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writes:ive been with my boyfriend for 5 month. we dont get to see each other so much due to work and other commitments. im wondering if im expecting too much , this is the reason why . we message everyday even if its just to say hi and the odd day we dont . if one messages the other always replies but my boyfriend is starting to be less inclined to message . i would text him and i hear nothing for over a day or so, fair enough he doesnt have to message as i dont make him do so. What annoys me is he spends a lot of time on facebook chatting to everyone else but doesnt reply to my text , im not expecting him to drop everything and reply but itd be nice if he did reply in the same day. im not insecure but i like manners in people. do i tell him its annoying me because of him spending time on facebook chatting and not replying to me after over a day of waiting for a reply ? i havent said anything yet but im wondering if im his first real girlfriend as the way he acts looks and feels like hes never had a real girlfriend and doesnt know how to act and be when hes got me do i just shut up or talk about things ?
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (19 November 2015):
 Stop contacting him and see how long it takes him to take notice. If and when he does, don't use it as an opportunity to complain but be upbeat and cite being busy. If he thinks it's done out of spite or to punish or sulk he'll become agrumentative or just avoid you more often. In other words let him see what he's been missing instead of eager to get away again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 November 2015): I find it extremely rude when I've messaged somebody and then I can see that they are on Facebook and ignoring my texts. It's not about the fact that he may not know how to act in a relationship, it's how to act in life anyway, by not blatantly ignoring people.
He's not just being a bad boyfriend he just seems like an ignorant person to me. I wouldn't put up with it if a friend did that let alone my boyfriend.
As Denizen says what's the point in being with somebody like that when there are much better people out there.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (19 November 2015):
 Sorry hon, this guy is a waste of time.
He is so involved with whoever he is chatting with on facebook that you have taken 2nd place.
You have only been with him for 5 months, dump him and move on with your life.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (19 November 2015):
 It doesn't sound as if you are the most important thing in his life. I would relegate this relationship to just good friends. You can then cast your net again for someone who wants you to the exclusion of everyone else.
Why put up with a tepid romance when there could be someone waiting in the wings to sweep you off your feet?
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