What could have happened to this great guy I corresponded with and did meet, once?
Q. A man I am extremely interested in is supposedly in the counter intelligence community in the Middle East. It is hard to determine if this is so as these individuals can never speak very much about their work and you can only operate on blind fa...
A. 17 December 2015: We have no idea who this kind man really is, Scottie. All we can do is guess and we have.
He may be the real deal and is out on a mission. He may be a scammer or he may be a guy who wanted to move on and took the cowards way out. Only he knows. W... (read in full...)
What could have happened to this great guy I corresponded with and did meet, once?
Q. A man I am extremely interested in is supposedly in the counter intelligence community in the Middle East. It is hard to determine if this is so as these individuals can never speak very much about their work and you can only operate on blind fa...
A. 29 November 2015: If he didn't make up outlandish stories about himself, always behaved with courtesy, and didn't ask anything of you then I don't think he was an evil man who set out to trick anyone.
He might not be ready for anything serious, he might have fou... (read in full...)
I'm 67, she's 54 and she thinks I'm too old for her
Q. I am 67 year old man, widowed and I have met a 54 year old lady but she thinks I am to old for her. We have gone out several times and I feel like I am in love with her. But she thinks that I am too old for a relationship with a woman her age. ...
A. 27 November 2015: OP, at this early stage what you're describing sounds more like infatuation and not love.
The woman has stated her limits and all there is for you to do is respect them. If she felt a strong enough attraction to you she'd overlook the age diff... (read in full...)
I like him so much but my head says no
Q. I've just got into a new relationship and we made it official. We've been together for 5 weeks but I'm feeling it's not right. I'm feeling more like a handbag used when needed. In the 5 weeks we've been together we've seen each other once. He has ...
A. 27 November 2015: Always follow your head.
Frankly, I don't know how this could have been made official after only one meeting, regardless of how often you spend chatting online.
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The father rejected our son, and his mother isn't interested either
Q. Hi everyone. I have a problem. Yesterday i went shopping with my son who is 4 years old, i saw my son grandma which is his dads mother for the first time. I approached her because i recognise her from Facebook. I told her who I was and she asked me ...
A. 25 November 2015: I agree with YouWish.
I'm assuming that this guy is not an ex boyfriend because if he were, you'd have met his family long before now. So your child is the result of a more casual sexual liaison, yes?
apple, you have got to stop stalking th... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting to his harsh and hurtful comments?
Q. Hello Everyone! Boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. Last weekend, he said things to me that really broke my spirit and was very hurtful. We were getting intimate and he said that I was the only woman who's never made him come,...
A. 25 November 2015: Deal breaker.
OP, this really doesn't deserve further discussion. What he did was beyond the pale.
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What could have happened to this great guy I corresponded with and did meet, once?
Q. A man I am extremely interested in is supposedly in the counter intelligence community in the Middle East. It is hard to determine if this is so as these individuals can never speak very much about their work and you can only operate on blind fa...
A. 22 November 2015: My best shot is, like the others, that he's a flake who makes up outlandish stories about himself to impress naïve women and keep them from asking too many questions when he vanishes.
People who work in those fields are very guarded about wh... (read in full...)
I want out, but how and when should I end it?
Q. I am a woman in my mid twenties. I have been with a guy for about 3 years. We are engaged. We moved in together way way too fast. Once I moved in I eventually found out that he had a drinking problem. He would black out and yell/throw thing...
A. 21 November 2015: I totally agree with having someone else pick him up from the airport. Faking it is stressful. You'd be giving him false hope or he'd sense something was up and you don't need to have THAT conversation while driving and in a confined space. I al... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend accuses me of being abusive
Q. I am on a long distance relationship I find her that she wouldn't tell me everything she does until the last moment. It upsets me a lot and I tend to think she doesn't trust me. Last week she would buy dress, she only told me after wearing it...
A. 21 November 2015: It might be she only decides to do some things at the last moment. What sorts of things exactly is she supposed to give you advance notice of?
She's not obliged to give you advance notice of everything she does, everywhere she goes and everythi... (read in full...)
Now that I've been intimate with my ex I'm worried he'll lose interest
Q. I rekindled with my ex boyfriend and we have since become intimate. He was beautiful and very passionate. I was really surprised as I did not think he felt like that about me after all this time. Its been nearly three weeks since we last me...
A. 21 November 2015: This is a moot point until you've officially ended it with the other. Your ex is right to keep his distance while you're involved with someone else, happy or not, but he should have done that, you both should have, before you became intimate.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is on a cruise with his family and hasn't contacted me in two days
Q. My boyfriend went on a cruise with his family. He texted me to tell me he was leaving to go to the ship but I have not heard from him since. It's been two days. It doesn't seem like him not to contact me. He has been on a cruise with his family ...
A. 21 November 2015: I agree. It's only been two days and he's with his family. Spending the night crying is a bit over the top.
If you have nothing going on in your own life then you'll all the time in the world to worry and imagine terrible scenarios. Like Honeypie... (read in full...)
His family set him up with another girl while we were broken up
Q. Hello everyone, so I have a little dilemma. A few months ago me and my boyfriend broke up. I was angry and ended things with him. I continued my life, even though it hurt so much that we weren't together because I still loved him. While we were ...
A. 21 November 2015: His cousins did nothing wrong by introducing him to someone else. They had no reason to think you two would get back together and were trying to bolster his spirits, just as your friends or family might do for you.
I can't read his cousins'... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by putting my career before this man that I love?
Q. Is it real or is it craziness? I have dated this man off and on for many years. The first few years, we only went out a couple of times, and I didn't think he was really interested in me. But he kept in touch with me. He always told me that he ...
A. 21 November 2015: Here are a couple of links that should put to rest any lingering doubts you may have about choosing your career over a man. I realise that your guy is not a cad like one of the men here, but as you can see if and when things do go south, it's even ... (read in full...)
Am I his first real Gf? Or is it that he lacks consideration and empathy? Or does he lack commitment to our relationship?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 5 month. we dont get to see each other so much due to work and other commitments. im wondering if im expecting too much , this is the reason why . we message everyday even if its just to say hi and the odd day we dont ...
A. 19 November 2015: Stop contacting him and see how long it takes him to take notice. If and when he does, don't use it as an opportunity to complain but be upbeat and cite being busy. If he thinks it's done out of spite or to punish or sulk he'll become agrumentative ... (read in full...)
Is this guy taunting me?
Q. Is this guy taunting me? Can anyone help me understand what is going on with this guy. I met a guy of 52 on a paid dating site this summer. He seemed very keen and interested. We meet up about 6 times and I spent the night with him on the ...
A. 16 November 2015: Yep, I agree with Honeypie. ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by putting my career before this man that I love?
Q. Is it real or is it craziness? I have dated this man off and on for many years. The first few years, we only went out a couple of times, and I didn't think he was really interested in me. But he kept in touch with me. He always told me that he ...
A. 16 November 2015: You're very welcome.
He doesn't sound like a bad guy, just that he hasn't done anything extraordinary or made any huge sacrifices for you.
He has to make the best decisions for himself and if he wouldn't be happy relocating to be with you, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?
Q. I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...
A. 15 November 2015: I meant to add this sooner, assuming you'll even check for updates.
For him, it's not simply a matter of guilt or feeling sorry for her. There are very real legal considerations here as well.
He may not be the biological father but he has, for ... (read in full...)
I feel like I am a second choice, the back up plan. Do I stay? or go?
Q. Hello, thank you for reading this and hopefully you can give me dome advice. I think I am too close to see the truth anymore. I have been seeing my boyfriend for 5 years now. We had a very rocky start partly because of our 15 year age difference (...
A. 15 November 2015: Back up plan? You're more like a last resort. And the problem is him, not you (except maybe as a reflection of something lacking in yourself that you would invest in this guy). I don't think he's a suitable man for any woman to marry.
The problem ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by putting my career before this man that I love?
Q. Is it real or is it craziness? I have dated this man off and on for many years. The first few years, we only went out a couple of times, and I didn't think he was really interested in me. But he kept in touch with me. He always told me that he ...
A. 15 November 2015: I have to agree. He hasn't gone out of his way for you. He hasn't given up anything, but is still, even now, hanging his hopes on you giving up what you want for him. He hasn't done anything out of the ordinary here. He's made no great leaps. His... (read in full...)
Impulsive breakup. Will he come back?
Q. My boyfriend of nearly two years just broke up with me. He said he lost himself in this relationship and needed to be alone. When I asked how long he had been wanting to do this he said, "I never wanted to do this. I have just been feeling like I ...
A. 15 November 2015: To fight for him is to force yourself on him. It's not your place to try to dictate what he thinks, what he wants and what's best for him.
I know this is a shock and a terrible blow to you, but I would definitely NOT fight for this. Leave him be a... (read in full...)
How long should a break last?
Q. So my problem is that my boyfriend of 6 years ended our relationship last week. I had noticed he'd been acting a bit strange for a few days, distant and things, but didn't really think much of it until he started ignoring me. It went on all day,...
A. 15 November 2015: I, too, think it's over. A 'break' is just what he's willing to call it to soften the blow for you. There is a remote chance it's also a safety net for him in case his freedom doesn't pan out for him.
After 6 years of dating the man knows by now w... (read in full...)
He's driving me crazy. Am I the toxic one ? how can I save this distrustful relationship?
Q. My boyfriend is making me really anxious and making me feel like I'm losing my mind. I recently posted a question on here about how my boyfriend has hurt me emotionally by spending our money on porn. 2 months later I found a naked pic of a girl on ...
A. 15 November 2015: You're both toxic, if I'm being honest.
Your boyfriend has already lost your trust and has done nothing to regain it, so why are you trying to force yourself to trust him again?
If you stood on a bridge you knew had already collapsed before... (read in full...)
He doesn't seem to want to spend time with me anymore
Q. I would like to know what are some of the major obstacles couples face in a long distance relationship. I know that all couples need to work twice as hard to maintain a long distance relationship vs in person relationship... but what are some things ...
A. 14 November 2015: I think it's more a case of him losing hope in an online relationship, which is what a 'long distance relationship' really is. Unless you two have definite plans for one or both to relocate, there isn't much point to this.
Besides, the contact ... (read in full...)
I don't want to play games, but should I back off? Am I being too intense?
Q. Would like to ask the women a question. Met a woman a couple months ago, were in our late fifty's, been going out once a week, for a month or so. I really like her, like in falling for her, but should I stay the way I am? I treat her really good,...
A. 14 November 2015: Personally, I think you could tone down the compliments, the romantic poems and gifts. You can be affectionate without being over the top.
Don't avoid contacting her for the sake of it as she'll start to question your motives. Be consiste... (read in full...)
All my Bf's past relationship history bothers me. Am I over-thinking all this?
Q. I have been bothered by my boyfriend's past relationships recently, because he kept bringing them up over the course of our relationship. I have been with my boyfriend for four years and he occasionally brings up his exes. We met when I was a sop...
A. 14 November 2015: I think you're over thinking it and if you continue, then it could be a problem.
He should have more sense than to discuss his exes. Next time he starts just, calmly and matter of factly, tell him you don't want to hear any more about them. Do... (read in full...)
Have I opened a Pandoras box by allowing my Bf to call me vulgar names when we have sex?
Q. I am having a big issue with my boyfriend. When we have sex he always calls me very derogatory names. I am very offended by this; but in some situations I have went with it, in the moment you know! Have I opened a Pandoras box? I never here I lov...
A. 14 November 2015: Yes, but it's one you can easily close.
You simply tell him that you don't like it and find it a turn off. ... (read in full...)
How to tell my Mum by Boyfriend is Bi?
Q. There's a guy I've known for a year from Glasgow who I got introduced to at a mate's birthday party... I'd like to think we're good mates, but we do have a friends with benefits relationship... Only problem is, it was one of his mate's birthday'...
A. 11 November 2015: Another vote for the 'why tell her anything?' camp. It's none of her business.
Way too much information. ... (read in full...)
Am I supposed to enjoy this?
Q. Im hoping you can help me answer some questions relating to sexuality. So the other day my wife was performing oral sex on me, and when she was in the act; she licked her finger and started playing around with my anus while performing oral ...
A. 10 November 2015: It doesn't say anything about your sexuality. There's nothing unusual about this at all. Simply a matter of taste. ... (read in full...)
I told my crush how I felt about her and she replied 'so cute'
Q. I sent my crush a long paragraph saying that I liked her and stuff and all she responded was "So Cute" with a bunch of Heart of emojis... what does this mean??? ...
A. 9 November 2015: I suspect she appreciates the compliment and knows you took some risk in confessing how you feel but she doesn't feel the same way and wants to let you down gently. ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to get back in contact with my ex - and offer to just be friends?
Q. I'm happy in my relationship now but miss my ex, as a person, not who I want to get back with. Is it OK to get back in contact to be friends or not? He's the only other person I've been in love with and after 3 years I still can't get him out of m...
A. 8 November 2015: It's good to be civil when you pass one another in the street or happen to see each other at some event, but seeking him to make contact is unwise. ... (read in full...)
He called to say he'd been cheating. Do people usually tell the truth while drunk?
Q. Dear Cupid I am with my current boyfriend for 4 years, we have our ups and downs and i love him and he says the same though some times i do feel he doesn't love me as much as i love him. Long story short, yesterday he had few drinks too ...
A. 8 November 2015: You should do nothing. In fact you've done too much already by calling and texting him back. He's just confessed to doing the wrong thing and you shouldn't be chasing him.
People aren't honest when drunk, as a rule, it's just that they'll ... (read in full...)
I made a mistake, hurt my friend and now I don't know how to make things right!
Q. Hey what's up guys, Kind of messed things up with a friend of mine. She asked me a question last night saying do guys know when girls are wearing too much makeup? And I said I think so, and she proceeded to show me a picture and said do you thin...
A. 8 November 2015: I agree that she set you up here, but I disagree with you that you did anything wrong. I don't know what the mean comments were, but the term is highly subjective so unless I know what it is I'm going to assume it was simply your honest opinion.
... (read in full...)
Is it OK to get back in contact with my ex - and offer to just be friends?
Q. I'm happy in my relationship now but miss my ex, as a person, not who I want to get back with. Is it OK to get back in contact to be friends or not? He's the only other person I've been in love with and after 3 years I still can't get him out of m...
A. 7 November 2015: What would you think if your current boyfriend felt the same way about his ex and decided to get in touch with her?
We receive so many posts about this scenario that I can't believe people can still delude themselves into believing any good wil... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to react to her offer, to not date my friend, if I will say I still love her?
Q. Me and my ex girlfriend broke up a month ago. Things didn't end great, she still wanted to stay in contact with me but after she showed up to my father's dinner drunk, I didn't want no part of her anymore. Apart from the 2 times I have seen her ...
A. 6 November 2015: I'd say she wants to get back together. I DO see the big deal with her showing up drunk to your father's dinner (or any other event). There is no point in having standards if you're not going to live by them and if there are no consequences for... (read in full...)
Is it still possible to continue with a normal working life after posing for nude modelling?
Q. I am currently studying accountancy in college and have ambitions to have a successful career working in finance. While still attending courses in college, I did part time work as a model for local painting classes. I did not see this as something ...
A. 6 November 2015: Have you considered speaking to an attorney about copyright infringement?
The parents of two murdered teenage girls followed their lawyer's suggestion and had the video tapes of the girls' torture copyrighted to protect it and preserve what the... (read in full...)
Aunts I need your help with my boyfriend: at my end we're done but it's not official
Q. Kinda super stuck… So my current boyfriend, if you have read/answered my previous questions your probably twisiting in your seat, and I are back together. We broke up because my best friend let me know that he was cheating, she saw him grinding...
A. 3 November 2015: Tell him you tried but can't look beyond the last time he cheated, that you've just lost interest in him.
Send him an email or a text. He doesn't deserve the courtesy of a discussion and it would save you listening to more rubbish. Then block/de... (read in full...)
Do I call this FWB thing quits?
Q. Not sure if I'll get the right answer but here goes. Been seeing this 43 yr old lady and she doesn't look like it, initially she set the terms, a casual relationship with no strings and I thought oh well sounds good since we are both busy most ...
A. 3 November 2015: I think it's time to call it quits. She no longer believes she's getting much benefit out of this arrangement. Either she's starting to form an attachment or she's just starting to feel used. ... (read in full...)
Wife's drunken antics took a turn for worse, and yet I am somehow the bad guy. What did I do wrong?
Q. To understand the question I'm asking, I must go over in detail what has transpired for the past couple weeks. My wife and I have been married for 6 months, and have been together for 5 years. She has been married before, and had a son with a person ...
A. 2 November 2015: I'm a bit tired right now so I left some things out.
I think this relationship is done. This latest incident should be the last one and I strongly urge you to seriously reconsider pressing charges. This would also help her son in the long run. If ... (read in full...)
Wife's drunken antics took a turn for worse, and yet I am somehow the bad guy. What did I do wrong?
Q. To understand the question I'm asking, I must go over in detail what has transpired for the past couple weeks. My wife and I have been married for 6 months, and have been together for 5 years. She has been married before, and had a son with a person ...
A. 2 November 2015: I would privately speak to an attorney and the police and find out exactly what your legal risks and options are. You don't have to press charges, but just KNOWING your options empowers you and strengthens your position.
Keep a log that includes... (read in full...)
Is it still possible to continue with a normal working life after posing for nude modelling?
Q. I am currently studying accountancy in college and have ambitions to have a successful career working in finance. While still attending courses in college, I did part time work as a model for local painting classes. I did not see this as something ...
A. 2 November 2015: Catherine Willows from CSI: Crime Scene Investigation... (read in full...)
Is it still possible to continue with a normal working life after posing for nude modelling?
Q. I am currently studying accountancy in college and have ambitions to have a successful career working in finance. While still attending courses in college, I did part time work as a model for local painting classes. I did not see this as something ...
A. 2 November 2015: The short answer is, yes, you can go on to lead a normal life with a normal occupation.
Yolonda McClary, a former stripper, went on to become a crime scene analyst (currently working on the tv show 'Cold Justice' with a former Texas Prosecut... (read in full...)
Does this sound like a marriage of convenience?
Q. Well, let's see if I can get good advice ^_^ I've known a man, he's English and living in the UK while I'm in the states, for about a year now...this September I went over and stayed with him for a month, came back to the states, and over Skype he ...
A. 29 October 2015: I have to agree with you and everyone here. This doesn't sound right at all.
There is nothing charming about what he's up to. 55 going on 17, wants to quickly and secretly get married in California then travel solo to Spain where he has an admit... (read in full...)
My Bf is going on a trip, with his sister, and without me. Do I have a right to be upset?
Q. my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and 5 months ago, him and I started planning a trip together. He would come down every weekend, we would look at various places to go, kept checking prices and overall, talked about it all the ...
A. 29 October 2015: If the trip was booked after you two had broken up then what exactly did he do wrong? It's not as if it was booked and he decided to cut you out at the last minute and take someone else instead.
If my boyfriend didn't speak to me for two weeks, I... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is living with a female housemate, is supporting her and I also found out they were involved at one time. Any advice?
Q. I've been with my partner for almost two years and we have a fantastic relationship together apart from one issue that is causing some tension between us. We don't live together, but he lives with a female "housemate" and her son. He financially ...
A. 16 October 2015: The woman is, for all intents and purposes, his common law wife and anyone would be hard pressed to prove otherwise.
There is no future for you, except as a hanger on, I'm afraid. My advice is to cut your losses and move on. ... (read in full...)
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