Curious, maybe even suspicious...
Q. My girlfriend constantly calls me daddy during sex. She also likes to role play that she is 13 and I'm her father coming to her bedroom when everyone else is asleep. Her father is deceased but I know from her mother that they, my gf and her dad, ...
A. 18 March 2015: You're very welcome. Best of luck.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my wife who drinks too much and then starts fights with the family?
Q. Hi, male 45 years old married 20 years. 3 kids...all is well, until occasionally wife drink more than she can handle and gets mean. Usually, it starts with her drinking while yapping to her sister on the phome for hours in the evening, after s...
A. 17 March 2015: On this issue, I could not disagree more with SVC. Drinking to excess may be a human weakness, but taking it out on others is no more a disease than is robbing banks. I assume your wife doesn't get drunk at work and abuse her colleagues. She ... (read in full...)
I may as well be a single parent!
Q. Hi hope someone can help me as I feel so down I've been with my boyfriend for 19 month we have a 4 month old daughter I know it happened quick we have a good relationship we never argue always laughing but I feel like a single parent he has not done ...
A. 14 March 2015: Um...you ARE a single parent and it appears you're a single woman as well.
You said he 'only stays once a week' and 'only comes round' for sex.
OP, I hate to say this but you're a booty call. This is hardly a relationship in the sense you me... (read in full...)
Curious, maybe even suspicious...
Q. My girlfriend constantly calls me daddy during sex. She also likes to role play that she is 13 and I'm her father coming to her bedroom when everyone else is asleep. Her father is deceased but I know from her mother that they, my gf and her dad, ...
A. 10 March 2015: I forgot to add...
I recommend you not ask her if she's ever been raped or molested. It would be an intrusion and no good will come of outing her before she's ready. And if she hasn't she might just feel crummy and embarrassed by the fantasy.... (read in full...)
Curious, maybe even suspicious...
Q. My girlfriend constantly calls me daddy during sex. She also likes to role play that she is 13 and I'm her father coming to her bedroom when everyone else is asleep. Her father is deceased but I know from her mother that they, my gf and her dad, ...
A. 10 March 2015: You're not out of line for merely wondering about it, but I wouldn't jump to any conclusions.
Your question suggests, to me, that you're a tad uncomfortable with it, and I don't blame you. As has been pointed out already, she MIGHT have had an u... (read in full...)
Even sex on the fifth date doesn't seem long enough to wait
Q. I'm 24 and fed up of boys wanting one thing from me .. It isn't like I have sex 1st date .. I do make them wait till at least 4-5th date but it always ends up just sex. I was dating this guy which I went on 6 date with .. The 5th date we did...
A. 10 March 2015: Another thing...I caution against going to the cinema together. It's a dark place, you'll be sitting very close to one another and unless the theatre is busy enough, it can be an ideal place for kissing and fondling.
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Even sex on the fifth date doesn't seem long enough to wait
Q. I'm 24 and fed up of boys wanting one thing from me .. It isn't like I have sex 1st date .. I do make them wait till at least 4-5th date but it always ends up just sex. I was dating this guy which I went on 6 date with .. The 5th date we did...
A. 10 March 2015: Further to what the other aunts have said, your dates should be in public places, preferably during the day and end much earlier. The conversation should be interesting, but keep the flirting to a minimum (don't introduce it yourself).
Dates... (read in full...)
Does my friend think she's better than everyone else?
Q. I have a friend of mine who is very attractive and comes from a family that has a lot of money. She is pretty sarcastic but anyway we were out one night and I introduced her to a group of my other friends and the whole time she was just staring them ...
A. 9 March 2015: I wouldn't spend much time trying to figure her out. If she's good company when it's just the two of you, then stick to that. Don't include her in outings with other friends.
If she notices and asks why, be matter of fact and honest. ... (read in full...)
Is this just what kinda person he is? Or am I genuinely to blame for all this?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend today... and I really really need some help. We hadn't been together for much longer than a month.. but we had dated 3 years a go for 9 months. He was my first for everything and even though he was both violent to me and ...
A. 6 March 2015: This is manipulation on his part - 100% and not your fault at all.
If he truly wanted to die, he'd go off somewhere and do it without a word to anyone. He wouldn't want anyone to try to talk him out of it or foil his attempts.
Everything he... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that she may get fired?
Q. I know how crazy this question may sound. Off course I should, right? Only, she’s unable to hear anything bad in general and especially right now. She’s been prolonging her sick leave for over a month (we live in a European country where th...
A. 6 March 2015: Then you've done all you can do. This really is her problem. The colleague should not have said anything to you, but they did and you gave your friend the heads up. This shouldn't come as any surprise to her. Common sense tells us that employers ... (read in full...)
I acted immaturely towards him and then asked if he wanted to be FWB's, he hasn't responded. Advice?
Q. I met this guy off this dating site. I didnt like him at first, I thought his voice was loud and very pronounced (Im assuming he had to learn how to talk that way from teaching; he is a first year math teacher). He is a good guy though but our ...
A. 4 March 2015: OP, I think you should consider this lesson learned and move on. Don't contact him again, not even to apologize.
By your own admission you've behaved immaturely. The man has politely rejected you and you're still sniffing around looking for some... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend that she may get fired?
Q. I know how crazy this question may sound. Off course I should, right? Only, she’s unable to hear anything bad in general and especially right now. She’s been prolonging her sick leave for over a month (we live in a European country where th...
A. 3 March 2015: You're kind of damned if you do and damned if you don't. However not telling her gives her a chance to blame you if she's fired and later learns you were given a heads up. Nothing can ever be her fault.
In this case I would tell her, but keep tha... (read in full...)
Man I started talking to online won't stop sexting me! Opinions?
Q. Right, hi everyone. :) So I'm hoping to throw this out there and see if I'm overreacting. The other day I started chatting with a guy online and we seemed to hit it off. We exchanged numbers and the next day we decided - quite spontaneously...
A. 25 February 2015: OP, his behaviour says a great deal about the man. tolerating it for even a moment says a great deal about you. It tells people that you're inexperienced and eager to please. in other words, ripe for the pickings.
Regardless of how long you've b... (read in full...)
I am pregnant with married boyfrind's child. He is away and I don't know what to do!
Q. I need help. More than ever. I am here all alone with nobody to talk to. I have been with a married man for 2 years. I love him. I truly love him. I know, I am stupid. I have just found out tonight that I am pregnant with his child. He is out...
A. 23 February 2015: First things first, take a deep breath and calm yourself. I understand this comes as a shock to you but nothing monumental is going to happen in the next few days (or even weeks). You've got months to prepare whatever you're decision (assuming ... (read in full...)
I've recently discovered inappropriate messages between my boyfriend and other girls
Q. My boyfriend left his snapchat logged in on my ipad and my friend was over using it and thought it was my snapchat and saw some things that were quite questionable. There are many message from him to other girls telling them they look extra hot ...
A. 22 February 2015: 'Disrespecting' is an understatement. Two months in is still well within the honeymoon phase, during which people are infatuated with one another and they are the most doting, the most attentive and accommodating they'll ever be. Not him. He ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about what my friends will think of my much older father
Q. Hey, I am having trouble... My dad, well, he's a bit older than most dads, I'm a teenager, and he's in his 70's. I love my dad, but this has made me so so so self conscious! Anyway, it's my birthday in a few days, and I'm having a party with my ...
A. 22 February 2015: Your friends probably won't think much of it beyond simply noticing (if they even do that). They'll probably just follow your lead so if you're normal about it, they will be too.
Are you your father's first child or do you have much older si... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable saying his name because of my accent
Q. This is going to sound really stupid but I'm genuinely finding it difficult to say the name of someone I've just started talking to platonically online. I haven't met them yet and, if I will it will be a while away, so I don't need to say it but t...
A. 22 February 2015: If you haven't met yet, you have time to practice. The more you hear yourself saying it, the less weird it will be to you.
Everyone has an accent so you're not alone. ... (read in full...)
Husband has apologised and wants me back, but I haven't changed since I left him.
Q. I left my husband because he had a problem with my body and would make comments. Mainly about loose skin ( dr says its as good as it will ever be again short of surgery which I'm not doing ) from babies and my breasts sagging , the general aging ...
A. 22 February 2015: The reason your husband is so eager to reconcile is he's down on his luck and hasn't found a suitable woman to replace you.
If he'd finally found his dream woman and was living his dream life, how often do you suppose you'd hear from him?
... (read in full...)
He gets mad over the small things?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. I love him dearly but I'm starting to get fed up.. I go home a lot near tears or just in disarray because of his yelling and stuff. An example of this is when he had locked himself in his ...
A. 22 February 2015: I'm not one for practical jokes either, in fact I don't know anyone who likes being on the receiving end of them, and I HATE being tickled. You might think this kind of humour is cute and endearing but most folks just find it childish and annoying. ... (read in full...)
Should I reach out to my rich grandfather for help?
Q. I don't come from a wealthy family. The only person in my whole family who has been well off is my grandfather. He's very rich. However, I rarely speak with him. He's a somewhat distant person from our family and I've always felt rather weird around ...
A. 20 February 2015: Another vote for the 'no' camp and I particularly like the responses from YouWish and Cindycares. The fact that you and your grandfather aren't close is not necessarily because of anything bad. We're not going to be close to all of our relatives... (read in full...)
Should I keep sending this guy I just met a photo of me everyday?
Q. Hello I am a female and I really need help cause I feel lost. I met a guy one week ago. We spoke and he was very charming and funy. We had so much laughter the night we met. He asked me for my number and I gave it to him. It was Saturday the day I ...
A. 13 February 2015: I got as far as him asking for a photo every morning and couldn't go on.
Stop it with the photos. Who needs assignments? Enough already.
Stop trying so hard to please this guy. This request is just plain weird. Red flag.... (read in full...)
Should I take her back if she wants me to?
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me because she wanted to do stuff with other people without having to answer to me and that she doesn't want the title of "girlfriend".And we've been dating for 6 months and I saw a message on her facebook to her ...
A. 13 February 2015: No.
She broke up with you so could explore sexually with others and she made a public statement about being with you out of pity.
Don't be enemies but don't take her back. Not even as friends. You don't still have her on Facebook, do you... (read in full...)
How do I mention I am not happy with her work without ruining the friendship?
Q. I feel a bit awkward and need some advice please. I've been going to my beautician for the past 5 years, I go every month for waxing and facials and then 3-4 months for nails and other treatments and spend quite a bit of money there.I...
A. 9 February 2015: I agree with Honeypie. I don't see how you can bring your customer dissatisfaction to her attention AND remain friends. This is why they say 'never mix business with pleasure' and 'higher fences make better neighbours'.
Someone who expects ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex want to hold on to me he has a woman?
Q. Dear cupid,my ex and I broke up years ago we talk from time to time now he has a woman but he wants to say in conversation with me I told him we have nothing to talk about.He told me he wants to to keep in contact just in case his relationship falls ...
A. 6 February 2015: Stop answering him. Block his email and change your phone number if necessary.
It's that simple.
The man has come right out and told you he wants you to hang about on stand by in case his current girlfriend doesn't pan out. Nice.
He can'... (read in full...)
If I'm going to be treated this way should I not be honest?
Q. Some weeks ago i found a wallet, there was no identification inside the wallet but there was £110. I handed the wallet in to my manager with the contents. Several weeks later my manager called me into his office and gave me the wallet saying it was ...
A. 3 February 2015: I'm going to revise my answer somewhat. I ran this scenario by a colleague of mine and I can sort of understand where the others are coming from.
As adults we're responsible for the choices we make. That applies to you AND your manager. You're b... (read in full...)
If I'm going to be treated this way should I not be honest?
Q. Some weeks ago i found a wallet, there was no identification inside the wallet but there was £110. I handed the wallet in to my manager with the contents. Several weeks later my manager called me into his office and gave me the wallet saying it was ...
A. 3 February 2015: Your manager chose to offer you the money but YOU CHOSE to accept it and once you did that that money became YOURS to do with as you saw fit. And you saw fit to donate it to charity, but you could have easily chosen to spend it on yourself. Why ... (read in full...)
I don't have the confidence to come out to my housemate but feel uncomfortable in my own home
Q. I currently have a new housemate who has moved from Pakistan. He is muslim and does not realize I am gay. I get along with him so far, because I try and keep conversation to small talk. However, his main focal point of conversation is picking up ...
A. 27 January 2015: Let me elaborate on my earlier answer... This man is a new arrival and was very fortunate to be allowed in to our country (any western country). He's on YOUR home turf, surrounded by YOUR people and YOUR customs. You don't think he's talk... (read in full...)
I don't have the confidence to come out to my housemate but feel uncomfortable in my own home
Q. I currently have a new housemate who has moved from Pakistan. He is muslim and does not realize I am gay. I get along with him so far, because I try and keep conversation to small talk. However, his main focal point of conversation is picking up ...
A. 27 January 2015: His fundamental values have something to say about womanizing but that doesn't stop him. And, assuming you aren't from Pakistan, what do your fundamental values tell you about a man who makes plain his intent to entertain himself with women of your ... (read in full...)
I had considered asking if she would let me masturbate to her but I don't want to come across as a creep. Is there another alternative?
Q. Hi. I am stuck and am open to advice. My cousin and I have been close as "brother-sister" while growing up. She is a few years older then me but we are both in our twenties. I have always had a crush on her but when we were teenagers while ...
A. 27 January 2015: To be honest, you already are coming across as a creep.
You confess to, not a romantic attraction, but a sexual one to a cousin you've admitted to having a 'brother-sister' relationship with. She's already declined your previous invitati... (read in full...)
I found out my b/f was watching anal sex pornography and told him it was deal breaker. I still think he's watching it and lying about it!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for over a year and I've known vaguely that he watches porn for most of our relationship. However, it's only been recently that I've really started to have an issue with it as I've never really looked it up (so ...
A. 26 January 2015: I have to agree with YouWish. Regardless of one's view of porn, it's much the same as smoking or drinking in that you should just assume the person is doing it and decide if it's something you're prepared to live with. If it's a deal breaker, as... (read in full...)
Is marriage really as bad as it looks?
Q. I've noticed that when married people talk about marriage, they rarely sound happy. It's usually described as hard work, a battle, or a series of ups and downs. It's a land of expanding waistlines, pointless arguments, sweatpants, crying babies, and ...
A. 25 January 2015: 'If it were the other way around, women would be questioning the whole system and asking why any woman should ever put herself in that position.' Women already are, which is why they initiate most of the divorces.
To be honest, I don't know any... (read in full...)
Motorcycle Picture on Facebook ask to be removed caused a breakup
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 20 months. Both of us are twice married. Her second relationship was very, very bad. It hurts her badly to think of it. It damaged her emotionally and if she could, she has said it was the worse mistake she ...
A. 24 January 2015: Yep, another vote for Honeypie.
It's her Facebook page and she is the one who lived through that horrid relationship so she should be the one to decide what she can and can't handle.
Bringing it up once was intrusive enough, in my opinion, b... (read in full...)
I told him no contact and I blocked him, but he got mad. Should I unblock him to send him one last message?
Q. I started No Contact on Sunday so that I could start healing from my ex (of 10 months). Before cutting him off, I sent a one liner email saying "I wish you the best." Then blocked him on Facebook and erased him from my messenger contact list. ...
A. 23 January 2015: Absolutely not!
If what he says is true, that you're friends with other exes but choose not to remain friends with him, then that should tell you something. It sure speaks volumes to me.
Nothing you say will make one iota of difference. You'... (read in full...)
How can I get my father to give him a second chance?
Q. Hello, I am a mature senior in high school who has experienced a lot at this point in my life. I dated a boy who was a couple years older than me for over two years. He was my high school sweetheart and we were madly in love. He was a part of my fa...
A. 20 January 2015: I agree wholeheartedly with AuntyBimBim.
People are not owed second chances, not to say that no one should get one now and then but it's not something we OWE others. If your boyfriend was that concerned about your parents and making a good imp... (read in full...)
His best friend has told me very upsetting things about his sleeping with other women, including her! What do I do now?
Q. I always knew my boyfriend was hiding something from me regarding his best friend but I was never sure about what it was. I do have trust issues due to be hurt in the past but it was something different this time. It was like I could see it with my ...
A. 20 January 2015: I would forward her message on to him and let him deal with it. Why should you run around trying to figure this out? Let him worry about it.
Give it a few days and if nothing comes of it, then you could ask him outright.
To be honest though, w... (read in full...)
Are we obliged to inform friends when our plans change?
Q. My boyfriend told me that he just wants to be friends, and I agreed. Last week, I told him that I would stop by after my weekly club meeting. He said great, see ya soon. The meeting was longer than I thought, but once it was over I offered to still...
A. 19 January 2015: When you have plans with said friend, then yes, you are obliged to inform them when those plans change.
It was rather rude of you to forget about him and leave him hanging, whether he was an ex boyfriend or not. Expecting to be treated with com... (read in full...)
Does this make my friend a back stabber?
Q. My boyfriend and I are really serious. And sometimes when we hangout we hangout with a group of his or my friends. One day, my friend asked me if it would be ok if she called him to ask him about a problem she was having with her long term ...
A. 17 January 2015: I think it was totally inappropriate for your friend to seek out your boyfriend for relationship advice, particularly if she doesn't know him well enough on his own to have his number.
I wouldn't call what she did 'stabbing you in the back' bu... (read in full...)
She will not break up but refuses to see me again!
Q. Girlfriend will not break up, but refuses to see me again. What is the best course of action as a man? So, the girlfriend of 9 months says that she now has no "free time for anything more than friends." She won't bring up breaking up, but feels ob...
A. 17 January 2015: I agree with the others that she wants out. She's done all but say those words because she doesn't want to feel like the bad guy.
My advice is to say nothing and just quietly move on. It's already over so there is nothing to make official... (read in full...)
Was I right to break up with my jealous girlfriend?
Q. I am in desperate need for advice. I've been with my girlfriend now for 8 years, for the past 2 years its not been good on and off with arguments, breaks etc.. I moved into a house a few months ago and she wanted to move in. But because of these ...
A. 15 January 2015: I think you did the right thing. You can't make someone confident and secure. That comes from within and if she's not prepared to do the work, then things won't get better.
Not that I believe in soul mates, but I would think they would be someone ... (read in full...)
My MIL leaves me in tears and always gets away with it
Q. This question is about my mother in law. I know that lots of peoples mothers in law are a pain in the ass, but mine is something else! She has a lot of mental health issues, including bulimia and alcoholism. She gets away with preposterous comments ...
A. 15 January 2015: Like the others, I see no point in visiting the woman if doing so takes away from the quality of your life.
Don't get into an argument with him about it though, as that would allow the woman far more control in your affairs than she should h... (read in full...)
Follow up to previous post: How should I act when he comes home?
Q. hi all. Following my previous post where basically my bf of three months went to india- sister's wedding and his cousin's wedding. Also his parents live there. Even though he had said not to msg as his sisters will be near him etc, i found it ...
A. 11 January 2015: My suggestion is act 'normal', pleased but not overly moved by the fact that he's back. Treat him as you would any casual friend you haven't spoken to in a while, so no passionate declarations of love and longing.
Let him court you and be more ... (read in full...)
Why would a man be so stingy?
Q. I (25/F) and Art (30/M)recently broke up from a 1 year relationship. The problem: he barely paid for our dates, even after I told him it bothered me. He wants to get back together, but I'm unsure. Art is a smart, sensual, and charismatic man....
A. 10 January 2015: Spending wisely and saving money is good idea but not when it's done at the expense of another.
Art has shown that he is more inclined to make the effort to impress you when his position in your life is uncertain, so keep it that way.
Treat h... (read in full...)
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