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writes:I am currently studying accountancy in college and have ambitions to have a successful career working in finance. While still attending courses in college, I did part time work as a model for local painting classes. I did not see this as something sleazy or immoral as both my parents are painters and art teachers as well back home. They were well aware of the part time work I did to support myself and they were okay with it.Somehow I got exposed to the world of fine art nude modelling. I was initially reluctant but I did my first nude pose for a photographer friend who I knew very well and was struggling to start a fine art nude portfolio from scratch as he was struggling financially as well. His photos were tasteful and artistic, and they sort of made me feel empowered.Since I had already taken the plunge and my nude photos were Out There, I gradually proceeded to paid modelling with other professional photograhers regularly as the income was lucrative and it helped pay for my living expenses. I always did tasteful shoots and never made any porn or erotic photos.Lately I have started internship at a prestigious accounting firm. I have stopped modelling and it was a thing of the past. I am diligent pursuing my real ambition now. I never use my real name so I was sure I would not turn up in a Google search. But was I realized was that there is a fine line between art and porn. My pictures are widely circulated on Tumblr and even some porn websites.I deeply regret my mistake right now. Any perverted male who regularly surfs for porn is bound to come across me someday. Probably the guy in the opposite cubicle, or my boss. I wish I can change my past. I should have posed faceless. I should never have posed for photographers at the first place. I have not told my parents, I am sure they are devastated.My question is, Is it still possible to continue with a normal working life after this? Or even a normal Life? Will I be subjected to harassment or discrimination at each new employer and be forced to change jobs every time? I studied very hard to achieve my dreams. Is there anything I can do to mitigate the damage? Maybe plastic surgery? Or will I be forced into a life as a recluse hiding from society? If I really need to, what other careers can I switch to? I am not one that dwells on past mistakes but I wish to know how I can best salvage what remains of my life. I can never turn the clock backwards. What goes on the internet remains there forever. Please help... please advise... please don't tell me to further my career as a 'Successful' nude model
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (5 December 2015):
Wow hun, that's quite a lot of info. Dump the friends that said you deserved what you got and keep the supportive ones.
As for your photographer friend, he might indeed be gay, shy or introverted or socially challenged or any of those possibilities you said. He might even be on the asexual spectrum. Anyway, if you want to know whether he's into you or not you just have to ask him. Personally I'd wait until this situation is dealt with but it's up to you
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 December 2015):
 I hope no one judges you here on DC for having been a nude model.
Consider ALL the FINE works of art we have today, from the last couple of millennia that required a nude model. Think David, think the Sistine chapel, Robert Mapplethorpe's photos, Francisco de Goya's lovely ladies, Titan's lovely ladies (think Venus of Urbino) and let's not forget Botticelli's beauties! I could go on. NONE of these works of art would be there IF there hadn't been a nude model or 2.
You, dear OP have nothing to be ASHAMED of, nor did you in any way form or shape DESERVE that some perv filmed you and leaked the images in the World wide net.
So don't accept anyone shaming you.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (3 December 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWhy is everyone pointing fingers at him??? You don't know him just from the few words I described him. I don’t believe he could have done such a thing to hurt me. He really cares about me. I didn’t say this before, but I actually have developed feelings for him. I know love makes you blind, but I am still sure he didn’t do it. What does he stand to gain from exploiting me???? I have known him for 8 years, yes it is true I was 14 at that time. But so was he. He is the same age as me. No I wasn’t modeling nude at 14, nor was he my boyfriend. In fact, I have not had sex with him yet, I don’t know why he hasn’t made a move yet. I am not sure he even likes me.You see, I was making miserable money posing for drawing classes, they pay you abysmal hourly rates. The money didn’t justify all the effort I had to spend, most of my time was actually spent contacting art schools and waiting for replies, only for 3 hours worth of salary each week on average. Not the perfect job for a student busy studying for exams right? The only reason why I took art posing jobs was because I could listen to audio books and my recorded college lectures with my earphones at the same time. To kill two birds with one stone.About the same time I found out that my friend had flunked his subjects in college and was thinking of embarking on his new photography passion. My friend, he has had this development problem since he was young, he has this borderline autistic problem… I am not sure what you call it, he looks normal but he has trouble achieving things in life in general. Like he was a good student in school but he was clueless what he wanted to do with his life. So he took a medical course, then halfway through he quit because he thought he’d rather be studying computer science. Then of all things he could do he started failing his subjects because he was busy playing with his camera, travelling to the outback, or playing with his Play Station video games.One day when we were hanging out I actually suggested to him that he took nude pictures, and involved me. I had a plan… he would take faceless nudes of me and put them in his portfolio. This would help him find work by showcasing his talent. At the same time he took very tasteful nudes of me, implied nudes, nudes where I cover my important parts with strategic obstruction of arms legs etc. These I would put into my portfolio, which did help me find work, although hardly any work. There was no way I could compete with the more adventurous models who choose to leave nothing to the imagination, some of them even maintain modeling blogs where they post behind the scenes pictures of themselves casually hanging around the sets in their work “uniform”. Clever “marketing”, so to say.So I wasn’t earning as much as I had expected. And I was not going to jeopardize my future doing what these poor clueless, aimless bimbos were doing. Sometimes I accepted modeling jobs from untalented GWCs (guys with cameras) knowing that they were just paying to spend a few hours with a naked girl. Lucky for me, they didn’t publish these online, they weren’t going to embarrass themselves by posting their pathetic excuse for a photo on their portfolios. Obviously whatever pics they took, they were only for they own consumption. It wasn’t a part time job I was willing to continue, I just needed to eat daily.We came up with a better idea which could actually work. Conduct weekly nude workshops. They were in demand. In order to compete with the big players, we made the fees as low as possible. In order to help confine my nude photos behind closed doors, we made sure nobody brought home any nudes. And here I will admit, I had my own clever “marketing” strategy as well, spend the whole time nude with the students. After all it was a win-win situation, they didn’t get to take home their work, but at least they experienced something the other workshops usually don’t offer right, for the price they were paying? OK, for the record I am not proud of this part of me, what I had to do. I have already stopped doing these workshops for a while, and please don’t judge me ok. Well yeah it is like I was exploiting myself but at the same time I had a crush on my instructor friend ok, I came up with this display for him aswell. I don’t think I need to further elaborate on this part.It was the perfect plan. If we conducted these workshops twice a month, it was enough for me to earn a living. Nobody was going to publish any nudes. It was foolproof until the bastard secretly leaked the footage, he ruined everything. It was a sick thing to do. It has to be one of those students. It can not be my dear friend. I don’t understand why he would have any reason to do such an abominable act toward me? After all we’ve been through together. He is really the sweetest person, we talk all the time, we share all our problems. He is a gentleman and treats me like a real friend and he had always been there for me. I know we can be soul mates if I can have him. He is not like the countless bad boys I kept falling, who were just using me for sex. But, actually I am wondering does he like me too? He’s had numerous chances yet he never made a move on me… I hope it is not because he is disgusted by me. Does he think I am a slut or an exhibitionist? Or maybe he is just shy… because he really is shy. I am worried he may be gay, I used to think he was gay because he used to be nerdy and didn’t like sports, and he was always hanging around girls, except he wasn’t flirting with us he was more like one of us. But then again he was just skinny and nerdy, and maybe he didn’t have friends because the other boys bullied him a lot. But then he started working out during college and had some short relationships with girls, so he can’t be gay right??? And from the way he looks at me, I know he is attracted to me, I can see it in his eyes… But why hasn’t he made the move yet. Even when we are working together alone… yes I sometimes wear my usual modeling “uniform” when I am alone with him. Maybe he respects me too much as a friend and doesn’t want to ruin our friendship. I really don’t see why he would want to secretly record me in that workshop. After all he sees me very often in my “uniform”. OK so maybe he has seen me in my “uniform” too many times he is now bored of me so he doesn’t find me attractive anymore.I know most of you are going to judge me. I know you are all going to say I am a slut or exhibitionist or whatever. or that I was unethically exploiting other people or myself. You can call me all that I don’t give a damn any longer. I have nightmares every night thinking of how I screwed up my future, I don’t bother what people say from now on. Maybe I deserve what I have coming but doesn’t everyone deserve a second chance.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2015): OK so you've known this guy for eight years.
That could mean you were 14yrs old when you first met him!
I'm sure he has been very influential in your transition from natural female to nude model to porn video subject.
Sounds like grooming to me!
Yep I know you'll say you were seventeen..just like the story switched to defend everything else from concerned young trainee accountant to souvenir hunting featherhead.
If you are capable of waking to smell the coffee I suggest you do,but then again it wouldn't surprise me if your very concerned friend had your laptop and phone at his disposal and your vacation was a case of adios amigos!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2015): Interesting how you completely dismissed your 'friend of 8yrs as the culprit!Yet he was the one who set the whole thing up.He was the one who booked the studio.He was the one who skipped from natural world photography to nude exposure on camera.He was the one who decided where the bags would go.He was the one who decided it was an iPhone hidden in a bag.I know a bit about photography and you can't convince me he could deduce that from the edited version.Plus he has access to editing..you said the others were very incompetent with a camera..how does that put them in a position to suddenly be editing for some porn exposure when they have such little prior experience that you have to dash over starkers and expose your butt to that hidden camera.Come to think of it I should imagine there were at least two hidden spy cams and hence the clumsy editing.I would be concerned about a young female being mercilessly exploited.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (3 December 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell not all my friends were helpful. Some of them said I was stupid, I should just move on, and some of them even said I deserved what happened to me. They said very mean things to me. :-( It's times like this when you know who your real friends are. I need to buy some souvenirs for them before I fly home... I really owe them.
I want to take this opportunity to thank all of you here as well. Thanks for spending time and for all your suggestions.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (2 December 2015):
Great to hear you've had some success :) Looks like your friends are keepers too.
I haven't found a video tracking tool yet, but google, among others, offers a reverse search engine. Just google "reverse search engine" and you'll have a lot to choose from. If you have some of the pictures, enter them in the engine by link or by uploading them (they won't be hosted, so don't worry) and you might be able to follow the breadcrumbs to the person who took and spread them.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 December 2015):
If you (or one of your friends) find a forum where you are a subject or your images are shared - I would look into the posters. It could be that the the one who originally posted it and thus spread it online - no, I would not "engage" in any conversations, but it might lead you to the the "ground zero" person and then... I'd sue his ass off.
There are different rules (legally) for owning and uploading pictures. Now whomever took them violated your right to privacy, but once he uploaded them he knowingly violated not only your privacy, but copyright laws. Which can be a larger penalty. (as many countries do not yet have laws to properly govern image distribution online)
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (2 December 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh actually my photographer friend has been helping me as I am currently vacationning. He's been doing a lot for me including contacting a lawyer. He really blames himself for what happened :-(I have also got some of my close guy friends to help "surf" for "porn" containing me. I guess most guys do look at porn though they won't admit it, so I guess guys would be better finding these type of stuff. Anyway my friends said the video did not look like porn and it has obvious that it was a hidden video that was really quite boring for "porn" standards. So perhaps I was overreacting initially. Thank goodness I have such nice friends. Feels kind of awkward though because they must be quite familiar with my body by now LOL, it will be weird when I am back home for Christmas and meet up with them. I am still pissed off at whoever took that video let this be known.I don't understand what you meant by "trolled" the forums... I should participate in their porn forums??
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (1 December 2015):
Glad the lawyers could get most of them shut down. It is ridiculous how something like this can happen and YOU are the one who has to deal with it.
Have you also "trolled" forums for "sharing" of nudes? The more you find and shut down the better.
Good luck to you!
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (1 December 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAppreciate the concern, but my friend isn't the culprit here. :-) I have known him for more than 8 years, and he is a very good friend of mine. I wasn't being exploited either. I consider us business partners, I actually keep 60% of the earnings from our workshops.Anyway we got a lawyer to force the website to remove the videos. They complied immediately. Turns out the video wasn't actually sold to them. The website was basically stealing porn content from other sources and hosting them on their website and then charging their members to watch them. So the bad news is that we don't know who made the recording. We managed to get most websites such as blogspot, wordpress, and some porn forums to take down the video, but unfortunately it will be impossible to delete all copies stored by the porn users. Plus, there are numerous file sharing tools which porn users use to share their crap, so I am afraid that's all we can do... On the bright side, my "porn" video isn't very popular... hopefully it will fade into obscurity some day. Let us wait and see
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2015): Hasiafuture, how many students were there in the training seminar? Were you nude for 6 hours, or did you wear clothes during lunch time or similar breaks?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2015): I think the problem is your instructor friend and I dontblike the way he slips through categories and boundaries in the way he does and the way he encourages you to do so.I see you are still young, naive and gullible.I thank the lord thatvyouvare good with numbers and have a different way to make a living.I think it is unacceptable that your photographer frenimmy has drawn you into the murky world of porn through a subtle and deceitful and rather extravagant ruse to get you in a situation where you thought it was acceptable to be teaching in the nude without even a g string on.He pushed the buttons,he sett the scene and I think he is fully aware of how to exploit you.you are in the correct mindframe to feel fearful.He will tel you he is just an innocent victim too but I don't think this is true at all.Do you or have you had sex or intimacy with this so called friend.I think your best weapon is to confide in your parents as a starting point.Also confide in the police in case this bloke has more devious intentions or any previous aliases and convictions for anything whatsoever.Your safety has been truly compromised so get a change of name.Get away from your instructor/photographer/sexpartner /person exploiter/other people blamed/sad added untalented waste of time friend because assertive action is good.I expect your dad would have more to add to that list.Don't fear your family..you said they broughtvyou up in a free manner but they never intended to set you up for exploitation/disappearance or false lead ..oh it was all the fault of the dark web lifestyle.Show dad the outcome but prepare him for a shock by saying "look dad..you know you wanted me to be comfortable in my own skin and to express myself creatively..well it all got out of hand a bit and I want you to help me get this sorted because I know how proud you are to have a dearly loved daughter and I know I can always bring my problems to you because you are older and wiser!"OK so you probably won't use the words like that..maybe you can say "I've got a bit if bad news and I need you to help me out"Dad and mum will be for warned and that is for armed.Bless you ,you must have spirits surrounding you trying to block trouble before it hits you.let dad join in to help out..and mum.they were young once.they probably frolicked nude on beaches and did all sorts of things back in the day..but ypou were the happy outcome of all their madcap schemes and they want to keep you in their lives.In summary I don't trust your friend an inch,you've been lucky so far but he's taken your dignity.he hasn't taken your life but he has set up a potential reason why it could all maybe happen due to a cold trail that doesn't connect to him.So kick him back ! Realign with family so dad and mum come say:"And you really think that nice Mrs so and SOS son could set you up in this way ..how dare he..I'll just go get my hedge clippers and trim his extensions a bit..Perpetrators hate to be caught.They like victims compliant and with dirty great false trails all over the place so your best weapon is to look at him in a very new light and no more dark secrets from those who truly care for you in their offbeat way.You are a child of love and not an angel of darkness and you will win in the end.Expose this authentic sounding conartist asap.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (7 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the question@Ciar
yes thanks :-)
thanks for sharing the info
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (6 November 2015):
 Have you considered speaking to an attorney about copyright infringement?
The parents of two murdered teenage girls followed their lawyer's suggestion and had the video tapes of the girls' torture copyrighted to protect it and preserve what they could of their daughter's privacy. It might work for you as well. This was done after the video was already taken, as would be in your case as well.
It could also help you should you choose to be involved in a similar class or seminar in the future.
They might be able to give you some advice or have contacts you don't already.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (6 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThere were reasons why I didn't get dressed. I wasn't an exhibitionist or anything like that. The main reason was that we were rushing to complete the whole syllabus of the workshop within a very short time, 6 hours to be exact. We the organizers consisted of a skeletal team, just me and my instructor friend. Only 2 of us as we were trying to keep costs down so the fees were affordable. Most workshops would have several assistants, even more than one model. For a workshop that that starts with the fundamental photography concepts, we offered the best value for the tutorial fees. Not only was I the model, I also had to double as the tutor and help out with the lessons and logistics as well.
1) The whole syllabus has several lessons. Each lesson consisted of an introductory lecture covering some theory, followed by hands on practice shooting and directing the model in which my instructor is the master, followed by the editing session. As you know, I am fully occupied during the shooting sessions. Immediately after that me and the instructor have to rush to the desks to conduct the editing lessons. We would teach the necessary corrections such as desaturating the image, cropping, or colour adjustments, one student at a time. Sometimes the images were so badly taken by the students, such as having really bad exposure settings, or hand shake. So we had no choice but to dash and reshoot with the same pose. I had to quickly run in front of the camera, then immediately run back to the photoshop laptop. This happened frequently, so it was very inconvenient to repeatedly disrobe and cover up .
2) After the editing lesson was over, we moved on to the next lesson where we had to rearrange the lights, reflectors, props and all the other heavy stuff. My instructor friend would do all the heavy lifting while I go over the Q&A session for the previous lesson and go through the powerpoint slides my friend had prepared for the next lesson. I prefer not to get dressed because I have learned from experience that it helps people to get used to something new. For several students this was their first time photographing the nude and they were very shy and uncomfortable about it. It was important to get everybody into a relaxed conducive learning environment.
3) It was very hot during the workshop. It was a hot summer weekday and the air conditioning was inadequate. Plus we the organizers had to do the heavy work, and as you know, posing can be a very physically demanding task.
I hope that answers your questions...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2015): don't worry :) i don't think people will see it as porn
it happens to people all the time. people get secretly filmed showering or having sex. they learn to move onn
usually people can tell its a hidden camera because the angle is bad and the poor video quality
i am just trying to help maybe the at the place you rented, somebody put a hidden camera, like a cctv. maybe it wasnt the students
i am also curious why you did not put on a robe during you break sessions
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2015): Hey lady, sorry to hear bout your problem I am a photographer too so maybe I can advise a little ok? I agree that the websites kinda doing you defamation, and the video is kinda your own property, even though you didn't take it yourself. So they gonna be in trouble big time if they don't take it down like immediately. Just show them the evidence that it was your workshop and get a lawyer coz you and your photographer friend sure ain't one. And next time you do any workshops, I suggest you cover up your body during the breaks eh? Most of the models I work with do, though many them exhibitionists like you like to remain nude da whole time. Though I see nothin wrong with that, in fact I respect a lady who is comfortable with her own nudity and all that. And yeah, I respect you man, you got brains and beauty, just maybe not enough street experience. I am just sayin, don't trust everyone out there ok, specially in this business, lots of GWC preying on young naked chicks like yourself.Sorry if I sounded sarcastic, hope dear cupid dont take down my comments.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (4 November 2015):
Wow, what a bunch of assholes. Okay, based on your situation, you definitely have rights.
You can stop a website's use of your image for three reasons: invasion of privacy, violation of right of publicity, or defamation.
Invasion of privacy can occur if you are portrayed falsely and in a highly offensive manner. For example, your photo was posted at America's Most Wanted's website, and you are not wanted -- by the law. Your privacy may also be invaded if the photo was taken by someone who intruded on you in a situation in which you had a reasonable expectation of privacy -- for example, in your own home. It is not an invasion of privacy to photograph someone in a public place or at any event where the public is invited, which the asshole who snapped those pics with his phone probably kept in mind. However, not all is lost.
Another reason to stop the use is known as the right of publicity. This occurs if your image is used for commercial purposes such as to sell products or to imply that you endorse a product. If the photo is used in a commercial website -- that is, one sponsored by a business or that sells products or services -- the unauthorized use of your image would probably violate your right of publicity. The public must be able to identify you in the photograph.
You could argue the misuse of your pictures suggest you're selling sex, but I'm afraid that's going to be a tough claim to solidify. But we're not at the end, because:
You can also stop the website use if the photo defames you -- that is, it creates a false impression and injures your reputation. The photo must falsely portray you and must be able to cause people in the community to think less of you. I believe this is the one you should be using to deal with the website because it accurately describes your situation.
However, since the website is not replying to you anymore, I'd advise getting help from a lawyer. Also ask around in your family/friends if they have any legal contacts that could be of use. Most websites will play hardball with individuals, thinking that'll get them to back off. Well, kick their asses. You have rights.
Also ask the lawyer what can be done with the information you accumulated about potential suspects. I'm pretty sure that if they were properly investigated, it would become clear which one made and sent the pictures.
Hope this helps a bit.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (3 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi anonymous male, what college are you referring about? Sorry maybe what I wrote earlier was a bit confusing. I didn't say the unauthorised pics were taken at the art college.
Ok, I might as well describe whole episode that took place:
Basically me and my photographer friend were conducting a 1 day nude photography workshop. He already had conducted several nature photography workshops and some students were suggesting he conducted nude workshops as well. Having collaborated with me extensively, my photographer instructor friend naturally approached me to be the model. I was an experienced photographer as well, though nowhere as skilled as him, so it was a plus having me around.
I was concerned about the quality of the pictures taken by the students, as some of them had zero camera experience. We wanted to control the quality of the final products, and also to prevent students from taking unauthorized pictures. Therefore we had an unusual arrangement. We rented a studio and the students were not supposed to bring their own cameras. We managed to provide 3 cameras, these cameras were shared between the students. So they would have hands on experience taking photos and then editing them on Photoshop, but at the end of the day, they could not bring home any of the pictures.
Unbeknownts to us, one or more of the students had secretly hidden a handphone and was filming me. The workshop structure provided several sessions of hands-on shooting where I had to carry out various poses, following by several photoshop editing or composition theory sessions.
During the frequent breaks, me and the instructor would walk around and inspect the students work. We would also download the photos onto the 2 laptops we had and teach the students how to crop the pics to fix bad composition and adjust the colour balance and histogram and other editing.
To my horror I found that the secret footage was posted on some CMNF pornographic websites (Cloth Male Nude Female). This website had disgusting themes such as a nude patient getting examined by clothed doctors, nude female police officers, etc. They consisted of porn actresses acting out a fantasy scenario.
Pics of me from the workshop were there! They describe it as a nude lecturer / clothed student fantasy. They had pictures of me walking around naked during the break sessions while teaching the students how to use photoshop. And they were edited to make it look sleazy. A person who didn't know the background would think I was a porn actress acting in some cheap adult video.
They even had nude videos of me teaching using powerpoint slides with the projector. They were edited out of context to make it look like a cheap acted out porn video in which I was the star.
It is hard to identify who the culprit was. The handphone was probably hidden in one of the students' bags. It is impossible to narrow down the suspect. The handphone was located at the back of the class, judging from the angle, you could see everyone who registed for the class was in the frame. The culprit was not holding the camera, thats for sure. The culprit was definitely among the crowd, we counted the number of people in the scene but we could not tell who. He deliberately blurred the faces of everyone in the pictures + videos except me. We could not observe their expressions to guess the culprit.
What my friend managed to do was narrow down the list of suspects to 6 of the students. We organized 2 of these workshops. The second workshop also had a hidden camera. My friend kept a list of all the students so we compared the names from the 2 workshops. 6 of them were returning students.
My friend was able to judge from the characteristic of the video that the hidden camera was an iPhone. Unfortunately that was not much help. I thought if we had a pciture of the the whole room, we might be able to guess from the angle of the camera, the location of the backpack hiding the camera. Then if we could find out the owner of the backpack we will know who the culprit was. We did not have such helpful pictures unfortunately.
I have tried contacting the owner of the website. They do not want to take it down, saying someone sold the pictures to them and it legally belonged to them. They are not replying to me now.
Another problem is that in the video, you can hear my name being mentioned several times. My real name. Although only my first name. The audio is not so clear but you can make it out if you hear clearly.
This is my predicament. Why I am so afraid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2015): maybe you could get in touch with the colleges that you modelled for the students and make your complaint there.
You signed a contract for your work but you didnt sign for unauthorised photos to be used indescriminately on the net..therefore they allowed a breach of contract by allowing students to take photos of you in a breaktime.
A contract is designed to safeguard both parties.
You agreed to works of art being held with a college copywrite. I think many colleges get the students to sign an agreement that the collegeholds the copywrite for any work done on the premises or for the college.Get back to the colleges and put the problem back on their doorstep as they know the people/students on their registers at the material times.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (3 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmaverick494, thanks again :-)
Ok will try your suggestions.
Not so well verse about contracts stuff. I am good at numbers, really clueless when it comes to law related stuff. I get I would have to Google and read about employment law. What I currently understand is that different countries have different employment laws, even each state has its own laws.
I wonder which progressive country has the most open policies regarding nudity? I guess it has to be in Europe...
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (3 November 2015):
Whoops, another addition. Sorry. Dear Cupid doesn't let us edit our posts. I don't really know what your rights as an intern are. Again it depends on the contract you signed. Maybe this site could be helpful: https://www.fairwork.gov.au/pay/unpaid-work/work-experience-and-internships
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (3 November 2015):
Forgot to add, but unless you have an employment contract with your employer, your employment is probably "at will," which means that your employer can fire you for any reason that isn't illegal. (Illegal reasons include discrimination based on race, sex, or another protected characteristic; retaliation for asserting your workplace rights; or punishing you for whistleblowing.) So check your contract to see where you're at.
You could maybe make a case for sexism being the reason you're fired if your pictures are the culprit. In this case getting a lawyer is not unwise.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (3 November 2015):
Well like others said, legality on the internet is a difficult thing, because of the nature of internet itself. To really be able to make a legal dent, the internet itself has to be harnessed and controlled. They tried to do that not very long ago, but obviously such a thing would play in the hands of corporate giants who want to use the web as their personal PR tool.
Even celebrities whose nude pictures ended up on the web have not been successful in getting them removed. Think of Scarlett Johansson, Rihanna, etc. These people have the best lawyers money can buy and yet they couldn't reclaim their pictures.
The best you can probably manage is to tackle this one step at a time. Here's google's removal policy:
https://support.google.com/websearch/answer/2744324
Contact them and see what they can do for you.
After that you're going to have to comb through everything yourself and contact webmasters from (porn)websites to remove your stuff. Legal pornsites are usually compliant, since they don't want a bad rep.
You could contact an internet lawyer and see what they can do for you, but watch out for the cost.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (3 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhttp://www.oddee.com/item_98740.aspx
I guess I have my answer already :-(
I should brace myself for the day that will inevitably come. Part of wants to just come out and go public. Then I don't have to live in fear everyday for the day that will come.
Then again that day may never come at all. The analytical part of me says that I should just hang on as long as I can.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (3 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the question@maverick, appreciate your feedback.:-) But sorry if my questions were not clear enough. I am actually concerned more about the legal complications, and also what steps I can do to help myself.I am in no way ashamed of my nude modelling. I don't see it as something immoral, sinful, or denigrating towards myself. I am proud of of my body. I am more worried about being losing my job, so I want to know my rights. Of course there is the social aspect too. I might be shunned at my workplace. And stalked or harassed by male colleagues. However I am much too streetwise and strong to be affected by that. I could probably live with my colleagues all having seen me naked. In fact most of my school friends know that I worked for art classes, and some know that I post for photographers.I guess maybe I should post this on a legal forum. Might be more experts there. I posted a duplicate of my question on aussielegal. Not many replies so far though...https://www.aussielegal.com.au/forum/FID/30/Employment_Law_Compensation_Law_Negligence/Discrimination_Unfair_Dismissal_Asbestos_Negligence
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (3 November 2015):
I don't think there's much you can do now they're out there, but if they're on tumblr a lot it means a lot of girls find them tasteful too and they might even admire you for being comfortable enough in your own body to do shoots like that.
So my advice: hold your head high and be proud of the pictures. Like you said, they weren't erotic, they were tasteful. The human body is nothing to be ashamed of and can look really beautiful. So what if your boss or your colleagues stumble across them. Almost every professional fashion model has had tasteful nude shoots. That's nothing to be ashamed of.
If I've learned something from being bullied in the past, it's that if you don't make a fuss about something, others will fall in line. If you meet every leery comment with a confident steely gaze and a raised eyebrow that makes them look like the infantile idiots they are, they'll stop making a big deal out of it. Don't be defensive or apologetic. Just ask them: "So what? Shouldn't you have outgrown that pubescent stage where the human body is something to be ashamed of?"
Hold your head high. You're beautiful and smart, a very good combination. Don't let your confidence crumble because of this. If people make your past into something more erotic, it says a lot more about who they are than it does about you. So like they say, fuck the haters. It's your past. Own it. You've got nothing to fear. 3
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 November 2015):
While the law regarding the Internet is still (seriously) in it's infancy, I can't tell you if they would. Again, I would consult a lawyer/solicitor.
If those pictures were uploaded by the photographer after you singed a release form, you may not be able to have them removed, as you do not own them, the photographer does.
As for any "private" photos taking by the people you posed for, I don't think they at all fit under revenge porn, unless one of these artists were an ex and he is using them to get back at you. There should have been some kind of rules for what is OK and not OK, (as far as taking pictures) but again however RUDE it is to snap pictures with a phone/tablet for whatever purpose at an art-class, I don't think they fit into the "revenge porn" category (goodness I hate that expression!) but it might fit into invasion of privacy. As a nude model at an art class I would presume that the model can expect SOME privacy.
As for those that are linked to you, again, I can't say whether you can compel Google to remove them or not.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (3 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo you think it is possible to request Google to exclude all results that are linked to me from its searches? I read somewhere that there exists some "revenge porn" laws, Google has to abide. You know, when jilted boyfriends post nude pictures after the break up.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 November 2015):
Talk to a lawyer/solicitor, sometimes when threaten with legal jargon and the prospect of being sued websites will remove pictures.
However, consider that ONCE pictures are "out there" on the Internet, there really isn't much you can do. I DO know Tumblr is trying hard to stay within copyright laws because 90% of it's content are images - out of those 85% are manipulated images.
And yes, get a new LinkedIn picture. If your friend is good photographer, have one taken with clothes on to use.
It is what it is. You did what you did. There is no changing it.
It is ironic that women are shamed for doing ANY kind of pictures - when there are SO many men LOOKING for and at naked pictures.
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reader, haveiafuture +, writes (2 November 2015):
haveiafuture is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice. Though I see that different people have different views. For the kind gentleman that says I should just say my face has been photoshopped, I don't think that will do. It's not just a couple or dozen of photos. There are many more than that. I have modelled over a period of four years for several photographers. Any professional can tell a fake between a genuine picture. Anyway thanks for the advice. Besides if I deny, it will look like I am ashame of my body, which I am not.
For the record, I never did anything that remotely resembles porn. No sex of course. And please don't associate me with a stripper :-). Stripping, playboy, and art are not the same! It was never sexual in nature.
Problem is, some dishonest people were abusing the trust I gave them. I am signed model releases for those photos they are freely able to display and proudly claim as their own work of art. But what I see was that some of the pictures uploaded were pictures taken without my consent. Based on the location and setting, I know they were taken probably during the intermissions during a nude workshop when we were supposed to take a breaks. I don't mind people taking their own behind-the-scenes keep sakes, but please DO NOT UPLOAD them. I can't pin point the culprits as there were 5 or 6 students that day. COuld have been anyone of them.
Anonymous-male-reader, thanks for your appreciation. Yes, those artists are grateful for me. At least those real artists. I helped my friend because he was financially disadvantaged and needed help to create a portfolio to jump start his career. He is eternally grateful to me.
And he is one person I considered a genuine friend. Most of his works are watermark, with his name on the photos. So it was easy to convince Tumblr that those were copyrighted works. Tumblr cooperated and duely removed them. My friend was even kind enough to remove my nude pictures from his portfolio.
I have already deleted my ModelMayhem account. But I am afraid it is too late. I used a pseudo name while modelling and never my real name. However I was unaware of Google reverse image search at that time. My friend pointed out that since my LinkedIn profile portrait was the same as one of the headshots in my portfolio, perverts are able to stalk me and even find out my real name. I have rectified this.
Are there any more precautions that I should take? Can any of you kind people please advise :-)
We have identified most of the Tumblr pics and Tumblr has taken down those copyrighted ones. Unfortunately we are not having any luck with some of those porn forums. I have emailed the owners of the websites, but they are not even replying. Even websites like Wordpress and Blogspot are ignore my requests. What course of actions can I take?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2015): My first reaction was to think how brave you were to sit for life portraits and how grateful those artists should be for your time in helping them draw real life.
However,i can see how traumatic it is for you to discover that you have been pornfied.
I think the answer is simple.
You just swear blind that those are not your pics.If you find your pics with your face onyou just tell the busybody that someone has photoshopped your head on someone elses body.
Lets face it they have an image of your face but only you would know if the body is yours or not.
It is very upsetting when you find pictures have been used without your consent and this happens to other people aswell.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (2 November 2015):
First off:
Don't let anyone SHAME you or HARASS you for this. YOU were free to DO whatever you wanted (as long as it was legal) and have absolutely nothing to apologize for.
I'd stick with the truth that you worked as an artist model while in school, no big deal. Do you need to explain it more? I don't think so.
Remember Grey's Anatomy - Kathrine Heigl's character Izzie? Who had modeled through med-school? When confronted with her calender she just taunted the dude with a "well while you are a few 100 thousands in debts, I'm debt-free."
And honestly? ANY dude who brings it up HAD to be online to look at naked women, right? So how is you modelling bad but him objectifying woman "good"?
If anyone says ANYTHING negative or "spread" gossip - I'd go to HR and I'd tell him that he is a creepy sleazy dude who trolls the internet for women to ogle, how sad.!
But mostly? Don't be ashamed to regret it, it's A WASTE of your time and emotions.
Even quite a few celebrities have pictures out there, they aren't exactly happy about and a bunch that they ARE - so what? LET IT GO.
Also, accept that SOME people will judge you and there is nothing you can do about that. Let them, who cares?!
You are there to work in accounting, so DO your job, be professional and show everyone around you that you are good at your job.
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reader, Ivyblue +, writes (2 November 2015):
 If it comes up, then you respond with ' Oh my artistic nudes you've seen them. Im really proud to have been able to sit for such a talented artist'. There is a big difference between a tasteful nude and legs spread eagled for all to see what you had for breakfast. If anything should come of it then you would have sufficient grounds for harassment.
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reader, Been there Now over it +, writes (2 November 2015):
I'll preface my remarks by disclosing that I live in California, which is probably the most carefree place in the USA in regard to these things. Here, it would not be a problem. Hardcore porn is pretty much a fact of life, and very few people I know would be judgmental. It sounds like you've limited yourself to doing relatively "classy stuff" more like Playboy with no guys sticking themselves inside you. Artistically-done solo content is widely acceptable in this day and age. With unlimited nudity having become available on the internet over the past 10 years, nude poses have become more and more accepted. In fact, it has become trendy here to "celebrate" the female body. You needn't let it stop you from doing anything. If somebody brings it up, just be very confident, proudly let them know that's you, and don't put a negative spin on it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2015): Given how vast the Internet is, I wouldn't worry too much. If someone is doing an image search of you, that does not seem the least bit professional. I highly doubt your colleagues are on Tumblr (that's for teens) and will they admit to finding you on porn? That looks pretty bad for them. As for getting the photos removed, I'm not sure, but I would bet highly that this will not interfere with your career. Don't worry!
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reader, Ciar +, writes (2 November 2015):
Catherine Willows from CSI: Crime Scene Investigation
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reader, Ciar +, writes (2 November 2015):
The short answer is, yes, you can go on to lead a normal life with a normal occupation.
Yolonda McClary, a former stripper, went on to become a crime scene analyst (currently working on the tv show 'Cold Justice' with a former Texas Prosecutor) and was the inspiration for the Catherine Willows character played by Marg Helgenberger.
Now I don't know what her life was like between one occupation and the other, but she's been accepted for who she is and what she does now. I can't recall ever reading or hearing any snide remarks or jokes about her.
I'll be honest, this firm and perhaps some others might have issues so you may end up moving around a bit before you find the right fit for you, but in the end, it will all work out. On the other hand this firm might have no issues with it whatsoever.
My advice is not to out yourself at this point. Learn and earn as much as you can at this place. Any memos or letters of praise from your superiors or from clients, KEEP.
If anyone does discover your past, be very matter of fact. Do not offer any explanations, excuses or apologies. Most folks will take their lead from you and if you're calm and unmoved by it, they'll follow suit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2015): Well i am sorry to say that your pictures were obviously noy all done tastefully, as is what happens when you have a variety of photographers, there's nothing you can do except not think of it so think not!
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