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A girl I chatted with online started telling me all of her fetishes. Should I meet her?

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Question - (29 January 2018) 7 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2018)
A male United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Ok so a few hours ago I started talking to a girl on tinder. Within minutes she started talking in quite sexually explicit terms, mainly centred around her foot fetish. I admit I was intrigued and played along. The conversation moved onto whatsapp, where she started getting even more freaky. She asked me for pictures of all my shoes, where I worked so she could turn up there to give me a BJ in the toilets and even how she wanted me to pee in her mouth (!). The weird thing is, she is attractive and (at least she claims on tinder) to be training as a lawyer. She wants to see me on Saturday, but I don't know. She's crazy. At one point I complimented her and she must be taken it the wrong way, saying "if that's how you feel I'll just go" straight away. Im kinda worried she has my number. Should I meet this girl?? I think I already know the answer tbh.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (31 January 2018):

I'd the stuff she's taking about just isn't for your then tell her you're not interested and move on. I don't think she's going to try to get revenge since you don't have any relationship with her whatsoever.

She's just looking for someone super freaky, either play along or don't. Although I'd never tell someone where I work until I trust them, unless it's not a very professional job.

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (30 January 2018):

Ciar agony auntI think you should be worried she has your number as well, and knows where you work (I'm guessing you told her).

This is extremely risky behaviour, especially for a woman. In fact I've never heard of a woman being this brazen and yet she doesn't seem to have any concern for her safety. Makes you wonder why.

A few possibilities come to mind. She is a HE. She is a she but is in a BDSM relationship with a dominant HE who gets off on exposing her or pimping her out to strange men. That this is not a fetish but is in fact a trap in which you meet her and he bursts out of the closet to beat and rob you or they plan to blackmail you by sending your employer embarrassing evidence of your time with her. Or perhaps she is working on her own and is just totally mentally unhinged.

I'd get my number changed and delete all social media accounts (ones she's a member of or others where she might find you because you've got the same screen name, avatar or your profile is too similar).

This isn't simply weird. It's alarming.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2018):

Go ahead and meet her but be sure to bring your wallet because she more than not is a working girl...if you get what I mean.

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A female reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 United States +, writes (30 January 2018):

If you are that uncomfortable, do not meet this girl. You can just block her on your phone.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2018):

How many women do you know that would put themselves in this kind of situation?

Either it's not the woman in the picture, but someone or some people having a laugh at your expense, or some kind of set up for any number of reasons, none of them good, I'm guessing, or it is really a woman wanting to do these things and meet a total stranger to do them with. Which in my opinion makes her at least a little crazy. Especially with the childish reaction to your compliment.

Steer well clear would be my advice.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2018):

What is wrong with people nowadays???

Everybody is just so quick to drop their pants and lift their skirts.

Enjoy the STD's. And all the pain and confusion that follows.

People ask to walk directly into these traps.

Just way too easy nowadays. Nobody really gives a damn about anybody else anymore.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (29 January 2018):

Honeypie agony auntI do think you know that you are in over your head with this one.

While Tindr IS a HOOK UP app and she is probably using it to find like minded guys, I think the reason you are hesitant is because it just seems a BIT over the top.

If the sexual things she suggested aren't things YOU are into, then just tell her that you think she is JUST a little too "wild" for you and wish her well, then block her and move on.

It's Tindr she will move on to someone else real quick.

I don't know why but it somehow sounds like a set up.

Either way, if this is TOO much for you, just decline, block and delete.

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