Is that a good example for your children?
See a therapist, figure out why you tolerate this, th... (read in full...)
I didn't get the same feeling on the second date?
Q. So, met a nice girl and went out for dinner on a first date. I definitely felt a wow after the first date - really put a huge smile on my face, knew I wanted to see her again, think we'd get along etc. So after a couple of weeks we went out on said ...
A. 2 November 2014: Relax, you don't have to think too much after two dates.... (read in full...)
Guys, is this a turn-off?
Q. Sometimes my vaginal discharge is very sour, very tart, like a vitamin C pill. Anyone else ever have that? Dudes, you ever notice that? I know it changes with time, it's not usually the fluid that comes with being turned on. What's it mean and is it ...
A. 1 November 2014: Of course it's unpleasant, but hopefully your guy would be mature enough to not embarrass you and to understand that the chemistry of the vagina is perfectly natural.
Don't expect him to go down on you if it tastes sour though.... (read in full...)
Was he just in it for the sex?
Q. Dear friends I need your advice. I met a guy when I went to visit my sister cause she had a baby. He was my brother in law s friends. We didn't really talk that much at that time because we didn't really know eachother. Once he left the hospital I ...
A. 1 November 2014: This is a no Brainer: you need to forget he exists and move on.... (read in full...)
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